i like to share my thoughts and talk about internet discourse // former radqueer ♱⃓ ⋆.˚ minor I may discuss topics such as child abuse, CSA, gr**ming, and paraphillic disorders. please block me if this makes you uncomfortable.
this is a blog for debates, discussion of ethics and morals, discourse, and mostly, talking about paraphillic disorders and the phenomenon that is the radqueer community.
a little about the person behind the blog ; my pronouns are he/him, you can refer to me by skull. I used to be a radqueer on tumblr (more specifically in “AAM” spaces.) I’m a minor, so please refrain from saying violent or sexual things directed toward me. I’m very interested in morals and ethics, and my interest at the moment is with radqueers! though I’ve also written thesis’s on abortion, dark fiction/lolisho, and incest, and I might create side blogs to talk about these topics! I’m a person of color, an agnostic atheist, and American. I have a fascination with radqueers, as a I do a lot of internet communities and discourse, but radqueers especially since I spent about a year participating in it. I don’t call myself an anti of almost anything, and would consider myself radqueer-critical.
dni ; if you are a radqueer unable to challenge your beliefs, people who send rape/death threats to people they disagree with
byf ; I will discuss dark and triggering topics such as grooming, CSA, ASA, ACSA, paraphillic disorders, child predators, pedophillia, hebephillia, “the big three” paraphillic disorders, and mental health.
you may not ; send me death or rape threats, tell me you hope I commit suicide, or that you think I should get killed or sexually assaulted. If you choose to do this, be prepared to receive what you dish out back. I am a minor, it is illegal in the USA to send me death or rape threats, I’ve deadass reported people to the authorities for this in the past already and reached out to their families so leave me aloneee
I’m not currently in search of online friends, but I’d love mutuals, debate, or to join any radqueer-critical groups. thank you for reading.
you’re not a “transnazi”, you’re the scum of the earth!
you’re not an “AAM”, you’re a child with a crush!
sex/child predators, racists, and groomers are not a part of or welcome in the queer community.
mentally ill people, such as extremely deluded individuals and those with paraphillic disorders, should not be enabled or encouraged. by doing so, you are actively destroying this persons mental health.
mental illnesses do not make you queer, but you deserve help, not to be told everything is okay.
Radqueers try not to be uneducated and undermine the mental turmoil and medical proof of paraphillic disorders challenge one, two, three, go!
but whatever, let’s talk about it since I’ve been wanting to anyway. also going over other stuff in the radqueer community, I wanted to make a big post about paraphillic disorders so here it is!
paraphillic disorders are real, and why they should not be liberated or “accepted.”
I can go into that idiotic nazi argument in another post. I was planning on going over it in this one, but just talking about paraphillic disorders got extremely long! since they’re two very different topics, I’ll discuss them separately.
tw for under the cut ; frequent mentions of CSA, childhood neglect and trauma, sexual abuse and assault, pedophillia, zoophillia, necrophillia, lots of mental health talk and obviously discussion of paraphillias and paraphillic disorders
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the statement “paraphillic disorders aren’t real” is extremely anti-mental health for a community who claims to be focused on the destigmitaztion of mental disorders. so, here’s all the scientific proof and insight on paraphillic disorders. while I’d love to hear your opinions, please do not attempt to debate me without reading through my entire post.
first, let’s talk about what qualifies something as a disorder? as defined by the World Health Organization: a clinically significant disturbance in an individual’s cognition, emotional regulation, or behaviour. the key thing about disorders is that they cause significant distress and harm to an individual. a few facts about mental disorders from the WHO:
nearly 1 in 7 people in the world live with a mental disorder.
mental disorders can severely disrupt daily life and cause long-term suffering if left untreated.
effective prevention and treatment options exist.
most people do not have access to effective care.
so, now that we’ve established what a mental disorder is, I’d next like to define the difference between a paraphillia and a paraphillic disorder. chances are, you have a paraphillia. There are 547~ paraphillias currently recognized. If you really like boobs, you have a paraphillia. If you find certain outfits particularly extremely sexually arousing (like lingerie), you have a paraphillia. If you like biting, butts, or tom/femboys, you have a paraphillia! so, now that we know paraphillias are an extremly common phenomenon that you most likely have, we can talk about paraphillic disorders.
this is how a paraphillic disorder is distinguished from paraphillia’s by the NLM: A paraphilia becomes a pathology, or a paraphilic disorder, only when this behavior causes significant distress and impairment of functioning to the individual or if the paraphilia involves personal harm or risk of harm to others. So for example, a urine fetish is not always categorized as paraphillic disorder. if you are unable to go to work and get out of bed because all you can think about is pee, you have a paraphillic disorder. the difference with things like pedophillia, zoophillia, and necrophillia, is that they are always paraphillic disorders, because they always involve harm towards another human being, and harm to yourself.
why are paraphillic disorders bad? a paraphillic disorder always involves one or more of the following: a persons inability to function in normal life, personal distress and harm, a non-consenting party. children and animals can not consent to sexual contact with adults, this is common sense to most of us, therefore I will not be going into that in this post. I shouldn’t need to state this, but neither can corpses as they are not conscious. anyway, no innocent human being deserves the mental turmoil and distress that comes from a paraphillic disorder, no innocent human being deserves to not be able to function in normal life due to their mental disorder, no human being deserves to feel disgusting, to live in fear of hurting a child or animal. that is why we have help for those with paraphillic disorders, and while if should be more accessible, there is a reason it is stigmatized (will address later).
why is denying the existence of paraphillic disorders a disgusting and horrible thing to do? the most common causes of paraphillic disorders are the following: early/childhood exposure to extreme sexual content and pornography and CTE (childhood tramuatic events, such as sexual abuse, physical abuse/neglect, emotional abuse/neglect). This is cited from science direct: (Maletzky, 1993). Knight, Ronis, and Zakireh (2009) found a relationship between CTE, and frotteurism, exhibitionism and voyeurism among juvenile sexual offenders. Emotional abuse was found to be a developmental risk factor for exhibitionism (Lee, Jackson, Pattison, & Ward, 2002), pedophilia (Daversa & Knight, 2007; Lee et al., 2002) and sadism (Longpré, Guay, & Knight, 2018). people are actually living through this, people have to go about their lives with their involuntary sexual desires and suffer. you are denying the mental suffering these people go to, and that is disgusting. don’t claim you care about mental health if the second a mental disorder contradicts your ideology, you claim it’s not real.
the claim that “most pedophiles do not sexually abuse children”. no, not all child predators are pedophiles. some of them are hebephiles, and some of them aren’t attracted to pre/pubescent children at all, and are just doing it due to the power they hold over children, due to other mental illnesses, just to harm someone who can’t fight back. according to NLM, 50% of all individuals who sexually abuse children are pedophillic. the rest almost all fall under the category of the reasons listed above. approximately 63,000 children are sexually abused every year. take this statistic with a grain of salt, due to the fact that 30% of sexual abuse is never reported. quote from a sexual abuse survivor: “Most offenders [who sexually abuse children] will never end up on a registry as it is extremely rare that these individuals are held accountable for sexual offenses. An individual who does end up on such a registry has done something very wrong indeed.” so, let’s say, theoretically, each child was abused by a singular individual, and if 50% of the offending individuals are pedophillic, that would mean 31,500 child sex abusers are pedophiles out of every 63,000. so no, not every pedophile is a child predators. but it certainly increases the risk of an individual sexually abusing a child.
in conclusion; denying the existence of paraphillic disorders is both ignorant, factually wrong, and sanist. a paraphillic disorder is a mental health disorder, and not a queer sexual orientation. homosexuality is not predatory, you are implying that it is by claiming paraphillic disorders are queer in any way shape or form. radqueers do not care about the wellbeing and suffering of those with paraphillic disorders and they do not care that these people are more likely to go on to be sex predators. people with life-debilitating mental disorders such as pedophillia deserve help, not to be told that everything is okay—because it isn’t. if a mental disorder makes you more likely to sexually abuse someone, you need to seek cognitive behavioral therapy, for the good of yourselves and the rest of us. stop telling extremely mentally ill people that they’re fine, you assholes.
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anyway, I’ve been using tumblr for a few years and I’m super used to just typing what I’m talking about in the tags and clicking everything that pops up. I have had disgusting things said to me by radqueers already and it’s clear to me many of these people are not prepared to have their opinions challenged or engage in kind and respectful debate. therefore, I’ll no longer use the radqueer community tags. I’m still always open to hearing your conflicting thoughts (and in fact I’m very eager to), but I will not tolerate people telling me they hope I get m*lested because I disagree with them, that is vile.
sources used ; mental disorders (who), list of paraphillias (wikipedia), paraphillia (nlm), overview of paraphillias and paraphillic disorders (merck manual), the impact of childhood trauma, personality, and sexuality on the development of paraphilias (science direct), quick facts on child predators (ussc), The Neurobiology and Psychology of Pedophilia: Recent Advances and Challenges (nlm), sex offender registries (gpfcep), facts & statistics (rainn)
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resources for those with paraphillic disorders (no stupid shit with terms like MAP, or that attempts to group together minors and adults, as many of the ones I found are!);
- resources for pedophiles and hebephiles: https://www.stopitnow.org
this will be updated, but as of now, every single paraphillic disorder hotline I could find aims to treat minors and adults in the same space, or is associated/created by radqueers. people suffering from any paraphillic disorder deserve therapeutic help and a safe but firm place to discuss their feelings and learn how to prevent hurting themselves or a non-consenting individual.
you’re not a “transnazi”, you’re the scum of the earth!
you’re not an “AAM”, you’re a child with a crush!
sex/child predators, racists, and groomers are not a part of or welcome in the queer community.
mentally ill people, such as extremely deluded individuals and those with paraphillic disorders, should not be enabled or encouraged. by doing so, you are actively destroying this persons mental health.
mental illnesses do not make you queer, but you deserve help, not to be told everything is okay.
