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bisexual vs pansexual

would you believe me if i told you the argument i consistently see about how pansexuality is actually a more inclusive term than bisexuality is the same shit people were saying about pansexuals 20 years ago?

for clarity, the only people saying bisexuality just means binary cis men and women tare ransphobes. the only people saying bisexuality just means men or women are transphobic scum

20 years i was involved in this community and discourse online and a bunch of pansexuals were claiming pansexuality meant attracting to "men, women and trans people". which is, of course, transphobic as fuck bc trans women and trans men are women and men. you don't need a specific identity to be attracted to trans people of the gender you're attracted too

bisexuality means "the same and different" or "attraction to the same gender as me and different genders than me" pansexuality means different things depending on which pansexual you ask, but the inherent common thread is that they have the potential to be attracted to anyone regardless of gender

bisexuality predates pansexuality. it has always included binary and nonbinary trans people (unless transphobes were making calls to exclude them). bisexuals are not inherently transphobic or less open-minded. was there more binary representation for bisexuality in the past? absolutely, but there was for gay men and women and pansexuals too. the binary has always had more representation than folks outside of it - that's just a fact of history

people deserve to use the identifier than they most closely relate to and feel most comfortable with. bisexuals and pansexuals have overlapping history within the queer community but their histories are completely separate

it's pretty fucking colonizer to demand someone give up their older culture and identity bc you think your new shiny one is better

in short - bisexuals and pansexuals should be allowed to coexist and your biphobia is not acceptable just bc you don't know your history

for clarity and context: i am not bisexual. i came out as bisexual at 16 (early 00s) bc it was how i understood myself at the time. i shifted to using the term pansexual sometime in my early to mid twenties. by my thirties i was simply identifying as queer. i came out as a lesbian at 37 and nonbinary at 38. i am 39