yes YOUR choice bitch. stop making it everyone else’s problem? stop tryna act like ALL women should want to submit to a man and cook n clean all damn day 🤦🏽
you can be a tradwife and mind your own business! so crazy huh?!
Life for actual 1950s housewives was lonely and boring — if you were "lucky." Others suffered abuse; domestic violence was considered a "private family matter" until the women's liberation movement of the 1960s and '70s. Marital rape was only outlawed in all 50 states in 1993, and still today between 10 and 14 percent of women are raped by their husbands, according to the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence.
Women in the mid-century dealt with the "problem that has no name" — anxiety, depression, boredom, and sometimes psychosis associated with being a housewife — with sedatives. In 1960, five years after the tranquilizer Miltown was introduced to Americans, women were twice as likely as men to be prescribed "mother's little helper."
Not only did ads and media push this drug onto women in order to better care for their husbands — so did doctors. As Heather Radke wrote in Topic, "In a 1956 article in Cosmopolitan, one doctor reported that after taking the drug, 'frigid women who abhorred marital relations reported they responded more readily to their husbands’ advances.'"
Those who weren't advertised to take tranquilizers were advertised to drink. (Funny, that you don't see those ads on tradwife fantasy TikTok.)
Wow @sweetlavendercottage Now I'm starting to understand why young women want to become tradwife. Because instead of saying that they are addicted, they can say that they need "mother's little helper"
The fact that they stay at home and take care of the children/farm animals/household…
The fact that they dress in dresses from the 1940s
The fact that they wear high heels and love pink color
That they love their husbands and want to take care of them
What bothers me about trad wife:
When they make other women depressed (for example, single mothers) by showing their 'perfect' lives and convince women that they are not feminine enough because they want to work, because they don't want to have children, because they want to dominate in a relationship
That they don't think about their future. They drop out of school, they don't start small businesses. After all, they could run a house and, for example, sell handmade jewelry, soaps… They could protect themselves and not live in dreams that their 'traditional' husbands would never turn out to be 'dick'.
*Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. My first wife was a traditional wife… The first time I cheated on her was after 2 years of marriage… And I did it many times until I met my second wife.
That many trad wife blogs also promote CDD (Christian Domestic Discipline) and thus support abuse. You think CDD is not abuse. Open your eyes:
The domestic discipline movement encourages spanking as punishment. Learn why researchers argue that this is abuse.
Have you ever seen steam coming out of someone’s ears? Recently I was listening to a domestic violence expert describe the supposedly biblic
That they believe that men should be served. That men should always make decisions and be leaders.
*It's a bit funny looking at history and the fact that most wars are caused by men.
That they think that trad wife is only for heterosexual couples.
That they despise men who, in their opinion, are not masculine enough.
And now some good advice from a man to trad wife.
We men are not perfect or the smartest. You may think that we are the most traditional, loving, ideal husbands, but… Each of us has a tendency to cheat, hurt and humiliate you. Don't base your entire life on serving a man. Do you want to be a trad wife? Be a tradwife. But remain a smart, independent woman.
The most lovely thing about having a traditional hubby is, life becomes so much more comforting. There's a stereotype that tradwives have to live like slaves or something but the truth is, if you're truly with a sincere and upright traditional man, life is quite sweet and charming. Kisses and cuddles and sweet words as much as you want. Sharing food and laughter. Caring for your garden or pets or children together. The happiness multiplies and the sorrows diminish. I feel protected and cherished. He feels manly and loved. A lot of small gestures add up to a sweet life. Him insisting that I take the one free seat on the subway while he stands near me. Holding my hand whenever we go out like a teenager in love. Dancing while cooking. Me insisting upon serving the food on his plate. Him humming me to sleep. Me breaking into a silly tune to welcome him home. Asking him for advice. Him asking for my opinion. This world demands us to fight and fight and in each other, we find peace. We rest. We play. We pray. We love. That's what marriage is, isn't it? To find your own little corner in this fast paced world. A corner you can call home. He provides us with a house and protects us and I try to breathe life into it, making it a home for ourselves. I am at peace. When you're with a true man who treats you like a queen, it's no wonder you treat him like your king as well. Never settle for anything less. Life can be so so beautiful.
Can we stop pretending that only a trad wife can have such a marriage? My wife is not a trad wife.
My wife hates this trend.
And yet our marriage looks similar.
I was raised to respect women.
And my wife was raised on the principle that if a man treats you well, you should treat him well.
You don't have to be a trade wife to have a happy marriage and a healthy relationship.
I'm so glad for women like the one in this video finally speaking out against the trap of "sprinkle sprinkle" and "soft trad-wife life".
Women like myself have been vilified so much on social media for speaking out against the new trend of "hypergamy" that aims to glamorize patriarchal gender roles and reinforce the subordination of women under the guise of an "easy life". We are often told that we are masculine, undesirable, and overworked because we take pride in our independence, strong sense of self, and agency, and we take up space for ourselves instead of shrinking to appease others, especially men.
Those attempts at shaming us have always seemed funny to me because they highlight how misguided the girls and women who choose to buy into the idea that you can live a life of luxury and ease by depending on someone else, without realizing that the payoff for it is often times harder than what it takes to be educated, accomplished, and to make a name for yourself with your own efforts.
It doesn't matter if it comes from a chronically online leftist who hates "girl boss feminism", or a conservative who is looking to impose archaic gender roles on society. These women will sooner or later learn that being dependent on another adult is a recipe for disaster, and they will have nobody else but themselves to blame for it.
If you are reading this and are considering living a domestic life because you think it will be easier than to make your own money and attain an education, I implore you to think twice. You don't want to look back 20 years from now and regret having wasted your youth by putting yourself at the mercy of a man.
There is no greater feeling when an independent and self-confident woman comes to you for help.
Then you can really feel manly.
Submissive and obedient wives can only give you a substitute for masculinity. They come to you because they have to. Because that's how they were trained.
Independent and free women come to you because they saw something in you. Because they really felt that you were a man who would help them solve their problem.
So when my beautiful, independent wife comes to me and says, "Can you help me with..." I feel like the most masculine man in the whole world and I know I'm doing everything right.
1. She has the right to be herself and express her feelings and dissatisfaction loudly.
2. I don't want her to act like she has a stick up her ass.
3. We should avoid swearing, but if something slip out, the world will not end... Let's gossip together... I don't like being left behind with current gossip.
4. Independence and her fierce nature is what is most attractive to me.
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