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self-loving-vampire

They really should teach people how to cook in school.

shapeshiftinterest

song: in the hall of the mountain king

@chicken-mc-nuggets

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“Her Kind” - Anne Sexton || The Magic Circle - John Williams Waterhouse || Mabel podcast, ep. 18 || Circe - Madeline Miller || The Triple Hecate - William Blake || Old Gods of Appalachia, ep. 1

#inspo

coffeefocusrat

britomart

starting a collection

soracities

“Bolaño is an elegiac poet. His poems constitute a challenge to death, they were written against death, like those of Breton, that black humourist. It is humour that makes poetry intelligible, that in some way makes possible the scrutiny of cadavers. Death allows for jokes, cadavers do not. A cadaver is death minus the joke. To talk about that cadaver we need the joke and the language […] Bolaño’s vanguard is [the] vanguard of those who resign themselves to the gluing together of fragments, sheltered by a diminished humour, a bitter and wavering humour, at times almost serious, at times decidedly stentorian. A guffaw of melancholy: the grin allows one to feel again that the body is body. A poem is a shot in the arm. A hit.”

— Alejandro Zambra, from “Roberto Bolaño’s Poetry’, Not to Read (trans. Megan McDowell)

#poetry #inspo

anarchapella

I saw someone saying earlier that feeling safe and being safe are different and that we are entitled to being safe, but not to feeling safe, and the example they brought up was like terfs making trans women existing in bathrooms out to be this huge danger to cis women when all stats and research shows that trans women are not and have never been any type of danger to cis women which is what i mean by not all boundaries are valid and I think it’s important to be aware of your reasoning for setting a boundary outside of something just making you feel uncomfortable

gem-femme

Oh I really fuck with this. Not to derail, but this makes me think of how white women will weaponize their womanhood against black men because black men make them feel unsafe simply by existing. They’ll call you a misogynist for questioning their desire to feel safe instead of examining themselves for anti blackness. Like I’m sorry but feeling unsafe can absolutely be the result of unconscious bias and/or straight up bigotry. Examine those feelings to find out, please, because they aren’t always valid!

anarchapella

Not derailing at all! That actually came to mind for me too, and how in general so many white ppl have really intense boundaries about where they feel safe going too and it’s always black neighborhoods, I just wasn’t sure if it was my place to use as an example since I’m white

gem-femme

Okay so I was talking to my mom about this and she brought up something really interesting; there’s almost an inverse to this. She called it “assumed safety” and it describes how people will assume people of certain identities are safer to be around than others and it’s dangerous. Like, white people will assume other white people are safer to be around than black people but in actuality white people are more likely to be victimized by fellow white people than black people. Or like how terfs like to push the idea that women are inherently less violent and less likely to be abusive and how that actually makes it easier for people to be abused by women and harder for them to get help and leave.

I just thought it was interesting point and wanted to add it :)

discodeerdiary

Adding onto this, an alternative framing to "not all boundaries are valid" is "some boundaries are gonna require you to eat the cost yourself". For example, if a cis woman decides that she never wants to share a bathroom with a trans woman, I have no problem with that as long as she's willing to either stay home or seek out single occupancy bathrooms. In practice this gets kinda nuanced because it brings up questions about how much we want to allow people to make decisions out of prejudice. In this way it's kind of like Dating Preferences discourse, and as such it's also subject to the fact that on some level we can't really stop people from doing what they want. But by that point we're reaching the limits of valid/not valid as a useful framework.

anarchapella

This is an interesting addition can I offer an alternate framing “some boundaries shouldn’t be socially validated” because boundaries are only boundaries if they are socially enforced so it’s less allow/disallow but more about what boundaries we socially validate

discodeerdiary

Ohhhhh I love this. Avoids the essentialism of valid/not valid by focusing on the process by which boundaries and preferences are validated by other people.

anarchapella

Right! Same with preferences! Like no we cannot control who other ppl fuck, but we can also socially push back on bigoted statements of preferences instead of just shrugging our shoulders and letting ppl say things like “oh I don’t fuck trans ppl” with neutral “prefs are prefs” responses. Like ppl can have bigoted preferences, but they shouldn’t be socially comfortable in their bigotry.

thefuzzydave

This is the coolest desk I’ve ever seen.

genosmithsucks-deactivated20150

panera bread is the only place that’ll probably never spell my name right

diaryofamadmixedwoman

Panera Bread is the only place that employs honest loyal men and then their whore employee women seduce them and basically their all a bunch of sluts. West Saint Paul Panera whores… I hate you.

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coughloop

this is how blue check marks saw it happen

goblingrowlart

The Living Vesselry, a new race for dnd/ttrpgs based on Iron Fist Alexander from Elden Ring. I absolutely love his character and I felt he deserved a playable version, so I present my own take on them: