I wish this was about houseplants

Min, 16, ENFP, loves naps, v short, loves languages (Swedish, Korean, Latin) If you're here for kpop, I'm shifting that to my new blog snufkinandhueningkai

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[kk-maker]

BETTER NAMES:

- the ‘WE HAVE A VERY AFFECTIONATE PET MOUNTAIN LION’ bed

- the ‘OUR NINJA BODYGUARD HAS TO SLEEP *SOMEWHERE*’ bed

- the ‘YOU’RE GROUNDED - DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT SNEAKING OUT’ bed

- the ‘WE’RE POLY BUT SOMETIMES ONE OF US NEEDS ELBOW SPACE’ bed

[cancerously]

imagine your ot3

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the “Not everyone in the triad is into cuddling but doesn’t want to miss out on late-night conversations and morning tea” bed

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- the “Someone’s gonna roll over in the middle of the night and absolutely pancake the other two” bed

[softneatstompyourfeet]

Me, my husband, and his best friend that sleeps on the couch in our room several nights a week

[forgottenpnffacts]

-Major Monogram understands hash house lingo

-Major Monogram likes to eat scrambled eggs and toast for lunch

[phineas-and-herb]

it’s 20th century american diner lingo, i don’t think many people use it anymore, but i happen to have on-hand a guide from a book-set by julia rothman if you’d like some more examples

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[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[kaelang12]

from what i know of Big Birds, this is a common occurrence

[ororomunroedontpullout]

Someone asked on time “what would happen if you didn’t turn around in time to tell Karen to stop?” And she was like “she’d beat me to death.”

What a wild fucking world bruh

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Bi🐸irl

[twincanine]

man how did they leave off the punchline of this tweet:

(https://twitter.com/perfectcows/status/1351277002876186627)

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[memeclassheroes]

[incendavery]

the hermit, reversed: loneliness, isolation, an overabundance of caution

[incendavery]

[ID:

A four-panel diary comic featuring a purple crow.

Panel 1: The crow shuffles a deck of cards and thinks, “Hm… How about I pull a tarot car to start the year?”

Panel 2: The crow flips over a card, thinking, “Let’s see… What does 2021 hold?”

Panel 3: The card in the crow’s hand is the hermit, reversed.

Panel 4: The crow stares down at the card, sweating.

End ID]

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Locking your wheelchair lift and requiring disabled people to find an employee to unlock AND OPERATE it is a direct violation of the ADA.

“The [ADA] Standards require ‘unassisted’ entry and exit from lifts (§410.1). Situations in which platform lifts are locked and require users to request or retrieve a key for operation will not satisfy this requirement for independent operation.”

“Attendant operation, although recognized by the ASME A18.1 Standard, is expressly prohibited by the ADA Standards. Platform lifts must provide ‘unassisted entry and exit from the lift’ (§410.1).”

(Source)

Smells like a lawsuit waiting to happen…

[quadraxic-expression-deactivate]

This is not great, but it’s likely because people are fucking stupid and will screw around with it if it’s not locked up.

[just-over-it-all-deactivated202]

[ID: @gavrielabrahams “It’s probably because people were peeing in it.”]

You think people were peeing. In an open wheelchair lift. In the middle of a museum. With public toilets around the corner.

I think not.

But even if people had been peeing in it or otherwise misusing the lift… It. Doesn’t. Matter. It’s not just “not great.” It’s ILLEGAL. It is just as illegal to lock off a wheelchair lift as it is to not provide one to begin with. 

The correct response to people peeing in an elevator is never to lock the elevator. It is to provide a toilet. If you think the correct response to any problem is to violate the civil rights of an entire group of people by denying them access, YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM.

Disability rights are civil rights.

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You want to know exactly how this went down? Let me tell you a tale.

I was visiting the museum with friends. They went on around the corner while I finished looking at the previous exhibit. I then followed them around the corner only to find I couldn’t get up to the exhibit because the museum AS PART OF THEIR POLICY had illegally locked the lift. My friends didn’t know the lift was locked (why would the lift be locked?) and had no idea that I couldn’t get to them.

Now I, the disabled person, am forced to travel halfway around the building to the front desk to find someone to unlock the lift for me, wait for them to finish what they’re doing, and then travel all the way back to the lift. This was bad enough in a wheelchair. Who else uses lifts? Oh yes. People who struggle to walk. Can you imagine, as a person who struggles to walk, being forced to walk halfway around a building, and then back again, just to access an exhibit? You wouldn’t do it. You’d skip the exhibit. You’ve just been completely denied access.

So finally the museum employee unlocks the lift and then operates it (because yes, they’ve made it so I can’t operate it myself, which is also illegal). I finally get to the top probably ten minutes later, only to find that my friends have finished looking at the exhibit and are heading down again, wondering what has happened to me. 

After I’ve gone to all the trouble to get up there, fuck it if I’m not going to look at the damn exhibit. So I look at it, then head back to the lift to go back down, only to find they’ve locked the lift with me at the top and gone back to the front desk.

If one of my friends hadn’t stayed up there with me, I’d probably still be up there. As it was, my friend had to go down the stairs, back around to the front, find an employee, and get them to come back and let me down. Leaving me sitting up there. Alone. For another five minutes.

Now imagine if I had gone to the the museum by myself. Or what if there had been an emergency? You think if there was a fire some museum employee who couldn’t be assed to leave the damn lift unlocked until I had come back down would really have run back into the building to unlock the lift so I could get down? I think not.

Locking an accessibility feature is never the right solution. It is denying access to an entire class of people. Which is ILLEGAL and a CIVIL RIGHTS VIOLATION.

Disability law is civil rights law.

[jlhgiyftr75587ityjgfhdsetljdse]

I am an old person and tumblr is the porch

[spokenitalics]

@ mutuals this is how i see us

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Crop top that says "met god," with singe marks around the bottom edge implying it used to be a full t shirt with additional text

[anthonycrowleymoved]

hey since i’m occasionally giving out adult advice. anyone wanna know my very adult and very boring and very sensible suggestion for grief gifts for friends and family when someone close to them dies

[anthonycrowleymoved]

alright. this is shamelessly stolen from my godparents when they did this when my grandma passed about ten years ago, and since then i’ve been on both sides of this and it’s surprisingly thoughtful and useful. this is particularly important when people are like, in charge of funeral prep, but anyone who just heard someone close to them just died is gonna be in a certain headspace, so it probably works regardless. people are gonna be sending cards and flowers and other very nice, but ultimately useless gifts.

don’t do that. go to the grocery store and order one of those deli party platters. the ones with like, four different kinds each of meats and cheeses, maybe some sides, and veggies, and bread, and condiments. get the vegetarian version if you know they’re vegetarians. whatever. you know better than i how many people are gonna be eating it, but guess maybe, like, four day’s worth of food.

because, here’s the thing. cards and flowers are very nice, and remind you that you’re in people’s thoughts. but you know what you just. don’t even want to think about when someone dies? making dinner. going to the grocery store. ordering takeout. whatever. you don’t want to have to think about food. you just want to eat in between planning a funeral and working through your grief.

without getting too into it, when my grandma died, we were thrown for a loop. and we ate nothing but what was on that goddamned deli platter for days. because it was quick and easy and fresh and tasted good and we didn’t have to think about food. and ten years later, i don’t remember those cards or flowers, but i sure as hell remember the deli platter.

so next time someone’s going through something, when a family member or close friend just passed. go to your nearest grocery store, and if you can, walk a deli platter over to their place. as soon as you can after you hear. they may look at you weird when you hand it to them, but trust me, in the long run they’re gonna thank you.

[ralfmaximus]

^^This

Food helps. I don’t remember the cards & flowers. What I DO remember is the amazing lasagna somebody made me. It fed me for a week during a time when I was simply incapable of finding or preparing meals. The deli platter is an interesting twist on that and I’m filing that away for sure.

[anais-ninja-bitch]

honeybaked ham delivers

[alyssumlovesthecosmere]

So, in Jewish tradition, during the first week after the funeral of a person, we do what is known as "sitting shiva"

What happens is that the people closest to the dead person (siblings, s/o, children, parents), sit at home, get to talk about the person who passed, and it is expected that the folks coming by will bring them food and make sure they have everything taken care of while they go through the hardest part of mourning

[anais-ninja-bitch]

this is something i really love about so many religious (especially Jewish) traditions: they are practical! it is for a reason. it serves an important human need.

now, i did name-check ham specifically bc i am a goy from the american south, and a honeybaked spiral-sliced ham is so often just what it called for.

here are my tips for giving food to the bereaved:

homemade whenever possible*

dinners are preferable

something that will keep in the fridge or even better the freezer

something easy to take from freezer to table (as in, a casserole or soup that only has to be reheated)

be respectful of any dietary needs and preferences you know about

and someone else in the notes mentioned: paper plates (i know it’s not eco-friendly, but the last thing anyone wants to do is wash dishes, give the grieving a bit of a pass)

*if you cannot deliver a lovingly made dish yourself, do NOT for a MOMENT feel like a gift card or the aforementioned delivery ham is ANY less loving or appreciated. just make your loved ones’ lives easier.

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[unlimitedmordredworks]

[blackarachnya]

theyre putting gasoline in mcflurries now

[phemiec]

YA books: There are 2 boys, the protagonist girl HAS to date one, but how can she choose? They are so incredibly different in every way!

The boys:

[quixoticrobotic]

Ah you’re watching sailor moon? I love that anime. The way they just [clenches fist] sail all those fricking moons

[90smovieolderbrother]

also in trans news that should be talked about. laverne cox has stated that on saturday her and a friend were assulted in a park and it’s not really getting the same attention as elliot. we can still be proud of him without ingnoring what happened to laverne and her friend.

if you claim ally ship to the trans community then you can’t ignore the bad things that happen to especially trans woc. and if you’re a white trans person you can’t just talk about other white trans people. it just shows that you only care about trans people if they are white and that shouldn’t be the case.

if your gonna talk about elliot please also talk about laverne. she deserves better and we should all do better to raise up the voices of black trans women.

[dionysuswearsanorangetracksuit]

Laverne Cox recounts transphobic attack in L.A.: 'Never fails to be shocking'

'When these things happen, it's not your fault,' actress Laverne Cox said after she and a friend were attacked while hiking through Griffith

“This has happened to me before,” she said. “I’ve been trans my whole life. I’ve been harassed and bullied my whole life. None of this is new, but it’s still just kind of like, ‘Who cares?’ and then ‘Why do you need to be aggressive?’”

At first, Cox said she debated sharing her story on social media and wondered what she “could have done differently,” before realizing “it’s not my fault that this happened.” She also thanked her friend, who immediately recognized that Cox was the “target” of the attack and deescalated the situation.

And here’s the Instagram live she posted talking about the incident

As well as a follow up live she posted talking about it a bit more, thanking people for their support, and talking about some experiences she’s had as a Black trans woman in general

[antimonarchy]

[Image ID: A picture included with the embedded link showing Laverne Cox framed from the shoulders up wearing a black dress, probably a red-carpet shot. /.End ID]

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I will be removing myself from situations

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If something is happening, well, I certainly don't want anything to do with that

[badley]

themes commonly found in international friendships

- ‘u dont have (insert food/music/restaurant here) over there??’ - ‘wait what time is it. shouldnt u be asleep’ - alternatively: timezoned/clockblocked again - ‘do u need a hug. have a virtual hug’ - weird slang terms - ‘i will fight everyone thats mean to u. i will fight them rn’ - vague embarrassment regarding ur accent - ‘dont maKE ME COME OVER THERE’ - ‘oh yeah i have a friend who lives in (insert country here) and apparently’ - no real hugs :(( - suffering - fahrenheit vs celsius - the measuring of things in feet fucks one of u up, probably

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@xxtatooedtoesiesxx @cause-boys-dont-cry @abrokenbloodymess

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@candyradium