How to Turn Vanilla to Sugar - Part 1
I was just giving some advice to a follower of mine when I realised it was a fabulous advice post, so I’m sharing it all with you. - You’re welcome
Not every rich man is generous!
That’s the sad truth! a man may have money but he may be stingy with it. When you see this happening, admit your losses, move on, and don’t hold a grudge. It will only hinder your efforts.
There are little tests you can do to ascertain a man’s generosity.
I will touch on this in the posts in a few weeks. But here’s an example just for you sugar.
G.L.Lambert touches on this in his book ‘Ho Tactics’. He talks about when you are on a date to go an meet a man, create a fake lil emergency that he should help you with. For example, tell him that you left your earphones/headphones in the taxi/ bus/ train and ask hi if he could pick you up a pair on his way to meet you.
Different types of men respond to this differently.
Salt: they tell you that they don’t have any cash on hem, or whatever excuse. Or perhaps they buy you earphones from the pound store. Maybe he even goes as far as telling you that instead he will try and help you call the transport you used, to see if you can retrieve them. If this, or something similar happens, run for the god-damn, hills and never come back, he is salt.
Splenda: This man maybe gives you his moderately expensive headphones he has at home and tells you to keep them. Possibly, he buys you some regular headphones on his way and presents them to you, Either way, he finds a way to give you headphones that aren’t cheap, but aren’t necessarily expensive either.
Sugar: Our favourite type of man buys you beats, or 50 cent headphones, or whatever expensive headphones are trending when you read this. He could also tell you that he’ll take you to go get a new pair when you finish your date
One thing I will caution you on, is not to leave the date without deciphering what kind of man he is. So don’t accept any promises for buyng you some headphones online when ou get home. There is no time like now! Yes he could buy them in a couple of days, or maybe not, but the point isn’t for new headphones, the whole point of this is to determine his sugar … or salt level. You do not want to have wasted 2 weeks talking to this guy only for the headphones to arrive and they are from Topshop.
Converting a vanilla into sugar is not a quick process
Unlike website like Seeking Arrangement, men don’t come with the notion ‘I’m going to be a Sugar Daddy’ already in mind. You have to treat this like a normal relationship. A lot of these men will run if they heard you say ‘sugar daddy’, often because they have negative connotations of sugar relationship, or they think you are a gold digger, or they don’t want to feel like an ‘old man’. SO it requires more thinking, your goal is to finesse things slowly from this man/woman, then ultimately work your way to your go whether it’s a 5K allowance or trophy wife status.
There are two ways to approach this. I’ve based these on acctual scientific research (because nerd obvs) and personal experience turning vanilla to sweet sweet sugar.
I’m sure you’ve heard it before. Here’s the concept, in order to make someone more likely to do what you want, make a big request. Usually something extravagant or very large. In order words, it’s essential that it is way more outlandish than your actual goal. Why? Because there’s a 99% chance that you will be rejected! ‘Why do I want to be rejected Bronzy I here you say? Well it’s because your next request (your goal) will seem a lot more reasonable. Therefore, now they’ve stopped panicking and think ‘’that’s not as bad, I can actually do that’. And this is a superb tactic to use on splenda. Because you could have asked him your goal straight up, and chances are, if he’s splenda, he wouldn’t be able to ‘afford it’ or he’s only be able to provide something half as expensive. So with this you have raised the bar, so when he brings that bar down, it’s exactly where you wanted it to be in the first place.
This is something I used on a POT I was rinsing recently. Through conversation I could tell he was quite tight fisted, but I don’t let that out me off. I asked him to buy me a wallet, he accepted and told me to send him the link. So I sent him two options, One super expensive wallet ( that personally i would not even buy if I had the money) and the wallet I actually wanted. I told him to ‘pick the one he thinks would look best on me’ and just like I had anticipated, he picked the cheapest option, (the bag I wanted). This is just one example of how Surge, Retreat, Approach can work (please read the disclaimer at the bottom).
This is the most effective, but also time consuming method. If you are rinsing (i.e, getting them coins w/out any intention of intimacy or physical contact), then I would be wary using this approach. This is the notion of asking for small things at a time, then gradually working your way up to your goal. When you ask someone to do you a small favour, they then become 40%** more likely to agree to your larger (goal request) than if you were to ask them outright.
Let’s get nerdy for a bit. The study i saw, had the goal of getting home-owners to put up a large sign in their front garden.. In the first experiment, the straight out asked the home-owners if they would put the sign in their front garden. Less than 50% of subjects agreed. In the second experiment, they asked the home-owners, if they could put a small sticker in front of their house. Of those that accepted, they then came back a week or so later, and asked if they could put the sign in there front garden. As you’ve guessed, way more subjects allowed their front garden to display the large sign.
In summary, get someone to commit to something small, and they are way more likely to agree to your larger and ultimate goal.
So for example, you’ve put on your wishlist to have a Givenchy bag by Christmas. So come October or November, as your vanilla or splenda to buy you a wallet or shoes (anything that costs at most, half the price of your goal), then come Christmas, it’s time to ask for what you actually want. The same applies to ultimately getting an allowance from a man. It takes dedication, but it’s how I changed Director from Vanilla, to gift daddy, to splenda, to ultimately, sugar daddy. Next stop, whale! Stick around to see if I make it
*Surge, Retreat, Approach, although quicker, is more high risk than Seeking Steadily because there is a possibility, that certain men will be frighten by your expensive/ outlandish request and just leave, without you having the chance to negotiate.
** I don’t remember the exact figure, that’s just an estimation.
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