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Brazilian. Aroace. My name is Alex. I'm a young adult. Nonbinary, he/him pronouns. In a QPR with jynxlovesluck. My icon was drawn by me. Header by @jesse-is-spiralling. (all if my posts are ok to reblog unless i say otherwise. Exclusionists, nazis and TERFs dni). I have no tag for my queue, so seeing me posting doesn't necessarily mean I'm online. Please do not tag me in chain posts or send me those in asks. Welcome to my blog! Hope you enjoy it.

[sandersgrey]

Yo. DNI if you're an exclusionist, a MAP, a Trump supporter, a zionist, etc etc. You may be allowed to lurk (we all start learning somewhere) but don't fucking touch anything.

My url is a reference to a character from a book series called League and Legends, by E.Jade Lomax. Her website has the ebooks available for free. Check it out if you enjoy fantasy, found family, and trope subversion.

She also has a very interesting multiple choice game, for anyone out there who enjoys time loops and the ability to be queer in games.

Fair warning, I have a tendency to jump from interest to interest.

Feel free to send me asks or tag me in posts, but keep in mind I'm fairly low energy and it might take me a bit to get to answer. I'm not ignoring you, I'm just depressed.

I tag for r*pe, s*icide mention, and violence against minorities, as well as posts with images that don't have descriptions.

My personal tag is "alex won't shut up" and my art tag is "alex's arty." Feel free to rummage around. I don't mind notif spams.

Please do let me know if I mess up when it comes to social issues.

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[hypokeimena]

#'this is present in the text' is often a good first step #but those second and third ones (naming it; describing its function) are vital (via @elucubrare)

[nonlynear]

bear with me. but also twink with me and otter with me. happy pride month on planet earth baby

[youcanstillwhistle]

I think the "pre" and "post" parts in "preposterous" should cancel each other out but everyone else seems to find my idea completely erous

[wizardpostsdotorg]

having invisible disabilities really shifts what your ideas of “personal information” and “privacy” and “dignity” bc u meet someone and you explain your situation for the past couple years with honesty and they’re like “wow.. it must be so hard to share that thank you..” and you’re like i mean yeah it’s just what my life has been.. and they give you the “😟☹️😅 yeah…”

[wizardpostsdotorg]

like just saying “yeah so i went through several doctors who didn’t know how to treat me before i found one hospital that would..” or “i have a suicidal and depressive episode once every four weeks exactly” has gone from embarrassing to common small talk with cowkerkers or receptionist. if i want people to have reasonable expectations of me i have to tell them all my wide open dirty little secrets. while it’s nice to be accepted/accommodated or at least tolerated i do wish there was more grace and privacy with mental health/mental disabilities.

you can say one thing and have some privacy and dignity but no real concern- “i don’t feel good today” OR you can tell the truth “i feel like killing myself today” and feel totally exposed/humiliated and at risk of something worse. you lie and become “flaky” or you show up and become “an asshole” or you tell the truth and become a “psycho bummer”. pick your perception: lazy or crazy. either way nobody knows how to treat you

[arrows-for-pens]

Forced Intimacy: An Ableist Norm

“Forced Intimacy” is a term I have been using for years to refer to the common, daily experience of disabled people being expected to share

[eversoslightlybitter]

I'm rewatching Avatar: The Last Airbender. One thing that stands out to me as an adult is how obvious Ozai's coup is.

Iroh's only son is dead. But he's young enough to remarry and have more kids. His wife is never mentioned in the show. But even if he is still married at the time, it should be pretty easy for the Crown Prince to get a divorce. Not saying that Iroh would do that, but culturally, it would be expected.

"Perfectly healthy Fire Lord Azulon dies suddenly in the night almost immediately after his eldest son's son dies. Then the second son is crowned. This was apparently Azulon's dying wish (that he never once stated before, but somehow managed to get out before his "sudden" death). All while the eldest is still away and in mourning". Anyone in the Avatar world paying attention to Fire Nation politics would look at and say, "Oh. The Fire Nation's just doing internal coups now. This is fine". You can almost HEAR the side eye every Fire Nation noble is giving each other.

[eversoslightlybitter]

Another obvious thing as an adult, the eclipse invasion plan has no retreat. No retreat, no extraction, no escape, and no backup. Everyone there is all in, hoping this one plan works.

Every adult there would already know this. Every adult there understands this is, functionally, the last resistance against Fire Lord Ozai. The Northern Water Tribe does not have the strength to take on the Fire Nation single-handed, and they are still licking their wounds. The Air Nomads are long gone. The Earth Kingdom fell. There is no one else, and there is no better plan.

It makes the invasion so much more gut wrenching to watch as an adult. Especially since you KNOW how it's going to go.

Also, as a teenager, my friends and I were all "lol, it's a kid's show, so there are kids fighting in battle! Obviously, adults wouldn't let that happen in real life". Yeah, they would. Because this is it. This is the battle that decides the fate of all other kids.

So, yes, they are taking the strongest waterbender and the earthbender who literally invented metalbending. The fact that they are kids almost (almost) doesn't matter.

[100493503004422]

I don't want a Career I want to Fuck Around

[dreamfarer]

And not find out. I cannot stress enough how much I do not want to find out.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Chickens love to peck at hard things to make a variety of interesting sounds and my new ladies have just discovered The Tin Fence.

[beka-tiddalik]

They're also a big fan of Chipped Ceramic Plate if you feel like experimenting

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Ooh I have some leftover floor tile fragments, I should give them some of those.

[nipple-brains]

I've seen people give their chooks kids you xylophones and they love them!!

[welcometothejunkpile]

Mine are a big fan of sealed plastic bucket of water sealant paint that we haven't moved yet.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

My old hens loved Window and every day I feel blessed that my new ones haven't discovered it yet.

[voltaicdragon]

If you're lucky, they'll just discover Linux instead.

[baraphalloplastyclinic]

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

Don't become a housewife.

[ladyfoxfire]

And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.

If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.

[dressedupliketheking]

also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can

[sunderwight]

media: we have an anti-authoritarian story for you!

me: sweet hit me with the good stuff

media: so there's this marginalized underclass of people, right?

me: okay

media: and they're like, stigmatized for something that's mostly an aspect of how they are born, or where they're from, or they're badly misunderstood, right?

me: yup, got it, I'm with ya

media: so these people are rebelling against the current social order, because it's the instrument of their suffering

me: oh good great sure

media: but also they're violent and deranged and need to be stopped

me: ...what

media: yeah they're going too far, they're trying to overthrow the system and assassinate the nice cop trying to help them and also they burned down an orphanage

me: ...why? would they burn down an orphanage??

media: extremism is bad

me: still not seeing what this has to do with their fight though???

media: also now they've shot a dog. oops they shot another dog

me: what?! why? I though their motive was to overthrow oppression??

media: yes but their suffering has also made them evil

me: ...???

media: don't worry though, the good guys will defeat them and restore the status quo

me: the status quo that's been killing people?

media: well it turns out it was only killing the kinds of awful people who burn down orphanages and shoot dogs :)

me: oh. this is actually a pro-authoritarian story, isn't it?

media: nooo of course not don't be sillyyyyyy we're super progressive look one of the cops is a black lady don't be sillyyyyyy

[onlytiktoks]

[aniseandspearmint]

Asdfghjkl her perfectly straight face and even tone throughout should win an AWARD

[subwaybug]

More people should get into poly shipping. Both because polyamory is awesome and because it's really fun to make complicated ass diagrams

[vash-the-trans-catboy]

Cute little rainbow heart for pride month tumblr but how about you stop disproportionally banning trans women and marking sfw queer posts as mature

[thebibliosphere]

Every so often I catch a glimpse of the book drama going on over on the Insta/Threads sphere of the Internet, and it makes me so glad I’m considered too Tumblrina to sit at their tables.

What do you mean an author is railing against people using libraries/the Libby app because it’s “free” (it’s not. you as the author get money from the library purchasing the digital lending license) and meanwhile their book is on Amazon for free to try and get readers??? Hello????

[thebibliosphere]

“But if people read it for free they might like it want to buy the rest of my work!”

You mean like how people read books at libraries, and end up buying them if they like them?

“That’s not the same 😡”

Correct! Because again, libraries pay us. You putting your books up on Amazon for free means you get nothing.

[what-even-is-thiss]

I refer to the protagonist of fallout 4 as NateNora because both the man and woman versions of the character are essentially the same person.

Because they gave this game a voiced protagonist, Bethesda has invited me to analyze the sole survivor NateNora as a person and my analysis says that because it doesn’t really matter much which spouse you choose to literally fridge that they’re one of those couples who have been together since high school and as a result are basically two halves of the same braincell.

Same sense of humor, same homicidal tendencies, same compulsion to collect random magazines.

[what-even-is-thiss]

If you knew Nate and Nora before the apocalypse you probably couldn’t invite one without inviting the other and both of them probably kept the exact same pictures of baby Shaun in their wallets. Not exactly the same person per se, but they’ve been together for so long that if you remove one of them the other basically doesn’t know who they are.

Which is my theory as to why one of the possible first thoughts they have upon being unfrozen to a dead spouse is violence. You killed their other braincell, Kellogg. That was all of their impulse control and you’re about to pay the price for that. They actually have to develop a personality now and it’s all your fault.

[what-even-is-thiss]

One might make the argument that with Nate being a former front lines soldier that it makes more sense for him to be violent and proficient with weapons but my argument is that Nora was a lawyer in an era of extreme corporate espionage. You need to keep your head on a fucking swivel and have your pistol loaded and in your purse at all times if you wanna fight nuka cola in court.

Everybody expects prewar people to be soft but they aren’t expecting somebody that’s been dodging soda company snipers for months while pregnant. Being a corporate lawyer and being a front lines soldier are basically equally dangerous in this universe.

[librarycards]

when i was in 2nd grade we had to write daily journals in class and i was worried my teacher wasn't actually reading them but merely skimming, so every few weeks instead of an entry i'd write her a reading comprehension quiz about the preceding entries to make sure she was engaging generatively with the material

[procrastinationaccount]

Corona wants to be in love with a straight girl so bad but she just can't find any