I'm just here for some fun

James • 19 • he/him • 16+ • pro-ship, pro proper tagging and respect, and anti hostility

[grumfy]

Why did you delete my ask?? All I’m saying is that the lonely BookTok housewife porn addicts are weird and should read some fic 😂

[youngerfrankenstein]

To put it very bluntly.

You will always make a better impact helping people who need it than trying to hurt people you think deserve it.

[ot3]

before you ship something stop and ask yourself... Is this otp material? Make sure your characters are:

Obstinate and inflexible in their actions

Terrible for each other in most circumstances

Poor communicators

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

If he won't do it, I will.

No matter what art someone posts online, you cannot trust that they are a good person with your best interests in mind.

This is good advice for everyone, but especially good advice for minors. Stay out of explicitly adult spaces. Be wary on platforms that aren't outright stated to be for children. The internet as a whole can never be fully sanitised according to your tastes, no matter how various governments may try. You should not feel safe trusting private information with strangers or online acquaintances. There is no hidden "tell" for who is or is not an abuser. Abusive behaviour is the warning sign for abuse, not hobbies, appearance, outward personality (charming or awkward), gender or sexual identity. Avoid content that upsets you as much as you can, but it cannot be completely eradicated. As long as you are proactive, however, you can seriously reduce the amount of upsetting content you see. Do that. Do not purposefully seek out content that is harmful to you psychologically. Do not seek out dangerous situations. Please try to stay safe. If you DO believe someone is a predator, avoid them at all costs. Do not interact with them. Block them on all platforms. If you or someone you know is being directly sent sexual messages or material by an adult, report it to the authorities.

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

If you are unsure someone is a danger to you or others, please refer to this previous post of mine for abusive behaviours you may not immediately recognise as abusive.

A Saltshaker is a Big Mood

Bringing back this old post as the definition of grooming and abuse get watered down more and more. Adding some other red flags: DARVO - De

[scifi-guy]

"x ship is normalizing incest-"

Buddy

If game of thrones hasn't normalized incest by now (pulling over 10 million views in the 7th season alone) then a small fandom ship most certainly won't

[scifi-guy]

[baple-macon-bunny]

NOT a problem: Primarily liking yaoi, BL, or m x m content.

IS a problem: Treating living, breathing mlm like they're a spectacle, invading their space, or going "SQUEEEE OMG IRL YAOI!!"

NOT a problem: Primarily liking yuri, GL, or w x w content.

IS a problem: Treating living, breathing wlw like they exist for your entertainment, or asking invasive, inappropriate questions out of the blue.

*NOT a problem: Finding NS/FW queer content attractive or arousing, even if you aren't necessarily queer yourself.

*IS a problem: Being an Actual Homophobe and claiming that being queer is gross and wrong and perverted, all while still using NS/FW queer content for your sexual gratification.

(* using "queer" as a blanket term here!)

[scifi-guy]

Guys what if I went a little insane

[scifi-guy]

Omg just got my first kys anon, where's my achievement

[scifi-guy]

Head in hands I'm too old for this shit man

[leebrontide]

Every single time I see a take that amounts to "if you write about X happening, or like fiction where X happens, you like X" I'm reminded of this one time I was at a casual friends house as a young kid. We were in her room, pretending to "be orphans" escaping from an evil orphanage and having to take care of each other and fend for ourselves. It was all very Little Orphan Annie/All Dogs Go to Heaven and based on the 80s pop media.

And this girl's mom comes in, hears what we're playing and gets all MAD and UPSET. She says that if we play act something, it's because we want it to happen. So her daughter must WANT HER TO DIE.

First off lady, we were 6 year year olds, so take it down several notches. We barely had a concept of mortality for fucks sake. She made us feel so guilty and ashamed, because she was taking our game personally.

Now I have a 5 year old. And sometimes she looks at me and says "pretend you're dead, and I have to -" Whatever it is. Some adult task she's assigned herself.

And it's just so transparently obvious that she's practicing the idea of having to do things on her own. Which is exactly what 5 year olds are supposed to do. I actually find it very flattering that the only way she can envision me not being available to help her is to be literally deceased. Otherwise, obviously, she wouldn't have to do scary hard things alone.

It's a natural coping mechanism. She's self-soothing about what would happen if I wasn't there by play-acting independence in a perfectly safe environment. She's also practicing skills she needs, and making up excuses for practicing them on her own, without taking on the responsibility of being able to do them by herself all the time yet.

Humans mentally rehearse bad this in their brains all the time. We can do that by ruminating- going over worries over and over again, which tends to lead to anxiety and helplessness and depression. Or we can do it with a sense of play- by recognizing that the fiction is fiction and we can dip our toe into these experiences and expose ourselves to bad things without actually being injured.

My daughter does not want me dead. And I don't want bad things to happen in real life. But fiction and pretend help me face the horrors of the world and think about them without collapsing or messing myself up mentally.

[muchymozzarella]

In terms of fiction, certain people keep trying to do a gotcha with "BUT WHAT IF IT'S REALLY BAD FICTION LIKE PEDOPHILIA AND INCEST" and I hate to tell you this but like.

Those are real things, that real people go through, and that real people need to recover from, with real experts who let you know what to do.

The fictional, play pretend version of these don't concern me. I don't know what's storytelling, what's recovery, or what's trying to explore something potentially triggering in a safe environment.

Your personal disgust over a thing that doesn't exist does exactly nothing to prevent the real thing. Your sense of righteousness is equally play pretend. You can pretend to be a good person by morally opposing pretend evil, but do nothing to fix the reality of that evil.

The reality is much more difficult to contend with, but there are many real people who do the very real emotional and logistical labour, and you being mad at a story is just pretend.

If you were doing the real labour, you'd know better than to obsess over fake victims and fake people and fake harms.

[scifi-guy]

"x ship is normalizing incest-"

Buddy

If game of thrones hasn't normalized incest by now (pulling over 10 million views in the 7th season alone) then a small fandom ship most certainly won't

[lentilswitheverything]

Spn ran for fifteen fucking seasons, it ran for over a decade, and wincest was consistently one of the two or three most popular ships. And it had no measurable impact on real world abuse. Maybe you think fandom is uniquely dangerous (why, idk, but this tumblr after all) but a pretty good rule of fandom is that if Spn couldn't do it, fucking no one else is going to manage it.

[silentstep]

(link to tweet)

[scifi-guy]

[Image ID: a screenshot of a tweet by @binghelovebot that reads “If four thousand years of Zeus being married to Hera didn't make sibling marriage a thing in Greece I don't think we need to worry about someone's samdean art"]

[wordfather]

writing tip:

if you push buttons on a keyboard, letters will appear on the screen. and with that power you can do anything

[proship-survivors]

You are allowed to create problematic fiction if you are not a survivor. There are no rules for who can create what fiction.

[palominodragon]

Here’s the thing, it even involves some of the same psychology, in my experience.

Creating and consuming fiction with dark themes or unhealthy relationships is a way of coming to terms with the fact that these things happen in real life, whether or not they’ve happened directly to you.

[thoughts-ofawriter]

I have this disease called starts too many WIPs syndrome

[whumpy-galaxy]

Friendly reminder to all the writers on here:

You don’t owe anyone good writing.

You don’t owe anyone a complete storyline written in order.

You can jump around. You can abandon projects. You can write really shitty stories! Writing is about telling stories and creating worlds. Not about what makes your followers happy.

I have to remind myself of this a lot, because in most of my stories I’ve gotten stuck and don’t know where to go. But you can jump around. You can skip parts. It doesn’t matter.

Write what makes you happy.

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

One more: expressive writing is still effective when taking a more distanced view and projecting the events onto a third person perspective. Writing about personal trauma happening to a fictional third party is also helpful.

Optimizing the perceived benefits and health outcomes of writing about traumatic life events - PubMed

Expressive writing, which involves disclosing one's deepest thoughts and feelings about a stressful life event by using a first-person persp

[the-gaping-wound-of-christ]

💖 a moodboard for a very special day… 💖

[cl0wnt1tz]

stop fetishising gay men

[the-gaping-wound-of-christ]

im truly sorry for fetishizing sid and diego ill never do it again

[the-gaping-wound-of-christ]

#can you do it again.

anything for the gay fetish community