âIf you keep speaking to me I will lash out for reasons that are not your fault. I need a few minutes to clear my head but am not done with the conversationâ script: âhey, I am really sorry to leave all of a sudden, but Iâm going to [step outside/go make myself something to drink/head to the bathroom] for a few minutes. When we come back, Iâm happy to keep talking though. This is a really [interesting/important/complicated/etc] conversation, and I donât want to just drop it.â
'Mid conversation I ran out of people energy, and I wonât be able to keep speaking constructively. I need to leave now or I will explode' script: âHey, Iâm sorry, but itâs getting late, and I should really be going. Itâs been really lovely speaking to you; we have to get together again sometime soon. But I really need to head out. Iâll talk to you later?â
âYour opinions are bad and you should feel bad about them, but I have some reason to not tell you that. instead i want out as fast as possible from this conversation and/or to reroute it IMMEDIATELYâ: âI can see why youâd think that, yeah. I get what youâre saying, but, you know, I donât really know this topic well enough to talk about it, you know? What about [tangential, barely related thing that is safe to talk about that they also care about]?â Wait a few minutes, nod and mmhmm at some stuff, and then check your phone and go âOh, no, itâs getting pretty late. I have to run, but Iâll talk to you later, alright?â (This one is very useful when your unfortunately unavoidable but incredibly prejudiced grandparents come around and your parents will be mad if you start screaming arguments with them over the Thanksgiving table, especially if you can reroute them into a topic of conversation that other people care about rather than running away wholesale.)
âyou are so fucking annoying. never speak to me againâ or other variants of âfuck offâ that you dont want to just say that way to someone you know because that is fucking mean. basically a friendship breakup script: âListen, I think youâre a great person, and I donât want you to take this the wrong way because itâs really not personal, but I think you and I are very different people, with very different interests. Thatâs not a bad thing, but I donât think that you would enjoy spending much time with me, and vice versa. I wish you the best, but Iâd rather we just stay acquaintances, alright?â (Donât do this unless you absolutely mean it, but itâs good to know what to say when you mean it.)
i can do more but i canât think of any off the top of my head, but even in miserable interactions with people you still have to know how to treat people with courtesy and be a little polite. there are many reasons you could want to know how to tell someone to fuck off impolitely, but those are easier; if you want to try and be cognizant of other peopleâs feelings while still making your point itâs, you know. hard. hopefully these are helpful