be the serpent under 't

nsfw || 28 || they/them || polyamorous service top || agender bi dyke

[sensusola]

about me!

call me Magpie/Mags 

-- they/them, it/its if you're really hot, masculine or feminine honorifics acceptable

-- service top/sub top with an occasional sprinkling of aggressive dom

-- bi with a preference for femmes

-- polyamorous + in a relationship 

-- unsolicited pics and dms are encouraged but if I don't reply, don't take it personally

-- main is @ladytitanium , I follow back from there

send me asks anytime, even flirty or explicit ones

[thisisallyours]

service tops are like dogs the way they just want to be good and please you but my favoriteee is when they end up whimpering and drooling like a dog too. does it feel that good baby? let’s hear you bark for me then

[sensusola]

I'm having a dry spell and it's not like anything is wrong exactly but my confidence is so shot

I need 50ccs of someone being thirsty about me straight to the heart right now

[pulpsandcomics2]

Leone Frollo

[srcee]

i love taking care of others, i really do, but sometimes i wish someone would take care of me

[banditbynite]

Monster Girl Mayhem: 5. Moth (wo)Man

[ifitbleedsbiteharder]

i just fucking love playing hard into other peoples kinks i love it so much like oh honey im sorry i didnt know you had such a praise kink before i started gushing about how much i like how good a job you did, oh im sorry i didnt realise how much playing with your inner thigh while we were in public in front of our friends would mess with you, my fuckin dream job is being some kind of demon of lust sent to tempt people into fucking me

[ifitbleedsbiteharder]

I should stress, the appeal here isnt in pleasing you per se, its in making you lust after me, it's to turn your mind to the desire to have sex with me, its to make you unable to think about anything else, its about using your deep secrets i shouldn't know and silly manipulable brain to make me the centre of your mind, thats why im a demon

[kiddo-kitten]

Being a good sub does mean constantly breaking the scene actually. It means breaking the scene adjusting until you're comfy. It's breaking the scene with a big smile and a "You're being so hot rn". It's breaking the scene with a questioning look as you decide yes maybe the bed would be better for this. It's breaking the scene and saying "hey this position isn't comfy but it's ok for now". It's breaking the scene saying "goddamn it my jaw is giving up".

You have to let reality in or you'll be trapped in yet another trauma

[80slesbiab]

Kate McKinnon getting her hair pulled by THE pornstar Nina Hartley

[rose-chateau]

[bitterkarella]

the flat hand thing works, she’s correct

[lyrifemme]

The flat hand thing is so correct, and I’ve thought about this clip like four times a week since i saw it like ten years ago. That is NOT a noise she intended to make

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:

Books I personally recommend:

- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.

- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”

- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.

- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.

- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.

- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.

Books I can kind of recommend:

- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”

- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.

- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.

Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.

[sparklefartstheunicorn]

May I also suggest Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit by Raven Kaldera, d/s companion books that address kink with a disability. They're a should read for everyone, imo. You never know when you or a partner are going to have changes in your body that affect what you can physically do. Temporary illness/injury and even just age can affect your sex life.

[dogspouse]

I'd like to suggest Better Bondage for Every Body! It goes really in depth on anatomy, pain processing, self-tying, and has chapters specifically focusing on how to do rope bondage on/for someone who is disabled or has chronic pain, which was really important to me.

[hugmeonce]

fun calo fact !! the easiest way to get me wet is aurally/hearing you. i love hearing a pretty girl moan and whimper in pleasure its so hot. if my blog isn’t already obvious, i am so down bad for a femme who tells me what she wants and begs for it and will do anything for me to get what she wants. just hearing how horny and desperate i make her is such a fucking turn on like yes baby i want me, but i need to hear in your voice just how much. maybe why i love needy femmes bc all they do is tell you how much they need you. also just listen to her getting off and the hitch in her voice and just hearing how wet i can get her is sooooo omg i cant even explain it

[hugmeonce]

god i just need a femme to use me. tie me up and fuck yourself onto me, ride my thigh, face, strap, i dont care as long as my princess is happy. i am truly at your service baby. just say the word and i’ll kiss, lick, suck, bite, thrust anything you please baby

[all-americanbitch]

[thoughtlessjellyfish]

only thing that can fix me rn

[sissychris54]

[girlballs-archive]

girls on tumblr are basically always doing this to each other

[alchemyandsmut]

Couple at the Field 🌸🏵🌹🌺🌻🌼🌷🥀

by thesabu (socials)

[sensusola]

suuuuuuuper normal about the fact that I'm getting my head shaved (probably tomorrow) and I'm doing it as part of a scene bc if I'm horny about it then the change will be easier to adjust to

part of me is gonna miss the long hair but I will be grateful for this when it's 80 degrees inside my house at night in a month or so

[samreich]

for whatever reason im not so sure

[cffn-dncr]

top who's collared and leashed <3 top who's overeager <3 top who's whimpering and whining and has to be talked through it <3 top who cries and bites you when it cums <3 top who cums and keeps going <3 sub tops <3