How to abandon kpop ships and throw yourself into the water of sanity
First things first, i used to ship a few idols to the point of utter obsession and i wasn't liking the toxicity. I used to thrive on their interactions and crumbs but then i was never ever satisfied cause let's face it, they were just normal things or conversations anyone would do to someone in their group or band.
So I've been trying to get out of these inescapable ships cause i personally believe its toxic and misguiding especially to young fans, trust me, they take it very seriously. I mean, that's only my opinion and if you guys are shipping only for funsies, that's tooooootally fine. Please don't come at me, folks. (qβ―οΈ΅β°ο½‘)
SO i found a way to stop obsessing over these strangers on the internet :
Pressure from Companies : Their companies 70% of the time force them to have these interactions. I'm sure some are genuine, obviously α(β’Ο β’α) but i think some of this are deliberately captured in a way that attracts shippers. I mean, the companies know about the shipping and I've heard that(from undisclosable resources) most idols are very uncomfortable with shipping.
Korea is a (90%)homophobic country : Again, i'm not saying everyone is homophobic but in reality most Koreans are in fact homophobic and that includes some or most of the idols as well. Some of them may be an ally but they may not be homosexual themselves. Even if they are by any chance, they will never disclose it.
Focus on their music/work/art and then go home : If you are into kpop, then only view them as music artists and nothing more than that. That is, unless you don't want to remain sane. DON'T view their content that's got nothing to do with their work/music cause at the end of the day, they're really music artists and that's all we should really focus on. I know some of you can disagree with me and that's okay. I mean they are just regular people (albeit attractive α( α )α) like us who are doing their job. Tbh, I'm not into pop music much and i like very few artists and am choosy over the songs that i listen to. By no means, do i think pop music is inferior. Infact its great and i do like a few pop artists but generally listen to other genres. These days, kpop has also evolved to fit in many other genres which is noice SO getting back to the story, i was watching all their content (vlives, yadayada) for no reason at all. I mean some are entertaining, no lie, but honestly we don't have to watch all their content cause one, its time consuming and two, why. This may differ for everyone and that's okay. You do you.
Idols are different off screen and are not innocent : most (90%) idols generally have idol persona and are completely different off screen. I heard (questionable resources so take this with a grain of salt (οΏ’βΏοΏ’ )) that most idols, especially bg idols are not what you think they are. They tend to be womanizers/playboys and sympathise with trash dastards like ykw big bang guy seungsrice, the other guy , i don't know his name and don't want to know it either. I could be wrong but i heard that senior bg idols have chat groups for the sole purpose of ogling and objectifying female idols (by posting inappropriate content) and these seniors add the junior idols to those groups as well. Being disrespectful to women or anyone for that matter is immoral (atleast to me) and I'm sorry, i don't get the men will be men trope. Men/everyone can be respectful. It's not that hard. So basically these idols are not saints and can be utter assholes just like the rest of the world. I also heard some really young bg idols around their early twenties, i won't say who, go to clubs for ons and tend to like sleeping with a lot of girls so 99% of the homosexual ships are not real.
Self-love sista : i know it can be hard to break up with a ship so take your time. Start focusing on yourself and view their work only as a source of entertainment. Its not offensive cause that's what they are. They are people doing a job. They also only view you as a collective, just a fan, so what's the use of knowing them or their personality in-depth. Its irrelevant. When you start viewing them as employees, the obsession towards them should reduce and they also would get the privacy they've always wanted. So i think its a win-win.
that's about it. Toodles.