VENUS AND WHY PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU
—based on people i’ve known and loved
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one of the most important people in my life has venus in the 1st house and people just… have very intense reactions to them. like, they can’t just tolerate them, they either love them to death or absolutely hate them and make that hatred known. the thing about this venus is that it makes someone very desirable – they’re people persons, they love being around others and feel a strong need to communicate their ideas, beliefs, passions, and listen to other people talk as well because they’re a sucker for studying people. as in, they know there’s a lot to learn from others and they have really strong observational skills, their intelligence is criminally underrated. those who like them, fucking love them and want to constantly be around them (which can be a bit suffocating for the venus person) and even those who hate them can’t seem to be able to keep their names out of their mouths, lmfao. they do feed a lot off of validation from others (mostly due to deep-seated insecurities + fear of rejection) so they try hard to show off their talents, their personality, their skills. they can’t really exist in silence because they draw so much attention to themselves (and people often drag them into unnecessary drama), and because they feel such a strong need to help those around them. they’re also amazing storytellers, they really know how to charm people with their words.
a friend of mine has her venus in the 2nd house and she really gives off sugar baby vibes, lmfao. older men are crazy about her and whoever meets her wants to spoil her. she gives off very innocent and sweet vibes and that adds to her appeal, although many people have tried taking advantage of that. as in, they use her compassion and empathy and ability to provide security for others, to be like a rock that’s there whenever you need her, so she’s often taken for granted. she’s very compassionate and shows that to literally everyone, which often leads to her feeling emotionally drained and needing to isolate herself to recharge + attracting emotional vampires that feed off of her difficulty in setting boundaries. she’s also often objectified - she’s very beautiful but has a very low self-esteem that incapacitates her from seeing it; she gets a lot of attention everywhere she goes, people turn their heads to look at her twice, strangers make conversation a lot of with her, and she also tends to get free stuff all the time. might i add – she used to be a literal model but stopped because it was a very toxic environment. she’s very charismatic and talented at dealing with people, she was elected the class representative and took it on herself to solve the problems of everyone in our class, wanting everyone to feel accepted, seen, and heard.
i’ve been with someone who has his venus in the 3rd house, and people fell in love with his words. he wasn’t oblivious to it, he actually bragged a lot about how good he was with words and how he was able to sweet-talk someone into doing what he wanted. he was very communicative and valued solving all our problems through talking instead of ignoring it. people also fell in love with his intelligence, he was really thoughtful about any subject and loved having debates about it and people would get impressed with his analytical and rational mind, with his ease at making arguments and counter-arguments; with the way he had a really unique view on the world and his energy when talking. he was witty and just loved having fun in general, very open to making friends especially with powerful people. he valued a lot having new experiences and going to parties. he was also really loyal and constantly bragged about his friends, he talked about them like they were his family. compliments were literally his love language lmfao it doesn’t get more stereotypical than this, if he liked you he’d shower you with attention and praise all you do and he felt really confident when you’d compliment him back. he was like that one phrase “to know is to love” come to life because he placed a lot of importance on knowing all the details about you, having deep conversations, getting to know all your opinions and perspectives on every possible subject.
one of my closest friends has his venus in the 4th house and, surprisingly, people fall in love with him after they fuck lmfao. i don’t know what it is about him but as soon as someone has sex with him, they become addicted and hold on to him with claws and teeth until he breaks their heart because, sadly, he’s awfully afraid of commitment. and i’ve been noticing this a lot with people with venus in the 4th house – you’d think venus in the house of family makes someone long to find their soulmate (and they do, deep down), but it’s like truthfully, they’re scared of actually finding it; so they leave after getting too serious in a relationship, perhaps due to a fear of intimacy even though they really crave stability. although, he’s very honest and values honor a lot, so he’s upfront about his intentions with someone… if he wants to fuck you only, you’ll know; if he wants to pursue a relationship with you, you’ll know. i think that’s why so many people are into him, he’s very assertive and goes for what he wants with no shame. he also is someone very reliable, especially with friends, whatever happens, you can count on him. he’s really a ride or die and is a very protective person so people feel safe around him; he’s also very family-oriented in the sense that he takes any of his connections very seriously, especially the one with his mother. he’s, like, the alpha in the wolf pack lmfao.
two people in my friend group have venus in the 5th house, and might as well just call them genius masterminds. i swear, they have plans straight out of a movie. they can not and will not get bored because there’s always so much going on in their life. cue to harry potter saying “i don’t go looking for trouble, trouble usually finds me”. they lead very intense lives especially when it’s concerning their family and their relationships, but they still manage to make fun of the difficult stuff they go through. people fall in love with their laugh and their brilliant minds. like, these people are criminally intelligent and very much slytherins in the sense of being resourceful, cunning, with an ability to take a shitty situation to their advantage and to take advantage of every opportunity life presents them. they really give off main character vibes especially since they can’t fucking sit still for a moment, they always gotta be onto something. they’re very active and energetic and that type of energy is very addictive, they always know how to make someone have a good time around them. the problem is that some people might get too addicted to their energy and guilt-trip them into hanging out with them every day even when they don’t want to, draining their energies and making them feel like an animal caged up in a zoo there for other’s entertainment only.
i’ve known someone who had their venus in the 6th house, and… venus in the 6th people are so fucking particular, they avoid telling you how they feel at all costs but show you in the tiniest, most indirect ways possible (like telling you good night every night, always taking time out of their busy schedules to talk with you, rearrange your hair when there’s a strand out of place) and swear they’re being obvious. it’s so funny, they make me feel like a detective trying to decipher their behavior. they can also be very territorial about whoever they like – at worst, they can be very controlling and overly possessive, at best, they’re just hot as fuck like i’m sorry please do attempt to claim me. i’ve noticed that people fall in love with their power. they exude a vibe that makes people afraid to fuck with them because they know it’ll have consequences. they’re just so commanding and act like they won’t tolerate any bullshit or no one trying to waste their time, they’re all for business. they also tend to look expensive as hell, they could be wearing something cheap out of bershka and still make it look regal and like you’d never afford it. they have really high standards so people try very hard to impress them (and fail most of the time lmfao) and get just one minute of their time. the person i knew literally had fangirls following them around in school and begging for their attention. their response? “oh, they are? i didn’t notice and quite frankly, i don’t care.”
one of the most important milfs that went through my life had her venus in the 7th house, and people fell in love purely with her personality. no, i don’t think you understand how charming and funny she was. she was an amazing storyteller and had an infinite amount of stories about her life to tell, and it was impossible to ever get bored around her because she had so much to say. she was also very expressive in her way of speaking, and you could feel her emotions through her words. she had an awfully mischievous grin that made her look like she was always up to something and it was so funny. people would gather around her to her and pay close attention to what she would say next since she was so unpredictable. she could also be very diplomatic and persuade people to her side, whether in arguments or business matters. she placed a lot of importance on education and knowledge. another thing about her was that she was so secretive - and that’s something very few people caught on about her since she was so good at talking and told so many stories, but i did find her personality difficult to pinpoint because she would only open up about superficial matters. as in, she would tell a story of her as a teenager going to parties and shit, but whenever i’d ask her a more private matter like how she met her husband, she’d laugh and say “that one’s for me to know only.” it was very hard to get to know the real her under all the glamour and popularity. she also gave me the sense of someone sinking on their own sadness but she hid that at all costs in the name of being the sun that lights up the room. i don’t know, something in her eyes.
my best friend has venus in the 8th house – she’s very, very selective about who she talks to and gives attention to very few people. she fears opening up and sex is a tricky subject for her because although she loves talking about sex, it’s very hard for her to trust someone enough to even consider letting them close to her. she fears betrayal, rejection. she likes keeping her circle close, which i think is a way for her to avoid having to go through the process of letting someone in. she’s also extremely loyal and very aware that few people deserve that loyalty – once she likes someone, she only sees that person and no one else. she really longs for a meaningful and intimate relationship. i feel like people fall in love with her after getting close to her, she’s a very thoughtful person with a strong personality and, once someone gets to experience her intensity, they’re addicted. no one ever says this about 8th placements but they’re fucking crackheads, they’re very lighthearted most of the time and just want to have fun and a good time, they can have the humor of a 5-year-old and people find that side of her very endearing; they fall in love with her humor and the way she’s so good-hearted even if she tries hiding that fact. she can’t help that she’s so genuine. might i add that she really has that scorpionic look, with thick dark hair and big, deep-set eyes and you can really read her every emotion on them.
one of my friends has venus in the 9th house and she’s the funniest person ever. seriously, she’s the life of the party, always looking to crack a joke and the room doesn’t feel as lively without her. people fall in love with her unpredictability, her light-hearted nature and how she’s always looking for something to stimulate her mind, by learning and finding new places, new people to deepen her knowledge. one thing about her is that people tend to underestimate her a lot. just because she loves having fun and takes nothing seriously, they think it’s okay to try and mess with her, and then they regret that shit deeply because even if she rarely shows her serious and ruthless side… oh, it’s there and she will not hesitate (especially if you fuck with her friends). she also tends to suffer a lot in love because she’s looking for a serious relationship and to bond with someone, but people tend to objectify her and use her for her body. but she’s too elegant to let that show, she really knows how to hide her suffering under a bright smile. she’s a very supportive person and things always end up working for her because she has such a good heart (the people who do her dirty get so fucked by life later), and people tend to envy how she seems to have it all. they don’t notice how hard-working and ambitious she actually is.
i have venus in the 10th house. people fall in love very easily with me, but it’s never actually with me because they don’t know me, they fall in love with my image. as in, people often approach me to tell me they fell in love at first sight with me just because they saw me on the bus or some shit, or they talk with me for 3 days and swear i’m the one when i haven’t revealed anything about me. men also tend to suffer from “i can fix her” when around me. it’s the effy stonem disease lmfao, they see me being pretty and fucked up and try to fix me, plus, i don’t do relationships so they always think they’re gonna be the one to “tame” me. i also give off very cold and unattainable vibes and the first thing people notice about me is how i’m hard to get so they often portray me as the forbidden fruit, someone they’re never gonna get but they still try. which makes me feel really objectified at times because it’s like…. you don’t know me, you don’t even try to know me, you just idealize me in your head and put me on a pedestal. which is why i think i have an aversion to love, most people don’t experience it; they experience infatuation and confuse it as being the same thing as love, and it’s too superficial for me. if you have your venus in the 10th house, chances are you’re very desirable and sought after but that has given you a very difficult relationship with the concept of love.
if there’s anything about people with venus in the 11th house… they’re passionate. so passionate about anything that they believe in, and they make that very clear. they put a lot of importance on fighting for what’s right and for justice, so they get very emotionally involved in others’ problems, even if it doesn’t in any way benefit their own lives. and when i say this i don’t mean just getting involved in social causes and organizing charity events, i mean that they intuitively feel what’s wrong with the people they love and they don’t rest until there’s a solution. they’re masters at providing emotional comfort and bringing people together because they don’t believe in the differences between human beings, we’re all idiots going through the same shit called life. and that’s what people love so much about them: their tenacity, their drive, their ambition, their big dreams. their compassion for everyone’s problems, the glint in their eyes when they’re speaking about subjects ranging from animal cruelty to how wrong capitalism is lmfao, their need to feel passionate about everything. most of them have struggled with the loss of someone they loved and are now very aware of the need to live life to the fullest. these people also have a way of making someone they barely know feel like their best friend.
i’ve known someone who had his venus in the 12th house, and he was probably the most emotionally complicated and troubled person i’ve ever known. he was very withdrawn and the quiet confident type (although he had a lot of insecurities deep, deep down) and everyone knew his name, he was constantly surrounded by friends but it’s like no one actually knew him. he stood out so much, not even in his appearance even though he was beautiful, it was his energy. he also wasn’t afraid of standing alone and he’d do it whenever he disagreed with something or to fight for his beliefs, so he was respected by everyone. anyways, to be one of the lucky few to get past his distant persona, you had to be just as thoughtful and interesting because he really didn’t waste his time with people who weren’t worth getting to know. people fell in love with his way of seeing the world, his empathy (that’s something you’d never expect from someone who had such a “harsh” exterior – he never acted without considering the consequences and he’d feel a lot of the world’s pain), his intensity, the way everything was so serious to him and there was no room for superficiality. he was a very unforgettable person, i don’t think i’ll ever be able to forget his eyes or how he seemed to fight a daily battle just to keep going.
