A couple of months ago, I shifted to a reality where sexism doesn't exist. The only reason why I shifted back is that I want to make this post, but after this I'm permashifting to that reality.
There's That Change In My DR Without Sexism:
There's way more that changed, but I really don't feel like typing them all as I'm trying to leave this reality asap.
No job is culturally coded as “for men” or “for women.”
Physical labor jobs (construction, mining, military) are staffed by people with the right build, endurance, or training.
Caregiving professions (nursing, teaching young children, caretaking) are status-neutral and often high-pay, because they were never feminized.
Career expectations are identical, so there’s no “work vs family” framing by sex, and parental leave equally used and expected by both sexes.
Stuff like “male-dominated” or “female-dominated” fields don’t exist.
Glass ceilings, glass cliffs, “boys’ clubs”, “pink-collar vs blue-collar work”, etc. doesn’t exist.
Height and muscle mass differences doesn’t exist. The average height for both sexes are the same, but it does change depending on the country. For example the average height is 5’9 in America but in the Netherlands it’s 6ft.
The whole “naturally better leaders”, “more emotional”, “more logical”, “weaker / stronger minds”, etc. based on sex doesn’t exist.
Characters are written as people first, sex second. Meaning the media never uses sex as shorthand for innocence, danger, emotional depth, and authority.
There’s no genre assumptions like action movies are for men and romance for women. Also the whole “women audiences vs men audiences” and “female-led movie” marketing doesn’t exist.
Sexualization still exist but it’s not just mostly women, it happens to both genders. It’s also not tied to moral judgment.
Aging is a normal/neutral thing. There’s no obsession with “aging women” and youth isn’t sex-coded. That being said pedos and stuff like that also doesn’t exist.
The Bechdel Test doesn’t exist.
The male gaze theory isn’t a thing.
There's’ tons of popular characters from this reality that’s are the opposite sex in my dr.
There’s no male/female sports. Sports aren’t split by gender.
There’s objectification framed as empowerment or degradation.
Children grow up seeing leaders, villains, geniuses, caretakers, soldiers, and artists of all sexes equally normalized. So there’s no shock value when someone of any sex occupies power.
Dating Culture & Relationships
The whole men have to be experienced and women be pure and innocent doesn’t exist.
Courtship norms are personality-based, not sex-based.
There’s no “provider vs dependent” assumption.
For stuff like sexual expression there’s no double standards.
Stuff like “men should pay”, “women are gatekeepers”, etc doesn’t exist.
Purity culture tied to sex doesn’t exist.
And the whole “masculine” vs “feminine” energy discourse isn’t a thing. Masculine and feminine is basically the same, it’s like the words actor/actress.
“Marriage material” stereotypes aren’t tied to a sex.
Breakups, jealousy, and commitment issues exist but aren’t blamed on a gender.
History & Power Structures
There’s no historical periods where one sex is legally subordinate or rights are denied based on sex.
Dynasties, empires, revolutions led by whoever had legitimacy, not a sex.
Rulers, inventors, generals, philosophers, religious leaders, etc are evenly distributed across sexes since the beginning of time.
Wars where never framed as “men’s duty”. (Fun fact, in America it was conserided “white people’s duty” back in the day as black people weren’t allowed to fight during WW1.)
Suffrage movements doesn’t exist.
Feminism / anti-feminism doesn’t exist.
Culture, Language & Social Norms
Respect in authority is tied to role, age, skill, or status—not sex.
There’s no praise based on defying sex norms.
Titles and honorifics are sex-neutral.
No infantilization terms tied to sex.
All emotional expression is normal, so there’s no “crying is weak” logic.
Terms like, women in STEM, female CEO, girlboss, “women entering the workforce”, I’m just a girl, “Strong female character” as a phrase, Slut vs stud, “First woman to ___”, “act like a man / lady”, “ooys will be boys”, etc. doesn’t exist.
There’s no gendered insults like “bitch,” “man up,” “emasculated”.
Sexist “jokes” doesn’t exist.
Medical research always studies both sexes equally.
Pain reports are taken seriously regardless of sex.
Reproductive health is not moralized.
Mental health is not sex-stereotyped.
Stuff like “women’s pain is exaggerated”, “men don’t seek help” narratives, gendered mental health stigma doesn’t exist.
Deities, prophets, saints, leaders are mixed from the start. Meaning there’s tons of women ones has men.
Moral authority is not sex-linked.
No doctrines of obedience tied to sex.
Stuff like headship ideology, Eve-type blame narratives, sacred gender hierarchies doesn’t exist.
Toys, colors, games, and interests are never segregated.
Emotional expression is encouraged for all children.
Risk-taking and nurturing are taught to everyone.
Puberty education is factual, calm, and equal.
No shame cycles tied to bodies.
No social hierarchy built around sexual reputation.
There’s no dress codes targeting one sex.
Overprotection vs neglect based on sex isn’t a thing.
Adultification of one group of children doesn’t exist.
Crimes are defined without sex-based assumptions.
Victims are believed based on evidence, not identity.
Self-defense laws apply equally.
There’s no “crimes of passion” excuses.
There’s no victim-blaming narratives.
There’s no protection laws that infantilize one sex.
There’s also much less violence in the world.
How Men Act Differently In My DR
Men are taught emotional literacy from early childhood.
Crying, fear, affection, tenderness, and uncertainty are normal and respected.
Emotional restraint exists as a skill, not an identity requirement.
Men are better communicators and less reactive.
Aggression is corrected early, not excused.
Accountability is immediate and consistent.
There’s no aggression being reframed as dominance or leadership and social rewards for intimidation.
Men are statistically less violent.
Conflict is more verbal, strategic, or withdrawn, not physical.
Male sexuality isn’t treated as uncontrollable or predatory.
Consent is ingrained as instinctive, not taught as a rule.
Desire doesn’t equal entitlement.
There’s no “men can’t help themselves”, excusing harassment or assault, virginity myths tied to masculinity or pressure to “prove” sexual success.
Men don’t base worth on dominance, income, stoicism, or sexual success.
Caregiving, artistry, softness, and dependence are valid identities.
There’s no crisis of masculinity, fear of being perceived as “weak” or “feminine”, fear of commitment framed as male nature, or ego-based competition as default bonding.
There’s more diverse male personalities.
Men have stronger friendships, and there’s less loneliness among men.
Men are not socialized to avoid emotional labor.
Men attachment styles are healthier.
Men are better long-term partners and there’s less emotional immaturity among them.
How Women Act Differently In My DR
Appearance is expressive, not mandatory.
Beauty is optional and not currency.
Aging is neutral, not a moral failure.
Things like beauty as worth self-surveillance, constant body comparison, grooming as obligation, and sexualization from childhood doesn’t exist.
Women are less anxious, less self-critical.
Women have more mental energy for creativity, leadership, risk, and ambition.
Women are never taught to shrink, soften, or apologize for presence.
Assertiveness is natural, not “learned.”
Anger is allowed and respected.
Stuff like “Bossy,” “shrill,” “too much”, over-apologizing, indirect communication for safety, fear of being disliked for competence, fear-driven niceness, social conditioning to avoid male anger, “don’t provoke” logic doesn’t exist.
Women speak more directly.
There’s less self-doubt among women.
Women have stronger leadership styles emerge earlier.
Women take risks earlier and more often.
Power is not seen as unfeminine.
Women’s desire is neutral—not taboo, not empowering, not shameful.
Sexual boundaries are respected without justification.
Desire is self-directed, not reactive.
Women don’t live in constant risk-calculation mode.
There’s no hypervigilance, appeasement, or pre-emptive politeness.
Social Conflicts That Doesn’t Exist:
Red pill / blue pill ideologies
Incels / femcels as categories
Culture wars over masculinity/femininity
Conflict still exists—but over class, race, nation, ideology, and power, but not sex.
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