One of the things I have realized when I freestyle is the man who pays the bill in the group is the a**hole or the boss. The nice man will never pay for anyone but himself. He will offer but the a**hole or the boss will grab the check away from him and slam their card. This may be the reason the men who shows me the money the quickest tends to be thee most annoying.
Enjoy The Freestyle Experience
I felt really motivated after the date with Fadu, so why not use his gifts to get more gifts? (evil laugh)
I went to a new place and was the only person sitting at the bar. I’m starting to believe having a Chanel solidifies to white people that you are not dangerous and you might just be privileged. I was relaxing at this bar for two hours while crowds of businessmen and older women had meetings at the table. I’m sure the place is much lively later in the night but in the afternoon everyone is quiet. I’m highly considering bringing a water bottle because the bartender didn’t know how to make drinks. It took him four times to make the drink right. $14 for an okay drink is not good in my book.
Then, I went to the next place and it was boring at first. Like I said, when too many women are at the bar, it creates a division because women c**kblock. Whenever I see this I will write it down seeing that, when the women left, men gravitated to the bar and the aura became more friendly, and everyone started talking to strangers.
I saw a man staring at my breast and looking back and forth to the entrance “Don’t worry she will be here soon.” He’s a bank executive, he’s cute, but once I told him I was not from Manhattan and lived at my mother’s house he left. That’s fine because it’s a culture difference. If a traditional Indian, Middle Eastern, African, Asian men hears you are staying at your family’s house you are automatically wifey material. I don’t pay rent but I take out the garbage, wash the dishes, cook, unclog sinks, clean the rooms, garden, iron, laundry, buy food for my grandma, install the air conditioners, check the oil in the car, add the anti-freeze to the car and etc.
That could have been his hit or miss question. My hit or miss question is “What do you do?” If I hear MTA-, Truck Dr-, Construction W-, Barten-, Walmart Em-, I’M MOON WALKING!
When I hear “I own,” “I have businesses,” “I’m an executive”, “My office-,” then that’s why I turn my bar chair around and and give a toast! Now this is when the realization comes. Two men are sitting next to me start speak to me. One is quiet and the other one is loud and funny. Which one you think was the a**hole? THE QUIET ONE. I was surprised because, there were no hints. He called my sugar name so many times and anytime I sipped my drink he asked “Why you don’t like looking at me?”
“ Look,look at me, you don’t like eye contact.” Privileged men act like kids when they flirt. Instead of being smooth, they do the schoolyard tease. They no longer have social proximity , they want to get as close as they can, they want to hold your hand and when they can’t, they are telling you do something you already told them five times you don’t do. It’s like dealing with a toddler. If you nicely them no, they will stop for a few minutes then the same bumboclat thing you told them not to do, but if you tell them off and move away from them, they will have a tantrum.
We shared an Uber with his friend. I don’t advise this because, in my experience men always take the opportunity to do disrespectful things. I screenshoted his bank card when he pulled it out and the Uber driver’s information and sent it to my connect. Beech I went to Douglastown, Northern Blvd, then finally my place. Homie showed me his trip to Africa (yea white men think when they show me pictures of him Africa or a black woman that verifies him as compatible). He grabbed on my hand, kissing it, and nibbled on it. Told him not to do that, guess what the motherf**ker did? Did it again after 10 minutes. He played some raunchy 70s music for me too!
Hence, this man paid for my tab, his tab, and his friend’s tab, wants me to never pay for foods or drinks at this bar. Nice gesture. I don’t know if its a New Yorker thing or power thing, but men here are possessive. If they see you at the bar, they are going to try and block any possibility of any other men speaking to you. I thought you thought you are not looking for anything serious?
