☾Sapphire Aces☽

🌸Positivity blog for ace girls.🌸 Safe space for ALL ace girls~~even the ones who aren't always girls, or ace. ♥ ~ Mod Ruby ☼ ~ Mod Holly ~Mod Potato ☆ ~ Mod Ignis

[sapphiric-aces]

If there are no mods, will this blog be done? Because I really like it and would be willing to step in to keep it going...

it’ll just keep sitting here inactive like it has for the last several months... you can message this blog if you want more info

[baroldspaghet]

Shout out to ace girls out there struggling because society writes off their asexuality because “girls aren’t supposed to like sex”!

Shout out to ace girls of color who are hypersexualized by western society and are told they can’t be ace because of their race!

Shout out to trans ace girls who can’t tell if body dysphoria causes their asexuality or if they would identify as ace anyway!

Shout out to neurodivergent ace girls that have their asexuality invalidated by counselors as being “just a symptom”!

Shout out to physically ill ace girls who put up with people always “blaming” their asexuality on their illness!

Shout out to ace girls with lots of intersecting identities that too often get ignored!

Shout out to ace girls! You’re all beautiful and valid and deserve love. :)

[sapphiric-aces]

Mod Potato

I, mod potato, will be leaving the blog. I personally have stopped identifying as ace for a while, and really don’t think I should be a part of a blog for something I’m not. If you’d like to contact me, my main blog is @potato-mamba. Stay safe!

EDIT: I actually think I might be the only mod left? Mod role call.

[justanacearogirl]

Here’s a shout out for my ace girls. Who are told that they’re normal for not wanting sex. Who are told that ‘everyone feels that way!’ Who aren’t sure of their attraction or how to feel about it. I love you.

[justaphobethings]

Honestly it might help a lot of wlw/sapphic people who have been traumatized and now have bad association with those spaces/words if we put together a list of safe sapphic blogs that are 100% pro-ace because I know they exist. I know they have to be real even if I haven't found any and, I mean, this blog has helped me stop associating the lasbuan flag with hate and I'm sure finding actual safe blogs could help a lot of us recover too.

Ok let’s start a list of blogs that explicitly say they are pro-ace!:

sapphiric-aces (proof)

acesapphic (proof)

bambigirls (proof)

If anyone knows any more hmu and I’ll add them!

[sapphiric-aces]

thank you!

[a-speclove]

Image credit: ♥

[A pink and purple picture with lighter circles along with the text “Sapphic asexual people are beautiful”]

[czng]

you are the only blog i follow that doesn't post hateful things about ace people. i find it difficult to find a space on this site that isn't hating on me. thank you so much, you don't know how grateful i am.

I’m glad I can be one safe blog for you, but I’m also so sorry anon ;; that’s dreadful. Although it feels like it sometimes, I promise not everyone is against us! I’ve had quite a few people come to me privately and say they appreciate it too - there are many who support us but just do not feel safe posting about it(totally understandable since some of the hateful people can be really hateful)

if you want some more positivity there are some positivity blogs here! I hope you find some comfort in them too and if you ever need to unfollow someone, do so! I unfollow blogs if I see hateful stuff, so my following list should be quite safe and I’m happy to send you blog recs if you want some ace/aro supportive or at least non hateful fandom blogs too :)

@goodpositivitylgbt (all lgbt+ positivity including aro & ace people!)

@acearopositive

@a-positive

@asexuality-resources

@aceandaropositivity

@acewlw (for ace wlw)

@bpqua (for aspec & mspec people)

@aroacejokes

I’ve tried to avoid blogs which post discourse because even though they post support seeing the arguments can be upsetting too ;; hope I helped and you can feel better anon!! :)

[doctress]

Just wanted to add that acewlw is not actually ace safe!! At least one of the mods is an acephobe and believes that heteroromantic aces are straight and not lgbt. 

Please becareful when following supposedly ‘ace safe’ blogs - some of them aren’t as friendly or as safe as they first appear! 

[czng]

seriously? that’s such a shame, I liked that blog too ): thanks for letting me know!! I’ll remove it from this list too.

[doctress]

Yeah :c Some of the promising looking ones can be misleading. And no problem! 

For alternative, safer wlw ace blogs, I recommend following @asexualxbisexual, @acesapphic and @sapphiric-aces (although I think the third one has stopped posting).

As far as I can tell they’re actually ace safe, I’ve been following all 3 of them for a while now and checked them carefully, and they appear to be much safer!  

[scotchjolras]

A note to ALL asexuals:

Stand tall and be proud of who you are. Don’t let anyone take that away from you. You are valid and you are not alone.

[sapphiric-aces]

dude your ace playlist should definitely include take a hint from that victorious tv show (there's not an official video, just a clip from an episode)

I love that song!  However, I gotta tell you guys something.  Saph, the original owner, was the one with the playlist and she left this blog.  I’m going to personally message her asking her about this, and its continuation.  Admittedly, I’m probably not as a good an owner as she was.  I’m much more silent and refrained.

[sapphiric-aces]

When are you going to post the other playlists? (Sorry if this comes as mean i dont mean tu rush you im just wondering!)

I’m sorry!  I missed this!  I’m going to bundle this answer with another anon who mentioned this-- the next post will answer you.

[sapphiric-aces]

Oh i've been following this blog for a while, (i am heteroromantic ace) is it only for wlw? Im sorry if it is! I'll unfollow if it is the case im sorry!

I don’t know if the original owner would have allowed it, but since she’s not here anymore, I will.  I don’t like the idea of telling people they can’t follow.  Just try not to ask any male-oriented questions-- keep it pretty neutral, okay? :>

[sapphiric-aces]

Hi, I'm a panro ace 18yr old girl and I've been with my het bf for almost 4 yrs now, he's my soulmate,most of the time sex makes me feel uncomfortable but for him,its his way of showing love. I feel bad that I don't want it the way he does help?-Navi

Well, this is a girl-girl oriented blog but I’ll go ahead try to answer this for you.  I’m not sure what there really is to say, however.  If you’re not okay with it then you always have the right to say no.  If you’re okay with it (which you seem to not be) then I’ve heard of circumstances where people do it for their partner’s sake.  As long as both of you aren’t uncomfortable, you may not be able to make a perfect scenario but maybe something you guys can both be okay with?  I’m sorry I can’t be of much help!

[justaphobethings]

have u heard the term "bambi lesbian" its a lesbian who doesnt want to have sex/doesnt like sex, prefers kisses n cuddles instead (i think its adorable and im willing to bet it was coined by ace lesbians Way Back When)

That’s so cute!!!

[spaces4aces]

This includes trans girls!

[goodpositivitylgbt]

Aces are so wonderful like...

You’re an ace of hearts? That’s lovely and you deserve a partner who treats you like that

You’re an ace of spades? That’s incredible, you will take over the world and fight with dragons on your side

You’re an ace of diamonds? That’s truly beautiful and one day you will share your diamonds with someone who sees all of that in you

You’re an ace of clubs? That’s awesome! You’re special and you’ll meet a person who’s as special as that to you

[a-specspace]

You do not deserve to be treated badly for being a-spec. You deserve respect just as much as anyone else. You deserve happiness just like anyone else. Please don’t forget that you deserve to be happy. You are not broken or evil and you deserve good things too, I promise.

[snubbingapollo]

If you’re A-spec

If you’re ace or aro or both or demi or not sure yet or anything in between

I want you to know that you are beautiful. You are amazing. There is not one single thing wrong with you. You are valid, you belong, you deserve to be cared for and appreciated and safe.

I don’t care if other people call you straight or cishet or any of the other insults and delegitimizing language flying around. I want you to know that you are loved. 

I love you. I think you belong. I think you are perfect. And if you ever need to hear it again, I am here. My ask box is open, you can come on anon or not. Anyone can message me follower or not. I am here for you. I am with you.