CMBYN - MY CURIOSITY, QUESTIONS AND THE SEQUEL
So I just watched CMBYN again here the other day, and some questions popped up in my head, and some general consideration.
Everyone that I have seen loves both the book and the movie. I very much understand that, because I love it too. I'm obsessed, and came back into that obsession recently which was why I watched the movie again, and kind of as a celebration for the sequel of the book, I guess you could say, haha.
We all know the beautiful message of this movie, the dreaminess, the story of first love, in my eyes not only to Elio, but also to Oliver.
Though I noticed something that got me thinking. I saw someone making a post which was from a long time ago, who said that they loved both the movie and the book, but found the ending too sad. Then someone commented saying that that was because they didn't understand the message and they were immature if they couldn't understand it and childish.
I didn't like seeing this, because I don't think it's true. You can understand something and see the beauty in it, but that dosen't mean you have to love it. And personally, I kind of felt the same way about the ending.
I am one of those people who love and admire the book and the movie the way it is. Elio's father's speech at the end always finds a way deep into my heart.
But what I'm talking about here is not really about that, it's quite simple actually: Do you like the ending of the book and the movie?
Please tell me why. I'm in a difficult place about this, because I love it, and it's special, it's not something that I have ever seen in TV or in books ever before, but still I can't help but feel so sad when I think about it. And that's not because I don't get it, because I do, but what I don't like, honestly, which probably sounds a bit stupid, is bad endings.
I hate them. I don't care. I hate the crying, I hate the sadness, I hate the heartbroken-ness. I watch movies and tv shows to escape from reality. From real life, from the pain that I have felt through my life, and if I'm feeling something right there in that moment as well. I am simply one of those who HATE sad endings. Why? Well, I have already given you one reason above, but one other reason is also that I want everyone to be happy, to find happiness. I want to find my happiness someday, it could be a career, it could be a person, I don't care. I just want to find my happiness, because with that happiness, all of the pain that you have experienced has been worth it, in my opinion. Everything suddenly makes more sense. I pass by, hear about and talk with people every day who has experienced horrible things, and who really aren't happy in their lives. What I hope for, is that they find happiness themselves. I see and experience too much pain in life to witness the heartbreaking endings of many movies and tv shows. And it's not because I don't want to see sadness at all, because sadness is reality. Sadness is a big part of life. But that dosen't mean it has to be everything or end up like that.
And even though I have never seen CMBYN as a "gay storyline", but simply just the love between two people, we all know that same sex couples haven't been too lucky in books, tv shows and movies. It's very rare that we get couples like Malec from Shadowhunters and Evak from Skam. 90% of the time the couples I read about or see either die, break up, cheat, or something like that, and never end up together, and are never truly happy. So every time I start a book, tv show or movie where I know there is gonna be a same sex couple, I hope that this story is special, that it stays in my heart, and that they will have a happy ending, because I have seen too many sad ones.
At the same time, I feel like the book ending - the very ending - has some kind of...hope to it? It leaves us hanging where we’re not sure what’s gonna happen. Do they seperate again? Does Oliver call Elio by his name and lets him back into his heart? Do they get together again? Or do they keep going, never ending, by seperating and meeting over and over? I really want to know what happens after that ending, I’m so curious.
YES I know the message of the ending of CMBYN, YES I understand it, and YES I admire it. But at the same time, it is simply too heartbreaking for me. And I probably shouldn't be this affected by something like this, but it kept going on and on in my head, and now I needed to write something about it.
Now, you might also know that there will be a sequel of the book. I only heard about it a couple of days ago so I really don't know anything about it other than that it's a sequel to CMBYN, and that it will be out in October? Have I gotten that right? Hopefully. I am very excited to experience this sequel, because I have always felt like something was missing. A door that needed to be closed. Maybe I can have that with this.
But to get to the core of what I want, I want to ask all of you out there: What do you think about CMBYN? Why do you love it? Why do you hate it? What is your relationship with the ending? Have you read the book and what do you think about it? And will you be reading the sequel? And are you excited about it?
Let me know! And please, no rude comments(I know I might get hate for this, I apologize).