Hello, all! I’m Miles, he/they, 23 y/o. Believe it or not, this is my softer kink blog (i’m not gonna share the main one here cause i’m into some pretty fucked up stuff but this blog will be for when i’m in subspace and wanna be treated a lil softer than normal🥰
i am STRICTLY a bottom and a sub (i believe another term for it would be pillow prince? iirc i think that’s the name for it lol), do not ask me to dom you or otherwise be in charge of anything, i am not good at it and you will be quite disappointed lmao😭
(Kinks & Limits below the cut)
Kinks:
breeding, size kink, voice kink, praise, degradation, bruising/marking up/biting, bondage/gags, choking/breath play, pet play, temperature play (ice/wax(?)), body writing, overstimulation
*i am into misgendering/detrans kinks but ONLY as a fantasy and i have a different blog for that :3*
Limits:
- don’t call me ‘pig’, ‘slave’, ‘s*ssy’, ‘disgusting’; not a fan of being called pet names like “babe”, “doll”, etc. unless we’ve already talked before and have discussed it first.
- calling me the f slur or any ableist slurs is an immediate block.
- don’t refer to my genitals as “prince/princess parts”.
- rimming/armpits/scent kink (the latter is a soft limit but don’t expect it most of the time)
- piss/scat, vomit, spit (especially in my mouth, this is a HARD limit), cheating, raceplay, ED/feeder/stuffing kinks
- heavy body modification (i.e. head shaving) for humiliation/degradation purposes or anything permanent like tattoos (except womb tattoos and only as fantasy/kink), branding, permanent scarring
- severe injury/gore/SH, face slapping, gun play, drowning, death/snuff
- beastiality
- ANYTHING involving actual children/infants (this includes anything about labor/giving birth, i may have a massive breeding kink but that stops at the pregnancy part)
I think when a sub says "you can do whatever you want to me" what they're actually wanting is to not make decisions anymore, and they think by saying this they can foist the decision making off on the dom without having to do any of the work beforehand. But unfortunately to get to the Not Making Choices part of kink you do in fact have to make a Lot Of Choices beforehand and communicate those choices to your partner. This is an essential part of the process and skipping it is both unsafe and unfair for whoever you're playing with.
Not Making Choices is the reward for communicating clearly, not the default
To people who say this, as someone who has been there, reasons you might find yourself wanting to say "you can do whatever you want to me":
It feels flirty (situationally dependent. This is not the use OP is talking about but make sure you've *already negotiated* before, don't say it in response to genuine questions. If anything else on this list feels true to you, don't let being flirty be an excuse to say it anyway/not communicate/not address those other factors.)
Wanting to please/prioritize your partner (not a bad desire, but they likely want a clear understanding of your own wants and limits so that they can not only do what they want to do but have the Impact they want.)
Fear of seeming too needy, demanding, not submissive enough (maybe ask for them to share some of their desires and limits first so it doesn't feel like you're leading the conversation right out the gate, and understand that you having to trust that if you ask for something they don't care for they'll say no is the same trust they have to have in you.) (note- some Doms DO complain about subs being demanding, or asking for things right out the gate, treating them as kink dispensers. Subs Can be shitty like that and it's fair to complain, but also Doms can do this unreasonably, and in either case people overhearing these complaints can absorb that "don't be demanding, treat your Dom as a person" incorrectly as "don't ask for things")
Not knowing what you want (generally you can just state this outright, I recommend including a request for suggestions or brainstorming, or a discussion of a kink tasting, "Can we try a couple things and see what clicks?" If they're not up to work with you on figuring it out then you will have to just figure out what you want by yourself or with someone else.)
Decision fatigue/desire to set aside making choices (you can in fact also say this bluntly. Being offered a simple two options to pick between works for some people, so you can suggest that as a starting point. You may also need to get some down time to start with, prior to subbing. Subspace is not a replacement for self care and the human need for relaxation. It can help with decision fatigue to have time in subspace, so before doing more in depth scenes needing signifact negotiating you can do smaller ones to help that, but you do need to make Some decisions and do communication upfront for that even if you find ways to safely minimize the decisions to start with. You could ask for suggestions and make the only decisions be indicating your interest/lack, fill out kink interest worksheets so it's on paper instead of a conversation and can be broken up into more manageable chunks, or do a tasting type scene where all you say is yes and no. Seriously try to give yourself downtime and meet your needs without Just putting them on another person though.)
Shame about expressing desires (let yourself be embarrassed. Turn red, stammer, say "I need a minute", push yourself to voice at least one thing. You don't need to be suave in a negotiation, and most Doms will find it cute/hot. And probably do some reflecting on where that shame comes from, how it does and doesn't align with your values, and unpack that some with a professional or at least a trusted friend.)
Fear of setting boundaries/voicing limits (this is a serious one. If you can't do this in the negotiation do you think you can safeword in the moment? You simply Have to find a way to set those boundaries to be able to play. That's not to say you can't Work on this while in a kink relationship, but you need to start working on it Now, and make sure that your Dom understands that that's where you're at and is okay with being in those troubled waters with you. Do Not Be Shitty if they are not up for it. Let them leave without guilting them.)
Lack of concern about your own wellbeing (first of all goddamn do I get it. Depression is hard, ideation warps perception of everything, trauma can destroy your sense of self preservation, I used to think trusting someone meant not minding if they did hurt you rather than having faith that they won't. If you can't find it in you to care about not being hurt for your own sake, care about it for theirs. They almost certainly don't want to trigger you, hurt you in a way you dislike, abuse you, or kill you. If they do want to do those things then you saying what you don't want won't stop them, so in that case it doesn't matter. But they probably don't, that's why they're negotiating with you. Your lack of concern doesn't outweigh their concern for your wellbeing, so let them know the relevant info.)
Thinking about what fits here can get you to a place to address issues, accomodate your needs, and communicate effectively.
THIS! ^ PREACH!!!!!!!! ((don't get me wrong, the whole "you can do whatever, i just want to be an object" IS hot, but long-term can fuck with the mind so I'm always hesitant whenever a sub says something like that, again, hot but causes huge room for concern and all, cuz like.... I'm genuinely into some uber dark shit i haven't posted about, and finding someone into that stuff is RARE, so...yea 👉👈))
I cannot express how much I want to be just a little too full, stretched out just a little too wide by a cock and having them tell me that they're going to make it fit inside of me.
The truth is that any amount of pain and “it’s too big” can be put to the side if you tell me how much of a good boy I am for taking it. I am so eager to please it’s actually a problem. I will let you ruin me if you tell me good job afterwards.
God wouldnt it be so hot if you shoved your cock in me in the middle of the night? You're pleasuring yourself with my body while I'm asleep and I just wake up ever so sleepy but your cock is just so warm and filling. You use your body weight to pin me to the bed and fill my pussy even deeper while whispering in my ear. "Shhhhhhh. I know, I know it feels good. But I'm not done just yet, love. Go back to sleep for me, okay? I'll be gentle."
Imagine waking up in the morning with a huge load deep inside you. Ugh. Craving that so bad rn.
thick knotted monster cock drooling pre so thick it's basically lube, dribbling down over you, the heat of it making your body ache and surrender the second the pointed tip starts to push inside.
ooo you wanna call me a good boy so badly… you wanna tell me i’m such a pretty puppy and deserve all the treats in the world… you wanna clip my collar around my neck and tell me it fits perfectly before pulling it so tight i can hardly breathe… fuck i’m drooling
