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I love using “good catch”

I also say “thanks for the update” or “thanks for the head’s up!”

“I really appreciate the head’s up!” also a classic

If I haven’t gotten back to someone in a swift enough period (i.e. one work day max) I say “thank you for your patience. after some consideration, I have decided…”

don’t apologize for piddly things!

thank you > sorry

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I need to remember

stargazing-enby

thank you > sorry

Thank you for waiting for me > sorry for being late

Thank you for helping me/for your time/for listening to me > sorry for bothering you

Thanking someone when they do you a favour > apologizing for your existence

This is especially hard when you haven’t been taught that people need to respect your limits, but with a bit of practice you can absolutely get there!

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I really want to emphasise that from unfortunate personal experience, being too willing to apologise can fuck you over in the workplace - it doesn’t matter how much of an honest, good person you are, if you are the only person regularly admitting fault and apologising for mistakes … you may well end up with your workplace having the impression that you’re the only person there who fucks up constantly. Even people who like you can end up thinking it. Don’t let that fucking label happen. Say good catch and thanks for telling me and go forth with your ass firmly covered instead.

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What does it Mean to be Self Aware?

Healthy self-awareness means:

1. Being aware of our changing emotions, and knowing who and what tends to trigger them. Then, using that knowledge to choose how you respond.

2. Being aware of our negative, destructive thoughts patterns, and challenging our tendencies to jump to wrong conclusions … or to over-exaggerate how terrible things are.

3. Being aware of what is happening, and changing, in our bodies so we know when we are stressed, or are reaching breaking point.

4. Understanding our habits and behavioural patterns – so we’re not at their mercy, and they don’t control our lives.

5. Being aware of our assumptions and expectations, and knowing how they influence various aspects of our lives – like the goals we set, and the things we say and do.

6. Being aware of how our actions, our words and responses affect and influence other people in our lives (in both a positive and negative way).