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Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

[submissivefeminist]

SF’s Guide to Safewords

Safewords are a very important aspect of BDSM. A safeword is a word (or phrase) that lets your partner know that you need to stop the scene. This practice is used in most BDSM dynamics ,especially where words like “no” or “stop” aren’t said with intent to end the scene. For example, a submissive may jokingly plead, “no” during a spanking, even though they want to continue and aren’t in any real danger. In this case, a safeword can be used to let the Dominant know when the submissive really wants to stop instead of when they say “no” or “stop”. 

It’s important to only use your safeword when you need it, and to use it every time you need.

Not everyone who uses safewords has ruled out “no” or “stop” as words that mean they’ve had enough, so always be clear with your partner(s) when choosing a safeword by saying, “I want you to only stop when I say the safeword” or “I want you to listen for any request to stop including the safeword.” Either method is fine–it all depends on the type of scene and what works best for you and your partner(s). Some people specifically have a safeword, but also want their partner(s) to respect refusals during the scene, and that needs to be upheld.

So, what words can we use as safewords? Really, anything! But for the sake of safety, I recommend choosing something that follows these guidelines:

Make your safeword easy to remember.

Don’t choose something in a language you don’t speak.

Keep safewords short.

Use something that you wouldn’t normally say during a scene. 

A great example of a safeword is the traffic light system. In this example, there are three words, as opposed to one. Each word means a different thing.

Green: “Everything is okay, keep going!”

Yellow: “Slow down or change activities.”

Red: “Stop the scene immediately!”

When using this system or others like it, one partner is able to check in with another at any point. One could simply ask, “What’s your color?” if they wanted to check in, and could be provided with an answer very easily.

Some people just use one safeword, and that works for them. In that case, you can use anything you want in order to establish that you want to end the scene. No matter what you use, just be sure it gets the point across that you want to stop.

Having and using your safeword is very important, especially in dynamics that agree to ignore words like “no” and “stop”. Playing without a safeword is very dangerous. If your partner suggests you play without a safeword, I suggest you find a new partner. It it a huge red flag if your partner tries to pressure you to play without safewords. Even if you think you know your partner well enough to know what you can take, you need to explain to them that accidents happen and sometimes you need a quick and easy way to end the scene to communicate problems. You should always use a safeword or keep words like “no” and “stop” as safewords.

If someone is gagged, use something non-verbal as a safeword. I dated someone very prone to seizures who was unable to verbalize her needs just before a seizure, so I taught her the sign for “stop” in American Sign Language and we used this and other hand signals as her safeword in case she went non-verbal.

Other example can include options where the person is also bound:

Ringing a bell in their hand.

Throwing a bouncy ball..

Squeaking a squeak toy.

Honking a horn.

Using the buzzer from a board game.

Shaking of the head.

These can be used in place of a safeword for those who wish to have a visual or non-verbal audio signal instead. These can also be used in combination with verbal safewords.

Keep in mind that aftercare is required after a partner safewords, since safewording often happens directly after a person has experienced pain or an emotional trigger. It is very important to provide aftercare to your partner every time they safeword and to check in extensively if you begin the scene again. If you need to know more about aftercare, check out my guide here. Also, keep in mind that Dominants should safeword when they need it, too–it’s not just for submissives! Everyone is only human, and we all have limits. Be sure to use your agreed-upon safeword to keep play safe for everyone!

xx SF

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DD/LG stands for “Daddy Dom / little girl”. While it is the most common type of this dynamic, it is not the only one. Littles and their Dominants can be any gender and identify as various roles. Some other common Dominant roles include Mommies, Caregivers, and even Babysitters. Some Dominants are even the ones who are littles, and reverse the dynamic in their relationship. Others switch, and play both roles.

The identity of being a little is slightly different for everyone, but the general idea is that the submissive (usually–like I said, sometimes they are Dominant) assumes the role of a innocent-minded individual with the playfulness and interests of a child.

Many people make a clear distinction that they are not roleplaying as a child but as a child-like adult. It’s also important to point out that DDLG is not about incest-roleplay nor is it about pedophilia. The same way even vanilla partners can refer to each other as “baby” without the connotation that they are roleplaying being with an actual infant, the title of “Daddy” or “Mommy” is not creating an actual father/child or mother/child dynamic, but rather illustrating a type of dynamic where the Dominant is in a protective and caring position over the little, like a parent is for their child. However, the vast majority of caregivers and littles make it clear that their dynamic is an independent relationship from the ones they have with their actual parents.

Littles go through something called littlespace which just means they are in the state of mind as their little persona. Just like subspace, it can sometimes be euphoric. Some littles need guidance coming out of littlespace, especially when their adult lives are busy or stressful and they’re using littlespace to relax. It is important to remember that littlespace should not be 24/7 because as adults, we have responsibilities to take care of that require we step out of littlespace in order to maintain healthy lives.

Types of littles vary within the community. Some have a specific age that they are identifying with, which is referred to as age regression. Others do not have a set age for themselves. Further, the identity of being a “little” is an umbrella term, and can be broken down into three main categories of specific age groups:

Littles: These are usually young-minded submissives, who may be anywhere from an infant-developmental stage to early childhood.

Middles: Middles are usually have the mindsets of older children. They may be more advanced than littles, and less dependent on their partner.

Bigs: Bigs have an adolescent-like mindset, and often have a more independent type of dynamic with their partner. They may have the attitude of a teenager around their partners.

In the little community, there is sometimes a false concept of littles not being littles if they aren’t age-regressive. This idea needs to be distinguished. Always remember that your identity is valid regardless of how others view you. Age-regressive littles are no more or less littles than those who are not age-regressive. The community is meant to support each other and not compare people based on their “genuine littleness”.

Because of these falsely-precieved ideas about littles, many people associate littles with stereotypes or overlap them with other kinks, such as ABDL (adult baby, diaper-lover). Yes, it’s true, littles can play the roles of babies who love diapers. However, that is a separate kink. Being little means having that mindset of a little, and diapering is an independent kink. Think of a submissive who likes to worship feet of their Dominant–you wouldn’t assume all submissives have a foot fetish just because this specific one does. The same goes for littles and their kinks.

That being said, the following activities/toys are common desires among the community. This list is meant to serve as a means of ideas for play, not a list of requirements. Everyone reserves the right to have any kinks as limits.

Pacifiers: For littles who like to self-sooth and maybe even tease their partner with an oral fixation, pacifiers–or pacis–serve as a fun little accessory.

Stuffed animals: Many littles enjoy the playful innocents of sleeping with stuffed animals–or stuffies. They make excellent gifts for good little boys and girls.

Diapering: Some littles like diapering because it allows their partner to control their bathroom use. This goes hand in hand with bathroom restriction. Just be sure not to make your little stay in a dirty diaper for long, or it can affect their health.

Bottles/Plasticware: What’s more fun than princess plates and plastic picnics? It helps bring some littles into littlespace to eat off children’s dishware.

Coloring: Coloring never gets old. Even adults love coloring! Having a coloring book around is a great way to promote littlespace and spend time together. 

Cartoons/Movies: Who doesn’t love cartoons? Whether it’s Disney movies or 90s kid shows, almost every little can get into a nostalgic space by watching some of their old favourites.

Spanking: When the little is naughty, sometimes all they need is to be thrown over their Daddy’s knee and given a good hard spanking.

Rules: Some littles like the structure of having daily tasks or rules they must follow. This can include anything from dress codes to orgasm control. Try to structure some rules to improve your little’s mental or physical health, such as requiring healthy snacks or journaling when feeling sad.

Also, mealtime and snacks can be made into a little’s paradise. Have a healthy balance with old favourites and nutritious snacks. Some ideas for feeding your little:

Chicken nuggets (especially dino-shaped ones!).

Chocolate milk.

Mac ‘n cheese.

Fruit snacks.

Goldfish crackers.

Homemade trail mix.

Peanut butter and jelly.

Carrot sticks (and peanut butter?).

Lollipops.

Celery (and ranch?).

Fruits and nuts.

Homemade pizza bagels.

Dunkaroos (Teddy Grahams dripped in frosting).

Popcorn (with chocolate drizzle?).

Keep in mind that you can even customize punishments and aftercare to your little’s specific tastes. Some littles love spankings, other reserve it for punishments only. Some littles want a healthy snack after a rough scene, while others want to curl up with their partner and their stuffed animals. Choose punishments and aftercare methods that suit you and your partner’s needs.

DD/LG and other dynamics like it are a fantastic way to express your love for your partner. There is a high focus on unconditional love and protectiveness in these types of dynamics. Because of the mental state of littlespace, there may be more dependence on the Dominant partner. While this is not true for everyone, it is something to keep in mind when considering if DD/LG is right for you. Caregivers need to be patient, understand, and affectionate towards their littles and littles will return affection in copious amounts. However you do it, make sure to fully communicate your thoughts and feelings on the matter, and keep it safe!

xx SF

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Been reading ur blog. U need to stop calling urself a dom. All this lovey crap makes real doms sick. A sub is not for respecting and loving. A sub is for using and thats what they like. Its fine that u love ur girl, just dont call urself a dom. Real doms show dominance, use there sub and leave her laying like the cunt slut she is. Bein all sweet, and all that does is give her power over u, which makes u not a dom.

Hi there, Anon. I almost didn’t even dignify this with a response, but I think you’ve actually given me a good opportunity to say something that new doms need to know, so kudos to you. 

First and foremost, let’s establish something right here and now: You don’t get to tell me what I am, and you are damn sure not the leading authority on what does and does not constitute a dominant. For the record, I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be a dom. I never even thought of myself that way until I met belovedsangi 10 years ago. I always had the characteristics of a dom, sure, but I didn’t ever put that title on myself. That title was given to me by my submissive. SHE is the one who wanted to call me Master, and Sir, and sometimes Daddy. I never told her to do these things. But of course, you probably think I am making your point for you and that if I were a REAL domly dom, I would’ve demanded those things. 

And that’s where you have a fundamental issue understanding the meaning of the title. So let me help you with that. 

A dom does not demand respect. He conducts himself in such a way as to be worthy of respect. 

A dom does not bark commands. His presence is such that he can seduce and command with nothing more than a glance. 

A dom does not raise his voice. He is the kind of man who gets what he wants without needing to. 

A dom is not a braggart. He is possessed of a calm, quiet confidence that is evident in his demeanor, the way he walks, the tone of his voice, and all other aspects of him. 

A dom understands balance. He knows that while a firm hand and discipline are critical in this type of relationship, knowing when to be gentle and understanding is every bit as important. 

A dom is a gentleman first and foremost. That doesn’t necessarily mean that he is a fancy man who values the finer things in life, but he does understand manners and protocol. He opens the car door for her. He orders for her if she is having trouble deciding. He treats strangers with courtesy and respect. 

A dom is a protector. He makes sure that his submissive feels safe and protected at all times. This means so much more than just telling her you will protect her. A dom shows her. He keeps a hand on her shoulder or on her waist in crowds so she doesn’t get nervous. He sleeps on the side of the bed closest to the door so that he is always between his submissive and an intruder. He walks on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street so that an errant vehicle will hit him before his submissive. If anything or anyone should threaten his submissive, he must be prepared to fight for her with the ferocity of an alpha wolf. 

A dom earns her submission. It is not a thing to be demanded, expected, or assumed. And he continues to earn it, each and every day.  

A dom values her submission. Fully submitting your will and trusting your body and well-being to someone takes a kind of strength most can’t imagine, and a dom never loses sight of that. 

A dom understands that being a dominant is 10% privilege and 90% responsibility. He is literally taking her life into his hands. He is accepting the most sacred and important thing she has to give. He is taking her burdens and bearing them as his own, always, every day. 

A dom is consistent. He understands that he can’t just be her protector, lover, confidant, master, etc. when he feels like it. There will be days when a dom is tired. There will be days when he is stressed. There will be days when he is broken. On those days, it is more important than ever for a dom to show his submissive that he is still everything she needs him to be. 

So what does it mean, then, to be a dom? I get the feeling that you, anon, would say that it’s all about making her kneel, having your way with her, shouting orders and using her. Helpful hint: Any jackass can buy himself a whip and bark commands. That’s not a dom. Don’t get me wrong, I do absolutely have my way with belovedsangi. I love it when she kneels. I love the kinky, rough, mind-blowing sex we have. I love to dominate her in the bedroom. But for every moment of that, there are a hundred moments of holding her, of talking to her, laughing with her, gaming with her. There are a hundred moments of making her feel safe when she is afraid, giving her confidence when she is unsure, comforting her when she feels troubled. Those are all things that a dominant does too. 

I love my submissive more than I love oxygen. I love my submissive with a fire that can never be extinguished. I value her and respect her in every way. I treat her like a queen and fuck her like a slave. These things don’t make me weak. They don’t make me less of a dominant. These things make me stronger than you can possibly imagine. There is nothing quite so formidable as a dominant who has found the perfect submissive to fuel his fire. Never will you see anyone love so strongly or fight so fiercely. 

Bottom line, Anon, is this: you sound like a boy playing at being a man. You decided one day that you were sick of women having willpower and a voice of their own, so you decided to call yourself a dominant and seek out some weak-willed submissive who wouldn’t talk back to you or stick up for herself. You are not a dom. You are a jackass with a whip. Classic case of toodomforyou.

-LMS

[shencomix]

[call-m3-princess]

This is it. That’s all you need to know

[recreationalwitchcraft]

Don’t know what gifts to give?

Use your witch skills & get it done. 

Fill mason jars with homemade magical bath salts

Make a purifying sugar-based body scrub

Make a clarifying facial spray

Fill little tins with custom tea blends

Make your own solid or liquid perfume

Make herbal bath bombs

Make an herbal smoking blend

Make homemade magical lye soap

Make herbal bath teas 

Make organic and tined Lip balm

Make magically charged sweet-smelling candles

Make candied rose petals 

[toywaving]

For all of my LGBTQIAP+ siblings out there, right now.. Please don’t give up. We will be heard. I love you all, please stay safe. Please.

[toywaving]

For all of my LGBTQIAP+ siblings out there, right now.. Please don’t give up. We will be heard. I love you all, please stay safe. Please.

[princessofmousewood-blog]

Self-Care for Littles with Periods <3

Hello! Today marks the first day of the week and a bit I will spend curled up with a hot water bottle as much as possible, so I thought I’d post a list of self care ideas for any other littles (and caregivers too) who may be dealing with the horrible no-fun experience of periods. It can be hard to feel little when you’re experiencing pain, discomfort, mood swings or any of the other amazing (sarcasm) symptoms that go along with this time of month. If you deal with dysphoria, chronic pain or mental illness symptoms, those can be worsened by a period as well. So basically if you feel upset, uncomfy or downright miserable I’m hoping there’ll be something here that can help you feel a little better <3

- Remember that when you’re on your period you actually burn more calories than normal, so you may need to eat a bit more than usual. If you feel hungry, don’t feel bad about eating some food, your body needs fuel! Remember to try and stay away from overly salty foods and junk food because they can make cramps worse. A great little snack would be cut up fruits and veggies or some crackers with peanut butter :)

- Drink lots of fluids! You need to stay hydrated, so make sure you’re drinking lots. Water, milk and juice are all good ideas but stay away from drinks that are too sugary (although ginger ale may help if you have nausea, ginger tea is probably a safer bet). If it helps, put your drink in a cute bottle or sippie!

- You may feel like doing nothing more than curling in a ball with your stuffies, but if you can do it, exercise really helps! If you feel up to doing a little bit of exercise that’s great, but if it’s more than you can manage don’t feel bad about that <3 Self care means doing what’s best for you and if exercising is going to make you feel worse or cause you more pain/discomfort you should never feel pressured into it (that goes for everything on this list, please don’t feel I’m telling you to do anything you don’t feel up to <3)

- Painkillers are super helpful! Make sure you remember how many you’ve taken/when you took them so you don’t take too many by accident. If you’re worried about keeping track, ask a caregiver, friend, family member, or anyone you feel comfortable asking for help. If you can’t take painkillers because of meds you take, an allergy or for any other reason, peppermint tea is sometimes used by people to help with muscle pain so you can give that a try, and ginger tea is good for nausea :)

- Heat! This is what helps me the most. A warm bath (with some nice fluffy bubbles or a bath bomb if you want) can really help with the cramps and muscle aches that come with a period, and a nice hot shower will work wonders too (I find they also just make me feel less icky on my period even when my cramps are done). A hot water bottle, heating pad or one of those cute microwaveable stuffies can also be a blessing for a sore, achey little. And hot tea or soup are wonderful as well, just avoid coffee because the high caffeine level can make symptoms worse.

- Distract yourself from your discomfort by doing something you enjoy <3 I watch a lot of cute shows during my period because my anxiety spikes a lot and I find them really calming. If you’re behind on a show or never watched that movie you wanted to, now might be a good time! You can also listen to calming music, draw, anything that will make you happy :)

- Don’t be afraid to seek reassurance! My caregiver gets a lot of texts around this time of month starting with something like “I can’t tell if I should actually be worried or if I’m overreacting” xD If your moods get messed up by your period you may feel more stressed, sad, angry, etc. than you would usually and that’s ok <3 If you need to ask your caregiver, friend, etc. for some reminders that they love you or that everything is ok, that’s not something to feel bad about!

Hopefully this list was useful to someone, and if you ever feel upset for any reason (not just period related xD) please know that you can message me at any time and I will do my best to help <3 Also if you think I said something wrong in this list, please let me know! Some of it was researched but some of it was just what helps me so if I said anything wildly incorrect I would really like to know so I can fix it :)

(EDIT: please do not reblog if you are anti-CGLRE or anti-LilTot)

[princessofmousewood-blog]

Self-reblog because I’m about to have another miserable week and a bit, and I’m adding in the things people in the notes suggested. I also added who said what so you know who has these amazing facts/ideas (hint not me) but if I have tagged you and you’d like me to remove it please let me know (I really hope it’s ok) <3

-raspberry tea can help with cramps and also help regulate your cycle, and it has lots of important vitamins and minerals. A quick google search informed me it has no side effects, and lots of people say it helped with the pain and severity of their periods (thanks @strawfae)

-cramps can be worsened by a lack of calcium so drink milk, eat cheese and yogurt etc. Turmeric is anti inflammatory so can help with aches and pains. And if you have really bad pain, make sure to talk to your doctor (thanks @bunnykittenprincess)

-ginger tea can help cramps as well as nausea! But using fresh ginger can be too strong so get bags of ginger tea (thanks @little-princet)

-I also remember there being a note that said bananas can help with cramps, but for some reason I can’t see that far down the notes to see who said it, so if that was you and you want credit for your amazing knowledge let me know!

Thanks so much to everyone who added on these wonderful ideas I didn’t know about, I hope it was ok for me to collect them like this! And for anyone who’s dealing with a period right now I wish you lots of rest and comfort and a swift end to your time of tribulation <3

[saccharinesylph]

People were asking for my glitter jar instructions, so here you go! C:

[bi-trans-alliance]

Trans students: we love and support you. You are not alone.

[wethekeegsta]

My dog and my bunny were playing in the back yard and I thought other people might enjoy watching as much as me

[vote-for-eggman]

Please watch this video

[blue-pixiedust]

This is one of the most magical things I have ever seen

[necron-9-9]

That bun thinks it’s a doggo

[atomictourists]

My favorite thing about bunz is that they express joy by leaping around. That’s a happy bun.

[glitterslutblog]

Hello, I'm 17 years old and there's this 27 year old whom ive worked with for about a year now.. For the last few weeks we've been talking a lot. First he helped me out by lending me some adderall when I was stressed about school work. Then I started going on long motorcycle rides with him, and I recently got drunk with him. I don't know if this is weird but i think I'm attracted to him ( ive never had a boyfriend or even kissed before). My friends are worried but I completely trust him, and he ...

So I’m missed the third part of this (which is getting eerily close to certain family guy episode… but i digress).

I’m pretty sure I can give some advice based on what i’ve got….

and you’re probably not going to like it. 

My first question is…

Why the fuck are you hanging out with a dude TEN YEARS OLDER THAN YOU!?!?!?!?!

I mean hey, if you were in your mid 20′s or at least in your second year of college no big deal…. but you’re fucking seventeen. You should be at the mall… not drinking and riding motorcycles with old dudes that want to hangout with minors. Imagine if you had a younger sister… what would you tell her?

I promise it wouldn’t be ‘go with your heart.’

I mean I get it, the older guy thing is alluring. They’re shiny and seem so smart and clever and dress better than boys your age and they ‘treat you like a adult’, you feel hotter, funnier and cool as fuck. Cause you’re getting validation from someone who seems way out of your league even if it’s just age.

But lets take a step back… shall we?

Let’s take an objective moment (which is hard and not just at seventeen years old).

So, would you hangout with a 15 year old?

I mean really think about his and be honest.

Would you?

Probably not.

Not because 15 year olds suck, but because you’re over that age, you’ve moved on… created different interests and on to better things.

Not to mention there is a big difference in maturity level in general.

And that’s just a two year difference. 

So let’s push the envelope even farther..

Would you date/fuck/snuggle with a 15 year old??

Even Tyga would say no to that.

hah.

I’m not saying this is a ‘BAD GUY’ but I am saying that a man who wants to hangout with someone with such a big age gap should be questioned. 

I am kinky, I am open-minded as fuck, not to mention i’m just plain weird. I’ve done crazy things and made mistakes. But I am telling you right now…

I would not be friends with… much less date someone who is doing what this guy is doing. Ever. At all. Period. 

(and i’m not being sexiest. I wont let my lady friends date younger men either)

Okay now i’ve done my mommy speech i’m going to give you some straight up girl talk. (which you’re also not going to like).

              Don’t be a bad bitch….be a smart one.

Best case scenario- this guys wants to be your genuine friend. 

Worst case scenario and (more likely the case)- This guy wants to fuck you. Not be your boyfriend, not your snuggle buddy, he doesn’t want to go to your choir concerts or graduation (which your parents wouldn’t allow anyway). Cause that’s what grown ass men want, and he is no exception. 

Love is amazing. Your first love is amazing. And one of the things that makes it amazing is that you’re on the same playing field. You experience things together for the first time. This WILL NOT HAPPEN WITH A 27 YEAR OLD. 

Your friends don’t like him (always a bad sign no matter what), your parents sure as hell wont like him. And hes already shown that he doesn’t have your best interests at heart (drugs,alcohol and motorcycles are the activities you mentioned you do together).

If he really wanted to ‘woo’ you, that’s a very ‘cheap’ and ‘I don’t respect you’ way to do it.

I know this is harsh, but i’m talking to you like an adult because you’re wanting to make a very adult decision.

And i’m telling you this is 50 shades of a bad idea.

I’m straight up telling you this will end terribly and all the things above are best case scenarios on how this is a bad idea.

I’ve had friends gowning up (and Texas is a very common place for the minors dating much older men) some just ended up heartbroken and feeling used. Others…not so lucky.

-One got pregnant.

-One got raped.

-One even got traded for a bag of cocaine. Traded. Then raped. She was 17 too.

I wish I was using bullshit scare tactics on you but i’m not. This is the real world and it’s scary as fuck. I didn’t mention any of that earlier cause I don’t want you to be under the impression that I think you’re stupid. But as I was writing this I realized i didnt think those girls were stupid either. And if something terrible happened to you, and I didn’t disclose that I wouldn’t be doing my job.

You’re not stupid, you’re young and you shouldn’t be in such a rush to grow up. And dating someone out of your age group is putting a big expedite stamp on things. Chill, date some stupid senior, or fucking wait till college and enjoy not having responsibilities while you can. As my followers will fucking tell you, being a adult fucking sucks.

Thanks for reading my rant, and know that its from a place of love and anxiety.

xoxo,

      G.S.

[glitterslutblog]

Losing Virginity checklist

Q: Hi, m girlfriend and I are about to have sex for the first time and we are both virgins, what positions would be best for us since this is our first time.

A: Oh, how exciting!!! I’m really lucky that when I lost my virginity (at the age of 18) I was SUPER in love with my partner. It makes the awkwardness more of a fun adventure.

Quick mom spiel: Sex is a big deal. I know that i’m this kink crazy chick who’s sex positive but that doesn’t mean that it’s not serious shit. You have STDs, Pregnancy, mental health and last but not least respect for yourself and your partner. A lot of my friends had sex too soon and the repercussions were not ideal to say the least.

Every time you touch/snuggle/fuck you release Oxycontin which is the TRUST HORMONE. This is also the same hormone that is released when you have a baby, breast feed ect.. So you are biologically allowing your body to trust this person. 

This is how a lot of people get stuck in unhealthy relationships. You’re brain may say one thing but your body will have a conditioned trust response. Especially if our first sexual relationship this phenomena can be particularly strong (and also makes high school more interesting).

So Just check yourself before your wreck yourself.

Now for the fun shit.

Virginity check list. 

1. Condoms. always. and a lot of them.

2. Birth control (this is not always easy to procure depending on your age but most large metropolitan areas have a teen accessible planned parenthood). I would just google and see which one is closet to you. You can get BC for free most of the time and they wont contact your parents so your anonymity is safe.

3. Don’t fuck in your car or some weird public place. You’re already nervous don’t let the fear of being caught add to your anxiety.

4. Make eye contact

5. Wrap the condom in toilet paper when you’re done. (hide the evidence) also don’t flush it down the toilet… it’s bad for the environment.

6. Remember to take it slow. You guys may plan to have sex and it may not happen (which is totally cool) and if it does just take your time. This isn’t the great race.

7. Real sex is not like Porn. Nor would we want it to be. So if that is where your expectations are at be sure to schedule a reality check. 

8. Remember to take some time to snuggle after. This is important for girls.

My Dad always told me that sex (an orgasm) was showing someone physically how they make you feel emotionally. It’s the single greatest piece of advice and one has ever given me.

——Positions——

-Kinky missionary

Missinary with a twist. You can have tradition man on top, women on back with legs spread. This is how I would start out, It’s very intimate (which is important) and very comfortable for the female. 

Add some kink by the male lifting his hips and the women thrusting herself at a speed of her choice…. meow. 

(Source)

-”The Dragon”

Ugh this one is particularly great (but has much deeper penetration so if you have some extra man on you then I would save this for later).

Have a pillow under her pelvic area with your knees in between hers have most of your weight. Then gently thrust (also take care your penetrating the desire area, accidents happen). 

(Source)

-This is my favorite position ever

The body is positioned in such a way where the penis is easily capable of hitting the G spot and the women has all the control. These are the keys to success.

Lean against pillows or the wall and have her on top and let her work that magic.

Hopefully I’ve given you enough info that you can walk into this feeling prepared and confident. You’re taking a big and exciting step.

You got this!!

xoxo,

     G.S.

[glitterslutblog]

Out Break Battle Plan

  Don’t let glitter attacks break your heart, or your pussy.

Lets fuck this bitch up.

I have had a VERY stressful few days, it’s crunch time at work and we had a bro down throw down at casa de chaos. Then we had our house warming party and I drank two bottles of bubbly by myself….

  Needless to say, it’s breakout time.

  (source)

And I’m going to beach for Labor Day weekend so I need this to be gone…. like yesterday.

  And school is starting for you guys, so this also an exciting, but high stress time for you so I thought this post could be helpful.

Here is my battle plan.

  Disclaimer: So my infected area is around my labia minora (inner lips) so my treatment is for that specific area.

  What I do

-Double up on lysine

-Double up on valtex (not dr. recommended)

-2 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar; pour in a glass of water, add a dash cyan and honey if you want to add a weight loss effect.

- Apple cider on those lady bits. (Will explain in detail below). This will hurt.

-Epson salt bath.

- Coconut oil

- Toilet tissue/cotton balls

- Loose clothing

-Yoga

  Morning

- On break out days (or if I think I’m going to have a break out) I will wake up 30min to and hour early and do some yoga. I know this is the last thing you want to do. But alas, stress management is the most important thing so make time for it.

-I soak in a Epson salt bath first thing when I wake up. I fill the tub up six inches and just soak for 10 mins. This relieves whatever pain you might have and it also cleans the sores, which is VERY important to a speedy healing process. Then just shower as normal.

-Dress for commando wear, I talk about being fashionable with your glitter here.

-Eat a hearty breakfast, if you eat meat and dairy, now is a good time to get this into your system. These items have lysine in them also!

- After breakfast I dink a caffeine free tea, and take 3 lysine pills 1,500 milligrams. 500 milligrams of valtrex.

-No coffee, no donuts, nothing with a lot of sugar or caffeine.

  Yeah you heard me.

-Make a apple cider water to go, so you can drink it throughout the day.

Okay this is going to sound crazy, but hear me out for a second.

TMI moment:

Now this is going to sound weird, but since my glitter is right at the crease of where my lips meat my vagina; it is so fucking uncomfortable. Like, want to kill yourself uncomfortable. So I take some thin toilet tissue  (or roll a cotton ball into a joint looking shape) and fold it and place it in-between where my lips and vagina meet. This relieves almost all of the itching and pain of everything touching. It also keeps the area dry, which is super important. You could even roll the cotton around in corn starch, before placement to keep your bits extra dry.  I do this all day long, and change it out every time I go to the restroom.  Again, I realize this sounds weird, but you will thank me later.

  Afternoon

- Make another apple cider vinegar drink.

- Make sure to eat lunch, it’s easy to forget about especially if your busy but just like and immune system issue eating is very important.

-Take some more lysine.

- Then I take another 500 milligrams of valtrex.

- Take another moment to de-stress. Just sit and breathe.

- Do not eat: no coffee, sodas or energy drinks (again I know you want it), nuts, chocolate or any fast food. I know this sucks, but breakouts suck more.

  Evening

-Have a dinner rich in deliciously leafy green vegetables; I take another 500 milligrams of Valtrex (that is 1.5 grams all together) and another 2 lysine pills.

-Drink another apple cider vinegar mixture.

-Okay this is going to suck,

But, I’ve read a lot on it and it’s supposed to cut your breakout time in half. I just started doing this and it hurts like a bitch.

But I’m going to give you the option anyway so if you’re feeling brave, or you’re ready to have sex again. Take a cotton ball and rip it into two halves. Roll them into a joint-ish shape and pour the apple cider vinegar onto it. Squeeze the excess cider out and put them on the infected area (I put them in the same spot I did the toilet tissue). One, for each lip. This fucking hurt. Like really hurts. On the forums they said to keep it on over night. For me that was way too painful so I just kept it on for a few hours then took a bath.

- So right after vinegar hell, I sit in an Epson salt bath and bask in its warmth and comfort. Wash what you need to wash then just soak and relax. This time I sit for about 20 mins and watch an episode of community are something on my phone. Then shower as normal.

-After I’m all dried off I dip a q-tip in coconut oil and apply to the glitter. For me this has a wonderful shooting affect. And coconut oil has antiviral properties.

- Roll up one more cotton ball then roll them in some corn starch, put them where your glitter is, so that way while you’re sleeping your keeping the glitter dry.

-Eat some mother fucking ice cream!!! (That doesn’t have chocolate in it) I know you’re supposed to stay away from sugar but you should also reward yourself (and there is something in ice cream that helps your medicine work faster).

You can fin all those dope recipes Here.

BOOM!

Glitter attacks fucking suck, and as they say the best defense is a great offense. Here is a post for awesome stuff on how to prevent the glitter here in holistic stuff for your glitter. 

But when your offense fails; it’s time to fuck a mother fucker up.

  Go Rambo on that bitch!

XOXO,

         G.S.