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[spiderandme]

if u do not allow for the possibility that you have wasted large amounts of time in the past then you also rule out by extension the possibility that you could ever waste time in the future or could be wasting time right now this second! which means that it doesn't matter how you spend your life and there'll never be any reason to change it! it's good (vitally necessary) to forgive yourself for having wasted time but that is not the same as tricking yourself into believing that you have no agency and never could have done it any other way!

[diviously]

Mauwoir :3

[stillnaomi]

unless you want to teach small kids about a laundry list of sex acts, they're not going to even recognise many acts of CSA as sexual in nature. instead, we need to have children who are raised with an expectation of bodily autonomy and who feel comfortable complaining when they're made or asked to do things they don't feel comfortable with. we need children to have the expectation that those complaints will be taken seriously and that they'll receive backup to make sure situations like that don't continue. if their desires for bodily autonomy are consistently ignored, how can we expect them to speak out when something confusing and uncomfortable happens with their parent, cousin, or babysitter? we've already taught them that what they feel comfortable with doesn't matter

[spiderandme]

i think that the empire strikes back is a legitimate real world example of qualityslop that people only like because it’s good

[spiderandme]

look i get why you're not just saying "GOT" but "asoiaf" has too many FUCKing vowels and also my ailing brain wants it to stand for it's always sunny in filadelphia

[dumbpuppyfag]

so like. okay so like you have this online ecosystem where everyone's all fractured and algorithmically siloed into their little groups, right?? and the only contact they have with outsiders is through screenshots, meaning you're only ever seeing the stuff that's objectionable or funny enough to be screenshotted in the first place. and the people who rise to the rank of screenshot curator are the people who spend all day sniffing around the other camps for stuff to screenshot. so you have this epistemological chokepoint dictated by someone whose main hobby is sneaking around with a camera getting all up in someone else's business and making it into a public spectacle. and the easiest way to make it into a public spectacle is to make your audience scared and angry. and the easiest way to do that is to play on existing negative biases, like pushing an open door yknow?? so you have this dynamic that rewards prejudice and elevates it to a position of narrative authority. and the people who can do this the most effectively and consistently are the ones who have no qualms about stalking marginalised people and crafting narratives about how they're scary and evil. and you reeeaaally gotta question whether or not any of this is actually beneficial to anyone or if it's just doing to you what fox news did to your dad, yknow??

[soberscientistlife]

[littledoggy-girlcollar]

some of you have GOT to get comfortable with lying and situational morality and i'm not kidding

[spiderandme]

[rslashrats]

[spiderandme]

food motivated 🍰🐀

[spiderandme]

4chan's species/gender dysphoria levels must've been absolutely off the fucking meter for a show as aggressively mediocre as friendship is magic to have that happen to it

[spiderandme]

5 things to know about the latest Minneapolis shooting

Tensions are escalating in Minneapolis after Alex Jeffrey Pretti, a U.S. citizen, was killed during an encounter with immigration officials

takes fully two hundred and fifty words for this spineless fucking article to allude to who he "was killed" by i fucking hate npr dude

[spiderandme]

i'm trying to write a piece (video essay?) where i rank all the star wars movies in depth but from the viewpoint that star wars is and always has been fun trashy pop shit that doesn't demand any more serious critical attention than like something like glee and that this is a liberating thing to admit about any media property because it allows you to love your inner child in a way that is equally respectful of all parties involved, and the climactic joke will be ranking season one of glee as the second best star wars movie. however i am uninspired to write well, the right words just aren't coming in the right order, and i desperately need to get and maintain some semblance of a Life for at least a month or two before i can confidently and responsibly be telling anyone how to think about even the smallest of things i think. so i'm gonna get ready for bed.

[spiderandme]

“get ready for bed” meant “wash my sheets and pajamas and take a 40 minute shower and shave” but that’s okay

i like using tumblr like it’s twitter sry

[spiderandme]

i'm trying to write a piece (video essay?) where i rank all the star wars movies in depth but from the viewpoint that star wars is and always has been fun trashy pop shit that doesn't demand any more serious critical attention than like something like glee and that this is a liberating thing to admit about any media property because it allows you to love your inner child in a way that is equally respectful of all parties involved, and the climactic joke will be ranking season one of glee as the second best star wars movie. however i am uninspired to write well, the right words just aren't coming in the right order, and i desperately need to get and maintain some semblance of a Life for at least a month or two before i can confidently and responsibly be telling anyone how to think about even the smallest of things i think. so i'm gonna get ready for bed.

[spiderandme]

just bc i feel the need to reaffirm to myself that i'm not hyperbolizing what she said the exact conversational thread that caused me to fire this therapist was:

"i feel like i want to find concrete ways to perform self-love on a day-to-day basis" "well, what do you think you could do to become deserving of self-love?" "i'm not sure i understand what you mean?" "i mean what sort of person do you picture yourself potentially being who would be worthy of self-love as opposed to who you are right now? i'm having a hard time getting any kind of self-image out of you." "...i suppose i'd like to try and love myself as i am right now unconditionally." "that's not realistic. you are so far away from that right now. maybe with a lot of prolonged work you could achieve feeling neutral-to-okay about yourself, but unconditional self-love isn't an attainable goal." "...really all i meant was like 'i want to make sure i'm going outside every day' and stuff." "okay sure that's a good idea."

[spiderandme]

i love my cousin so fucking much

[spiderandme]

all the greatest writing on the internet is by trans ppl with a hundred followers in microcommunities you have to spend at least a year or two on the given platform to stumble upon

[leilakalomi]

Think of your worst therapist. What did they do to earn that designation?

Frequently canceled sessions

Missed 1 or more sessions (without telling you)

Were frequently late

Multitasked during your session

Laughed when you told them about a traumatic/upsetting experience

Told you that you weren't trying hard enough when you were feeling desperate

More than one of the above

Something else (add in notes if comfortable)

I have never had anything like this happen; my therapists were all great

Voting ended onJan 7

[spiderandme]

jacob collier’s wired videos are such terrible pieces of music communication. he can’t give a single normal answer to any question and all of the comments are people not understanding anything and thinking it’s their fault for being stupid. i feel like there’s a pressure to qualify every jacob collier roast with something to the effect of “he’s obviously been a net positive influence on the development of music as an art form” and i just don’t think that’s true sorry, i think he’s been a disaster!

[spiderandme]

he alternates rapidly between expounding on the most basic of basics (condescending) and diving into esoteric topics and frameworks (confusing) which makes it seem like he’s generally just trying to make himself seem better than the person he’s talking to, but it’s a little less pernicious than that. he really is that excited by both the fundamentals and the esoterica, and telling other people about them is his way of continually vicariously experience the feeling of learning about them for the first time again. unethical in a deontological kantian way in that his “students” are being treated as a means to an end, but more consequentially he leaves out the unsexy 80% of study joining the fundamentals to the esoterica because that’s not nearly as fun for him to relive.

[spiderandme]

in response to "i'm trying to understand the concept of a polyrhythm. is this an example? [link]" he gives an overly simplistic answer of "it just means multiple rhythms at once" (which the asker certainly already knew) and then ignores the example provided in favor of busting out an aurally unparseable 6:5:4:3:2 finger tapping party trick. and then the comments are like "i don't think the non-musicians in the audience realize just how impressive that was" and it's like, okay sure but he didn't answer the fucking question!! he made the asker as well as the general audience feel stupider rather than smarter, which is the exact opposite of what he's supposed to be doing!!