Celebrating all LGBTQIA+ Molly Hooper Headcannons

A non-ship specific blog dedicated to Queer Molly hooper headcannons and ships, especially but not exclusively sapphic ones.

[vixentea]

How to read books and watch movies and TV for free.

 the easiest, (and most legitimate) way to have access to free books, tv, and film is through your local library. Checking out from the library is also a way to help your library maintain funding, (because they can show proof people are using them), so not only will you be getting to read and see things for free, you will be helping your local community by doing so.

Some libraries also allow you to check out ebooks, from their websites, so have a look at what your local has to offer.

Another reason to join your local library is if you have a library card you can use it to download books, flims, music etc. from hoopla.

Legitimate sources for things 

trail subscriptions for free: (you will need credit card details for some of these so remember to cancel the Subscription before the trail ends (and check “dont auto renew, if it gives you the option).) (some of these are also region specific)

Books

You can get a free audiobook with the free trial of audible.

Movies and tv shows.

Hulu (one month)

Netflix (one month)

Amazon prime (one month)

Crunchyroll (two weeks)

hbo. (one month)

 Remember to check out the websites of the channels your show airs on,  (like the CW, the BBC) sometimes they stream the shows for a time after it airs or have “box sets” of old shows to watch. However, this method often is region locked. so unless you have a VPN, you will only be able to access channels in your country with this method.)

Other Discounts, cheap stuff and free stuff;

if you are a student be sure to check if they have any discounts, a lot of places do, even if they don’t make them really easy to spot. for example, if you think you would get a lot of use out of amazon prime, they do offer a student discount for the subscription, which is reasonable.

if you are in the uk, “hot uk deals” is a user-sourced website where people post about sales to get things cheaply. this includes foodstuff, and high-end items, (and coupons for restaurants)  it takes a bit of sifting through but if you want to make a big purchase and you live in the UK, its an option to save you a bit here and there.

speaking of coupons:

finding coupons easily:

another way to find coupons and sales

Don’t forget hot uk deals

App that automatically searches for coupons when you are shopping online

Watching things through streaming:

Anime

Movies 

Movies and television

Television (s just google “couch tuner” as sometimes the url can change)

Live Television

Kdramas (just google “dramafire”if url changes)

If you are anxious about watching streams on sketch sites this tumblr post tells you how to protect yourself.

Finding ebooks.

Lots of PDFs, including some of popular books

Comics

Comics

Googling “[insert book name’] pdf” is also a surefire way to find shit, including entire novels.

if you want to convert them to go on your ereader 

Calibre library is not only a great way to store your ebooks, but can convert ebooks into different formats.

[sens-ace-tional]

Shout out to bisexual aros and biromantic aces any and all of your identities are valid you’re “bi” enough you’re “aro” enough you’re “ace” enough and whatever you choose to prioritize (or not) is the right choice for you. You are all awesome.

[onceinabluemoon13]

Hoopervan: Lestrade's on his second honeymoon (I'm thinking Mystrade but do whatever pleases) so Sally's having to handle Sherlock and collect forensic work from Molly. (Possibly Molly shows up to a few crime scenes to collect bodies.) Hoopervan bond over Sherlock being a brilliant pain in the ass.

Not exactly what you asked for but I quite like it.

I hope you don’t mind I snuck in my rare pair Lestrade ship of Lestrade and Janine. I’m pretty sure I’m rowing this dinghy on my own, but I will persevere.

Sally burst into the flat she shared with Molly, mumbling incoherently under her breath. The pathologist muted the television, patting the space next to her on the sofa.

“What did he do this time?”

“I think the better question would be what didn’t he do, Molly. The man is a nightmare! However do you and Lestrade both manage to put up with him on a daily basis?!”

Molly moved closer, laying her head on Sally’s shoulder. They’d had this same conversation many times. “He’s an acquired taste, love. Yes, he’s a pain in the arse, but, getting to watch him in action, and helping him solve the impossible? It’s one of the best feelings in the world.”

Sighing, Sally intwined her fingers with Molly’s. “I’ll take your word for it. I don’t know how I’m going to manage until Greg and Janine get back from Greece. Ten more days? I don’t think I’ll last through tomorrow.”

“How about I entice him with a fresh kidney, give you a bit of a break tomorrow, yeah? If there’s one thing I know for certain, it’s that Sherlock Holmes cannot resist an interesting science experiment.”

Sally gave her a scorching kiss on the lips. “You’re the best. That’s why I love you, Molly Hooper.”

“I love you, too,” Molly said, smiling in to the kiss. 

[justaphobethings]

I don't know who else to send this to but you but I want to send a warning to all wlw ace people that acewlws is a blog run completely by exclusionists who belittle ace/aro identities and only consider them additions to other identities and if you are ace/aro you should probably avoid them.

Oh yikes no wonder I had them blocked

[profeminist]

Source

[softredrobin]

Casual reminder that exclusionism can still make aces that aren’t cishet feel unsafe within the LGBT+ community.

[bashana-haba-ah-deactivated2017]

hey so I made the blog it’s @sapphicasexual if y'all want to follow!

[preshfinn]

molly hooper, actual queen

[bashana-haba-ah-deactivated2017]

I can’t let this conflict with @reluctantlesbian escalate anymore. I’m shutting her down. 

if you have a sapphic blog, please read this. brianna is well known in our circles. (I’m sorry, for some reason the readmore function is glitching.)

you think you know brianna? do you really? and you’d still follow her, knowing what she can be like? I’ve had several mutuals come to me over the past few weeks notifying me that they’re going to unfollow/block me because they’d rather follow bree’s blog than mine, and she told them to pick one. 

which honestly tells me a lot about either how little they really know, or how shitty they are. 

I didn’t want to do this, because I like finding the good in people, but I’m going to share some evidence. 

this is why I don’t trust her anymore. whether or not you do or continue to do so is up to you. 

we used to be together, but things went south just over a year ago and we ended them. we tried to be friends, but you can see how well that worked out. it’s been like this the whole time; back and forth, smear campaigns, making fake discourse blogs just to target each other. 

one night, about a month ago, she came to me asking for a truce. she said she would be friends again and even vouch for me to another sapphic blog if I did a couple things to prove I wasn’t “biased” in my differing opinions. 

at first I thought it was a little bizarre. but I did it anyway, because even I’m not proud enough to give up on making nice based on one weird request. 

and, besides, she sent me this. 

I didn’t do it “realistically enough” the first time, so she made me repeat it. over. and over. until I did it according to her standards. 

it was at this point that I kind of knew she was messing around with me, pressing my buttons to see if I would explode.

remember this post? and all the other posts like it that I made that night? she was the one who told me to make them. she said I needed to “redeem myself” for “condoning the censorship of gay and lesbian couples”. 

remember those anons I got telling me I sounded fake and needed to “do more” to make up for my internalized homophobia? those were from her. and a few were from some of her friends, I’m pretty sure. 

she didn’t like my “back talk” as she put it, when I expressed my annoyance with her inability to be satisfied. it was at this point I realized she probably didn’t care about making a truce, she just wanted to torment me a little longer. 

which she did, seeing as she dragged this out for about two days. 

this was the last message she sent me. (*note: I blacked out the other person’s name bc they were the blog she was supposed to vouch for me to. even though they hate me, and did some really cruel things for fun, they don’t deserve to have their reputation ruined like that.) 

so, that’s not enough for you? okay. how about this? 

she told me because I use the split attraction model, I can’t be a real lesbian. she told me because I’m asexual I can’t be a real lesbian. 

I don’t understand what happened, bree. we were such good friends at first, why did you decide to ruin that? 

why did you start a smear campaign against me? why do you turn people against me? why do you claim I abused you when you were the one who constantly criticized and “punished” me for not being “intimate enough” by sending me screenshots of lesbian porn, or audio files of moaning? 

why do you impersonate me? why do you send people my selfies pretending to be me? is it because if and when I send them those selfies, they’ll immediately assume I’m the one doing that to you, and block me? 

why did you follow me from my old instagram account and track me down not once, not twice, but three times in order to run me off of another social media site? 

this isn’t about discourse. no, you don’t even care if I was big on inclusionism two years ago or two minutes ago. you don’t even know what my current stance on discourse is, you just made that up to work your way up the ladder in the circles you chose. 

this is about you wanting to hurt me and punish me for not giving you everything you want, and building up an army of people on your side who will happily agree with every lie you tell about me because they think they know me. 

I’m going to tell you one last time: leave me the fuck alone. 

the next time you contact me, @ me, or so much as vague about me, I am reporting you for all the shitty things you’ve done.

confirm you’ve read my post before you go. this is the last I want to hear from you. 

[terffighter]

to all ace lesbians invalidated by terfs

youre all beautiful and amazin and you are most definitely lesbians

[selkieradfem-blog]

if youre a lesbian, youre not asexual. its okay to be attracted to women, and its okay to have more than just romantic attraction. loving women is not dirty.

[terffighter]

No one said it was, and no one said it was bad to be sexually and romantically attracted to women. That’s entirely beautiful and okay and not dirty in the least. However, some lesbians are only romantically attracted to women and sexually attracted to nobody. That’s also entirely beautiful and okay and not dirty in the least.

You don’t get to decide who is and is not a lesbian, Helen. That’s lesbophobia.

- Mod Ford.

[onceinabluemoon13]

Ship meme: hoopervan

Bless you! Here we go….

Send me a ship and I’ll tell you:

Who hogs the duvet: Molly, and heaven help anyone who tries to take it away from her. Sally decides to just get her own blanket after being kicked out of bed one too many times. To her credit, Molly did apologize profusely.

Who texts/rings to check how their day is going: Molly. Sally can get very busy with work, so Molly has to ring her occasionally to remind her to check in.

Who’s the most creative when it comes to gifts: Sally. Molly isn’t the easiest person to buy for (she always answers “Nothing” every time Sally asks what she wants), so Sally has gotten very good at figuring out good gifts for her girlfriend.

Who gets up first in the morning: Molly, but she drags Sally out of bed with her. They are both very busy with work, so they try to spend as much time together as possible.

Who suggests new things in bed: Molly likes to research, and Sally hasn’t had any complaints so far.

Who cries at movies: Molly. She cuddles up against Sally who just wraps her arms around Molly and holds her. (Secretly, Sally finds Molly adorable when she gets like this, but she’ll never tell.)

Who gives unprompted massages: Sally. She can always tell whenever Molly’s had a particularly grueling autopsy to perform at work and does what she can to ease the tension in her girlfriend’s shoulders.

How they are when they’re sick: Sally pretends she’s fine until she absolutely cannot get out of bed and Molly has to force her to stay home. Molly rarely gets sick, but when she does she hardly ever complains. She doesn’t want other people to worry about her.

Who gets jealous easiest: They trust each other implicitly, so neither really gets jealous. However, they always seem to be touching anytime they’re in public (holding hands, Molly’s arm settled around Sally’s waist, etc.) because they like everyone else to know that they’re taken.

Who collects something unusual: Molly is an amateur taxidermist and I love it. Sally finds it a little strange, but takes it in stride as one of Molly’s quirks.

Who takes the longest to get ready: They’re both very practical about their appearances, and neither spends too long getting ready in the mornings. If they are going out, however, Molly takes forever because she is always slightly insecure about her looks. Sally grabs her face and tells her she loves her no matter what she looks like. (This is, coincidentally the first time either says “I love you”)

Who is the tidiest and organized: Molly. She hates coming home to a cluttered flat, so she comes up with a chart to divvy up the chores. Sally rolls her eyes but goes along with it.

Who gets most excited about the holidays: Sally. Although Molly used to love holidays, since her father passed away she hasn’t really had anyone to spend them with. Sally has a huge family that always celebrates together, and she starts Christmas shopping in March.

Who is the big spoon/little spoon: Sally is the big spoon, Molly the little spoon.

Who gets most competitive when playing games and/or sports: Sally was shocked to find that Molly gets suuuper competitive when playing board games. (She still has nightmares about the first (and only) time they played Cluedo with the Baker Street boys. She and John mutually agree to never speak of it again.)

Who starts the most arguments: When Sally has a bad day at work (often coinciding with cases she works alongside Sherlock Holmes), she tends to take it out on Molly. She always apologizes, but it has caused quite a few arguments.

What are their nicknames for each other: Sally calls Molly “Cupcake” when she feels like teasing her. Molly calls her “Sallykins” as retaliation.

Who suggests that they buy a pet: Molly already has Toby, but she can’t turn down an animal in need and often brings home wounded animals she finds on her way home from work. Sally tries to tell her no, but then Molly hands her the little animals and she’s lost.

What couple traditions they have: No matter how busy they are at work, they always save one night a week for date night. They also always wish each other goodnight, even if Sally’s on a case out of town.

What tv shows they watch together: Molly got Sally to watch Glee with her once (she vows to never watch it again), and they like to watch crime dramas together. They make fun of the inaccuracies.

Another couple they hang out with: Lestrade and Janine. (I think I’m the only person alive who thinks those two would make a good couple, but oh well. Let me have this.)

How they spend time together as a couple: They mainly just hang out at home, watching movies or reading. When they do go out, Sally takes Molly dancing because she knows how much she loves it.

Who made the first move: Sally found Molly crying after Sherlock made an especially cruel deduction about Molly’s father. A friendship formed, which eventually blossomed into more when Molly just suddenly kissed her one day.

Who brings flowers home: Molly. She likes to surprise Sally with little things like that.

Who is the best cook: Sally is the better cook, but Molly is better at baking. (Mycroft often stops by “just for a chat” after he tastes one of Molly’s chocolate biscuits.)

Who snores: They both do, so neither is bothered by the other one’s snoring.

[vaspider]

okay but if someone doesn't experience homophobia or transphobia then they're not lgbt it's as simple as that.... the lgbt community doesn't exist for the purpose of being "inclusive" it literally is by nature exclusive to people who experience homophobia and/or transphobia

No, I’m sorry, that’s simply not true. I’ve written an awful lot about this, which you can find under my ‘ace exclusion’ tag. But since there’s a lot under there, let’s hit all the highlights. Frankly, it’ll be nice to have an omnibus post I can just pass to people from now on. 

This post is not an argument of your point, it is a reference post, because you are simply wrong.

This post is going to be very, very long, and very, very US-centric. It is important to state right up front that this discussion is extremely Western-centric. I do not have the right personally to speak on gender and sexual orientations from indigenous communities of which I am not a member, but it is absolutely important to acknowledge that the colonization of gender and sexual identity of non-Western peoples is a) wrong as fuck and b) we need to knock it off and c) none of the stuff I’m writing necessarily applies to non-Western peoples/indigenous peoples. 

1) This ‘formed to fight homophobia and transphobia’ definition of LGBT is literally and completely an invention of Tumblr. It started on Tumblr, it really only exists on Tumblr, and it only exists for the sole purpose of excluding minority sexualities and orientations (not limited to but currently focused on asexuality). It’s a very recent invention and this specific definition is less than eighteen months old. Probably less than a year old, but I’ll be honest: I don’t have the time or patience to go through the history on Tumblr and read all the hateful stuff that I’d have to in order to find the first use of that particular little piece of nonsense.

Keep reading

[infiniteglitterfall]

bonus addition to this EPIC REBUTTAL: here’s a near-comprehensive list of smaller orgs, mostly in the US, that explicitly include aces.

(also Tumblr is glitching on me again and not showing me the “read more” on the mobile app; if you are having that problem too, here’s a link to the post above, opening it in a browser let me read the whole thing.)

[taavot-deactivated20170404]

things I wish someone had told me when I was recently coming to terms with being a woman who isn’t straight:

1) if your first relationship with a girl is messy and you don’t know how to go about it because you had little to no models of healthy w/w relationships around you, and you struggle and struggle and it doesn’t work out and ends badly, it doesn’t mean you’re straight or should’ve stayed straight. it doesn’t mean you’re never going to be happy with a woman. if your first experience, or second experience, or third experience with women isn’t the rosy picture of bliss without any problems or struggles that you pictured it would be, it just means you’re human. don’t hold the concept of relationships with other women up on a pedestal to be perfection; it’s wonderful and great to be with women but it might not save you from the things that are wrong in your life like you fantasized about when you were first coming to grips with your sexuality and it definitely won’t be without struggle because interpersonal relationships aren’t ever without struggle and growth and change. 

2) that feeling of panic and “I’m going to be alone forever I’m never going to find another woman who loves me or “I’m not xyz like other gay/bi girls why would anyone want to be my girlfriend” is a normal feeling. no, you aren’t going to be alone forever, but feeling that way is something that nearly every one of us goes through. 

3) you may find yourself idolizing the first relationship you have with another woman, you’re so relieved to have that “I’m going to be alone forever” feeling gone and that your sexuality is Real and Validated that you put all of your eggs in that basket and forget that there’s even a possibility of it ending. you might find yourself terrified of that one relationship ending, or have it end and feel like you can’t be alive anymore because the happiness had been so intense. if you’re someone who is also attracted to men, you might feel like these feelings are more intense or more overpowering than any time you’ve been in love before. if you aren’t attracted to men this might have been the first time you felt that way about anyone. and you might find yourself feeling irrationally paranoid that someone’s going to take it away from you. if you break up with your first girlfriend you might find yourself more depressed or angry than you’ve ever been about a breakup before. you’re going to be ok even if this relationship ends. you don’t just get one chance at happiness with a woman. it’s like any other breakup, it’ll suck but you will be alright. take a step back. realize what is healthy and unhealthy about the ways you are dealing. make new ties, heal, grow.

3) if a woman ever treats you abusively it’s ok to call it abuse, and some people in your so-called radical women’s spaces are going to ostracize you for it like the hypocrites they are. some so-called radicals especially in certain separatist spaces are gonna push logic that tells u that abuse is a “just a straight people thing”, that being/staying with a girl is something you do to be radical, not to be happy, and if you “really love women” then gay relationships won’t require any work and will automatically last forever / last longer / be healthy - those are lies, those are idealizations. although yes heterosexuality can propagate more chance of abuse due to misogyny, abuse is not Just a straight people thing, anyone can be an abuser. your abuser doesn’t get let off the hook because she’s also a woman. call it abuse. cut ties with the people who try to push back against that. cut ties with the people who tell you that your sexuality is better as a function of radicalness than of building happy, healthy relationships. realize that any relationship will take work and have flaws. make new ties, heal, grow. 

4) it’s ok to not be experienced and to not know what to do. not knowing how flirting, dating, sex, etc is going to be and being nervous about that is a place where all of us are at one point - lesbians and bi women aren’t a herd of super confident, experienced people who are all going to laugh at you or turn you down because you don’t know what you’re doing. it can be intimidating to put yourself out there but you’re allowed to exist in the LGBT dating world / social scene without being experienced, I know that’s a common worry.

5) you don’t have to be attracted to every gay girl you meet, that’s not a reason to second guess your attraction to women. you don’t have to be attracted to or say yes to first girl who asks you out or flirts with you. you don’t have to fall in love with the first girl you like, or the first girl you date. you might feel pressured to hurry up and get into a relationship with a woman, once again to “validate” or “prove” your sexuality but you don’t have to rush to do that. if you come out and don’t find a woman you want to be in a serious relationship with for years that’s ok. if you’re sexually attracted to women and you come out and you don’t have your first sexual experience with a woman for age that’s ok. you should go on dates with / have sex with / get into relationships with people because you’re attracted to them, you want to, you’re excited about it, not because you’re trying to fill a hole where you think certain experiences should go ASAP. if Get A Girlfriend Right Now is your core goal you’re going to end up forcing yourself into interactions that aren’t sincere, which is not only dishonest but also doesn’t help at ALL with the whole second-guessing if you like women internalized homophobia thing.

6) if you have unrequited feelings for someone you’re not evil, you’re not pathetic and you’re not going to spend your whole life unhappy and stuck. best friends, straight women, people who live far away from you.. sometimes it can seem like you can’t seem to fall for someone in your reach. that’s normal too. you won’t be stuck forever. and you aren’t terrible, you aren’t predatory or a burden, your feelings aren’t a curse on those around you. you’re a person.

this is is ok to reblog and add on to if you have other tips / things that you want to say; I just wanted to make a post reaching out to women who a) recently realized their sexuality, b) have known their sexuality but don’t have much experience or c) are feeling isolated or unsure of themselves.

[asoadiosjfidfjdhgjfhgjkfdhg-dea]

i don’t know, i don’t have an issue with ‘soft sapphic’ culture in and of itself - i understand that it works for a lot of people and i’m fond of any movement that aims to a) unify lesbians + bi/pan girls and b) teach young lgbt kids that their attraction isn’t gross or bad.

however…i do think certain narratives being spread on this site (and in other places where this terminology is used, i’d imagine) do more to contribute to internalised homophobia than they do to reduce it. this is obviously unintentional and i’m not blaming sapphic girls who spread this stuff at all but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth discussing and at least considering.

i see a lot of posts saying things along the lines of ‘love between girls is the purest and best thing in the world!!’ and i understand that these posts are meant to be at least mildly hyperbolic but here’s the thing: a lot of girls who love girls already feel like their love has to be perfect to compensate for the fact that it’s non-heterosexual.

i know that on a personal level it wasn’t useful for me to hear stuff like that (although i might have thought it was for a while). what i actually needed to hear wasn’t ‘love between girls is perfect’, it was ‘love between girls isn’t always going to be perfect and that’s okay. you’re finding love hard and that’s okay.’

i used to have so much anxiety over the fact that i wasn’t having a Pure Gay Experience; the first girl i dated wasn’t the love of my life, sometimes i just wanted to make out with girls i didn’t have feelings for, i had feelings for girls who’d never love me back and that made me bitter and angry and jealous. all of this would have been normal teenage stuff if i was straight but my shame was definitely amplified by the fact that i felt like i had to compensate for being gay by having almost fairytale-style romances.

like i honestly think there is so much value in teaching young sapphic girls that their love won’t be soft and special all the time because they’re human beings no less worthy of love and respect than anyone else. and in teaching straight people that our love isn’t going to be any purer than theirs, but they have to respect it equally anyway. i feel like i’ve said this a million times but i have no interest in activism that only seeks to validate the most ~palatable q*eers~.

listen, women + girls who date each other end up in abusive relationships sometimes. they fight and they split up. they break each other’s hearts. they have meaningless hook-ups with each other. they cheat on each other. sometimes things are bad or just not that special, but the thing young sapphic girls need to learn is that things will go wrong not BECAUSE they’re lesbians or because they’re bi or pan. they go wrong because that’s how life works. and regardless of who they’re dating or fucking or loving, they deserve respect and support.

i don’t want to be a killjoy and i’m not saying that a cutesy post about how every time two girls kiss the moon gets brighter is going to ruin anyone’s life. but i don’t think idealising OR demonising love between girls (or any two lgbt people) is really the way to go with making young gay/bi/pan girls feel better about themselves. don’t teach them to aspire to ideals they can’t reach; teach them to be human and teach them to love themselves and their sexualities regardless.

[dirtyscholar]

okay but imagine this, Sherlock actively trying to set up Molly with Hopkins.

Like he’s always felt a little guilty over how he treated her in the past (see TAB) and now he thinks this is the way to make it up to her. so he continually puts Molly in situations where she has to directly interact with Hopkins, and subtly hints at ways they’d be super good for eachother “what’s that Hopkins? you say you think it’s cute when girls wear sweater with long sleeves? well I happen to know Molly loves sweaters with long sleeves!” and Molly doesn’t catch on at first but when she does she’s like “uhh, Sherlock, I’m not gay.” and he just smirks at her “yes, but you’re not straight either” and Molly doesn’t get it because… of course she is?

But Sherlock’s meddling pays off and she starts hanging out with Hopkins and her thoughts gradually shift from, “wow I wish I could be her, she’s really cool” to “god I wish I was with her her, she’s so beautiful” and then she’s like OH SHIT I’M NOT STRAIGHT WHAT’S HAPPENING

but Hopkins is like so chill and smart and beautiful that Molly’s like yknow what I don’t care I like her, so when Hopkins asks her out she gives a resounding yes and Sherlock is INSUFFERABLE for days because he’s so proud of himself

[shaneofaragon]

✌😎💅

[johnbinary-deactivated20170327]

hoopkins!!! i couldn’t help myself, let these lesbians be together pls.