Spice Odyssey

Intersex trans woman. Asexual, gray-romantic. White. Bean hive queer mother. | LGBT+, anxiety, toxicity, abuse | Silly stuff tagged "tumblr wumblr" | Love whoever, be whatever: harmful behavior or protecting it = instant block.

[crewdlydrawn-deactivated2022072]

TBC since tumblr’s posting methods changed

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Linked article URLs, in order of appearance:

1. Exploiting harassment claims

2. Bob Livingston admits claim is true

3. Truth about false allegations

4. Coming forward is traumatic

5. Accusational statistics

6. Assault victims’ memory reliability

7. Truck stop killer

8. Not worth the book deal

9. Percentage of women who have experienced sexual harassment.

[whatbigotspost]

I have read a LOT of commentary about the Kavanaugh situation and this is, by far, the best thread yet imo.

Should prove very helpful in rebutting lots of assholes out there.

[i-the-throw-away-deactivated201]

“Yes, being in a female dominated field, I do know what it means to be marginalized. “

oh

my

god

omg

oh my fucking god

[freedominwickedness]

The really ugly part is they’ve actually done multiple sociological studies on this, and guess what the result is? Men in female-dominated fields aren’t marginalized at all; they get special treatment and are fast-tracked to the top, getting more credit for their work, faster promotions, and greater pay and benefits than their female colleagues.

Here’s one study. Here’s another. And another.

[momqueer]

^phenomenon known as the glass escalator

[dynastylnoire]

have you ever been around male nurses….mannnn

[sourcedumal]

Men in female dominated fields are entitled as hell. Don’t get it twisted

[greatmardini]

teaching is a female-dominated field but most principals are male

librarianship is a female-dominated field but most directors are male

[lechugaaaaadeldiablitoooo]

Cooking is female dominated but most chefs are males

[pinkcheesegreenghost-deactivate]

a large percent of hair stylists are women,  but most major hair care brands are owned by men

[takealookatyourlife]

It’s so fucked up that women are so universally dismissed and hated in society that nearly every single woman goes through a phase (if not a lifetime) of thinking she isn’t like other women purely because she has rational thoughts, hobbies, feelings, and needs.

[irreverentfemme-deactivated2019]

Internalized misogyny is so real.

[nevertrustadoctorwho]

Never trust a doctor who wont diagnose you with something because "it's rare" and they've "only seen 2 patients with it" even though they acknowledge the fact that you have all the symptoms.

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[mioxenoblade]

Hey guess what addicts are human too and they deserve shelter, food, water, and healthcare just as much as anyone else whether or not they’re trying to “kick” addiction.

[sitrollover9]

yeah lets give addicts the means to continue their addiction you’re an absolute genius. lets give them a house food water and let their family find them dead with a needle in their arm :D do y'all know anything about addiction. addicts are human but they have a disease.

[mioxenoblade]

Ya know, I was going to refute you but I realized that if you think like this then you’re actually part of the problem and you don’t actually care about others. You’re an absolute scum bag and those addicts you shame are better than you.

[spiceodyssey]

It's funny, pretending to care about addicts overdosing... despite most drugs' inability to kill you if you aren't trying, and the fact it is definitely much easier to die of lack of clean water, food or shelter. Not to mention healthcare would imply treatment of the addiction. But who needs that? If their life derails, let's just make them as desperate as possible and take away any resources and support needed to recover Oh, and let's deny them jobs, why not? Force them to get money elsewhere, that's definitely not going to backfire. Heck, let's derail their lives by firing them from their jobs in the first place, over addictions (or any substance use, really) you would never know about without dabbling in their pee, because Pee is the Truth, and who cares if they're a kind and productive employee. Ostracizing them is sure to instantly remove any addictions, and heal other diseases too. Because that's how you treat illnesses, right?

Yeah, caring about addicts SO hard. ":D"

[adhd-ahamilton]

“Were there any straight people in this period of history?”

“Well…obviously speaking, there must have been some people that nowadays we would describe as ‘straight’, but we have to be very careful about applying modern standards of sexuality to the past. I’m sure if you asked anybody at the time if they were straight, they would have been very confused. And there’s something quite dangerous about forcing identities onto people who might not consider themselves that way. You also need to keep in mind that some things that today would seem ‘straight’ to us - like getting married, having children, etc. - were just the way things were back then. Nobody would have thought twice about doing that, including non-straight people. And there were plenty of people who undoubtedly got married, had very intensely emotional connections with their spouse, but then went off to go see their lover. Again, sexuality is a very complex thing, so I wouldn’t presume to state definitively that anybody was ‘straight’, and especially not without good, solid evidence that they were exclusively heterosexual. To presume otherwise would not only be making a lot of assumptions, it might even just promote harmful, overdone stereotypes about what makes someone ‘have’ to be straight, you know? So, yes, technically speaking there were, but I don’t see any reason to specifically consider straight people historically.”

[lesbeans-on-toast]

[lesbeans-on-toast]

@oneofthemtheaternerds i am so sorry i failed to adequately represent you in this post. it is important to me to represent all straight people equally, so i have added another box -inspired by what you have said- to fully account for straight culture in all its depth. apologies again for the oversight.

[catrabbittale]

Introduction to our web comic ‘The Cat Rabbit Tale’. See new episodes in https://tapas.io/series/CatRabbitTale EDIT: The resolution for these images should be fixed now.

[homoz]

Gay people who go to straight bars with their straight friends are braver than any US Marine

[megamindmutual-deactivated20191]

gay people who have straight friends are braver than any US marine

[surrealmf]

gay people are braver than any US marine

[gender-critical-appspot]

[charismat1c-megafauna]

Good.

[christinecanigula-archive]

good

[covid-69]

good

[sovietshopaholic]

Good

[mioxenoblade]

good

[spiceodyssey]

Good.

[fiercetransgirls]

Sylvia Rivera calling out gays and lesbians for their trans exclusion in 1973 at the Christopher Street Liberation Day rally (x)

[tombipetty-deactivated20170425]

interesting how so many people will agree that “mothering is the hardest/most intense/most important job in the world” but the people who perform the work of mothering for money (daycare workers and nannies) are payed shit wages and nobody cares. it’s almost as if we glorify motherhood to convince women to have children but actually consider the gendered work of caretaking to be worth next to nothing.

[spiceodyssey]

I am increasingly convinced that white feminism, TERFs, and any other instance of non-intersectional feminism is the biggest threat to gender equality, even worse than actual self-aware sexists. Aside from merely trading some inequality for another at best, it sows distrust in all movements that advertise change, enabling inequality to persist. Strengthens it, even.

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[ithotyouknew-deactivated2015051]

I put on my Tinder profile that I hate sports, I don’t drink beer and I’m 150% feminine all day all the time and so many guys are like…offended? One guy was like “what if the guy you like loves sports, you won’t even watch with him?” And I asked “will you wake up at 8am during fashion week to watch live streams of shows with me because that’s what I’m really interested in. And he said “I don’t really find that interesting.” And I’m like THEN WHY THE FUCK WOULD I CARE ABOUT SPORTS FOR YOU OMG. 

[wyldwoodfaye-deactivated2015080]

this isn’t an isolated thing. women are expected to change for men. if you don’t want to have children (ever) then someone is bound to say to you: well, what if your husband wants to have children? i was thinking about dyeing my hair & my dad says, what if the guy you’re dating doesn’t like it? we’re expected to lose weight & to dress in a certain way to appeal to men. we’re expected to be less opinionated, less assertive, less talented when competing against a man… it never fucking ends.

[feministsexworker-blog]

DO YOU AND WEED OUT THE WEAK MEN 🌺

[kateordie]

Every time someone tells me they won’t dye their hair/do something they like/wear something/make a choice because their boyfriend wouldn’t like it I suggest eating him alive and moving on to stronger men

[nodaybuttodaytodefygravity]

Seriously, weed out this kind of person. So many people stay with a guy like this because they assume that’s what all men are like so they think they might as well deal with it.

Don’t settle for someone like this. There are really good people out there that won’t pull this crap. I know that my boyfriend hates tattoos but when I decided to get my first one he just said okay cool. He’s never tried to talk me out of one and never shit-talked the ones I have gotten. In fact when I said I wanted to get another one he said he works with someone whose brother is an awesome tattoo artist and he could get me in contact with them.

He doesn’t deserve or ask for a trophy for this. We both consider support to be a minimum requirement in a relationship. There are fortunately guys that will support you so don’t ever settle for anything less.

[feminismandmedia]

I’m just waiting for the guy who will sit up with me to watch Fashion Week or watch all my barbie movies with me. Hell yeah I’ll watch sports with you if you watch my stuff. Relationships are two-sided. Weed out the assholes who just want you as trophy.

Mod Bethany

[neptune-at-perihelion]

My ex-boyfriend didn’t want children and was annoyed that I didn’t want either. I should have wanted children, and changed my mind for him. My opinion about my own parenthood was worthless because I made it without him. It wasn’t a proof of love.

The more a woman is herself, the more a real man will love her. If not, he just like a specific performance of feminity.

And I confirm, there are real men out there who will love their girlfriend for who she is. Everything she is. They won’t find her interests interesting, but they will love she finds them interesting.

[ahumanbeena]

Did you know that after they switched to blind auditions, major symphony orchestras hired women between 30% to 55% more? Before bringing in “blind auditions” with a screen to conceal the the candidate, women in the top 5 major orchestras made up less than 5% of the musicians performing.

[shwetanarayan-deactivated202504]

so I believe it was actually more complicated than that, in interesting ways. Because at first, when they did blind auditions, they were STILL hiring more men.

…Then they put down a carpet, so that high heels didn’t clack on the floor,  and BOOM women were suddenly getting hired.

The testers didn’t even know that’s what they were picking up on, which just goes to show how tiny of a cue it takes for misogyny to kick in.

[isaacsapphire]

The case of blind auditions for orchestras and how it dramatically changed the gender makeup of orchestras is a very illuminating example of gender bias, and an interesting possible way of countering it.

[quinndolyns-deactivated20220403]

capitalists right now are terrified of the spectre of “automation”, which is, ostensibly, an incredibly good thing.

capitalists are writing articles that say “Machines Are Going To Replace All Low-Income Jobs” as if this is somehow a bad thing to be happening

machines taking the grunt work and doing it for us? order takers at restaurants being replaced by tablets? unnecessary work being done for us, automatically? these are all GREAT things!

but under capitalism, this reveals a fatal flaw; the poor cannot exist, cannot subsist, without being fed scraps by the rich. when our jobs are replaced by robots, the rich man has no reason, any longer, to hand us those scraps.

in an ideal world, robots doing trash collection and janitorial work and other such jobs would be a good thing. but under capitalism, it means the decimation and further poverty of the working people.

[thecringeandwincefactory-deacti]

It could be the promise of the future, freeing humanity to devote its days to study and creation. Capitalism demands the sacrifice of that dream.