SourPatchRi

The name's Riley. I'm 26 years old, polyamorous, queer, and genderqueer. California native. Love cute animals, the ocean, baking, connecting with others, and music that gives me feels. This blog focuses on 3 prevelant aspects of my life: gender, queerness, polyamory.

[sourpatchri-blog]

I want to find my poly people.. I have so much love in my heart and in practicing polyamory for the past 4 years the majority of what I've walked away with is pain. I find myself growing increasingly envious of all of the beautiful polyamorous relationships I see and I wonder-- why can't that be me? Why can't I have that? Am I just only drawn to people who wind up hurting me? Today I was romantically rejected by yet another person who unintentionally led me on. At some point I stop wondering what's wrong with them and start looking inward at myself.

[sourpatchri-blog]

The Downside to Being in a New Place... Even if It’s Awesome

I don’t know anybody here.

Rephrase: I know a ton of people, but we don’t really know each other.

I have met so many people in my MSW program, and a handful of these new folks have become my new friends. However, we were brought together by school and have been bonding over the shared trauma experiences of being in graduate school. We probably wouldn’t have been so drawn to each other if we met in real life (in many ways, grad school is nothing like real life).

This has resulted in my friends not knowing much about me, and what they do know they can’t fully understand, even though they have keen empathetic skills. Meaning-- they get me to a degree, but since it’s only empathy, and they experience privileges based on gender identity, sexual orientation, or relationship orientation (ie., IDing as monogamous), I feel like they don’t fully get me. Which results in a feeling of awkwardness when it comes to trying to decide if I’m going to talk to them about my decision to stop taking T next month, or the awesomely original date/hangout I had this past weekend.

So, like any good millennial, I turn to the comfort of the internet for late night vent sessions.

[sourpatchri-blog]

As of this fall I will be a graduate student in an awesome MSW program! I'm incredibly excited though not looking forward to out of state tuition. The debt will be worth it. :)

[sourpatchri-blog]

Sometimes I feel like I'm just bad at polyamory. Not because I do anything wrong, but because there's always something making someone unhappy. I know other people who practice polyamory, and if they all experience this too they do a great job of hiding it.

[larmoyante]

Someone asked me what home was and all I could think of were the stars on the tip of your tongue, the flowers sprouting from your mouth, the roots entwined in the gaps between your fingers, the ocean echoing inside of your ribcage.

e.e. cummings (via larmoyante)

[clrama]

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[otheranonymous]

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[otheranonymous]

Reblogging every time it shows up on my dash without fail

[perfecttblue]

when i find myself in times of trouble

ellen degeneres comes to me

[bubonickitten]

whenever I go to queer events it’s just like… MY PEOPLE

[karrinmurphs-deactivated2014111]

AMERICAN HORROR STORY SEASON FOUR: FREAK SHOW [x]

[spiralingsidways]

I am hoping a certain some reads this and reblogs.

[socialworkmemes]

On it! ;D

[leobear73]

[minato-arisato]

does anybody else think tired and sleepy mean two totally different things

[togayegi-deactivated20140809]

sleepy is cute and dozing off and happy but tired is 10 cups of coffee and murder

[tastefullyoffensive]

The Six Laws of Adorability by Jacob Andrews [collegehumor]

[iamacollectionofmiscellanyandte]

Help! My Polyamorous Sister Is Pregnant, and It’s Weirding Me Out.

Q. My Sister Is Polyamorous and Pregnant: My sister Julia recently told our family that she and her husband Jake are in a polyamorous triad with their best friend Tony. The three of them have been together for as long as Julia has been with Jake (seven years) and all of their friends know that, essentially, Tony is Julia’s other husband. They decided not to tell our more traditional family (with the exception of our brother) until Julia became pregnant, as she is now….

Good answer and very refreshing!

[hatin-deactivated20140225]

[coelasquid]

Extroverts are loud obnoxious brainless viking warriors who will shit on your table and uproot all of your potted plants. Their minds have been trapped in the party rock dimension by an evil sorcerer while their corporeal forms exist in our own plane of reality, causing them to...

[startrekrenegades]

if you think that labels don’t matter and nobody should use them, then you’ve probably never experienced the huge, indescribable relief of “oh my god there’s a word for how I feel” and “I’m not the only one”

[mentalhealthnerd]

THIS