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Can almost hear the fun that I should be having

[kenstewdivorce]

Like as an alcoholic I HATE the fatphobia related to any form of treatment. The idea that I should stop drinking cause it'll make me lose weight, the way doctors will point out my "beer belly" before they talk about my liver or my kidneys or the social aspect of my drinking problem, the way people only care about my drinking problem cause it makes me fat. You don't care about me as someone who's struggling with addiction.

[kenstewdivorce]

I encourage non alcoholics to like and or reblog this because it's a unique experience of fatphobia you don't understand if you've never tried to get help for a drinking problem.

[yearning-dyke]

people who experience psychosis and anger issues and paranoia and delusions and intrusive thoughts and addiction and dissociation and other “ugly” non-romanticized mental health issues i love you and i believe you and you are not a bad person

[accessories-not-included]

[hellbrainspeaks]

You do not owe your partner(s) sex. I mostly see this passed around in the asexual community, and it absolutely needs emphasis there, but this applies to anyone of any orientation. You never owe your partner(s) sex under any circumstance.

If your sex drive or libido is lower than your partner’s, you may feel obligated to “keep up” with them to make them happy. But you have a right to say no, or not be in the mood, or be too tired, or just not want to right now. Your partner(s) should respect your right to say no and your bodily autonomy.

If your partner(s) try to harass, manipulate, or coerce you into having sex when you say no, they’re an asshole. Having said yes in the past does not mean you can never say no. It is not your responsibility or obligation to provide sex. You do not need to violate your own boundaries to make someone else happy. Your partner(s) should respect your right to say no, and if they don’t, they don’t deserve you.

Your body belongs to you, and you decide what’s best for your sexual health. Happy Pride

[akindplace]

Your exhaustion is not shameful. It is not a moral failure to be physically, mentally or emotionally tired. It is okay to be overwhelmed. You're not inferior to anyone just because it's hard for you to keep up with a fast-paced life.

[ryanjudgesthings]

There's a mistake I see a lot of people in the mental health community make and in all honesty, it's one I've made myself. But I think we should really work on it. And that's saying "if this were a physical illness, wouldn't you care?"

I've learned that no actually, people wouldn't care. Katelyn Weinstein (theADHDprincess on Twitter) is a neurodiversity acceptance activist who really put this in perspective for me. She said that it's actually more an issue of longevity than physical vs mental health.

If you're having a bad day people will generally be understanding. But when you're experiencing chronic depression and you have many bad days people lose sympathy.

In the same respect people may be understanding when you've broken a bone that will heal properly or when you have a cold that will go away soon in ways they simply won't understand when you have chronic pain or need to use a wheelchair. They may send chicken soup for a temporary situation, but when you need consistent accomodations it's an entirely different story.

I understand that from our perspective it looks like people care more about physical health than mental health, but it's good to remember that our own perspective is also limiting. Facing ableism doesn't mean you can't be ableist. And I know so many people are not ill-intentioned when they say this. I know I wasn't. But we can't discount the lived experiences of physically disabled people. If we want true equality we need to be united and we need to listen to those with physical disabilities and illnesses. And those with physical disabilities and illnesses (some of which are also invisible) have said that they are not given proper accomodations either.

So let's be united and fight for equality and accomodations for everyone, no matter what their illness or disability may be.

[yearning-dyke]

people who experience psychosis and anger issues and paranoia and delusions and intrusive thoughts and addiction and dissociation and other “ugly” non-romanticized mental health issues i love you and i believe you and you are not a bad person

[symphonicseauxl]

Not interested in a love I have to earn or perform for. I want to be loved as a choice, on purpose, not as a reward

[dissociativedoe]

sending love out tonight to everyone who is progressively losing their abilities, whether that's movement, ability to walk, eyesight, or hearing.

it's hard to come to terms with the fact that you can't do things that you used to be able to do. I'll be honest, it feels like you're losing control of your life. it can feel very isolating and hopeless. its scary and overwhelming, and it's so hard to deal with.

you are not less than just because you can do less. im proud of you for still being here, and i wish you ease with adjusting to new ways of life. please take care of yourself, i love you.

[phluphfy]

gentle addition for the folks who are losing their mental capacity in any way, shape, or form. If you can’t think as clearly as you used to, if you don’t have the executive functioning you once had, if your memory is getting worse, if your sensory processing issues are increasing, if your episodes are becoming more frequent. Your life has inherent value and I hope I can help remind you of that.

[aprilthebookqueen]

A lot of us with chronic pain often hear invalidating things like “but you look fine” or “if you’re in so much pain, why are you doing things?”

And the thing is… at some point, we’ve realized this is our reality. There was likely a lot of grieving, anger and other feelings (those feelings likely still come back time to time) and we’ve got to a point where we’ve realized that our “good days” will be a lot of people’s bad days. That pain is our normal. And we need to keep going on living our lives.

Also important to note that people get tired of you being in pain. It sucks but it happens and because of that, a lot of us have gotten used to “hiding” our pain.

My point is that just because you can’t “see” our pain doesn’t mean it isn’t real and those little comments you may think are harmless can be invalidating and dismissive.

[traumatrash]

reminder that NPD and ASPD aren't "bad person disorder" and you shouldn't be dicks to random people because you think you're somehow superior for not being traumatized as a kid in a way that developed that way

[seliphra]

Goes for BPD too, which is often turned into ‘Bad person disorder’ and ‘abusive person disorder’ when it’s actually ‘abused and traumatized as a kid’ disorder 

[bakwaaas]

I don’t think it’s possible to truly fake mental illness because doing that is literally a sign of mental illness….. like maybe not the one they say but something’s clearly wrong

[traumasurvivors]

Maybe it’s time to forgive yourself for the things you did when you were trying to survive. Maybe it’s time to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made when you were trying to heal. You don’t deserve to keep punishing yourself. 

[shithowdy]

just saw a post complaining about how hard it is to find adhd resources for adults and one of the comments said “tiktok has a lot of adhd tips” as if telling someone with adhd to enter the algorithmic quicksand of perpetual dopamine hits isn’t the most insane thing you could suggest for someone with adhd

[fairycosmos]

i can’t believe me “trying my best” is just me showering regularly and eating normally. mental illness is so humbling 

[knifefightscene]

“Can abusers be rehabilitated?” U don’t even try to rehabilitate victims of abuse

[knifefightscene]

Personally i think abusers should just be dead but its just me

[knifefightscene]

I say this because abusers are already not even punished to begin with. And its not just rich powerful white men. People love abusers. Then they always use something bad victims did to discredit and silence them. Like abusers are already loved n accepted by community at large. Meanwhile victims experience trauma and develop mental and physical problems and become harder to be around. U literally do not care about victims of abuse. Zero help.

[not-straight-cubed]

friendly reminder that you don't need any diagnosis or disorder to adapt your routine to accommodate you! sit down in the shower. brush your teeth and wash your face in the shower. bring a chair to the kitchen while you cook. use unscented products. your routine should be built for you.

[shianu]

Can i add? You also don't need any diagnosis or disorder to use things that will improve your life. Use a cane, install a shower chair, use a kid app for brushing your teeth if it helps to maintain your attention. You don't need permission to make your own life better.