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@shortking69
blows my mind that cheetahs are apex predators. that is the single most anxious creature I have ever seen. at any given moment a cheetah is exactly one stubbed paw away from bursting into tears. that is a sad dripping wet animal, and it's at the top of the local food chain? babygirl what happened
things I learned from this post:
cheetahs regularly get bullied by lions, hyenas, crocodiles, and baboons
multiple people think this means cheetahs aren't an apex predator/belong lower on the food chain
which is how I learned humans equate social status with position on the food chain. (which is nonsense to anyone who's ever met, for instance, a moose)
an apex predator is just a predator without natural predators of its own. you can be an anxious pathetic mess, but if you're not getting eaten by your neighbors, congrats! you're an apex predator.
i look it up to make sure cheetahs are apex predators
I find out it's not uncommon for cheetah cubs (and very occasionally adults) to be eaten by lions, leopards, hyneas, and even eagles???
well that sure calls into question their apex predator status. out of curiosity i check to see if there are any animals that hunt lions
this is how I discover that cheetahs, lions, hyenas, and leopards will all eat each other's children if presented with an easy opportunity (and sometimes young/elderly/injured adults)
begining to wonder how useful 'apex predator' is as a term
in conclusion, cheetahs are so fast because they are fueled by Grade A+ Ultra Concentrated Anxiety and they need that speed to run away from their problems
The Circleville Herald, Ohio, April 18, 1957
PRAYER FOR WEREWOLVES from We are Mermaids by Stephanie Burt
toger we can achieve anything
lol he doesnt even know
terribly sorry sir it wont happen again
lmfaooo dude
They are adding a new stage of grief called "posting."
IF YOURE GOING TO TACO BELL WITH YOUR SWEETIE DIE IMMEDIATELY. when will it be MY turn to have a taco bell date with MY sweetie
Made in Hong Kong (Fruit Chang, 1997)
got high and forgot to jerk off cause i was busy thinking about my theories
grabs your hand. you've had enough plot and exposition and character development lately im taking you to the beach episode
i started listening to carly rae jespen because of this essay (i’ll put it below) and i think about it all the time. like. this guy says it better than i ever could.
she hopes i'm CURSED FOREVER to sleep on a TWIN SIZED MATTRESS in somebody's attic or basement MY WHOOOLE LIFE... never GRADUATING up in SIZE TO ADD ANOTHER and my nightmares will have nightmares every night EVERY NIGHT EVERY NIGHT
thinking a lot about how phrases like
“I’m at capacity, I can’t engage [with you] right now” / “I don’t have the capacity to reconnect” / “I don’t have capacity for more connections” / etc.
“Thank you for sharing [your vulnerability]”
“These are my boundaries, I’m articulating them so we can better show up and care for each other / be in community with each other”
“I want to honour your needs and boundaries” / “What do you need / what are your boundaries?”
“What’s bringing you joy these days?”
“I want to be intentional with our plans” / “I’m setting an intention to…”
“Let’s unpack that” / “There’s a lot to unpack here” / etc.
“Let’s practice authenticity”
“I’m looking for slowness and intentionality”
“That’s so valid”
“I want to be mindful of…”
& other such vocabulary popular in the lexicon of western social justice communities, gentle parenting and nonviolent communication circles, tenderqueer social circles, various new age / woo / healing social spheres, etc etc
just feel like lies, codes, ways of obfuscating and justifying, getting away from really being direct and honest (while ironically purporting to be direct and honest forms of communication), ways to say “wow you’re toxic / oversharing / crossing boundaries / immature / clearly in need of healing / etc, get away from me” without actually saying it
I need to articulate this more, but I guess it all feels related to my thoughts on liberal boundaries discourse
I do use some of this language too, sometimes, both out of necessity and exposure and habit and whatever, often because it feels like the only way to communicate with all these people who don’t even realize how deeply individualistic and alienating this kind of communication is, I’m not saying it’s always terrible or should never be used or whatever, it’s complicated obviously
but then I have to feel guilty both for using the language when it feels so fake *and* for feeling angry about the language itself since apparently that means I’m just a terrible person who doesn’t believe in boundaries or respect or whatever at all 🙄
anyway I need to articulate this more & there’s so much constantly swirling in my head about it but it all feels very very much part of disposability culture, the thing we do not name or talk about enough or properly, all these ways to seem so “evolved” and “self-actualized”
honestly i would just prefer if you said
“I’m exhausted I can’t deal with this”
“I’m angry about [xyz], I don’t want to talk to you anymore”
“yeah I don’t trust you, bye”
“why are you oversharing so much” / “that’s too much information” / “just shut up now”
“yeah if you do this again I’m leaving, bye”
“if you can’t communicate in a healthy way then I don’t want to talk to you”
“why are you so upset all the time, can’t you be happy sometimes”
“you’re too chaotic to do things with”
“this is too overwhelming”
“I don’t want to deal with all that”
“you’re overwhelming me”
“yeah you’re being too real, stop it”
“that’s crazy, get away from me”
“okay whatever but that’s too much again”
or whatever else
and, you know, it’s valid (haha) to feel overwhelmed, tired, scared, etc
and I wish we could just say that
instead of inventing all these ways to obfuscate and act like we’re so “in touch with our feelings” when we are really, really not
wanting romantic relationships is a weakness btw and also a moral failing