be happy

jam/den ❀ late 20s ❀  ze/hir, any ❀ fagdyke

[freckliedan]

💛

[wildlymint]

thinking…

[eli-eli-lema-sabachthani]

ive watched this 5 time already

being a theatre kid AND a Phannie is a gift

[freckliedan]

thought of a reason they might get married

[freckliedan]

so they can refer to each other as ex boyfriends

[freckliedan]

thought of a reason they might get married

[asherrr3r]

sorry for being(remembers this is my blog and i don’t have to apologize for talking about anything) Extrememly Sexy. And Cool.

[internetisqueer]

me core

[x-------0]

we (i) don’t talk about how long it took to finish this one

[boytransmission]

would you consider yourself an intelligent and sensitive pervert?

i've been saving this in my inbox for months because i don't feel like i have the words to match this. it's a shameful breach of my humility to answer yes, yes i do consider myself an intelligent and sensitive pervert. i love how you worded that. this is like a therapist's screening question.

[oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201]

Hey, unpopular opinion, apparently. But people don’t just “have pain for no reason” doctors say this all the time (especially to women and chronically ill people) and the truth is, Thats literally not possible. Even if your pains are psychosomatic (a word I hesitate to even use because of the way its used so often) there is a reason you are having those pains whether its mental illness, abuse, etc. If your doctor consistently tells you that “well some people just have pain for no reason” get a new doctor. That’s a doctor who is not going to give a shit what your actual symptoms or experiences are.

[kamorth]

I just wanna add to clarify the psychosomatic thing.

That word DOES NOT MEAN you’re making it up. It doesn’t mean you’re imagining the symptom. What it means is that the symptom ISN’T DIRECTLY CAUSED BY ANY OF THE THINGS THAT WOULD NORMALLY CAUSE IT.

I fought to get a PCOS diagnosis for 2 and a half years. For the ENTIRE time I was fighting, I was dealing with 3 cysts that were not going away by themselves and eventually required surgery to remove. At one point close to the end of the battle, I suddenly went blind. I was visiting my parents and was standing on the veranda looking out over the tree we had planted in memory of my dog and suddenly I got one of the shooting pains that I was quite frankly used to at that point and my vision started to go dark. It was like the sun was setting while being completely hidden behind storm clouds but it was 2pm in the middle of Summer on a clear day. Within about 30 seconds I couldn’t see ANYTHING. I was 27 years old and I was screaming for my mother.

My mum raced me to her doctor (he was a 15 minute drive away as opposed to 45 minutes to the nearest hospital) and he quickly worked out that there was nothing wrong with my eyes and what had happened was totally unrelated to them. Then he said it was psychosomatic and I freaked out, yelling that I was NOT making this up and I definitely wasn’t imagining it. Very quickly he calmed me down and said he believed me and I had misunderstood. He explained that whatever was going on with my abdominal pains (he suggested PCOS which I hadn’t even heard of at that point) had been ignored for so long that my body was starting to do things other than the normal pain response to try to draw my attention to the problem. My sight going was my body basically jumping around in front of me going “HEY ARE YOU EVEN LISTENING TO ME HELLLOOOOOOO??????”

He gave me some prescription strength painkillers and my sight started to come back as soon as they started to kick in. About 45 minutes after it started I could see well enough to walk around without help and within a day and a half I was back to normal. On top of that I finally had a scan booked to figure out what the hell was causing all the pain.

Psychosomatic symptoms are NOT imagined or fabricated or happening for “no reason”. Experiencing them DOES NOT make you a liar. It makes you someone who has been battling with something serious for so long that your own body has started to get impatient with you.

[oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201]

I completely agree. Thank you for sharing this.

[antique-scarecrow]

Psychosomatic symptoms are literally your body flipping random alarm switches just to get any alarm blaring because you’ve been ignoring the regular ones

[freckliedan]

have i caught up on anything. no but my best friend, me and my husband's beloved ex, texted me after this week's hard launch telling me they discussed whether being in the middle of a bed with three people is comfy for people who are poly and asked for my personal takes and i got to ramble so <3

[catwire]

what's everyone's lockscreen?? tell me in the tags or reblog with a screenshot

[cannibal-flowerbomb]

Fat liberation in I'm so Fucking Beautiful #2 (#1 published 1994).

[freckliedan]

[cherubheartz]

favorite phenomenon

[imnotinclinedtomaturity]

freckles?? freCKLES??? FRECKLES????

[phovaries]

daily life affirmations for phannies:

dan and phil are gay

dan and phil are in a relationship

dan and phil are always ovulating

dan and phil are evil

dan and phil are in love

dan and phil are real

dan and phil are true

dan and phil are in my walls

dan and phil have been together the whole time

dan and phil will never upload a video on time

dan and phil can finally go out on romantic dinner dates

dan and phil maybe eat fruit idk we’ve never confirmed that but i assume it’s true

dan and phil are always at the scene of the crime

dan and phil will discover the secret to mpreg

dan and phil are free

dan and phil are forever