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things to not dwell on:

people who treated you badly

things you can’t change

comparing yourself to others

things to think about more:

baby animals

people who love u unconditionally

good things in your life that make you happy

days and times to look forward to

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traumasurvivors

Would you ever tell another survivor that their triggers are stupid?

Would you ever tell another survivor that their experience wasn’t “bad enough?”

Would you ever tell another survivor to “get over it?”

No? That’s what I thought. So, why are you an exception? Why are you not as deserving of your compassion and understanding?

Please show yourself that same compassion, because you are worthy of it.

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Unfortunately there have been other people who had said those similar things to me…

I’m tired to heat “just get over it” or “it was such a long time ago”…

But at least, I don’t tell other survivors like that.

#venting #trauma

Sometimes I feel useless…

#venting #babbling #sometimes I feel useless bc I can’t help people y’know?#if I can’t others then I feel for not to be able to help #Ig that’s one of the reason why I like to learn things #so that I can teach other ppl about it and feel useful for once…#but I don’t want to come off as a smartass or know-it-all #I just want to make people happy by teaching them a useful information that they can use

traumasurvivors

You know what? Trauma is hard. And yes, we know that. Of course it is.

But I want to point it out to you because it is hard and what this means is that it’s okay to feel scared and overwhelmed. It’s okay to struggle in your healing and general coping. In fact, it’s normal.

Whatever you’re feeling is normal and valid.

traumasurvivors

Grieving during your healing is completely normal. You may be grieving for the parts of you that you felt you lost or maybe the parts of you that changed. Maybe you’re grieving for what you wish had happened or for who you thought or wish someone was.

It’s okay to grieve and feel whatever it is you’re feeling. I’m sorry it’s so hard, and I hope it gets easier, but you aren’t wrong or a failure for grieving.

traumasurvivors

Healing is often painted as a beautiful, wonderful thing.

And it can be. It really can.

But it is often painful, ugly and hard. This is just a reminder that you aren’t failing if you’re in the part where it doesn’t feel good. If you’re in the part where it actually feels harder than before you started trying to heal.

You also aren’t a failure if it felt good for awhile and now doesn’t.

You are doing so much better than you think you are.

traumasurvivors

It is your responsibility to heal, but you know what? That wasn’t fair. And I want to acknowledge that.

You don’t deserve to heal from the things others did to you. You didn’t deserve what happened.

While you do have to do the work to heal, it’s okay to be angry that you have to in the first place. And it’s easy to get stuck on the fact that you shouldn’t have to. And I get that. But please don’t give up. You should heal because you deserve to be the healed you. It’s not fair you have to do it, but you deserve to heal.

traumasurvivors

To those of you who struggle with today for whatever reasons, you are valid. You’re going to be okay. You’re going to get through today.

Whether it’s dealing with toxic family, or maybe feelings of loneliness or whatever else, it’s valid if today isn’t a happy day for you. It’s valid if you aren’t thankful. It’s valid if this day actually makes things harder for you.

You’re going to get through this and tomorrow is a new day.

traumasurvivors

It’s okay to be angry. To be bitter. It’s okay if you came out hardened from your trauma. It doesn’t make you a “bad survivor”.

And even if you genuinely believe you’re a bad survivor, being a bad survivor wouldn’t change you validity, or whether you were deserving of healing and compassion.