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Let me start out by saying that I'm big fans of both you and your wife. Lately, I've noticed her commenting about being a single mother, I believe it was on a Facebook or Instagram post of her's, I dont recall. Anyway, how do you feel about her claims of being a single mother and life being hard because she works a lot. As a single mother I felt slightly offended because she is in fact not a single mother but has a husband who is well off and a part of their child's life.

I do understand why you are offended. I think what Amanda is saying is that she feels very much like a single mother right now. She’s in the US, with Ash. She dresses him and walks him to nursery school, picks him up, walks him home and looks after him until bed, and tries to get work done in the cracks, when he’s at school and after he’s asleep.

I’m in the UK right now, working 7 days a week 13-16 hours a day in order to get Good Omens over the finish line. I went home to the US for Thanksgiving, and at Xmas, but in the last 3 months I’ve been home for about 8 days altogether. And yes, I call home, and yes, I’m financially fine should Amanda not work (although Amanda makes her own money and does her own work, and has for much longer than I have known her, and is not stopping her album release schedule or touring plans because she has a child). But she’s being, in effect, a single mother right now, and one dealing with a small boy determined to go to London and see his dadda.

I go home on Saturday, if nothing untoward happens to keep me here, after working on Good Omens away from home full time in the UK and South Africa for 18 months. I cannot wait.

And then we will change roles.

It would not surprise me if, at times in the next 18 months, with Amanda on a world tour to support her upcoming album (It’s called There Will Be No Intermission) I wind up feeling a bit like a single father. (I won’t be. She will come back. But you can feel very lonely if you are looking after a child alone for a week or so, let alone for 3 months.)

(And yes, we are both privileged as hell and aware of that. She’s a songwriter and performer, and she’s successful, has a Patreon that supports her now better than an old-style record label ever would have done. I’m a bestselling author. We can afford food, places to live, and help, and we can afford babysitting and all the other things that make life as a parent less difficult. And we are grateful.)

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Bedtime cuddles

t3sla

look at this fucking baby

disgustinganimals

i can’t fucking believe this wtf wtf wtf wtf

lolawashere-deactivated20240904

Those were 2.20 minutes well spent!

icecreamsandwichcomics

Improvise Adapt Overcome

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purplebuddhaquotes

“Do you think the universe fights for souls to be together? Some things are too strange and strong to be coincidences.”

— Emery Allen

pure

as a general rule. if what we’re calling ‘cultural appropriation’ sounds like nazi ideology (i.e. ‘white people should only do white people things and black people should only do black people things’) with progressive language, we are performing a very very poor application of what ‘cultural appropriation’ means. this is troublingly popular in the blogosphere right now and i think we all need to be more critical of what it is we may be saying or implying, even unintentionally.

pyrrhiccomedy

There is nothing wrong with everyone enjoying each other’s cultures so long as those cultures have been shared.

Eating Chinese food, watching Bollywood movies, going to see Cambodian dancers, or learning to speak Korean so you can watch every K drama in existence is totally fine. The invitation to participate in those things came from within those cultures. The Mexican family that owns the place where I get fajitas wants me to eat fajitas. Their whole business model kind of depends on it, actually.

If you see something from another culture you think you might want to participate in, but you don’t know if that would be disrespectful or appropriative, you can just…ask. Like. A Jewish friend explained what a mezuzah was to me, recently. (It’s the little scroll-thing near their front doors that they touch when they come into their house. It basically means “this is a Jewish household.”)

“Oh, cool,” I said. “Can I touch it? Or is it only for Jewish people?”

“You can touch it or you can not touch it,” she said. “I don’t care.”

“Cool, I’m gonna touch it, then.”

“Cool.”

It’s not hard.

You want to twerk, twerk. I’ve never heard a black person say they didn’t think anybody else should be allowed to twerk. Just that they want us to acknowledge that they invented that shit, not Miley fucking Cyrus.

notcayleb

this is a good post.

maskedriderbiocore

Thank you, I was trying to sort this out in my head but you explained it very well.

habibialkaysani

#free exchange of culture is great - taking that culture without invite and pretending yours is an original take#(worse still profiting off it)#is cultural appropriation (by @gnimaerd)

tygermama

I REALLY WISH MY COMFORTING SKILLS WERE BETTER THAN

1 - I’M SORRY YOU’RE SAD

2 - PLEASE LET ME FEED YOU

3 - IS THERE ANYBODY YOU’D LIKE ME TO RUN OVER WITH MY CAR?

CAUSE I NEED MORE WORDINESS TO MAKE THE NICE FEELING HAPPEN

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“Can you hate someone for what they have done, but still love them for whom they had been?”

— Jodie Picoult, Nineteen Minutes (via books-n-quotes)

purplebuddhaquotes

“It was good for a while, being empty. I didn’t hurt anymore. But as time went on, it was like I could hear myself from far away, begging for permission to come back.”

— Myra McEntire