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When you have no sense of self and someone says something about you

you still hold on to the idea dan and phil were leaving breadcrumbs even though dan specifically said they didn’t want people to pry or know just yet

(gif via @palacefires)

i was tempted to leave it at that, to quote dan and walk away, but i’m not going to. i’m tired of people treating dan and phil like they’re stupid and of queer fans being treated like they should be ashamed.

i’m firmly of the belief that dan and phil coming out would not have gone this smoothly if they had not been intentionally, increasingly obvious over the past few years; if they had come out in this exact manner in 2014? it would’ve been pandemonium. neither they nor we as their audience was ready for that.

likewise, if they had retained the public image they had in 2014, their coming out would have caused similar chaos. the simplest explanation for many of their actions that bridged the gap between then and now is that as their comfort level with being perceived as queer grew over time, they chose to share more and more of their authentic, queer selves with us. luckily, we continually proved ourselves as receptive and supportive when they did so.

they edit all of their videos. they’re queer. leaving in references to attraction to men, or playing games that put them in scenarios that involve same-sex attraction (heart throb, having dab and evan date in the sims) did not happen on accident. they knew what they were doing, and were doing it on purpose. the most plausible reason they would do so is because they knew they wanted to come out someday, and were gradually opening up so it wouldn’t be too much of a shock.

if you truly believe that dan and phil were completely unaware of how every innuendo they’ve made in the past several years could be taken, both when recording videos and posting them, you truly discredit their intelligence and resilience. they’re very smart and capable, and it’s much easier to believe that they chose to slowly open up to us than it is to believe that they did so accidentally, hundreds of times throughout the span of their career.

and before anyone tries saying “oh but we spend sooo much time on analyzing all this, it’s not like dnp would notice xyz blah blah blah”… It’s Their Personal Life And Career All At Once And Dan Has Trauma. queer people know what they’re doing when navigating the complexities of being closeted, especially after so long doing so in the public eye. closeting always is a function of safety. it’s not all fun & games for them like it is for us, it’s their actual lives.

dan and phil weren’t ready to be out, and didn’t want to be outed. dan told us that that’s exactly what they’re uncomfortable with: people pushing them to share personal information when they aren’t ready or don’t want to, and people violating their privacy to find/share information without dnp’s consent. my breadcrumbs tag celebrates specific examples of dnp’s comfort and openness with us; information that they voluntarily shared. that is not at all the same thing as pressuring them or stalking them, or even celebrating pressure or stalking.

please act and speak with compassion in the future. the fact that i, as a queer person, celebrate and admire the happiness, comfort and pride that dan and phil have with their queer identities is not wrong.

euclase

Do you ever think you'll stop drawing fanart? No offense it just seems like the kind of thing you're supposed to grow out of. I'm just curious what your plans/goals are since it isn't exactly an art form that people take seriously.

Ah, fanart. Also known as the art that girls make.

Sad, immature girls no one takes seriously. Girls who are taught that it’s shameful to be excited or passionate about anything, that it’s pathetic to gush about what attracts them, that it’s wrong to be a geek, that they should feel embarrassed about having a crush, that they’re not allowed to gaze or stare or wish or desire. Girls who need to grow out of it.

That’s the art you mean, right?

Because in my experience, when grown men make it, nobody calls it fanart. They just call it art. And everyone takes it very seriously.

linzeestyle-deactivated20160712

It’s interesting though — the culture of shame surrounding adult women and fandom. Even within fandom it’s heavily internalized: unsurprisingly, mind, given that fandom is largely comprised by young girls and, unfortunately, our culture runs on ensuring young girls internalize *all* messages no matter how toxic. But here’s another way of thinking about it.

Sports is a fandom. It requires zealous attention to “seasons,” knowledge of details considered obscure to those not involved in that fandom, unbelievable amounts of merchandise, and even “fanfic” in the form of fantasy teams. But this is a masculine-coded fandom. And as such, it’s encouraged - built into our economy! Have you *seen* Dish network’s “ultimate fan” advertisements, which literally base selling of a product around the normalization of all consuming (male) obsession? Or the very existence of sports bars, built around the link between fans and community enjoyment and analysis. Sport fandom is so ingrained in our culture that major events are treated like holidays (my gym closes for the Super Bowl) — and can you imagine being laughed at for admitting you didn’t know the difference between Supernatural and The X Files the way you might if you admit you don’t know the rules of football vs baseball, or basketball?

“Fandom” is not childish but we live in a culture that commodified women’s time in such away that their hobbies have to be “frivolous,” because “mature” women’s interests are supposed to be marriage, family, and overall care taking: things that allow others to continue their own special interests, while leaving women without a space of their own.

So think about what you’re actually saying when you call someone “too old” for fandom. Because you’re suggesting they are “too old” for a consuming hobby, and I challenge you to answer — what do you think they should be doing instead?

talesfromthemek

#I love the fact I’m ‘weird’ for writing fic but some guy painting a team logo on his beer belly is normal

destielhiseyesopened

[x]

elliotthezubat

boom

furiousgoldfish

sorry I can’t hang out, I’ve got places to avoid and people to disappoint

ilovemusicalyy

heartbeatemoji

i think this is literally my favorite tik tok it’s so fucking funny

shock

nvybloo

graceking

I love these comics by Nathan W. Pyle.

patrickdiomedes

Here are some more good ones

the-ali-express

LET ME ABS O R B

ultramarineblues

@diseonfire here have some more

erdsthenerds

Perhaps I prefer fewer revolutions and more minerals is a mood

vo-kopen

@thefingerfuckingfemalefury there is more

thefingerfuckingfemalefury

THEY CRAVE THOSE MINERALS

Also the next time we watch a horror movie I am totally going to say to my gf “I hope these beings make correct strategic decisions…yet I know they will not”