A Mess

Leah, very much an adult. This blog is full of video games, art, writing, & random posts about everything and nothing. If you need something specific tagged don't hesitate to let me know. This is an 18+ space. Header art: antivancorvo Icon art: gaywizardsonline

[sowingtheseeds]

I apologize for the flood of posts on your dashes from me. I’m pushing out the rest of my queue for this blog and then I’ll be pretty much abandoning it. It’s a lot to get into that I’m not going to, but suffice to say there’s a lot of things and memories here I don’t want to be associated with anymore, and deleting everything is a gargantuan task I don’t feel like taking on. 

I appreciate all of you that have followed me through the years, and I hope we’ll run across each other on tumblr again. :)

[spacealienstuff]

Just going home...

[skullxcrusher-deactivated201501]

nostalgia is a liar. nothing was ever as good as you remember it to be. there’s a reason you don’t talk to that person anymore, there’s a reason you’re not part of each other’s lives. don’t trust nostalgia. grieve. reflect. move on.

[thehopefulquotes]

I guess my life hasn't always been happy, or easy, or exactly what I wanted. At a certain point, I just have to try not to think too much about certain things, or else they'll break my heart.

— Jonathan Franzen

[theliteraryarchitect]

Ugh, definitely feeling this today.

[fairycosmos]

look. i don’t think my stretch marks are beautiful. i don’t think they’re tiger stripes or natural tattooos. i don’t think my acne is beautiful. i don’t think the bags under my eyes are beautiful. i just think they’re human. and i don’t think i have to be beautiful all of the time in order to be accepted and loved and sucessful. i don’t think every small detail of my outer appearence needs to be translated into prettiness.

[serotonin-sunrise]

fun fact: this POV is actually called “body neutrality” and it’s SO MUCH more accessible/realistic for a lot of people. it’s based on the idea that the way we look is the least interesting/important thing about who we are, and that our bodies are worthy of respect regardless if they fit the mold of the current beauty ideals.

[ainawgsd]

The zinnias are doing fantastic!

[hobnob-69]

Oh man living in a beautiful house with a beautiful wife and owning a large automobile fucking slaps

[hobnob-69]

Oops wait not my house

[hobnob-69]

Not my wife either

[hobnob-69]

Where’s my automobile where the fuck am I

[lovegilded-deactivated20210406]

Do you have any kinks?

That second sleep after you’ve woken up too early

[humorholics-deactivated20200126]

Whoever thinks money doesn’t bring happiness, transfer it to my account

[heleus-deactivated20210102]

i love it in the beginning of mass effect andromeda when liam says,

“shit, you hear that?” in reference to the wraith on habitat seven, and ryder replies,

“i wish i didn’t.”

[homunculus-argument]

 Hey btw, another worldbuilding thing: You can, and actually should have weird and impractical cultural things. They’re not inherently unrealistic, for as long as you address the realistic consequences as well.

 Let’s say you’ve got a city where there’s tame white doves everywhere. They’re not pests, they’re regarded as sacred, holy protectors of the city, and the whole city cares for them and feeds them like they’re pets. They’re so tame because it’s a social taboo to hurt or scare one. Nice pretty doves :)

 Then someone points out that even if they’re not seen as pests, doesn’t having a completely unchecked feral pigeon population - that not only isn’t being culled, but actively fed and cared for - mean that there would be bird shit absolutely all over the place?

 A part of you wants to say no, because these are your nice, pretty doves. To explain that there’s a reason why they’re not shitting all over the place, maybe they’re super-intelligent and specifically bred and trained to not shit all over the place. The logistics of how, exactly, could anyone breed and train a flock of feral birds go unaddressed.

 An even worse solution would be to not have those birds, editing them out of the world. No, they spark joy, you can’t just toss them out!

 Now, consider: Yes, yes they would, but the city also has an extensive public sanitation service that’s occupied 90% of the time by cleaning bird shit off of everything. One of the most common last names in the area actually translates to “one who scrapes off dove shit”, and it’s a highly respected occupation. And thanks to the sheer necessity of constantly regularly cleaning everything, the city enjoys a much higher standard of cleanliness, and less public health issues caused by poor public sanitation.

 The doves do protect the city. By shitting fucking everywhere.

[cruelladatrille]

How much of the “i hate being an adult” is really just feeling the crushing preasure of capitalism

[aspiringhuman-deactivated202010]

Bruh like all of it

[valtsv]

the shape of water (2018)

[valtsv]

[weonsinnombre]

[cybermax]

When you realize how tired you are.

[unrealunearths]

This is business.

[donnapinciottideactivated]

it’s a blessing to understand that we are special, each in his own way.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

man all those posts that are like "chore incompetence from ur partner is just a manipulation tactic" sure hit differently when you got a spouse with adhd who literally cannot be aware of the fact that there's garbage on the couch

[dragon-in-a-fez]

anyway my fellow neurotypicals please stop assuming people can't just be bad at things in ways that seem ridiculous to you

[adhd-community]

I fully agree with this but also as an ADHDer I have some advice for other ADHDers who want to live harmoniously with partners/ friends.

Once someone makes you aware of an issue, take steps to try and make it better in the moment but also long-term. Putting the emotional labour on your partner to tell you to do things kinda sucks. For example, here's my list of things I try to do every day to help avoid that too much with my flatmate.

Before I go to bed:

- I straighten couch cushions because my flatmate likes this and it's not that hard

- I check the apartment for miscilaneous glasses/bowls and wash them

- I put any clutter on the main table away

Before I go to work:

- I check the bins and if something needs taking out, I take it out

- I check all the doors etc are locked and I have my keys

Unlike neurotypicals we can't trust that we will notice when something needs doing because trash-blindness is totally a thing (another post for another day). It is still on us, not our partners, to find ways around this though. Building checking-for-specific-trash/clutter into your routine can really help. You can set alarms if you need to. Also occasionally ask if there is any tasks you could be doing that would make living together better.

Finally, don't be hard on yourself if you forget sometimes - it legit IS difficult to do some "simple" things because our brains work differently, and that's not silly. The important thing is that we keep trying.