Dopamine Stash

~ INFP ~ Sagittarius ~ Demi-Pan ~ Autistic ~ Witch ~ Level: 23

[to-proudly-go]

They haven't talked about this particular idiom yet

[uncertainlys]

i hope everything works out in the end because i am so so scared

[livsmessydoodles]

the girls are fighting!!!!!!!!!!!!

[willgrahamscock]

[depsidase]

[rxttingcorpse]

[colorful-horses]

its not a phase

[seduseamedusa]

When you eat a chocolate bunny where do you start? 🍫 🐇

The ears! 🐰

The feet/bottom 🐾

I slice it into pieces 🍴

I smash it into pieces 💥

Voting ended onApr 8

[catchymemes]

[depsidase]

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

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[Image ID: Tumblr tag reading: #file under reasons I don't reblog activism posts with guilt trips attached /End ID]

[theartoftangled]

Model by Lydia Borutta for Disney Speedstorm

[depsidase]

[slipperyskell]

I think my favorite thing about playing Deltarune is that despite the antagonistic nature between the player/soul and Kris as the vessel, there are still some moments in the story where it looks a little something like this:

[sandersstudies]

“They’re just looking for attention.”

Oh, a human being is seeking a social response? Human being, the social animal wired to make and track social connection? A human desires the vital blood that permitted their species to survive for millennia? The human being who was born completely helpless and primed in every way by nature to seek attention and help from their community?

Wow that’s crazy. How embarrassing. Humiliating even. Should we isolate them from community? Should we call Wire Mother?

[rylandsgrace]

Good Luck Charlie (2010 - 2014) I 2.15

[sesh]

[drtanner]

This is genuinely one of my favourite videos on the fucking planet.