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Christian Louboutin Masterpost

“People say I am the king of painful shoes. I don’t want to create painful shoes, but it is not my job to create something comfortable. I try to make high heels as comfortable as they can be, but my priority is design, beauty and sexiness. I’m not against them, but comfort is not my focus.”

The only man who has every really been honest about the extent of his downfall. This post is an update of an old post. Now, for some reason I picture Louboutins being every SB’s first go to pair of designer shoes. Why? Because they are sexy, gorgeous and the bottoms make any man want to bow down. That being said, they are the MOST painful pair of heels I have ever owned. So every little step to stretch/protect them has been worth it. 

How to Make Heels More Comfortable As he said, louboutin’s will never be comfortable heels - they are not supposed to be. But, here are some tips and tricks you can use to make them a little less uncomfortable. Before we start, I have the So Kate that I wear to functions/dinners/events aka events where I can sit for long periods of time without looking out of place. 1. If your pair has a narrow front, you will need to stretch the leather. If you want to be a badass, then you can stuff your feet in and walk around for hours and eventually make them form - you will hate yourself. OR, you can use the extra help. Double up on some socks, stuff your feet in and shift all of your weight to the front of your feet. Using your blow dryer, apply high heat directly to the shoe. Make sure to relocate weight to the front of the shoe, the back will stretch as well! IF it stretches too much (that’s okay), then use fashion tape on the back to prevent sliding of your foot. I think it is better to stretch too much then not as all and with the tape, you’ll never notice the difference. 

2. Beauty is pain ladies and these epitomize both. Bandage your third and fourth toes with some medical tape, removes pressure from the nerves. You’ll hold out longer.

3. INSOLES for these brand of heels are a MUST. I didn’t realize how much of a difference they made until I did not wear them. HUGE HUGE HUGE difference.

4. When you are walking, be aware of your posture. If you’re an SB then your posture should always been good, in or out of heels. That being said, in these heels relocating your weight to your heel with an erect back makes it less painful. If you’re not used to this then this would feel awkward but you’ll get used to it - I promise. 

How to Protect Your Red Bottoms 

Yes, I like saving money. However, I chose not to go to the cobbler because they wanted to charge me 70 for the base. And, they would not have been able to protect my babies in time. You can do this for under $12, without any damage to the red after. 

Buy the ZAGG InvisibleShield Military Grade Screen Protector (I recommend this brand only because it’s the only one I know that will NOT damage the red.)  

You will want to buy the OG iPad case just in case you mess up, you can do it more than once. OK, so what you will do is clean the bottom of your shoes with a damp cloth and then outline them on the non-sticky part of the protector. DO NOT ACCIDENTALLY BUY THE GLASS PROTECTOR. Now, it is arts and craft time and you will cut out the base the outline of your shoes. Peel the plastic away, spray spray spray your shoes with the provided solution and slowly apply the sticky face, while being aware of air bubbles. You will want to use your windshield wiper thing to remove as many of the air bubbles as possible.

These are my protected So Kate that I have worn so many times and they still look perfect. It may have costed me more time but saved me a little bit of cash money. DISCLAIMER: If you are walking on floors in a kitchen/restaurant that could be greasy then you will want to be EXTRA careful. When you scruff the bottom, you get the real grip of these shoes. But when the bottom has the protector on then there is a little less traction. 

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Ha, this post came just in time!

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Sugar Baby Education 101: 7 Etiquette Habits

It is a big part of sugar baby’s lifestyle to be comfortable go out on dates with their SDs to high-end restaurants, opening galleries, charities, fundraisers, and balls. What most newbies do not know/lack is the proper etiquette habits. 

For those men who surround themselves with successful people 24/7, would be a big turn off to be with a young lady who does not know how to behave and know the unspoken rules in the public. It is important for all sugar babies to know how to act classy and elegant, take your time, don’t be in a rush, be sophisticated and be a mystery for your SD. 

When you are dating a millionaire, the right manners and ways of conducting yourself assume an even a greater importance since they indicate grooming and class – qualities which are important in the upper classes.

Here are a few tips on dating etiquette if you are seeing someone rich and successful and wish to come off as his/her ideal partner.

#1 How to Communicate

Not every thought that comes into your head should come out of your mouth. Vet your thoughts. Speaking your mind does not mean sharing every thought. Some thoughts are not appropriate and could cause irreparable damage to your relationships.

Never gossip. Most gossip is bad, negative and damages relationships.

Look everyone in the eye for no more than 5 seconds at a time, then divert your glance for another 5 seconds. Practice will turn this into a habit. 

Make eye contact with people you speak with.

Never criticize, condemn or complain about anyone to another relationship. It’s a giant red flag. People will assume that you are bad mouthing them and will try to stay away from forming any strong relationships with you.

#2 Focus on your partner

When dating a rich man , it is important to let them know you value the time and effort your partner is spending on you. And one of the best ways to do this is by being attentive to your date. Maintain steady eye contact with him and listen actively to what he has to say. Smile often and present a positive body language. Also avoid fiddling with our phone (do not take pictures of the food, take snapchat of yourself, etc. do not present yourself as immature girl.). Unless you’re on call at a high-pressure job, you have no excuse for frequently checking your PDA. Flashing expensive technology makes you look self-absorbed and immature. If you must take a call or check a text, apologize for being rude, and tell your date why it’s necessary.

#3 Eating Etiquette

Believe it or not, most people don’t know how to eat. In the adult world of the successful, you need to know how to eat at social settings. Let’s go down the list:

As soon as you sit in your chair take the napkin off the table and drape it over your lap.

Never begin eating until everyone has their meal.

Never chew with your mouth opened.

Never talk while you’re chewing your food.

Never dip any food you’re eating into a sauce everyone is using.

Don’t wolf down your food. Eat at the same pace as everyone else at the table.

Never hold a spoon, fork or knife with your fist.

Outside fork is for salads, inside fork for the meal.

Never make gestures while your utensils are in your hands.

Never reach for anything like salt and pepper. Always ask someone to pass things like that.

Don’t slouch at the table. Sit straight up.

After the meal, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and make sure you don’t have any food in your teeth. Carry a toothpick or something similar in your wallet or purse wherever you go.

If your date orders, compliment his choices, whether it is his choice of dessert or the wine. At the end of the dinner, thank your partner for inviting you out and don’t leave it for the next day.Focus

#4 Dress Etiquette

When dating a millionaire, it is crucial to turn out in a classy and elegant manner. Adopt a personal style which highlights your best features and above all, get the basics of grooming right. Even though you may not be able to afford a Louis Vuitton handbag or a Cartier watch, ensure that whatever you are wearing is suits you and is appropriate for the occasion.

Work and Job Interviews – Some professions have special purpose clothing like construction, roadwork, electricians etc. If you work in an office, dress like your boss or your boss’s boss. In some offices it’s business casual, in others, it’s a suit and tie for men. For women its slacks, or skirts with open collars, heels or no heels are ok.

Weddings, Wakes, Funerals –  In most cases, this will be suit and tie for men. For women, it’s the same as work clothes but many women like to wear more formal gowns or a more stylish cocktail dress, usually worn with heels. Some cultures have special dress codes you need to be aware of.

Formals – Usually formals are black tie optional, black tie or white tie for men. Optional usually means a dark suit, tie or black bow tie, dark shoes. Black tie means black tuxedo, dark shoes, white tie means black tailcoat, white wing-collar shirt, white bow tie, black shoes for men. For women, it’s a long formal gown or short cocktail dress or dressy long skirt and top, usually worn with heels. White ties are very rare.

#5 Introducing Yourself

In life, you will be forced into situations where you will meet new people. This is an opportunity to develop valuable relationships.

There are 5 basic rules to making introductions:

Smile

Firm Handshake

Make Eye Contact

In one sentence explain who you are, why you’re there and who you know at the event

Ask Questions About the Person You are Introducing Yourself to.

#6 Basic Manners

Yes

Please

Thank you

Be punctual (Being punctual is especially important when dating the rich since for them time is money, and as soon as they find you tardy, they will see you as a waste of time.)

Excuse me when interrupting or entering a conversation

Don’t interrupt someone while they are talking

Don’t roll your eyes when someone says something you disagree with

Don’t look away when someone is talking to you

Never check your cell phone when talking to someone

Stay positive and keep criticisms and negative comments to yourself

Compliment, compliment, compliment

Thank anyone hosting an event, dinner etc.

Never curse or use inappropriate language during social events

Never be rude

#7 Learn to handle embarrassing moments

No one is born with perfect manners and it is all a matter of practice. So while dating your SD if you realize that you have committed a faux pas, make as little of it as possible. Ignore whatever you did or didn’t do and force your mind onto something else. Go on smoothly as if nothing happened and very soon people around you will do the same.

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Sugar Baby Education 101: Wine & Food Pairing

When you are an SB, it is important for you to play the part in your SD’s life, meaning be well educated about things and have proper etiquette and KNOW your wine… or have at least an idea about wine and food paring.

 So here, my hoes a little basic overview (if want to learn more about wine, just google that shit out!)

Just like adding milk into coffee will change its texture and taste; food when interacting with wine will affect its flavor. Different ingredients and preparation methods will bring out different taste sensations with the same bottle of wine.

There are a lot of pairing guidelines, but only one universal pairing principle –

A good pairing is when the food and wine do not overshadow each other. Wine and food can complement or contrast each other, as long as they do not mask each other’s unique flavor and characteristics.

Factors to Consider when Pairing

When pairing food, you are really complementing or contrasting four elements. The way the dish is prepared and cooked will affect these elements:

Body/ weight: heavy, medium, or light-body? Flavor intensity: weak, moderate, strong? Aroma: earthy, fruity, grassy, or herbal? Taste: sweet, spicy, acidic, sour, bitter?

Example 1: Most people prefer pairing Cabernet Sauvignon with steaks because they are both full-bodied, strong flavor, and the protein in the meat will soften the tannin in the wine. A venturing wine lover may pair a red steak with a full-bodied white Roussanne.

Example 2: With spicy, strong flavor Thai dishes, the classic gourmets would go for a Riesling. Its neutrality will complement Thai cuisine’s spices. Its acidity and med bodied will match the weight of the food. A venturing wine lover may pair with Gewurztraminer or Marsanne.

Our Favorite Wine and Food Pairings:

It is not always white wine with white meat… Pinot Noir, Beaujolais, Chianti are few handful reds that pair well with chicken. Below we have listed our favorite pairings as a good starting point:

Western Dishes:

Chicken – Full-bodied whites (Chardonnay, Chenin Blanc) or light reds (Beaujolais, Pinot Noir, Rioja, Chianti) Foie Gras / Pate - Sweet whites (Sauternes, Riesling Spatlese, Tokaji) Green Salad – Herby whites (Sauvignon Blanc, Pinot Blanc, Sancerre, Pouilly-Fume, Vinho Verde) Grilled Fish – Light to medium bodied whites (Sauvignon Blanc, Vinho Verde, Chablis) Pasta (red sauce) – acidic reds (Barbera, Chianti, Zinfandel / Primitivo, Valpolicella) Pasta (white sauce) – fuller bodied whites (Chardonnay, Viognier, Gavi, Pinot Gris) Pizza - Sparkling or a fruity red (Prosecco, Barbera, Dolcetto, Valpolicella) Raw or steamed shellfish – Crisp, acidic wines (Champagne, Sauvignon Blanc, Chablis) Steak – Full-bodied red (Cabernet, Merlot, Syrah, Malbec, Barolo)

Asian Cuisines:

Chinese – Riesling, Gewurztraminer, Sauvignon Blanc, and Pinot Noir Japanese Sushi – Beaujolais, Sauvignon Blanc, Riesling Spicy Thai / Indian Curry – Viognier, Riesling, Gewurztraminer, Rousanne

Cheese:

Creamy soft brie or camembert – Champagne, Pinot Noir, Chardonnay, dry Riesling Strong goat cheese – Sancerre, Sauvignon Blanc, Pouilly-Fume Hard / Aged cheese – Bordeaux, Cabernet Sauvignon, Brunello, Dolcetto, Merlot, white Burgundy Semi-hard cheese – Semillon, Rioja Smoked cheese – Gewurztraminer, Sauternes, Shiraz Blue cheese – Sauternes, Banyuls, Port, Late harvest wines, Madeira, Amarone;

Last but not least, some PAIRING TIPS:

Acidic wines go well with many dishes. Sauvignon Blanc, dry Riesling, Chianti are great examples. In addition, acidic wines make salty dishes appear less salty. For fatty food such as foie gras, try Sauternes (an equally rich and intense wine). For spicy food, try fruity, low-alcohol wines such as Riesling and Gewurztraminer. Sweet food goes well with a bottle that is slightly sweeter.

Pair complex food with a simple wine. And pair simple food with a complex wine.

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Forgive yourself and begin again.

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Hey hope this isn't too intrusive but can I ask what you did to invest in yourself? I have joined the local gym and actively trying to attend events where the type of people I want to meet/ be like attend, (I know you get a weekly facial and personal trainer) but what else did you do to improve to the person you are at now

I pursued financial stability,a change in finances will make your transformation easier

Pursued fitness, travel,spirituality and health

I try to surround myself in an area or create a lifestyle where I am continuously around the key things I enjoy the most. 

Embraced beauty & self-care. I’m uber feminine. I like to stay too busy getting my feet scrubbed or doing something that makes me feel sexy and luscious than joining in some online mob. My mentor encourages getting a weekly massage if you’re a young professional. I’ll get a massage then get my nails done. I notice many women in the developing world who ain’t as wealthy as we, make it a habit to go their local salon or spa often or take advantage of their natural resources. Only in the West to do we celebrate being too busy to take care of ourselves or practice relaxation. We wait until we go on holiday to do those things.

I learned how to do my makeup beautifully with guidance from professionals & YouTube. I still learn & I’m part of a Facebook group where we all share our looks :)

I enrolled in daunting and relentlessly deep courses, read research papers & books in a variety of fields

“Hung around people older than me, took notes” - Eazy E

As of recently, I became less wiling to disperse myself to others. Sometimes you gotta leave folks in the water, they’re not worth your time

My life is not easy, trust me I have issues right now, but my life is simple, smooth & tranquil cause that’s how I make it.

I’m resourceful which is the only way to be about shit, nobody goes into the desert with no water. When facing new territory, stack up! I save & stock up on resources,websites,podcasts. People hate using google though. it’s sad because the internet is a muhfuckin’ goldmine.

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How allowance questions SHOULD be handled… Take note, ladies.

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Ahh, there is nothing more beautiful than seeing the SB/SD “allowance dance” performed by a couple who know what they are doing and move so gracefully!  Let me point out a couple reasons why this is, as @spoiledspice said, how the allowance talk should be handled:

First, note that the SD was straightforward and direct about what he had in mind, without the creepy innuendo, juvenile double entendres or explicit detail so many men seemed compelled to employ.  That is the way it should be approached.  The structure of an “arrangement” is not complicated, after all; we all know what it entails:  the SB provides companionship (in whatever form agreed to by the parties) and the SD provides financial consideration for said companionship.  Voila!  Simple! He didn’t “dance” around the subject and communicated exactly what he wanted.

But the real kudos go to @spoiledspice because she deftly handled his opening move.  Like him, she was direct, first, by acknowledging that he was going to “get what he wanted”, but then, second, moving to what she wanted. She did this in a way that flattered him (“I have the utmost respect for a man who is forthright in his desires”) and she also took the opportunity to “lighten the mood” by including her preference for white wine (nice!).  But, in between those two bookends, she got right down to the point so that there would be no misunderstandings (“Would you be comfortable with starting an allowance on the 19th in that case?”). Perfectly done!  Gracefully done!  

His response confirmed the financial end of the arrangement, thus completing the “dance” with an artful “finishing move”.  

The allowance talk does not have to be a drama and anxiety-infused tumble full of discordant melodies and steps!  When both people are mature, open and have “good intentions” it is actually quite easy to pull off!  

These two were like the Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers of the SB/SD world!

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This is the kind of shit that needs to be on @lets-talk-sugar How to recognize the genuine men and how to avoid the fakes.

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A woman who retired at 28 with $2 million in the bank explains how she saved 70% of her income in New York City

By saving, investing, and living frugally, JP Livingston was able to retire at 28.

I can’t wait to retire

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If you haven’t read part 1, here it is. 

So you’ve reflected and weighed the pros and cons. After a healthy amount of deliberation, you’ve decided that you still want to pursue this. Hopefully what I’m about to say will get your foot in the door.

I’m going to focus this on meeting celebrities in general and not a specific type of celebrity (like athletes or musicians). If you continuously go to the types of places I mention in hopes of meeting a celeb you’re bound to run into the rich and wealthy any way just by association…two birds, one stone.

Where to go:

Country clubs

Charity events

Golf clubs

High end gyms (especially if you’re want to be around athletes)

Upscale Restaurants (start with steakhouses)

Classy/Upscale Lounges

High end malls (Lenox Mall, The Shops in Buckhead and Phipps Plaza)

Stay in Buckhead. Period.

I’m not mentioning a specific place because Lord knows they change frequently. The trendiest restaurant in January could be closed by July.

Now if you noticed, I didn’t mention clubs. Personally, I don’t like networking in clubs for a multitude of reasons. However, not everyone is like me nor do they share my opinion about this so I will give you a few tips about freestyling at clubs:

Only go if you can get into VIP. Don’t think that Mr. or Miss Celebrity will spot you in a crowd and part the red ropes for you and let you inside of VIP. Has it happened before? Yes. But you increase your chances dramatically if you’re already inside of VIP.

Make friends with the bartenders and the doormen. The same rule applies when you’re at the lounges. They know what’s up. They know why you’re there. You don’t have to spell it out for them. A few subtle words and wink and a nod will do. If you become a regular and a good tipper, they’ll keep you in the loop. They’ll let you know who goes where and when you need to go. Be good to the bartenders and they’ll be good to you.

Don’t go with all of your friends. Unless you all look like Victoria’s Secret models. I’m not joking. For starters going with a lot of girls makes you unapproachable. Secondly, there is a chance that all of you may not be able to get into VIP (for various reasons) - that’s going to cause a problem. And Mr. Celebrity may have the cash, but that doesn’t mean he wants to buy you and all of your friends drinks for the rest of the night. Pick one girl that’s like minded and go with her. That’s it.

And only go during the weekday. Why? Cause everyone and their momma is at the club on the weekend trying to do the same thing you’re trying to do. Including the fake ballers. It’s too much of a hassle.  You’re more likely to meet a celebrity or the wealthy during the week.

If you need help finding events, start with the magazines Simply Buckhead, Jezebel (NOT jezebel.com. I’m talking about the local magazine from Atlanta. Their website is modernluxury.com/jezebel) and the Atlanta Tribune. Read the e-magazine/digital edition of these magazines. Don’t worry about the website itself. The magazine is where all of the information about the local events will be. Also, in some of the local/socialite-esque magazines, they will include pictures of previous events. (or you can always google to find the pictures) take note and save the date for the next one if the event looks promising.

I’m sure there’s more “high society” magazines in Atlanta but hopefully that will get you started. If you need more you can Google.

And speaking of the search engine, You’re going to be using it a lot. Get on Yelp as well and begin creating a list of places in each category I named. Read the reviews (and check out the pics to see if there are any of celebrities) to see if the place is worth a visit.

Get organized and create a list of places that you’re going to attend. Keep notes and make memos of which places are keepers and which ones are not worth your time. This may seem a bit overwhelming at first, but eventually you’ll create a rhythm and get the hang of it.

And some parting words…

Do not act like a groupie, let me repeat that: do not act like a groupie. That includes acting like one in person and on social media (especially on Instagram.) Don’t act like you’re desperate for fame or a crazed fan. People can smell desperation a mile away and will avoid you like the plague. The most you’ll get for being a crazed fan is a picture. And if you act like a groupie, you will be treated like one.

And since we’re on the subject of crazy fans, don’t do the opposite either which is to act as if you’ve never heard of them. “No, Idris, I’m not familiar with any of your movies….” Please. You’re not fooling anyone with that. If you know who they are, then you know. Treat them like a normal person. Compliment them and their talent “Yes, I like your latest song, the melody is so soulful”. And then leave it at that and talk about something else. And if you’re pursuing male celebrities remember at the end of the day, he’s just a man.

If you’re trying to be around a particular type of celebrity (i.e. such as an actor or athletes in general) don’t be afraid to do some google stalking. This increases your chances of finding them (or another celebrity). Don’t leave shit to chance.

Find out where they like to hang out and what they like to do when they’re not filming, scoring touchdowns, making music, whatever. This is where sites like TMZ come in handy. If you read a story or see a picture that says Chris Evans likes to eat at Chops when he’s filming the Avengers in ATL, then you know that you need to add that place to your rotation. If he likes to eat there, chances are other celebs like to eat there as well. So on the days you go,even if you don’t meet Chris Evans you may run into Anthony Mackie.

Go to charity events. One more time for the folks in the back. Go to the charity events. I don’t know why everyone keeps sleeping on charity events. Most of these celebs have at least one charity and a lot of them actually go to the events, galas and fundraisers. The money that’s spent to go to the club would be better spent on a ticket to the celebrity charity event where you just increased your chances exponentially that you will not only meet a celeb, but also get to have a conversation with them because you’re in a more personal, intimate setting.

And network. If you find yourself at an event without any promising prospects don’t declare it a waste. Be friendly, introduce yourself to people. You never know who knows who.

Recap: 

Celebrities (at least the ones that you want to hang around) go to the hottest, trendiest places. Find out those places with Google and Yelp (Only choose $$$$ and $$$). Be sure to look at the pictures. 

Start going to these places. 

Network with the staff. 

Begin to sort which places have the best potential and become a regular. (This may take a little trial and error.)

Always be on the lookout for the upcoming places (your local socialite/high society magazines will help with this). 

Rinse and repeat. 

That’s it. That’s the magic code.

And lastly, a personal piece of advice: get something out of this. Even the most lowkey celeb will be attached to some kind of drama or craziness simply because they’re in the spotlight. It comes with the territory.

I’m not going to tell you what you should get out of this, I’m just telling you to get something.  Even if your only goal is to say you hang out with celebs, that’s fine, there’s nothing wrong with that. But you need to be at a point that by the time you “retire” from this lifestyle you can at least write a series of books on how to meet celebrities for business, friendship and romance so you can cut a check on the backend if you want. You may not feel that way now, but when this is all said and done and the ride is over, you’re going to want something out of this.

Oh, and I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t recommend at least once book. How to Marry The Rich by Ginie Sayles. Even if you don’t plan on marrying someone rich, her book contains a lot of good tips on how to surround yourself with the wealthy.

Good luck my darling. Remember that this is a marathon not a sprint, and as always, you can message me or send another ask.

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Such a wealth knowledge in this post alone, respect it.

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My Hustle

You girls know that I tried so many different hustles and nothing worked like this one. I want to share the tips. I mix escorting and sugaring approach but in my mind the lines are never crossed and very clear. Why this approach works is that men are usually reluctant to use escort services because it’s too square for them with agencies and with indie escorts they don’t like the unattached feeling. I present myself as the girl next door, sexy and whoaa?? willing to talk to them! It drives them insane and they are already looking for ways to fuck me. So I introduce my terms right at that moment and if they are in that mindset they go for it. In escorting business, conditions are presented at first stage before they can bond with the product and have some sense of comfort around you. So it puts some men off. 

My understanding of sugaring evolved. To me it’s escorting with subscription. Don’t tell me that you have poise, intelligence, conversational skills. So does escort girls. They’re given gifts, taken out on dinners and some guys book just for conversation.

Our target audience’s behavior changed. In the last couple of days I’ve seen girls complaining how sugar bowl isn’t what it used to be anymore. I understand the frustration but as business owners we either adjust or wither.

At the end of the day it boils down to arbitrary of whether to fuck same guy 50 times or fuck 50 guys once. However you’re comfortable.

I will try to explain how I handle a couple of points.

My Persona: Especially in where I live, rich people more and more move to other countries and they usually prefer to date celebrities. Plus, men here are mean to local girls but they put foreigners on pedestals. So for a local guy my persona is a foreigner with some family ties here, she’s visiting them, working as freelance PA and studying. For travelers I’m local and exotic. So I only communicate in English. Because my voice sounds sexy and soft only in English, lol.

Timing: Back to subscriptions. In my experience, sex has an expiration date or it gets better the longer it waits. For example, if you contact someone and arrange to meet in a week, it won’t happen. But if you arrange to meet someone and it somehow fails, don’t contact them next week. Wait at least 3 months. So I try to move as fast as possible with my appointments. Hi how are you? 20:00. Screening. Pay. Fuck. Thank you, Sir. I’ve seen so many posts about sugars keeping him wait for as long as possible. It may work for some type of men but in here if the guy would wanted to hear the answer no, he would have gone to his wife. These men are out there looking to get laid.

Pricing and Market Segmentation: My clients are either nouveau riche or rich people who aren’t really generous. They bring their hard earned money to me. Some can’t afford to be regulars. They just want to have fun every once in a while. They don’t take me out on fancy dates. They don’t do anything fancy. My selections are based on them being kind, no negotiation and willingness to share info for screening. I haven’t met anyone gross so far. They treated me really nice. And they love my body. I seriously haven’t met anyone who wants to have sugar relationship so far. Unless they are using it to scam young girls like my chocolate POT. They want no bs sex and that’s what you need to use to your advantage. You can still use hoe tactics and get yourself taken out if you want to tolerate to be begged for sex and some sexual tension from his end everyday but I just realized I didn’t have time for that and I would very much like to have my money.

Behavior: Two things are important here; 1. High threshold for bullshit. 2. Sweetness. You have to be VERY good at detecting bullshit and stopping it before it happens in a very kind and sweet manner. Because they’ll give you bullshit 24/7. That’s in the job description. You need to turn it around and refuse it without making them feel rejected and embarrassed. Whenever they ask me nudes I explain them that I’m a student at a top tier school and I’m only escorting to pay that so I can have a career some day and I don’t want these pics to haunt me. The other day, after I turned down that guy who asked my nudes while I was sick saying I will contact him later and that it’s my turn at doctor’s office and never hit him up. I have tried no bullshit approach but really, the real no bs approach that works is doing it without letting him know. Often times when you refuse something, you’re the bad cop. Always be the good cop and deflect the blame on something else. 

“I would love to entertain you but my career doesn’t allow me to spread my nudes.“ 

“Aww, sweetie.. That’s such a generous offer but I am on a mission to be able to cover my college debt so I’m afraid I will have to look for more generous offers.”

“I would love to spend the whole night with you but my room mates doesn’t know that I’m in this line of work so I wouldn’t want them questioning anything.” (if you can’t stay even for extra money)

Other two things you need to be is quick and direct. Men have short attention span. If you keep talking to them for hours with no plans they’ll get bored. Also in my experience whenever I sent one of my long proses about what I’m looking for etc, they felt like I was trying to scam them. Even most men on SA don’t understand sugaring and it feels like a scam for them. I keep things short and sweet and move quickly. I’ll demonstrate at the end of my writing.

Your time’s worth: I’ve seen ladies thinking that their time is the most precious thing on earth and money should rain down on them just for existing. I make myself approachable for these men if they want to get to know me. I know escorts hate when their clients hit them up 2557976321580 times a day but I try my best to keep the communication for as long as it’s not too invasive. This is where escorting and sugaring approach blends. They want you approachable and they want the kitty asap. You should work that ego because it’s 90% stroking the ego and 10% stroking the cock. This is where the whole scam is. Fill the void get the money. Another scam trick I use is that, I don’t charge by the hour. My flat rate is 1k and that’s the worth of a date with me. They get to choose what they want to do. Of course there’s a mental limit in my mind and always an excuse available if they are taking too long. But I never needed to use it. My first booking got tired after 2 hours. Second booking cuddled the whole time and was done by the end of an hour. Third, also lasted 1,5h with 30mins of horrendous sex and 1h chilling on couch. 4th, 15 minutes for whole appointment. They always want to push for an overnight but I love my solitude so much for that. I kindly tell them that my room mates would get worried and they don’t know that I escort. Always does the trick. I know this part is an unpopular opinion and it’s open for exploitation but you need to make sure you hold the reigns and keep things sweet and short.

Here’s a demonstration of how my tinder conversations go.

-Hi hello you’re so hot

-Aww thanks babe, so are you. [insert some small talk

-How can I meet you? Omg your curves!!!

-I’d love that!! We could have some fun/nice evening/great time. so, are you interested in spoiling me then?

-How would you like to be spoiled?/YES!! I AM!!

-I’m used to get 1k for my time for a nice evening with a gentleman. 

-That’s fine, are you available tonight?

Easy peasy, my queens

PS: The ones that says “fair enough”, “that’s alright” etc will go straight to set up a time for booking. They rarely flake. It is safe to ask them for gifts.If they keep asking you questions or haggle, beware. If questions come after agreeing to your rate then it means they are curious about you which isn’t bad. Stroke that ego. I try to spare 5 minutes every day until we meet and it becomes less and less frequent after the booking but it’s never completely over unless they cut the communication. 

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Thot Thoughts: Differences Between a Spoiled GF and a Traditional GF

Warning: Unpopular Opinions Ahead

Moving in with Thorin inspired me to write a little bit about the differences between the role of a spoiled girlfriend and a traditional girlfriend. These are just differences that I’ve experienced having gone both these routes, and the bits that have helped my relationship with Thorin be successful up to this point. 

The biggest difference between being a spoiled gf and a traditional gf is that you are constantly improving yourself and adding value to the relationship. A lot of girls settle down when they get into relationships - I mean kind of slack off on the gym, put on a little weight, stop putting so much effort into their appearance, let some of the more unsavory aspects of their personality come to light, etc. This often works in a traditional relationship because you’re both learning about each other etc. In some ways you’re showing each other the “real” you.

Sugar relationships are different. Men with money have high expectations. They can afford to live in ways that other men cannot. That means that they expect a certain lifestyle and the woman on their arm needs to fit that lifestyle. They need to know that they are investing in your financially because you add value to their lives in a way no one else can - girlfriend, sugar baby, and escort all rolled into one. The sugar baby you becomes the real you. That means you gotta bring your A game all day everyday.

Now I lucked out. Thorin and I genuinely fell in love with each other. We have many of the same nerdy interests, and we both enjoy nice things, good restaurants, good wine, and great, kinky sex. That does not mean that I can “let my guard down.” In fact, the opposite is true. I make sure that when we go out, he is proud to have me as his arm candy. I put more effort into my appearance going out with Thorin than I did on dates with POTs. 

The next part of adding value can be challenging - it’s about making an honest effort to keep stress out of your partner’s life, and to drop the annoying girlfriend bullshit that is so prevalent out there. I’m totally guilty of it! You’re catty because he was late to meet you, you’re in a pissy mood because of some shit that went down at work, you turn savage over something that’s in reality probably only a 2/10 on the scale. 

Traditional relationships withstand that kind of little BS - it happens all the time. Sugar relationships do not. Men with money tend to be impatient. In their careers, they put up with a lot of crazy shit in order to be successful. You think they want to come home and hear you bitching about some dumb shit? No! Whatever the expectations are of your relationship, you need to come correct. 

At the end of the day, talk to your friends when you need to vent and rant. When you’re in a pissy mood, go have a drink or head to the gym and just work it out. Because in a sugar relationship, those little blow-ups need to be few and far between. You need to be the oasis, the escape, and the reason he’s committed to you is because you can provide that more often than a sugar baby can.

Not everyone is cut out for this. You need to be emotionally stable. You need to be able to commit to constant self-improvement. You need to make sure your man’s needs are met.

SD/SB relationships have definite emotional and space limits. Traditional relationships have definite financial limits. If you can hit the sweet spot, it can be pretty amazing, but it takes work! 

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Sugar baby style guide pt. 6

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