Too Many Eyes and Counting

Hello! I'm Shoe (they/them). || 18+ || I write and draw. || Glad to have you here. || I also do comms now!

[bramblepatch]

A lot of people on this site aren't going to want to hear this but a lot of the time an argument between two trans people with different lived experiences isn't transandrophobia or transmisogyny it's just two combative dumbasses squaring up like turkeys who have just seen their reflection in a hubcap.

[nongunktional]

i do think the negative interpretations of "im probably nonbinary but i have a job right now" are kind of reaching. it's obviously a waste of time to theorize the op's intended meaning, so instead i think it's better to recognize how the phrase can be a useful framing device to criticize how much of a fucking hassle it is to get gendered correctly. "but i have a job" e.g. will face discrimination that could threaten livelihood; e.g. don't have the mental bandwidth to explain gender to others; e.g. don't have the time and energy for the soul-searching necessary to confirm. all three of these are labor issues. yes you could interpret it as "but being nonbinary isn't important enough to worry about", despite that being a blatantly bad-faith read. it's more useful to interpret it as "but being publicly nonbinary requires a lot of social effort that, in many cultural contexts, will create more problems that you can't afford to deal with". like cmon it's a really good jumping off point for productive conversations about queer labor rights

[michelleion]

someone disagreeing with you isn't "bad faith". saying "i don't have time to worry about my gender" does imply that the gender isn't worth worrying about; it contributes to a culture of nonbinary people being viewed as less trans than their binary trans counterparts. you dont see anyone post, "im a trans woman but i cant worry about that because i have a job."

[t4timekeeper]

“why did people characterize him like this when it doesn’t even make sense“ unfortunately the answer is usually racism

[punkitt-is-here]

my personal metric is that if you've know me as trans longer than you've known me when I was cis and you still get my pronouns wrong you're a dumbass sorrryyyy

[catmask]

by the way. it never is too late to decide you want to be happy. the woman who helped me get hormones didnt start hers until she was 70, and i met her at 73, beautiful and smiling - and told me that the last three years of her life had been her favorite. your favorites might be ahead of you too. why not hang around and find out?

[anaislikestoart]

[junkyarded]

so awesome that you can see something new come out and think wow that looks bad and then never watch it and keep living

[legallydragonic]

I like this movie

[legallydragonic]

I like this movie

[tonysopranoproskater69420]

once you notice half of all memes are just a picture of a black person with unrelated text over them you really cannot unsee it

[phantomrose96]

Hey kids, you need to start worrying a little less about getting “#mogged” and a little more about getting “#smogged”. This is an Air Quality Index public service announcement.

[nitewrighter]

Parent: I just don't know how to get my child excited about reading!

*child grabs book off the shelf*

Parent: No, you're not reading that.

*child grabs another book*

Parent: Or that.

*child grabs another book*

Parent: Or that. *sigh* It's just such a shame that my kid isn't interested in reading!

[scramratz]

It sucks there seems to be a concerted effort to distance the transfem and transmasc communities from each other. If it weren’t for trans women, I probably wouldn’t have realized I was trans until much later in life.

The cis women in my life were so miserable in their womanhood, I thought that misery was normal. Seeing trans women actually love and fight to be seen as women made me question my own misery

[danielkahndyke]

[ntrider]

is there any trait less attractive than a lack of curiosity

[spellinwaiting]

not many people know this but when talking about your multiple pronoun-using friend you build up a combo meter for every subsequent unique pronoun you use

[roscolux]

need to beam this tweet directly into everyone's minds right now