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Androcles and the Crips

About 25 years ago, my Mom knew this young woman from her church who went to the bad area of Chicago for her mission. The first thing she and her mission partner did was go to their neighbors and ask where the totally gang-whipped parts of town were. And then they baked like, 200 cookies and goo around with the tray in the area, offering everyone some cookies. After a while, this became a weekly thing on their personal day and they knew a bunch of these old-school gang members and would personally deliver soup when they were sick and whatnot.

Well, one day they were walking through to see someone with an appointment and they got jumped. Missionaries from the LDS church are trained to have a money clip with about $50 on it, so they threw that and ran. When they got back from their appointment, two big guys were waiting with their money clip… that had more money in it.

Long story short be the super nice person and literally, everyone will want to protect you. Don’t be the Alpha but make the Alpha think that you are just too precious for the world.

everydaylouie

magikarp…they’re trying their best…

starlifeline2002

Ouch

spideylilparker

The Father

The Son

The Holy Spirit

I hope your day has been fully blessed

nightskyblufaith

And from the official acc as well...lmao

busyxfangirling

Ah, there’s that gen Z humour….

lynati

findingfeather

Honestly I think this is an excellent step for us as a culture and species but man a lot of older humans are pissed off about it.

sandersstudies

If you and your partner practice frequent, non-sexual consent, your relationship will be healthier and easier.

“Are you comfortable with me ranting about my day for a few minutes?”

“Oh, this is your poetry? Would it be okay if I read it?”

“Do you mind if I use your phone for a few minutes?”

“Wow, your meal looks awesome. Could I try some?”

It will save a lot of grief, especially in a developing relationship. Eventually, with consistent “yes’s” and “no’s” you can figure out more permanent boundaries and guidelines.

“I need to ask before ranting about my day or taking their food, but my partner is okay with me using their phone whenever. However, my partner does not like me reading their poetry unless they offer first.”

sandersstudies

And this goes for friendships too! Even just stuff like “do you mind if I leave this door open?”

doomhamster

…I never fully realized it before but this is a big part of why my relationship with my husband is so conflict-free. Both because him doing this all the time made it easy to trust him, back when we were a new item, and because it helped ME break out of the toxic idea that you should never ask about a partner’s preferences because if you Really Loved Them you should be able to intuit what they want, all the time, about anything.

tygermama

my one son is autistic so I ask ‘hug or no hug?’ I always knock and wait to be acknowledged before opening my sons’ bedroom doors (not just because I respect their privacy but because they’re teenagers and I don’t want to walk in on any personal activities) I don’t go into their rooms without asking I don’t touch their phones without asking (I’ll pick one up to take to them if I find it in another room but I won’t go through it) yesterday, my younger son walked into my room, stopped, said sorry and walked out to the hall and knocked on my door ‘because if I have to knock on his door, he has to knock on mine’ because their trust is important and I want them to know I respect their privacy

sophygurl

Consent is not just for sex. Consent is not just for sex. Consent is not just for sex.

jedimasterazeroth

This is called “Manners” and “Etiquette”, something your parents should have taught all of you and if they didn’t, there are social courses where you can learn both. Manners and Etiquette aren’t just table manners, its also social manners and relationship manners.

ruinedchildhood

hardstoplucas1

“If I didn’t see you then you didn’t do it”

nattousan

this guy is excelling in a completely unique genre of his own creation that consists of extremely relatable humor steeped in twilight zone horror and i am here for it