One of the most important things to unpack and unlearn when youāre part of a white supremacy saturated society (i.e. the global north) and especially if you were raised in an intensified form of it (evangelicism, right wing politics, explicit racism) is the urge to punish and take revenge.
It manifests in our lives all the time and it is inherently destructive. It makes relationships and interactions adversarial for no good reason. It undermines cooperation and good civic order. It worsens some types of crime. It creates trauma, especially in children.
Imagine approaching unexpected or unacceptable behavior from a perspective of "how can this be stopped, and prevented" instead of "youāre going to regret this!ā
Imagine dealing with a problem or conflict from the perspective of āhow can this be solved in a way that is just and restorativeā instead of āthe people who caused this are going to pay.ā
How much would that change you? How much would that have changed for you?
Please.
