QueerMamaVT

I'm just a divorced queer mom. If you want to know about my pregnancy and parenting experience follow my secondary blog, judeinjanuary.

[singlemamavt]

Worst feeling as a parent for far has been seeing my child get sad because I'm too sad to snap out of it. I feel so ashamed.

[judedavismm]

Nursing and Teething

I really hope that Jude is teething because my nipples hurt so bad. She still hasn’t cut her canines so I hope that the excessive nursing is due to that. 

Ever since she got teeth, nursing when she is cutting new ones gets increasingly painful. It makes me question whether I want to continue nursing at all. I keep trying to remind that the pain will pass when she is not teething, but I’m not sure it is worth it. I think I might be doing it because I want to be able to say I let her self wean and that I nursed her a long time.

I spend so much of my time as a parent thinking about other people and second guessing myself that I don’t know how I ever make a decision. At this point I will continue nursing Jude. I think.

[singlemamavt]

Super Duper Quick Update

My divorce is almost final.

I’m a dating machine.

Jude is two. We stopped nursing on her birthday. When she is here, we co-sleep and she sleeps 10-12 hours with no wake ups. Bedtimes are hard but worth the full night of sleep. 

I think my work schedule might be the death of me or I’ll just be a super human and function on little sleep.

Jude has an extraordinary vocabulary. She loves to sing Adele songs. 

I’ve switched back to my old tumblr because mom blogs are not what I need right now. They just make me want another baby and that just is not in the cards right now or anytime in the near future.

[singlemamavt]

Lesbian problems

Doctor: Are you sexually active?

Me: Yes.

Doctor: Is there any chance you could be pregnant?

Me: No.

Doctor: Are you taking birth control pills?

Me: No.

Doctor: Do you use condoms?

Me: Nope.

Doctor (beginning to look concerned): Is there a medical reason you can't become pregnant?

Me: Not that I'm aware of.

Doctor (looking even more concerned, now speaking in a condescending tone): Then how do you know there's no chance of pregnancy?

Me: Last I checked, my female partner would have a hard time pulling that off.

[buzzfeedlgbt]

[buzzfeedlgbt]

“Masculinity goes beyond aesthetics.”

[buzzfeedlgbt]

This Group Of Badass Women Just Killed The Menswear Game

[blackfashion]

All We Wear is Suits. All We Wear is Ankara.

http://www.allthingsankara.com/2015/10/all-we-wear-is-suits-all-we-wear-is-ankara.html

Suit Made by: Nikki Billie Jean (Me)

instagram.com/nikkibilliejean

instagram.com/allthingsankara

[piecesinprogress]

Sweet Pecan Roasted Butternut Squash, you are just too delicious- I want to put you in salads and brown rice garden Bowls but I can’t stop pan-snacking! Maybe I’ll make a double batch next time haha.

Get the easy peasy recipe here!

[tht01gurl]

[vii-10]

Damn this hit me hard , I needed this talk as a little girl. s/o to her mom for destroying the self hate in such a great way

[psychedelicfelon]

This shit almost made me cry lol

[thegoodmaniac]

Love this

[kxnyew-deactivated20150523]

You know I always think about how I’m gonna address this problem with my kids especially my daughters. I know if someone sat me down and told me things like that at that age it would had spared me so much trouble. The way she handled it was perfect especially because its not the easiest talk to have. I love this ❤

[theblackamericanprincess-blog]

Crying cuz it’s unbelievable we have to tell our kids this and at such a young age they are perceptive of anti-Blackness

[prepfordwife]

I’ve reblogged this before and I will probably continue to reblog it every time I see it. This woman is such a good mommy. Not only did she explain to her daughter in clear and digestible way why she was beautiful and worthy but she smashed down the tantrum without talking over her daughter. She gave her the opportunity to speak in a way that made her feel respected and responded in kind. Her daughter left this conversation with her self esteem intact and a whole new take on how she feels about her skin. Good job, mommy.

[thefandomdropout]

Jesus Christ, I teared up. What an amazing mother, she even got her to realize her friend was brown and beautiful too.

[visualdelinquent-deactivated202]

it hits home how hard we have to work for our little girls to know they're’re beautiful because the media doesn't do it for us, visual representation is everything. paint every cartoon black, every princess black if you have to, let them know they’re amazing and important. 

[melabellalemondrop]

White people don’t go through this, and they think racism, the whole system, is something you can just get over. “Oh don’t hate white ppl that’s bad” but bitch my daughter hates herself because of you fuck outta here

[knowledgeiskingg]

i fucken loved this

[thehyphenn]

i cried I cant even lie to you!

[kabams-deactivated20180908]

Can you guys link me to the original source??

[ourlove-ourstory-deactivated201]

[depeachy]

reblog if you’re part of the “I don’t have an faq page because barely anyone ever messages me” squad

[thered-gisterednurse-blog]

Driving home at 0745 after night shift

[astoldbyanurse]

Accurate.

[parksandfluff]

[buzzfeedlgbt]

Let’s Hear It For All The Ladies Rocking Suits At Prom

[feelsmoor]

standing ovation, yass what a time to be alive

[singlemamavt]

A friend during high school wore a suit to prom, this was 2003. She is straight and I was jealous. She went alone and had a blast. I went with a guy who had been crushing on me since 7th grade and didn't have the best time. If I could do it all over again I would totally wear a suit.

[baddiesims]

Simyoncé throwing that ass in a circle. 

[urbandailydotcom]

The many faces of North West- 9/7 Labor Day. The Wests take New York City

[fatandbougie]

she is so freaking cute, I can’t even take it.

[greeneyes-anddimples]

I’m gonna cry… Omg.

[quickweaves]

i wish they would let this baby scalp breave

[singlemamavt]

North gets me!