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i "recovered" and now im back and miserable.
gw 1 88 lbs. bi flag
gw 2 84 lbs. new pants
gw 3 80 lbs. new shirts
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gw 5 75 lbs. septum piercing
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UGW 69 lbs. nice
im a 5,2 boy btw
people with eating disorders and retaniers: WEAR THEM!! it makes you not subconsciously snack while youre bored
Reblog this to prove your blog was made before the February 2022 tumblr resurgence
The what now
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there had better not be a tumblr renaissance
guess who just lost his hair
Some trans guy tips from your dad
Don’t try that mascara/arm hair shit. I’ve been passing for more than a year with short, blond arm hair. It’s not an important secondary sex characteristic.
Board shorts (without pockets in the front) do wonders to minimize the width of your hips. Always choose board shorts over swim trunks. Choose them over cargo shorts if it’s appropriate.
Speak from your chest, never from your head.
The goal of binding should not be an entirely flat chest; you should bind for your body type.
GC2b makes the best binders out there, and their products are designed specifically for trans men/transmasculine people.
It might seem useless if you’re pre-T, but working out can be a big help for dysphoria.
Eyebrows are really important to passing pre-testosterone. Muss that shit up. Make them look unkempt.
When you ask for a haircut, make sure the edges in the back are squared, not rounded.
If you have peach fuzz, I would advise shaving it. Cis guys shed theirs when they go through puberty. Shaving can also help with facial hair dysphoria.
Don’t ever buy a binder from Amazon. They run in strange sizes (I was an XXL even though I’m a M in GC2b) and take weeks/months to come. It’s also difficult to breathe in them after a few hours.
@shyguyshiloh @kuchenkat
Spread the word, especially for the board shorts thing!!!!!! They do WONDERS for making hips appear slimmer!!!!!
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for my masculine children :-*
Adding a couple things.
-Patience is a virtue you need to come to terms with. Even on T, things take time. My voice dropped immediately, but my cycle continued for 6 months. We’re all different.
-In the summer, HYDRATE YOURSELF. A binder is an extra layer, and mine have always been very warm.
-When its not too hot, layers are your friend. You’d be surprised what even simply an undershirt can do to smooth out your look.
-You are going to get misgendered. This is a fact, and it sucks. Learn to politely correct people. Remember you might be the first (openly) trans person they meet, so be a good ambassador.
-When you start T, your smell will change. You will sweat like you’ve never sweat before, and it WILL STINK. Adjust your bathing habits accordingly.
*coughs in direction of my trans friendos*
If you have a really large chest you might do better with Underworks binders. They aren’t pretty, they’re not soft, but they do a good job and were the first on the market for a very long time. I couldn’t stand gc2b so if you’re like me, try Underworks.
Don’t double bind.
DON’T USE DUCK TAPE. I still have scars from a dumb decision I made as a teen and I’m 31 now.
When the time comes for top surgery, shop around. Find someone who will tailor your chest to your needs. Look at their portfolio. Compare surgeons. See if you can find someone who will work with your health insurance if you have it.
Be safe. Be healthy. Take your time. It’s not a race or a competition.
*incoherent screaming* MY TRANS MEN/ TRANS MASCULINE FOLLOWERS, L O O K👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀
A brand of pants that helps with hip dysphoria hugely is Dickies. My friend showed me em and I got the original fit, shit looks fine af and i don’t look like a goddamn snowman with them :]
If you can’t get a binder what I did was get two sports bras that were a little loose/old and layer them. I never wore them for very long so I don’t know the amount of time you should bind like that, but it really did help when chest dysphoria was kicking my ass.
HAPPY NEW YEAR ERRYBODY ILY all have a GREAT 2014
I reblogged this last month, tagged it, and said “might as well see if it works.” I used this video as a reference to find all the forms that i needed (which is A LOT, especially if you’re a dependent) and sent them through the mail, not really allowing myself to hope.
dude.
$2,714 of medical debt from my top surgery - gone. im shaking this was such a weight on me for 2 years and it fucking worked. what the fuck.
Why does it have to be hair loss and brain damage ?! Just eat the damn fat already
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hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak
socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it
climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house
crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell
the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall
do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer
Also. Breath with your mouth and not your nose. Your nose will whistle. Trust me. If you need to get into your fridge, jab your finger into the rubber part that seals the door closed and create a tiny airway. This will prevent the suction noise when you open the door. When drinking liquids (juice mostly), pour out your glass (or chug from the jug) and replace what you drank with water. If it was full enough in the beginning, no one will notice. DO NOT STEAL ALCOHOL. THEY WILL NOTICE IF IT’S WATERED DOWN. Bring a pillowcase for dried foods like cereal and granola. It helps to muffle the sound it makes when it pours.
If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.
KEEP A TRASH BAG UNDER YOUR BED FOR WRAPPERS AND STUFF BUT DONT FORGET TO THROW IT OUT WHENEVER YOU CAN. BUGS YKNOW. Hope this helped.
I might have some useful info to add.
-a jar of peanut butter is long lasting and easy to hide under a bed or in a dresser drawer. I lived off of jars of peanut butter and boxes of saltine crackers I would buy on grocery trips with my mom.
-two words: Slipper Socks. These are the socks that have rubber designs on the bottom for grip. They make no noise, and also keep you steady on slicker surfaces like tile and wood. You can find them cheap at Walmart. They also keep your feet more protected if you’re outside.
-if you’re secure enough in your room to have a small food stash, make sure you’re not too obvious about it (duh) but also move its location every few days. I kept mine in a shoebox under my bed, then switched it to a backpack in my closet, then wedged between my bookshelf and wall, and I would cycle locations until i moved it permanently to a false-bottomed drawer I installed in my dresser when my father was gone for a weekend. I would NEVER put food directly into my stash after taking it. I would keep it in pockets of my clothes and between books until everyone went to sleep, then I’d stock and stow my stash for the next few days.
-get a water bottle with a filter in it. I used to be able to reach my bathroom from my bedroom door down the hall using a huge step or minor jump/leap. If I was afraid of being caught at night, I’d fill up the humidifier tank we kept under our sink while I took a short shower, and would refill my water that way. It might not be the best option, but I kept a small stockade of water under my bed for emergencies.
-if you can, smuggle your garbage out in your backpack or purse. Dispose of it at work/school. I got caught twice by carelessly throwing away packaging.
-if someone knows the situation you’re going through (close friend/partner/etc) see if there’s a way for them to get food or other supplies to you at school or work or what private time you may get. A hidden first aid kit literally saved parts of my body before and I owe it to a close friend.
-try learning the building’s natural rhythm. The house I grew up in would creak and settle heavily every night for 3-5 minutes. That was my shot, and I had to be QUICK. I still got caught a few times, but learning the patterns in our floors and walls, when they creaked, WHERE they creaked, kept me going. Eventually I was sprinting in slipper socks to the kitchen and back in less than 90 seconds.
-if you have stairs, or live upstairs. Sit as you go down them one at a time, or climb up them like an animal. It keeps you low/out of lots of motion sight, and also can reduce noise and creaking by distributing weight over more than 1-2 steps.
-You can use common hand sanitizer to remove the stains certain snack foods leave behind (coughs cheeto fingers) and a dry toothbrush can help scrub the color off your tongue. If you can get powdered toothpaste or toothpaste tabs to keep on hand, it makes a huge difference in sneakiness.
-I don’t recommend going for dried foods like granola or cereal unless you can sneak it to a secure place to get it. It’s too loud, it’s a gamble every time for something with less caloric intake than it’s worth if you get caught. Of course, there are times when that’s the only option!!
-if you’re taking milk, add water, but be SURE to shake/agitate the bottle to distribute the dairy fat with the water. I got into the habit of shaking milk jugs when I started sneaking it, and explained the habit as something I read in an old comic strip my father showed me. (Back when whole milk had a lot more cream fats and they’d separate, so shaking it would redistribute the cream.) I still shake milk jugs to this day.
-if your windows open or don’t have screens, eat leaning out an open window. Any food mess will be lost in the dirt. I was lucky I had bushes and birds outside that would catch my granola bar crumbs before anyone could notice.
-canned goods are tempting, but not worth it. It requires too many tools (can opener/strained sometimes/utensils/some need heat) stick to thinks like various nut butters (sunflower/peanut/almond), crackers, dried fruit, and easy to conceal food bars (nature valley/nutrigrain/etc.) dried ramen packets are good uncooked if you can stand the texture. Apple sauce and pudding cups are also easier to sneak and stash than one might think, and can be eaten with your fingers. The only canned foods I recommend are condensed soups and precooked pasta (spaghetti-o’s). You can easily mix them with a little bit of hot water from the tap and get something more sustaining than a handful of captain Crunch. The cans are cheap, sometimes recyclable, and drinking soup takes way less time than chewing solid food.
-if you menstruate, attempt to stash pads/tampons in a safe location. Sometimes shit happens. Pads can work as bandages in emergency situations. Sometimes shark week comes unexpectedly. If you can sneak a roll of toilet paper or paper towels, these are also life savers.
-plastic utensils from takeout containers can be hidden inside socks and will be worth their weight in gold when you least expect it. I bought myself a tiny plastic bowl from the dollar store and kept cheap trinkets in it on my desk so it didn’t seem like a bowl I was eating out of. You could try this with something like a mason jar, which is also useful for drinking out of or storing water.
-if you’re eating a crunchy or solid food, try soaking it in water. Mushy food can be repulsive in texture, but I could clock the sound of someone eating a nature valley oat bar from like 6 miles away. Dunking it in water (or using a secret bowl+water) can reduce noise, and also eating time since you don’t have to chew as much.
-keep a laundry bar or tide pen on you. Laundry bars are super useful, a little hard to find though. I washed a lot of stains out of my clothes with laundry bars in my bathroom sink as a kid. Not proud if it, but it kept me flying under the radar at school.
-clear rubber bands, plain twine or string, paper clips, and thumb tacks. Indescribably useful. I once rigged a system to open tricky cabinets and get objects from inside using two paper clips and a foot of plain string like a mock lasso system.
-if you’re pulling objects from tall cabinets, use your chest or stomach to cushion them. Let them fall into your torso and then into your hands cradled underneath. Not as loud, not as much grabbing, if someone sees it they can mistake it for it falling on you by the body language.
-get a bandana. Or four. Napkins, bandages, tool, and accessory all in one.
-get a tiny sewing kit. I’m talking 3 needles and a spool of thread tiny. Scissors if you can sneak it. See things into your clothes. Make hidden pockets or compartments. Threadbanger on YouTube did a video a few years ago about sneaking things into music festivals using tiny clothing mods, but they may be useful in sneaking money or medicine.
-on the topic of sneaking money. don’t take bills, take change. If your abusers don’t meticulously count their nickels and pennies, they’re an easy(ish) way to build up a tiny savings pool. I found nickels the least noticed coin I took, even more than pennies, and taking two every few nights from where they’d be tossed on our countertop soon built up to a semi-reliable fund I passed off to someone to get me food for my stash without having to sneak it from the kitchen. As soon as I became “independent” in my food storage, I was subjected to much less scrutiny. I managed to build up a solid 1-2 week ration supply after hoarding change.
-you can tape SD cards to the inside of book dust covers(the part that folds inside the actual cover of the book), if you have a sewing kit or zipper on it inside the stuffing of your pillow (trim a corner, stuff it inside, stitch it closed) or (this is final resort) VERY CAREFULLY remove the covering from your outlet and tape it to the wall stud before replacing the casing. I kept mine inside part of my wooden bed frame that I hollowed out using, you guessed it, take out silverware knives and 4 nights without sleep.
-THE FLOOR IS LAVA WAS KEY TRAINING FOR ME AS A CHILD. I learned to take pillows with me, climb on furniture to disrupt my flow of movement, toss a pillow down, and use that to cushion any rattle our living room could give off as I crept to the kitchen from the side entrance so my mom’s dog wouldn’t bark or alert anyone. I highly suggest crawling around on all fours like some sort of beast to stay out of sight.
-can you run your house blindfolded?? If you can’t. Maybe you should try to learn. I suffered some heavy eye traumas growing up and had a collective 3-4 months just IN THE DARK. Eyes bandaged, left alone. It was terrible, but damn if I couldn’t navigate the whole place silently, without any visual cues. This helps a lot with the whole moving around in the dark thing, too. Listening is obviously key.
-if your parents start getting suspicious, or you’re suspicious they’re getting suspicious, watch out for traps. String on the ground that gets shifted when you walk on it. Baby powder or flour left to track footprints or doors opening/closing. My dad was partial to wrapping a bungee cord around my doorknob and attaching it to the closet across the hallway. I wouldn’t be able to open my door enough to get out, or if I did, I risked ruining the structural integrity of the wrappings he did, and he would notice.
-learn to tie some knots. Strong ones. They’ll come in handy at one point or another.
-remember that you’re not totally alone. There’s people out there for you. Wanting to make everything better. You don’t deserve what’s happening, it isn’t normal, and you will eventually find help. But staying safe is important, and you are important.
It upsets me that people might need to know these but I know it could really help someone by reblogging
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Things that have helped me over the years:
•Keeping a $10 bill on the inside of my phone case for emergencies. My mother will search my wallet and bags but has not taken my phone case off when she takes my phone as of yet.
•stashing loose change I find in the soil of my potted plant. Very quiet hiding place for coins. All bills are quickly confiscated but coins I have managed to hold onto this way
•changing food stash locations constantly. A good stash I’ve found is buried in my mice seed mix. Small packages or granola bars can fit in there pretty easily and the wrappers are flushable (I know it’s bad to flush them but my trash is routinely searched)
• always deleting online traces in case of phone/computer search. This includes search history, forbidden apps, messages, pictures, notes, games, etc. I don’t know how many times I have deleted the tumblr app during the day only to re download it late at night to use it. My phone and computer are constantly confiscated and gone through with a fine tooth comb. I delete anything I might possibly get in trouble for after I use it and re download it when I need it again. Don’t delete all your browsing history though, they will notice if it’s suspiciously empty. Fill it with safe and approved stuff and remove anything you might get punished for.
•learning what each and every door in the house sounds like so I know who is where at all times without having to leave the room
•learning where those ‘sweet spots’ are in the house where you can notice anyone coming before they can see you or what you are doing
•always having a pre-approved cover. I use books and preaching videos as covers. I can hide a phone in a book or quickly switch apps to the one playing the video if surprised or discovered.
• always being aware of ‘the trail’. If I tell a friend something who tells their sibling who tells my sibling who tells my mom I get punished so basically tell no one and it won’t come back to bite you. This includes talking about tv shows/movies that are forbidden, forbidden foods/drinks, activities, apps, games, friends, political views, etc. Express an opinion and it’s bound to reach someone you don’t want it to.
•never take from your abuser’s personal stash of food or money. The family pantry is fair game to carefully pilfer from and so is loose change but never take from their personal purse/wallet, fridge, pantry, or stash. They WILL find out.
•beware of traps and manipulation . My mother will leave money and food unattended and wait for it to disappear. She will also act like she wants to do a good thing and help you out but in the end you will pay for it a hundred times over. Avoid this if at all possible.
• NEVER develop a false sense of security. I have made the mistake of not deleting an app (Pinterest) because there had been a few weeks between phone searches and I felt a little safer. I got caught and severely punished. ALWAYS COVER YOUR TRACKS. Don’t get too confident in your methods, eventually they will find something. Make sure it’s something minor.
I just want to point out that when deleting apps, make sure to check that the app store you use doesn’t record what was recently installed. I know that the Google Play Store does this and allows you to delete things from your history, but I don’t know anything about Apple.
Apple does, in the purchased section of an account, so don’t have a false sense of security for apple apps and always try to use websites with no cookies.
Apps for screeensharing to TVs (such as Samsungcast) also have search tools so if you clear your history you can also use that and make sure to clear it. Just don’t play a video or it might end up showing on the TV screen.
I feel so sad that so many of you guys go through this all the time. Rebooting to spread the word.
Stay safe my lovelies
So, so unfortunately important. Reblogging because I would’ve loved to have had seen this growing up - I figured most of it out on my own, of course, but through an amount of trial, error, and traumatic consequences no child should ever have to go through.
Adding a few tips on my own:
-Train yourself to breathe and walk as quietly as possible. I’ve learned it without even noticing as a child; I inhale and exhale a lot and that allows me to breathe a little every time, the process is soundless. When sick, breathe with your mouth. The slightest sound can be deadly.
As for walking, stay close to walls. I’m basically walking like people who practice dance do (people often call me out for it) and it allows me to move quickly and unnoticed. Heck, it works so well that I can walk right in front of my parents without them even noticing.
-During family reunions, social event or moments when they are really focused on something (tv, book, etc), you may walk, or even “steal” something right in front of their face. Be careful though, it’s not without risk, and you’ll have a lot of trials before getting it right. Do not attempt it if the price of this trick is too high.
All you have to do is be careful of what they can see. They are facing one of your family member who is right next to them? This might be your chance. Don’t enter their line of sight, or do it as little as possible, all you need is a hand to grab what you need anyway. Don’t look at them while you’re doing it, act as natural as possible, don’t rush. It works amazingly well in family reunion, as the fuss in constant. If the objet you want to grab make sounds (like a bag of chips) you got to be careful. Grab them at the edges, and attempt this only when you feel like it’s safe (your parent is focused on something else, is not facing you, there’s a lot of noise, you think grabbing the object won’t make enough noise to get noticed, etc). Try to practice by “stealing” some of your friends stuff, pretend that you’re just messing with them and return their stuff at the end of the practice.
Test your parents; at which point do they notice your presence? All parents are different, you just need to know where you can be cocky. That being said, wearing bright colors or having a keychain that makes sound is not a good idea.
-Try to test what “tricks” work with your parents. For exemple, I learned that avoiding talking with my dad for a few day will allows me more freedom as to where and how far I can go (I needed to go on a reunion on an other city, and he allowed me to go on my own, while he doesn’t want to let me buy groceries down our street most of the time). Avoiding talking to my mom have an other response though; she gets more negligent. Keep track of your little experiment, takes notes if possible, use your phone if they go through your stuff.
-Locking your stuff away won’t work, because they’ll try everything to force it open. Specially if it’s a diary. Creating codes might help you. For exemple, I write World, W ld. Capitals written with capitals, last two, three or four letters written above the first letter. You might need to guess some words if the note isn’t recent, but putting fully written keyword will help you. Those keyword need to speak to you, and not to your parent, this way you’ll be the only one able to read it.
Hope this helps.
My situation wasn’t something I could feel out, as they were completely random in what they found acceptable and how I was punished.
I skipped class and didn’t receive any punishment, but the next time I was caught was brutal.
Things that helped me were far between, but I have a few tricks that worked.
- Crying got me out of trouble often, once it even got me out of a beating for being 1 minute late home. This only worked because I never cried, so shocking them in some way like that could help.
- They’re right, locks don’t work. You know what got my dad to stop making “midnight visits”? Sleeping naked. I have NO idea why, but he stopped coming in after that.
- Layered clothing helps lessen the blows.
- If they’re going off, figure out what helps best in the moment. Silence might make it worse, but crying might help. Unfortunately this is a trial and error system.
IF YOU HAVE TO RUN AWAY.
-Plan an exit strategy.
Where will you go? Don’t tell ANYONE about it. Concerned friends can get you killed. If running into a forest for immediate escape, trees can help.
Don’t sneak off after a fight. It’s not worth it. They’ll be expecting it.
Leave siblings. They might be able to convince the police you were hurting them and kidnapped them.
If you know a pet is going to die because of you leaving:
Practice a silent command for “quiet” for a dog. Bring a leash, extra collar, meat scraps or whatever can tide it over. A dog is going to want to return home. Dogs will also add extra protection if you have to go through the forest. If it barks prepare to run.
If you have a cat WITH a collar, any string will do as a leash. A carrier is slow and cumbersome. Cats are tough, so if it breaks free and runs off, you might not be able to get it back, so a tight grip is needed.
YOU HAVE LEFT AND ARE CONCERNED THEY’LL FIND YOU?
I ran into this issue. It’s a debilitating fear.
Get yourself (if you like) a big scary ass dog. Abusers can punk out when faced with harm. I got a Shepherd and that dog would die for me.
Look for a place with a private driveway that can’t easily be seen. I lived a minute away from them for a year and they never saw me.
You have a car that they recognize? Buy 20 cans of matte black spray paint, tape, and newspaper. New paint job to keep them guessing.
I understand why it’s hard, but I strongly suggest a protective order.
Survive until you can be free. Being broke and alone is better than this.
Here’s a few things that I am doing:
-PATTERNS!!!! They are so important. Know your parents schedule. It may be hard to find out but be really careful about how you find them. My mom is a stay at home mom but I know that when she goes out she’ll be gone for at least 2-3 hours. I always ask her if she can buy me something from Walmart. I personally say Walmart because I know every Walmart is 25 minuets away from out house. If she says she’s not going there and is going to Hobby Lobby I know that that’s 35 minutes away from the house. If she say’s Chic-fil-A that’s 3 minuets from our house, but Chic-fil-A lines are long so that gives 15 minuets of freedom. My Dad’s job has him gone through the week but I know from my mom’s mood whether or not he’ll be home early friday or late
-Camera’s. This may be different for everyone, but my parents have a camera in the house. Luckily it has a cord and the outlet is not visible from the camera. Do research on the type on camera. I did this and now I know that when I unplug it it does not give her phone a notification, so I unplug it often
-Learn their behaviors. BODY LANGUAGE is soooo important. When I was younger my mom used to tell me I wasn’t going to get something and I’ll start crying. Then she’ll get mad at me for crying and tell me that she wasn’t really going to take that thing away from me but now that I’m crying she’s actually going to. Action speaks louder than word. I now can tell when they’re angry and I know when I have pushed the limits
-Be careful when going out. My parents never let me go out with friends but I know that if I really asked to, they would. Why? Because I never go out anywhere and therefore I have a lot of passes.
-Choose your friends wisely. I am rarely friends with people my parents know. This is because my mom has a sneaky way of having my friends tell her what I do. I actually don’t do anything bad, but she finds faults in everything so…
-Don’t invite friends over. Sometimes parents will hold back when guests are over because they want to look good, but other times they’ll embarrass you. It really depends.
-Learn their footsteps. These are literally a lifesaver.
-Don’t keep a paper diary. They literally read through everyone I had. I had to learn the hard way.
-Always log out of apps. Along with this have a backup account. I have a wattpad account where I would get killed if they saw my library. I also have a backup account that has a library with just books of sad poems. If they were to ask me too sign into my Wattpad account, I would sign into the one with just the poems on it
-Always be on a private browser or incognito. I never google anything on a regular tab. Deleting history is time consuming.
-Use a max of 5 tabs. 5 tabs are easier to close than 10.
-But make sure your regular history is friendly. I usually google things like “when does the mall open” or stuff to throw them off.
-KEEP YOUR ROOM CLEAN!!!!!! This is so important. I know depression and stuff can make us have periods of time where we don’t clean, but this is so important. If your room is clean, they are less likely to go through it. Also you can tell if they’ve been through your things. I keep everything is a specific order, and I even fold my underwear.
-If your bra has padding, you can hide money in there. Be careful though because maybe your mom will ask you to press on your boobs and the money will crinkle.
-Never let them know someone gave you money. They are more likely to take it. And if they ask how much, always tell them a lie. That way if they ask for your money you’ll still have some left.
-Hide money in underwear. I know that on some underwear there’s like this flap thing where the crotch is. Fold money and put it there. Make sure to wear a pad or a panty liner though because periods, sweat, and discharge exists.
-Have your screen time on. This way you can go to setting, go to screen time, go to apps and restrictions, and put it on the 4+ setting. All apps automatically go away and when you get your phone back you can put it back on all apps and all your stuff will come back. Plus all your information is still there. Also this is easier than deleting individual apps at one time.
-Always go to sleep after them. Try to wake up before them, and never take naps when they are around. If my mom catches me sleeping I am in big trouble. It’s something that I do.
-You can’t trust siblings all the time. When my sister was getting in trouble she’ll tell my parents something about me that would make forget about her and focus on me. Siblings can’t be trusted all the time.
-Keep in contact with siblings that have left the house. My brother left the house and my mom told us to not contact him anymore. I still talk to him and I know that if I ever needed a place to go he’ll let me come live with him and he won’t tell my mom.
-Never put your parents against each other and always choose the meanest parent’s side. My mom is horrid. But it’s best to stay on her side when her and my dad is arguing. I always agree with what she says even if it’s wrong. Not agreeing with her has consequences.
-Keep quiet. Always maintain eye contact, and keep your hands behind your back. I do this when my mom is getting onto me. I never defend myself because if I do I’m being “disrespectful” and “talking back”. I also maintain eye contact. If I don’t she thinks I’m not listening to her. I’m usually not because I zone out, but still. KEEP YOUR HANDS BEHIND YOUR BACK!!!!!!!! Please please please please please please do this. Any hand movement or any movement of my body is considered as a threat to my mom. She always thinks I’m trying to fight her and this is usually end up with me getting beat.
-If you’re getting beat keep your face covered. My mom threw a statue thing at me and now I have this cut between my eyebrows. Bruises on other parts of your body are easier to hide. You face is not.
-Never fight back or block a blow. This makes them madder and will result in harder blows.
-Don’t be on your phone around your parents.
-Never leave your phone unattended.
-Charge your phone is a hidden place. I put mine on the charger behind my bed.
-Keep your phone on Do Not Disturb
-Always place your phone face down
- Out of sight, out of mind. I try to stay out of my parents way but I also try to make appearances so they don’t make me leave my room. If they don’t see they forget about me. Also try to stay quiet.
-Ask for things if they are in a good mood or distracted.
-If your family has a dog make sure it likes you. My dog was very protective of me. If someone was coming towards my room door she would growl to alert me. When my mom was beating me she’ll growl and snap at my mom. Unfortunately this resulted in things getting thrown at my dog or her getting kicked. I really miss her.
-Don’t make noise when walking. I walk so quietly and I am also good at standing behind people without them noticing.
-Learn to control your breathing.
-Don’t take deep breaths as a way to cool down while in front of your parents. I did this a few times and my mom labeled it as “huffing and puffing”. She uses this as a sign that I have an attitude.
-Be good in school. Phone calls from school is terrible.
-Get good grades. You want to have good grades if you want to leave the house.
-Again beware of traps. My mom will leave things out and wait for someone to take them.
-Don’t let them see you too happy. If your parents are anything like my mom she’ll take away anything that makes you happy.
i will never not reblog this
I didn’t see this tip written anywhere, so here it is:
A backpack!!! It’s always good to have a big backpack with enough room to not only fit all your school stuff in, but also other things - if you don’t have one, think about investing in one (if your parents ask questions, you can always sasy that your old one is too small for all your books).
I for example carry a big part of my belongings in my bag at all times, because of my family and also because of my siblings going through my drawers pretty often. I keep all my tampons in there, almost all my money, a mini sewing kit (a needle, a pin and thread), razors for shaving, a pocket knife, etc. etc.
this is a small thing but buy a small set of silverware. eating with my hands makes me feel like shit and also germs so just go to berlingtons or something snd get the smallest thing you can find
🎄Reblog if you're an active ED blog in Dec 2021 I want more homies🎄
weight loss spell !!
like to charge, reblog to cast
Oml the day after I did this, my stomach is much much flatter and my arms/legs are thinner there’s no way I didn’t lose weight reblogging again
i'm back
fuck the seven deadly sins. reblog and tag your most toxic trait: aggression, suspicion, manipulativeness, dominance, risk-taking, callousness or grandiosity
ENJT as well.
i feel bad now
yeah yhe suspicion and risk taking being the highest is definitely right
yup sounds abt right im literally a drug addict lolll
link
uhh okay what is this supposed to mean now???
i’m an intp
I’m an INFJ and sadly this seems accurate. I do be having anger issues 🤷
Yessir
I’ve grown a lot in the past few years, I’ve definitely become a much easier to be around person, for a while whenever I was kind I felt like a fake because so often I felt like I was a bad person. Once I gave up the notion that I was a bad person I’ve been able to be good without feeling bad- if that makes any sense?
NSFW will be tagged as #lemon sorta NSFW is #Lime Weird fet shit/ extreme NSFW is #orange reblog to spread awareness that we’re back on the citrus scale
shitty pride flags pt.2 electric boogalo
