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harriyanna-deactivated20221223

since my writing post was received pretty well, i though i’d make other, to give some insight on the racism in the film industry and why it’s still a big problem now as it was in the past.

firstgrave

Hey, I saw your bi lesbian post and genuinely mean this in good faith, but- what exactly is the problem with the label? My biggest problem so far is that each argument against it that I’ve seen comes with problems in and of itself. Like one of the best examples I’ve seen is where those against it will argue textbook definitions - but only to the point where it works for them. “You are erasing lesbians” from lesbians who are also attracted to nb people, for example, in and of itself then (Cont)

the fact that you didn’t state you were nonbinary in this ask is actually what makes me so uncomfortable with it because you are very much deciding how nonbinary people should be discussed without us, which is not how that works at all.

the “nonbinary people are men/women lite” argument means that nonbinary people often exist outside of our idea of men/women. some nonbinary people align with those terms without identifying with them. some ID with more than one. there’s no singular reality for nonbinary people. it does not mean that lesbians and gay men can’t be attracted to nonbinary people.

saying lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary people is not bisexual erasure, and in fact arguing that it is is lesbophobic, transphobic, and biphobic. all lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary people. end of story. there are nonbinary lesbians. there are nonbinary people who align with womanhood or feel a connection to it through their attraction to women. there are nonbinary people who don’t align with a binary gender but still feel they are “sapphic”.

being attracted to more than one gender is not “our thing” and it’s quite frankly just gross that you would argue that in the first place. all sexualities include attraction to nonbinary people, because nonbinary people can fit within the parameters of any sexuality, given their diverse and different realities. it is up to individual nonbinary people to decide who/which sexualities they are comfortable dating. sure, a nonbinary person who aligns with both “man” and “woman” may not feel comfortable dating someone who is gay or lesbian because they may feel like they’d have to ignore part of their gender. but that doesn’t mean those sexualities exclude nonbinary people, it means they exclude that specific nonbinary person.

one cannot even argue that a sexuality can include specific nonbinary experiences. bigender, agender, genderfluid, etc can all have different meanings to different nonbinary people. while they carry a more general defintion, they are also specific to each individuals identity.

bisexuality is attraction to all genders. ignoring the fact that bi activists have argued time and time again that there are more than two genders, that bisexuality is not an attraction limited to two but in fact exists outside binary notions of attraction and includes everyone etc etc etc.

i can’t control how you identify. but i would encourage you to examine why you have chosen the bisexual label over the lesbian one given the fact that you do not experience attraction to men. and when you are thinking it over, please do keep in mind what I’ve said about nonbinary people and why this ask you sent makes me so uncomfortable as a nonbinary person.

n0identity

Hey, I'm kinda uncomfortable with you saying being bi is attraction to all genders?

It excludes nonbinary people who might be attracted to women and nb ppl or men and nb ppl and don't want to take on the gay man/gay or lesbian bc of their gendered origin (and i'm speaking that from experience, even tho I have realised I am attracted to all genders)

I am nb bi and i kinda feel like defining it this way is hurting more than it is helping, attraction to multiple genders/ 2 or more genders is literally fine imo? (Alongside being more common)

firstgrave

i have spoken before about how even the definitions of sexuality become more individualized when it comes to nonbinary people bc sexualities are often defined along binary lines and obv nonbinary ppl may not fit within those definitions. but that also doesn’t change the fact that bisexuality includes attraction to all genders. if someone who is not attracted to all genders chooses to use the label “bisexual” because they are nonbinary and feel as though gay/lesbian are too aligned with binary genders, that’s fine.

But changing the definition of bisexuality to “2 or more/multiple genders” doesn’t work and wouldn’t make sense. Lesbians can and do date nonbinary people, gay men can and do date nonbinary people, het people can and do date nonbinary people. The nonbinary people who choose to date those who’s sexuality is focused on a binary gender don’t suddenly lose their own gender identity. They are still nonbinary, even if they are aligned w a specific gender. So therefore the lesbian/gay/het person dating them is also dating someone of another gender. Which is fine. But it also means that all sexualities include more than one gender ~technically~.

Saying bi is “more than 2, multiple genders” also gives ground to those who insist someone like myself, a nonbinary bisexual who so attracted to all genders, should actually ID as “pan” or “Omni” which is biphobic and completely erases my own sexuality and identity.

Sexualties are difficult to strictly define, bc each is influenced by one’s own experiences and perspective. It gets even more complicated when nonbinary/trans identities are taken into account. There’s no singular definition of any sexuality (or gender even) that is going to please everyone. All sexualities include various different perspectives and experiences and are more individually defined than we can write out. But bisexuality does include attraction to all genders, it’s the way I define my sexuality and the way many other bi people throughout history have defined there’s as well.

Maybe it’s not the defintion everyone uses but that doesn’t make it wrong. And it was an important point in response to this ask I received, which tried to argue that bisexuality is the only sexuality that includes multiple genders which is just blatantly untrue.

marinebiologyshitposts

clownfish be like "i know a spot" and take you to a fucking deadly sea organism

0rdi-deactivated20211118

This post would’ve been a lot better if you didn’t say the f word. Grow up.

marinebiologyshitposts

yes hello i am very sorry to hear of your lack of satisfaction. if you'll just follow me to the suggestion box its just inside here

sleepywitchgal-deactivated20161

murdernachos

ferdydurke-moved

gay leaf....

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minkidoodles

I love not knowing who 95% of celebrities are. every day someone new is trending and I go "I don't know who the FUCK this is" and move on. I love that

badassdemonsword

You look like a 3d white man clip art.

badassdemonsword

you look like this.

newusernamepending

I think a lot of people on higher incomes have a very skewed idea of what is a normal income. You get this thing where you’ve got like… prestigious American universities talking about their policies and demographics regarding “low income” students, but when you look into how they define “low income” it turns out it actually encompasses the majority of the US population. Similarly people will talk about Trump’s voter base being “low income” when in fact what they really mean is “average income white people”. But because of white-as-default thinking and the fact that they believe six figure salaries are normal, they equate this group with “low income earners”, which it really isn’t.