I'm sorry but as a trans man, we absolutely have systemic power over trans women. Transphobic laws are less likely to target us—many sports and bathroom bills only ban trans women, and even those that do legally target us are less frequently enforced against us. Being men also just point blank gives us privilege in many social or employment situations, regardless of what you think. As a man, I have been offered promotions I don't ask for while the women I work with are denied the same promotions despite being more competent AND having seniority. My trans status is also easier to hide and less likely to be investigated than for most trans women—people assume I am cis, and most of the violent transphobia that exists right now is focused on outing and harassing trans women, not trans men.
Now, does all this mean that we benefit from all misogyny? Of course not. As you said, many laws designed to restrict the rights of women also apply to is. But we absolutely can and do benefit from A LOT of misogyny. We also absolutely face transphobic violence, but to act like the level of it is the same is frankly absurd. When I go out into the world, I might get a few odd looks depending on what I wear. When many of the trans women I know go out into the world, people openly stare at them the entire time they are in public. On some occasions I am read as a trans woman & I can tell you that I am treated significantly worse whenever it happens.
Also, someone you're in community with telling you you have privilege is not a refusal to acknowledge your oppression. It is a request for you to examine how others may be oppressed in ways you are not. Please consider that.
Look I'm going to try to be nice here but pretty much all of what you just said was complete bullshit.
First of all, about the transphobic laws; that's just not true! Let's take the UK bathroom laws for an example; it's a pretty common misconception that they "only" target trans women. When the laws were being pushed through trans women were used as the justification/excuse—that much is true—but trans men are also affected by the change in legal definition and are also put in some pretty difficult positions legally as a result.
In fact, after the ruling came out, there was an amendment specifically targeting transmasculine people; if any transmasculine person has recieved any kind of gender-affirming care in the UK, they are supposedly too much of a threat to be allowed in a woman's space. Therefore, they are not allowed in either gendered space (since they are not legally men, but legally threatening to women apparently). Trans women are at least allowed in male bathrooms (which is obviously not great but it's something); trans men are allowed nowhere.
Trans men might not have specific laws banning us from elite sports, but that isn't because we're allowed to play; it's because they're not needed. It happens like this: in order to qualify for male leagues (in terms of hormone levels), trans men would need to take testosterone. Doping rules in most elite sports ban testosterone (without any kind of exceptions for trans athletes). Therefore, trans men in most elite sports can't take testosterone, therefore meaning they can't qualify for men's leagues in the first place. It's a pretty robust catch-22. Trans men are absolutely no more legally able than trans women to play elite sports. Just because you haven't noticed it doesn't mean it's not there.
Second of all, let's circle back to that phrase: "systemic power over trans women". I don't think you know what it means.
Systemic power over a certain group doesn't mean being discriminated against less (which... isn't the case for trans men statistically speaking actually), it means that the group has the systemic power to change/influence the other group's situation. Trans men do not have the power of the system on our side here. We cannot dictate what happens to trans women on a systemic level. So, honestly, even if absolutely everything else you said was true (which it wasn't), you would still be completely wrong because you equivocate Not Being Murdered with systemic power. I think it would be worthwhile to actually go back to some other social theories to brush up on your understanding of what systemic power actually specifically means.
Otherwise... do you have a source for anything else? You kind of just say A Lot Of Stuff that seems more true to your personal situation, which is fine, but This Isn't About You (specifically). Saying that bans are less enforced against trans men (no source), privilege in employment situations (no source), your personal experience (personal experience, no ability to verify and/or debate), you personally pass more (personal experience, NOT UNIVERSAL, trans men who pass perfectly are not the majority and woah boy have you seen the kind of shit that happens to trans dudes who are visibly trans and also don't pass???? Also falls into logical trap of equivocating cis passing privilege with some kind of trans privilege), violent transphobia happening more to trans women (no source; I do partially agree with this one but there are several counterarguments that I've made before on this blog and honestly I can't be fucked rn to go through All Of It again), and finally, the original point of the post I assume you're responding to: trans men benefit from misogyny (no source).
Like. Buddy. C'mon. Those are a lot of words with very little argumentative power. You're kind of just saying shit because you think it's true, not because you have evidence to back it up, which would be fine if not for the fact that you're expecting a debate and I just spent half an hour typing all this shit out.
Just because you are (also) a trans man doesn't mean doing your research isn't important. I think it's especially important for you to understand the risks your community is facing, even if you haven't experienced all of these things personally.
And finally, in response to your last paragraph; the post I assume you're responding to (given the timing) was drafted to argue against another post spreading the deeply transphobic assumption that trans men are more likely to be misogynistic. That is dangerous. I don't fuck around with that TERF shit and neither should you; there is a lot of staunchly demonising anti-transmasculine rhetoric seeping into all kinds of queer spaces right now and we don't need it spreading unchecked. If I see shit I will say shit, the same way I say shit when I see someone being transmisogynistic. These aren't just debates. Shit is happening to trans men In Real Life, and if you're more interested in stacking your marginalisation blocks into nice little hierarchies, I have no interest in joining you.
"We are all faggots in the eyes of the state". Stop telling your brothers to shut up and start doing something about it.
