D/s 101: If you call yourself a Dominant, donโt do this stuff...
You have adopted a title that should come with a giant heaping dose of honor, respect, and trustworthiness.ย
1. Donโt make demands of submissive girls that donโt belong to you. You should know the difference between having the ability to control your own submissive, and how you should be treating all the rest that donโt belong to you.
2. Donโt talk intimately/woo other submissives behind the back of the one that belongs to you. All the time and energy you have to put into the submissive world should be aimed at your own submissive. If you want a different submissive, do the right thing, and break with the one you currently own first.
3. Donโt ditch submissives. How would you feel if the person you depend on for nearly everything suddenly went up in a puff of smoke, and was never heard from again? How would it effect your ability to trust someone else to take up the same role in your life? Stop ghosting, and ruining perfectly good submissives.ย
4. Donโt cut your submissive out from contributing to your relationship. Yes, I know she put you in charge, but relationships evolve, and if you donโt attend to what she wants out of yours, your relationship is likely to evolve in separate directions. You can still be in charge, and listen to her wants and needs, I promise.ย
5. Donโt ask someone you just met to be your submissive. Itโs your job to inspire her to submit to you, by getting to know who she is, and showing her that you are the single most qualified man to be her Dominant. Donโt be lazy. Being a Dominant takes a lot of focus and energy. If youโre not up for that, go find another title to adopt.ย
6. Donโt put your submissive on a shelf when caring for her is not convenient to you, and take her down off the shelf when it suits you. Submissives are human beings, and though some of them like to be treated like objects from time to time, they should not be ignored when you donโt feel like dealing with your relationship. If you donโt have to the time and energy to adopt the role of Dominant for someone, then donโt do it in a half-assed way.
7. Donโt compare your current submissive with past submissives. Itโs not a competition. You should be making her feel like sheโs the most important person in your current world, so donโt make her feel like sheโs less than other submissives, or that youโre pining for something you no longer have, and feel you canโt have with her.ย
8. Donโt skimp on the essential ingredients in D/s relationships. Donโt be that guy who limits your submissives safeword in any way. A safeword is the difference between consensual sex, and possible rape and abuse. Donโt skimp on aftercare. Let her know how much you appreciate all the control she continuously allows you to have over her, and how well she is performing for you. Itโs the difference between a proud and happy submissive, and a sad and confused one.ย
9. Donโt make unilateral decisions that your submissive is directly opposed to. You donโt get to decide your submissive needs a sister because it suits you to have a second submissive to play with, when itโs patently against her wishes. Once again, itโs her relationship too.ย
10. Donโt lie to your submissive. Itโs all about trust. Itโs trust that inspires her to submit to you. Itโs trust that inspires her to allow you to continue to hold her submission. One or two breaches of trust, and it all falls apart.ย
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