Roses are Red

[arashi-of-ota]

mm but seriously tho “i am not a metaphor” is so important to me as a system person

even people in systems have a tendency to treat us as half real, to treat things that didn’t happen in this body as less painful or true, and this is the case whether or not the body has experienced something similar

if the body hasn’t experienced it then you’re appropriating, you’re roleplaying or mocking real x

if the body has experienced it then it’s Allowed but only because yr pain is some kind of metaphor for what Really Happened

i’m not sure which is more offensive

and it feels powerful, important, to be able to say fuck you, my experiences are and were every bit as real as ones that happened here

even if no one believes you.

it’s so important to have the words to say it.

[clinicallydepressedpug]

People will want you to “forgive” your abuser when what they really mean is they think you should smooth things over so they can go on with their lives like the abuse didn’t ever happen. That is not reasonable for them to ask you to do that. That is selfish of them.

Abuse isn’t just the victim’s problem. Abuse is everyone’s problem. Society has to make abuse stop. Society has to take it personally. Society has to take the view that abusers are damaging and destroying society’s people, see abuse as an attack on society, an attack on human value, instead of seeing it as a problem between individuals.

[educatingtheotherkin]

Why are otherkin always so specific about who can follow them and what they can reblog and stuff? You’d think these ‘people’ who don’t appreciate being treated unfairly would be more accepting

[somethingwithroses]

Because everyone has a right to decide who they want to interact with and who they don’t? Also, the majority of otherkin don’t think they're oppressed or talk about how unfairly they're being treated. That's more a vocal minority thing. Lastly, I've actually seen more people who are traumatized/disabled/dealing with mental health disorders/facing other marginalizations use the "don't follow me if..." line than just plain otherkin using it. It's used by people who are sensitive and possibly deal with triggers/painful reactions to getting the same misunderstandings over and over and/or dealing with attitudes that hurt them or stand against who they are and what they believe. Many people see Tumblr as the place they go to socialize/kick back and not the place they go to prove their functionality/put on their "tough faces," which means that yes - they do deal with all kinds of opinions and attitudes every day, but they choose to only socialize with people they feel understood and supported by

[otherkinagainstflufftrolls]

“Space” is not an identity.  “Space” and “fairy” are not genders.  Nounself pronouns originated on tumblr and are only used by trolls or fluff, but I’m just going to assume you’re a troll.

[somethingwithroses]

Actually, noun-self pronouns aren’t even meant for otherkin. They’re for non-binary trans people who don’t like they/their, but Tumblr has possibly created an unfair/untrue link between those pronouns and simply being kin. In short, a non-binary fae-kin might use fae-self pronouns, but a fairy doesn’t automatically get new pronouns for being a fairy. 

[somethingwithroses]

My own opinion.

I kind of think the difference between a sexual orientation and a paraphilia lies in the distress it causes people. I'm not sure this debating about whether or not pedophilia is a mental illness and whether or not it's an orientation makes a whole hell of a lot of sense.

Pedophilia could be an orientation. Raping kids is still bad.

Sadomasochism could be an orientation. Sadistic abuse is still bad.

Either of those things could be mental health conditions. "Mental illness" doesn't mean "thing that makes you a blameless saint who could never hurt a fly." I don't get how people want it to not be an orientation but they ALSO want it to not be a mental illness. I feel like you can't have it both ways. Molestation isn't an illness, it's a choice, but feeling things for kids...if it's not an attraction and it's not an illness, wtf is it?

[blighthound-archive-deactivated]

yo just a quick reminder to my underage followers that if you’re made uncomfortable by adults being in your online social sphere, you are 10000% within your rights to ask those adults to unfollow you.

the line between ages online can be perceived as a lot thinner than irl because you’re interacting through text, so boundaries can either be muddled or dissipate completely. if you’re uncomfortable with the implications of someone 30+ cracking dirty jokes around you (as a teenager) or liking/reblogging your selfies, you are absolutely allowed to ask that they not interact with you any further.

the responsibility of not doing weird + creepy shit and ensuring your comfort falls on the adult, and if they refuse to comply b/c they think that’s a stupid reason, block them. 

[horsefieldmix]

imma add that this also applies to young adults in some circumstances if ur 18 and u got 30 year olds makin advances that’s still not a good time

huge age gaps dont suddenly start being a non-issue when u turn 18 imo

[mysave]

Found this on my school vending machine. This is disgusting, if u molest a child: 1. What kind of situation calls for the molestation of a child? 2. If u do, u don’t get to decide if ur offended or not you sick Fuck 3. YOU ARE A PEDOPHILE! I don’t care if I offend you! Who thinks this is ok?????

[ask-a-pedophile]

You kinda missed the point here. Indeed those who touch kids don’t get to decide if they’re an offender or not: they ARE an offender. But there’s pedophiles who won’t ever touch kids (they have the attraction, but won’t act on it), and there’s offenders who aren’t pedophiles (they harm children because it’s easy, not because they’re attracted to them).

Hope it clears things up!

Cheers

[mysave]

Well sexual offenders kind of implies the sex part, and I know there are different.kinds of sexual offenders that don’t molest cgolden. My problem is when some one does something so horribly wrong and don’t feel as if they should have any social consequences. If someone kills someone I’ll call them a murderer no matter if it offends them or not.

[ask-a-pedophile]

Well no one here is saying that people who touch kids have an excuse. Rather it’s about pedophiles who get slandered while they’ve never done anything wrong. “Pedophile” doesn’t mean “sexual offender” or “child molester”, that’s different words for different things.

[somethingwithroses]

I don’t get why people think that if you say “based on the official definition of ‘pedophile,’ this criminal sex offender who broke the law and is clearly a horrible person is not a pedophile.” I remember this one woman like...exploded on her therapist for saying the woman’s husband seemed like more of a sex addict than a pedophile when she found underage stuff on his computer. Not a pedophile =/= innocent any more than having pedophilic thoughts/feelings automatically makes you a sex offender. 

Also, no situation makes molestation okay. That’s not what “situational factors” means. It means that a person IS an abuser, but is not doing it because they are attracted to children - they are doing it because the child is who’s available to hurt maybe. 

For people who thinks it doesn’t matter if you’re “mean” to pedophiles, yeah it does matter. There was one in the news who had never touched a kid before and was looking for therapy to make sure he never did, but he couldn’t actually admit that he was one because he was scared someone would hurt or kill him. Think about that for a moment. This guy WANTED help to make sure he didn’t hurt anyone and couldn’t get it because of how much people hate him for existing. Isn’t seeking help what we want people like him to do? If so, how is preventing him from doing it going to help anyone? 

[fairysharkmother]

Should a 21 year old be wanting a 17 year old to send him nudes and then want to cuddle naked with said 17 year old...?

[somethingwithroses]

Well...you should probably not *ask* them to do that because it’s against the law and such, but simply having the desire to ask (and not acting on it at all) is not the end of the world. Your best bet if a 21-year-old and a 17-year-old really want to be together is just to wait a few more months. 

[icannotaven]

Also, fear of "coming out" as asexual? As an asexual...you've got to be kidding me.

That’s fine. You don’t have to have that fear, but there are others who did. When I came out at a summer job in the past I was harassed by my coworkers and was made to feel unsafe at work. 

But that’s just my experience. 

[somethingwithroses]

Not ace myself, but people aren’t actually that nice about it. A lot of people don’t like anything that isn’t the norm - you've gotta remember that asexual isn’t just “low sex drive, but otherwise straight and gonna get married and have kids,” it’s a possible indicator that you won’t do “the normal thing” (at least in the eyes of your most average people ever who you might tell). Also, we live in a culture that simultaneously shames people for wanting sex too much and for wanting it too little. People sorta overcome their shame they were raised with by being all “oh well, everyone likes it, it’s natural, so it’s not just me” and then if any single person on the planet says they don’t like it, suddenly the whole “everyone’s doing it” reason doesn’t work anymore and they have to update their self-defense to something more like “it’s okay because I’m not harming anyone with it” (and make sure that’s true) versus using the bandwagon defense. People don’t like to change or to think most of the time. 

[playdencos]

For anyone who sees this going around, DO NOT CLICK ON IT. It is a screamer that is flashing and showing Jeff the Killer. Please pass this around so others who may have epilepsy or plain don’t want to see screamers do not click on that link. 

EDIT: That entire blog has posted multiple screamers and is in no way sorry for any harm they have caused to people!! please be warned!!

[shounenoujo]

I could have had a seizure if I had seen this post. I have an EXTREME phobia of Jeff The Killer to the point that screamers of him can send me into life threatening panic. 

Screamers aren’t funny.

[somethingwithroses]

Ugh I hate those. Thanks for the warning. 

[horrorgorewhore]

Interview with the Vampire (1994)

[santiago-b00]

[lastdaysofmagic]

Would you like a refreshment?

[dreams-klss-deactivated20180923]

no We Heart It. 

[storysurfer-blog]

Hey everybody, I’m working on a small project concerning the four Hogwarts houses, and I’d appreciate your help,if you’re willing. Here’s how:

Please reblog this only if you are a Ravenclaw

only reblog once, or you’ll throw off the numbers

also, please do not heart, it’ll throw off the numbers too

any violations I find will be noted!

if you are a Gryffindor, please reblog this.

if you are a Hufflepuff, please reblog this.

if you are a Slytherin, please reblog this.

Thank you all for your help!

PS: If you’re not sure which house you’re in, pick one!

[somethingwithroses]

I am a Ravenclaw!!!!

[det-roit-blog]

"don’t let cancer steal second base!!"

HOW ABOUT DON’T LET CANCER STEAL WOMEN’S LIVES 

BECAUSE WOMEN AREN’T JUST BOOBS THEY’RE PEOPLE JESUS CHRIST

[somethingwithroses]

Second base???? What? Are we in middle school? Jesus.

[discolor3d]