reminder that this is an nsfw feedism blog that prioritises consent + communication ⚠️
(what I share here and who I interact with only apply to those who share + consent to the same k!nks)
messages + asks are open 💬
(be nice and respectful if you'd actually like a response)
DNI: MINORS, CISHET MEN, TERFS, SWERFS, RACISTS, ZIONISTS, ETC. ❌
(cishet men - you're welcome in my messages, only for non-sexual chat)
I will not respond to ageless and blank blogs 🫥
(I implore you to work on that internalised fatphobia of yours)
usually slow with responding to messages, but I love talking to y'all ⏳
(and maybe don’t just say hello if you want a response)
DO NOT steal/repost my photos (rbs only) 📷
if you’re ever feeling generous and would like to help me stay (or get) fatter, here’s my kofi 💕
TAGS 🏷️: #asks, #spicy-sappho for horny posting, #thoughts for everything else (usually fat lib, social justice or life stuff)
open up below for - about me, feedism specifics, and fat liberation resources
🙋🏻♀️ mag (she/they)
🫦 fa + feeder + feedee (more details below)
🍔 cw: ~110kg (242lbs) 📏 5”1
🏳️🌈 lesbian + demisexual + non-monogamous
💖 currently in the cutest feedist relationship with @doughyfatfox and persistently getting each other fatter. we also run feedism.neocities.org!
💫 liberation and decolonisation for ALL (fats, queers, trans+, poc, indigenous, etc.)
📍 currently in the UK
🌍 poc (asian)
combine that w foodie and you get a fattie who’ll talk to you all day about food, from my culture to plenty others’… I’ve been told I give the best reccs, and I also love to cook for others when I have the spoons 🤤
🇵🇸 free palestine, or fuck off
✨ my relationship with fatness and sexuality can be best described as fat-forward (interesting paper here) - as a lifelong fat, fatness is not just a kink, but is also central to how I navigate (non-kinky) sex, physical attraction, romance. to me... fatness is inherently desirable
💡ethical kink and fat liberation are essential in my practice of feedism
ok onto the horny part you pervs
switch - currently a bottom-leaning pillow princess
I am a land of contrasts - I love the care and sensuality of soft feedism, but i also want you to tease, degrade, and humiliate me 😳
I go feral for soft, jiggly, hanging and heavy bellies full of subcutaneous fat 😵💫
big supporter of gaining for a belly that hangs lower and becomes harder to lift, and a fůpa that gets chubbier and chubbier
🎀 as long as you identify as sapphic/wlw, I might be into you 💕
here are my feedism jars - let's get to know each other if we share the same k!nks 💞 I will not engage with ❌s
(jar graphic made by yours truly! and it's also interactive, over at feedism.neocities.org!)
🙇🏻♀️ queen of intellectualising just about everything, including my own k!nks - I firmly believe that everything we do is political and that it's necessary to balance and equally prioritise introspection, discourse and pleasure
I'm acutely aware of the stigma and inclusion/exclusion of this fetish in fat lib spaces; I believe we need mutual solidarity and respect, which starts with discourse!
🎓 predictably, I love academia - research, meta-social science, statistics, psychology, anthropology, sociology, etc.; I'm currently hauling my burnt out ass into (hopefully) a research career
✊🏾 social justice ↔️ academia for me - knowledge has been the single most powerful tool in expanding my passion for social justice, but epistemics itself also needs to rehauled, decolonised, made more accessible
🔮 agnostic and casually spiritual, not (yet) into the new age-y stuff but trust me, nothing's too woo-woo for me atp
👻 which means I love paranormal content! ghouls, aliens, internet oddities and liminal spaces... TELL ME MORE
🎨 a creative person - a crafty hobby-hopper, journaller, stationery and fountain pen enthusiast, I also like to make my data analysis code look pretty
🎶 lady gaga (the loml), lorde, magdalena bay, the marias, MARINA, and many more within pop, indie, electronica/synth; I also know a bit too much about pop culture for my own good
📺 wlw media, documentaries, psychological horror - endorser of the l word being a seminal piece of sapphic media, will enter periods of rewatching carol
💓 outside of this k!nk I am merely a victim of limerance and mommy issues - older women... I'm looking at you bette porter and cate blanchett
THANK YOU for making it to the end of this long ass post. I’m crap at keeping things short and brief. If anything I’ve shared resonates with you, please slide into my DMs/asks 🥰
hey again!! as always, me and @soft-sappho are on our website grind, and to make submitting to feedism.neocities.org even easier, we've made a (very short!) survey you can fill out for our "what is feedism?" page.
check out the survey >>>
only the first two questions have to be filled out, but there are four more if you'd like to go more in depth! (in typical feedist fashion, the bigger the better)
your submissions can be anonymous or credited with your name/tumblr @! they'll be included at the bottom of our what is feedism? page
we're really keen to get an overview of what feedism is, and how it's practised and experienced from as much of the fee
FeedeeMedia is owned by a management company. Among other things I’m sure, they’re basically looking to automate model interactions, aka you’ll be talking to AI in DMs and not real people. They’ve paid to hide their owner name, they’ve built themselves an entire platform with AI slop, this is round 2 with the same exact design they’ve used before. They’re using models photos without permission to advertise. They don’t have age verification which means there are more than likely minors on both the website and the discord. Theyre offering paid promos to white models and begging for free promos from black models. They’ve only been online for a month. Mind you myself and a few others connected the dots a few days ago.
Starting up a website that’s kink forward without any of the safety guards in place is asinine. There’s no safety in a community that’s put together with slop.
Potential trigger warning for: death feedism, ableism, fatphobia, eating disorders, emetophobia, body image, body checking, sex negativity, self harm, mentions of grooming/human trafficking/prostitution, zoophilia, necrophilia, raceplay (these mostly apply anecdotally to the write-in sections, which you can skip)
The canva charts are fully interactive, so you can mouse over different categories to view the labels (on some sections where they didn't fit). This presentation was designed on a laptop and is best viewed in landscape mode. You could view it with your phone on landscape but some of the text might be small. (Also I'm sorry some of the data reads as "sales" or "employees", I was using presets lmao)
Tl;dr version: feel free to skip the "write-in" sections. I tried to make this as visually appealing & legible as possible, so if you just want a brief overview of the charts, you don't need to read all of the pages in full (73). If you're interested in the entire .csv sheet, it's linked as a canva document for you to see. (Don't worry about the canva account doxxing me, it's one of many throwaway accounts, it was just convenient for the login)
Everyone who said thank you about conducting the survey, you're so welcome and I love you!! I spent hours working on this over the last week, and I read through every single result. Everyone who said this survey helped inform their opinions and came to deconstruct their internalized fatphobia, I am so glad. I'm so grateful to every one of my participants, even the one person who told me they hope I die <3
I wanted to be able to present my results in a visual, accessible way, and although I wish I didn't have to link outside of tumblr, there was no way for me to be able to embed that many images/charts in a post, so I decided on canva because of their chart features.
I had so much fun doing this and I learned a lot in the process!! I got a lot of feedback (both positive and negative) about the answers I provided for each question. My next survey project will be a survey for feedists; I'm just not sure of the precise topic. Next time I will have a more typical 1-5 "Strongly agree" to "Strongly disagree" range of answers, with less write-ins lmao. I received a lot of offers for help from professionals with statistic/analytic experience, but I feel like because my scope was limited (due to the participants being largely tumblr-based) and biased (because of the leading questions or biased phrasing) I had to do the best I could with the data. I still think I got really high quality results overall. I chose to keep write-ins as their own page for each question rather than omit them entirely or add them into other categories, which took MUCH longer than I was expecting, but I think allows for more nuance and in-depth analysis.
Feedback is more than welcome! If you have any ideas/questions you'd like to see implemented for my next survey (for example... a thesis heheh) let me know!
Also anyone who rbed the original survey post for your followers to take, please rb the results so it can reach them, as most people who took this probably aren't interested in following me!
we're hard at work on the feedist history page for feedism.neocities.org, and a recent submission of recipes from an old feedist forum led us down a big long rabbit hole of near-forgotten web pages that have luckily been backed up by the internet archive
this index page, from feeder.co.uk in 2002, gives a really cool (if quite dated and very occasionally misguided) glimpse into just how big the feedist + fat admiration web was in the early 2000s!
check out the archived site here:
https://web.archive.org/web/20021123010322/http://www.feeder.co.uk/
some personal (and very long) ramblings about language, perspective, gaze and whathaveyounot surrounding death and grief that oddly and tangentially relates to fatness and feedism below the cut 💖
so i've been in a feedist relationship and broadly exploring feedism for almost a year now; with it being so central to my sexuality and identity i can very definitively say that it has been one of the best things to have happened 🥹. after witnessing how others in the community see fatness, how my partner sees my and their own body, the language and the gaze we give to these experiences to express our love for softness and fatness has genuinely shown me how disingenuous and weak (but also simultaneously deeply ingrained) my internalised fatphobia is. I'm returning to and reclaiming my child self when i first showed signs of being into this kink, before all the societal conditioning, and realising how inherent and pure my love for fatness is. before all of this i had that typical 'oh good for you but i can't imagine this being me and being happy with it' when i saw fat people being happy in their bodies, when as a child i saw fat(ter) people and melted in admiration, wishing I was this soft and happy. sometimes i still need to pinch myself that that is exactly how i relate to fatness now!
my point being that i've finally been given the language/perspective/gaze (damnit there is an encompassing term for this but my brain's not finding it! framework?) that aligns the closest to my authentic self, and that has been so life-altering and surreal after not having that for most of my life.
and all of this came up because i've been feeling a little funny over the loss of my grandma. it only just happened a couple of days ago, and I haven't really felt and experienced grief in a traditional sense. a good chunk of it's because she has had dementia for over a decade, so I feel like I've already long processed losing her. this just feels like the inevitable and best-case-scenario for her given her quality of life. but something still doesn't feel right. I'd say distance does help - when you're thousands of miles away and can't afford a flight home just to attend her funeral you can pretend like it never happened, I walked away first so i ultimately have control over whether she's dead or alive in my brain. but it's that same distance that is making me lose my grasp on what that relationship meant for me and how real it was.
and all of this inevitably circles back to language/perspective/framework and surprise surprise, colonialism, because I've had to mentally and physically step away from and reject deeply ingrained cultural scripts to get to where I am, where I'm finally at peace and happy with my identity, sexuality, etc., but that has also come at the cost of losing parts of my heritage that were integral in a lot of my positive relationships and ultimately also my identity. accessing discourse, lived experiences and connections surrounding parts of my identity that have been rejected by my culture would be impossible without encountering western paradigms; case in point, the language I'm writing in now. I think what frustrates me the most is that the gravity of this loss confers a level of grief that is so difficult to untangle, and is something i think no poc/global majority person deserves to shoulder?
but at the same time I'm quite literally the only person that can relearn and reclaim my heritage if I want to fully process this grief because the memories associated with it are mine. when I say that my grandma recently passed it doesn't feel real because I only ever refer to her in chinese dialect, like how you british would call yours nan. when I try to explain to others what she meant to me I can only ever give the gist of it and never the true essence, not entirely because the other person doesn't speak the language or isn't familiar with my cultural upbringing, but also because I have gradually lost those language skills and cultural closeness. I've literally lost the ability to have an extended, productive conversation with my chinese-speaking family members because it has been over a decade since I've needed to use the language.
I couldn't even stand learning my mother tongue, I would get a D in school and yet it developed the close relationship I had with my grandma. but how do you even begin to reclaim this part of yourself when it has also routinely harmed and excluded you ykno? the language also made me feel like an alien flung out of space since both sides of my family spoke in different dialects I was never taught in so I never understood what was going on. there are a million and one ways to fat shame me as a kid using this language, and i was and always will be considered anomalously and unfavourably fat in my culture. let's not even begin with other identities like autism and queerness. it is also not lost on me that a lot of this toxicity stems from coloniality and is not actually inherent in my culture.
i guess i'm grieving my inability to/difficulty to grieve more than the grief itself. it's weird, funny, surreal, and frustrating.
feedism.net - help us expand and archive! (+ small updates)
hi wonderful folks 🥹💗. I haven’t been as active on here - life got busy and I’m autismly bad at managing multiple interests and commitments, but @doughyfatfox and I have been quietly adding and editing bits to the site. though lately I’ve been having a little dip in motivation + inspiration, and was planning on continuing to procrastinate on this;
I hate to admit that a teensy part of this was fuelled by the doomer in me, where I sometimes can only muster up the energy to exist as a fat queer in this fascist hellscape. until we got the news that @fatliberation’s blog got fucking nuked by tumblr!! (and thank fuck they reinstated it!! 😡) ohhh the rage and grief i feel for my community, enough to fuel me to get my grips back on archiving all the wonderful and important content we have!
so we wanted to put out another call-out for submissions and archive requests!
but can i also just quickly say, the submissions, love and encouragement we’ve received for this site has filled me with so much joy and purpose 😭💖. all your guestbook messages, lived experience, seeing the kink jars I’ve made on your blogs means the world to me and it does not go unseen. thank you for making me feel so connected to this community even at times when I struggle to actively engage in it 💗. anyway, back to the point of this post!!
what are we looking for?
we will always say anything you feel would fit the site (that’s community-centric, non-pornographic, archival, and even educational), email them over to [email protected], but we also have a couple of specific things we’d like to see more (and maybe even expand them into dedicated pages/projects 👀):
content to archive! stuff you don’t want to see get eternally lost into the ether ‼️🚨 - iconic tumblr posts, essays/articles about feedism that resonated with you, recipes, wg guides, fiction, anything! before the evil overlords of tumblr take our history away from us. please send us a link or even better, archived files of it. we currently have a system (and backlog 😅) of saving everything that has been submitted + stuff we personally want to archive in file and code form, and we publish it whenever we get permission and/or the content gets nuked. but there’s only two of us and a web’s worth of amazing feedist content, so any help in this effort would be massively appreciated.
personal definitions of feedism - the site currently has a “what is feedism?” page with an as-broad-as-possible definition of the kink. but we’re not looking to be an authority on the topic! we’d love to have a collection of definitions from different feedists - what this kink means to you, how you practice it, or how you might explain it to someone who has absolutely no idea what it is
feedist awakenings - on a similar note, we’d love to host submissions from all of you about how you realised you were into feedism!
memes - the queerer the better, duh
feedist history - @doughyfatfox has been hard at work building a chunky page about our community's history, hugely because there isn't a documented one yet! from the ancient venus of willendorf depths to magazines in the 80s-90s, we want to be as comprehensive as possible!
feedism and other kinks - this has been something we've always wanted to make space for on our site; the intersections of related kinks and how folks have experienced them, so we'd love to hear yours
lastly, a little update!
you might’ve noticed a domain change (well it’s a redirect!)… and we have someone special in our community we’d like to thank for that! the admin of another feedist site reached out a couple months ago offering to redirect feedism.net, which they own, to our site. not gonna lie, it feels a little daunting to have part-title to such an ✨ official ✨ domain, but if anything it has motivated us to try and live up to it by upping our archive + submission efforts.
we’re still feedism.neocities.org, just now with a fancy redirect if anyone were to wonder where feedism.net would bring them to.
that’s all from us! happy browsing, and snacking, and expanding 💓🐷
@fatliberation, who I often reblog here, has been censored by staff. This blog has been a respite from fatphobic culture, and we are all worse for having lost it. Please support their other blog, @thaenad, if you’re interested in continuing to support this creator.
I haven’t spoken about this directly, but I believe the institutionalized anti-feedist sentiment on tumblr is puritanical and inherently fatphobic. This policy has been used to justify silencing and harassing fat people, both who are and aren’t feedists.
I understand that there are range of opinions and histories with the feedist community, and I respect not wanting to engage with the kink. Everyone has the right to curate their own sexual experience. There are shitty people in every community, and I’m not here to dismiss people’s pain associated with mistreatment by feedists.
However, most feedists are fat people. Or they’re the partners and friends and allies of fat people. Tumblr especially tends to attract feedists who engage in the kink with less shame, and less reason to mistreat other fat people. Demonization of them on the basis of a sexual preference people find distasteful is bullshit. Limits on self expression and alternative perspectives harm all of us.
And to people who say feedists fundamentally objectify fat bodies, the majority of people in my likes and reblogs are feedists. They’re fighting the good fight. They’re expanding the Overton window on fat liberation. I think it’s bad politics to reject allies because they give you the ick.
If you’re in a position to engage with fat liberation from the perspective of a feedist, I recommend following @thaenad on their blog and other places. They’ve been committed to providing an alternative view point against fatphobia for years. I’m personally very grateful for what they put out into the world.
✷ 𝚜𝚘𝚏𝚝-𝚜𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚑𝚘 ✷ @soft-sappho - Tumblr Blog | Tumgag
