Nicole

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[shesgotwhatittakes]

While cleaning out my room I found a paper that my therapist gave me some time ago to deal with obsessive and intrusive thoughts. Sorry the paper is a little crinkled and stained, but I figured I’d post it in hopes that it will help someone like it helped me.

[shesgotwhatittakes]

Here it is again with text for anyone who can’t see the picture

That thought isn’t helpful right now.

Now is not the time to think about it. I can think about it later.

This is irrational. I’m going to let it go.

I won’t argue with an irrational thought.

This is not an emergency. I can slow down and think clearly about what I need.

This feels threatening and urgent, but it really isn’t.

I don’t have to be perfect to be OK.

I don’t have to figure out this question. The best thing to do is just drop it.

It’s OK to make mistakes.

I already know from my past experiences that these fears are irrational.

I have to take risks in order to be free. I’m willing to take this risk.

It’s OK that I just had that thought/image, and it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t have to pay attention to it.

I’m ready to move on now.

I can handle being wrong.

I don’t have to suffer like this. I deserve to feel comfortable.

That’s not my responsibility.

That’s not my problem.

I’ve done the best I can.

It’s good practice to let go of this worry. I want to practice.

[sandersstudies]

One day I just decided that no matter what happened I would be chillin and let me say it actually has been working

[sandersstudies]

Benefits of chillin

Puts others at ease. Something scary happens and you just go “oh well that’s not my favorite.” And then everyone around you knows it’s Okay.

Can calm a bad situation. I’m not talking about telling people to “calm down” or downplaying a serious moment, but when somebody has a freak out because they’re really angry or sad you can just be like “wow, bro, I can tell that this sucks a lot for you. I’m sorry about that. I’m willing to be chillin here with you until you feel safe to be chillin to.”

Builds relationships. I have gotten better at approaching people and saying “hey there, I just wanted to chat about how your behavior earlier was kind of un-bodacious of you and I was not loving it.” And usually people are receptive to that much more than to passive-aggression (or active aggression).

Makes me think. Being Chillin is not automatic. Sometimes I wanna freak out too. But Being Chillin puts me in a mindset to find solutions or at least see a way forward.

Selfish point Gives people a positive opinion of me in matters of conflict resolution. If somebody is going around mad at me and telling everyone I’m nastymean and stinky, and meanwhile I’m Being Chillin, most people will agree that I am probably not actually nastymean and stinky.

[achillesinhighheels]

[sadclowncentral]

(grabs you by the shoulders) you have to make room for new experiences in your life. you have to go through the unpleasant work of leaving your comfort zone, even if just for a few minutes at a time. because if you don't, your brain will trick you into stagnation. you will start to believe that the world can barely fit you in it. but that's not true. it's the opposite way around. you can fit the whole word inside of you. your task is only this: to welcome it with open arms

[sandersstudies]

Love the tags!

[sirfrogsworth]

This is especially frustrating because the only reason we know the wind speed is because NOAA's Hurricane Hunters literally fly into the hurricane and collect vital data. They fly in and out of the storm over and over in 8 hour shifts.

This brave team flies two identical Lockheed P3s called Kermit and Miss Piggy.

You can see the dangling ornaments in the videos to determine which plane they are in.

And when I say they fly into the hurricane, I mean they fly *into* the hurricane.

Here they are in the eye of Milton.

And here they are in the eye of Irma.

As you may notice, this flight was in Kermit.

So the next time you see live data about a hurricane's wind speed and pressure, just remember how that was collected and don't be a giant turd about it.

And please vote because conservatives want to kill NOAA.

[mooncustafer]

This is serious But I also just want everyone to know that Kermit and Miss Piggy have retro-style nose artwork of the characters:

[thefrogman]

I was so enamored with the ornaments. I didn't think to check for nose art. Thanks for adding this!

[birdwatchy-standaround]

everyone loves Predynastic Egyptian Terracotta Bowl with Human Feet. shout-out to a real one

[phaeton-flier]

It looks like it would be so excited to run over when you needed a bowl

[fruitpeels]

Got distracted. Saw a cool bug

[dukeofash]

baby hippo but make it a baby triceratops

[thatisahotsoup-deactivated20220]

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

it's very important that disabled people are allowed to make bad decisions actually. that we're allowed to do things which cause flare-ups. that we're allowed to take a risk and get it wrong. that not every single second of our day has to be about playing it safe and being well-behaved and staying within our limits

and on the days when we deal with the consequences of those mistakes and bad decisions we're still worthy of a) sympathy and b) pain relief. just as we are if our illness or disability is the result of our choices in the first place

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

also tbh sometimes it is MEDICALLY important that you take risks and fuck it up because playing it safe can cause "safety" to shrink. can convince your brain that everything outside of those bounds is forbidden. can increase your body's response to threat because everything unfamiliar becomes threat because you've taught it that it's not allowed to do those things because they're dangerous. and if they're dangerous then they're painful and the pain gets worse and the limits get smaller and your life SHRINKS

this is not true of all conditions (for some, pushing through can have a lasting negative impact, i'm not disputing that) but maybe trust people to know whether it's true for their own condition and allow them the autonomy to weigh up the risk and the benefit

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

just gonna drop this here also to point out that this is not a new concept

[untiloblivions]

thinking about “you haven’t met all the people who will love you” and like!!! you also haven’t found all the things that will make you happy!!!! there will always be new authors and musicians and artists whose work you will one day discover and love!!!! there will always be new hobbies and skills for you to learn and feel fulfilled by!!! there will always be new things around the corner that will bring sudden and unexpected happiness!!!!!!!!!!!

[cosmonautroger]

[notbecauseofvictories]

So I am tentatively thinking of taking an outdoor photography class. I found an adult art camp (that is not what it calls itself, but it is) and a class explicitly about photographing the fall colors. I might have to rent some equipment, since I've never bothered with a tripod or cable release, but still...

One of the activities that the instructor recommends is going back through your photos and picking a handful for critique---since if it rains, the class will be stuck indoors. And honestly, going back through my archives is....strangely heartening? I do take nice photos. The fact that I've taken just a handful in the six years I've had this camera is less important---I have photos I wouldn't mind showing someone who does this professionally!

And if I look at them and mostly see what was happening outside of the frame...well, that's my own business.

[l3irdl3rain]

Bianca wants to help parent the baby. Unfortunately she can’t resist the urge to kick

[l3irdl3rain]

no need to fear, I did eventually convince her to sit nice with little Bug

[validwarriorcatsnames]

warrior name BABYKICKER

[despazito]

unfortunately a lot of the corny self help advice turns out to be true but the thing is you have to come to those conclusions yourself otherwise it just sounds dismissive and dumb

[pucikat-deactivated20200924]

i had a really fucked up dream omg

[my-notes-app-deactivated2020061]

p&f related?

[pucikat-deactivated20200924]

sorry but phineas and ferb were not in it.

[my-notes-app-deactivated2020061]

buford?

[pucikat-deactivated20200924]

no characters from phineas and ferb were there.

[lovely-v]

It’s crazy and fucked up that being yourself is actually the solution.

[lovely-v]

It’s like. When I was told to “just be yourself” as a kid I thought it was a passive thing. Like oh easy I just have to sit here and be myself. but the reason so many people think that “being yourself” is bullshit advice is because you actually have to make active choices to do this and it WILL make your life way more fun. You have to wear t-shirts of bands that were popular ten years ago because you like them. You have to do your hair in a way that you find cute or comfortable even if it’s “so nineties”. If your friend says a food you enjoy is gross to them, you can’t be afraid to admit you casually disagree. You have to do hobbies that you’re interested in even if you’re bad at them and you cant feel like you have to get good at something before you tell people it’s an activity you do. You have to read manga and comic books in public and get piercings your relatives think are unattractive. You don’t have to tell people you dislike that you dislike them, but you don’t have to give them your time and attention either. You have to rewatch that kids show you’re nostalgic for even if you’re in your 30s. You have to change your name if you hate it, even if only a few close friends can know. You have to get fun girly drinks at the bar. You have to order hot chocolate when you don’t like coffee and black coffee when you don’t like sweet things. I am still bad at practicing this but it is the only way to make it all tolerable.

[only-cat-memes]