bdsm test worried - please read
Okay, so because I got bored I started the BDSM test again I did about two years ago to see if anything had changed. I’m finding as I go through it that some questions are a little strange because they don’t seem to serve any purpose in determining what BDSM orientation a person has, and I’m pretty sure they weren’t there last time I took this test.
Now, please indulge me when you read this because I wouldn’t write it if I weren’t worried. I know this may seem far-fetched. I understand if you may think I’m trying to kick up a fuss, all I can say is: please that aside for a moment and take a moment to read this as I’m truly worried that someone is possibly scouting/luring vulnerable girls in our community and I would appreciate your input in discerning whether I’m right to be concerned or not.
I think some of these questions don’t have a whole lot to do with orientation, but are there specifically to weed out young, vulnerable girls who would be ready and willing to leave their home behind. I know, I know, big statement, and to the untrained eye BDSM tests can come across iffy but … I’m not (entirely) untrained and my alarm bells are ringing. I wonder if it’s at all possible that this website is run by Charles Michael Segaloff/Michael Makai, or someone like him, and if they’re looking for their next victim. If you remember, Michael Makai ran a website with several BDSM tests, one of them I’m pretty sure led to this very BDSM test that I was taking, just back then it said bdsmtest.com instead of .org. I think this is the same test. I’ve checked his old website and unsurprisingly, since Segaloff is either still standing trial, or has been convicted by now, the links formerly leading to his tests haven’t been working, but this test looks exactly like the old one to me. Do not google the Segaloff stuff if you’re easily triggered, this is a known sex offender who’s MO was exactly this.
Please would you peeps have a look and give some input? I really think something’s wrong. I’ve made screenshots along the way and saved them if needed.
This is sort of a ‘mark how well this applies test’ so all questions are in first person. I’ve put them under different headers for clarity:
Possible fishing questions:
‘I like to feel that I’m older/(mentally) stronger/bigger/further in life … than my partner.’ - ok, yes seeming older may on the surface seem like a dominant trait, but .. I think it’s a buffer question for the one following a few questions later:
‘I like to feel that my partner is older/(mentally) stronger/bigger/further in life … than me.’ - this could be unnecessary question (masking as an age-play question) but whichever it is, it’s also an excellent question to fish for young girls who would be open to meeting an older man.
‘I feel like I would need to find someone to guide me around in this whole kink/BDSM thing.’If you click ‘absolutely agree’ (which I did only to see what happens because I have a hunch at this point) a box pops up under the question with the text ‘Completely optionally, enter your email address if you would like us to help you find someone (will only be used sporadically to inform you about major new kink/BDSM projects related to this question):’ followed by a white box to enter your e-mail address. This concerned me because it A. singles out those who are not taken and B. invites them to contact whoever is behind the website for guidance. This singles out those who are impressionable, inexperienced, young, and alone.
‘I currently have nobody I can talk to about my darkest fantasies, and would love to find someone to talk to.’If you click ‘absolutely agree’ (which I did again for the same reason) the same box pops up under the question with the text ‘optionally, enter your email address if you would like us to inform you [sic] opportunities related to this question (will only used sporadically to inform you about major new kink/BDSM projects related to this question):’ followed by a white box to enter your e-mail address. This singles out those who are alone, lonely or may feel misunderstood, all easy targets, and invites them into leaving their contact details.
‘Assuming I was single, I would like to join an existing couple’s or polygroup’s relationship for sexual and/or emotional purposes’ - that could’ve easily been phrased as ‘I consider myself polyamorous/am interested in etc’ this phrasing just makes it sounds like someone’s .. fishing?
‘I want to meet more like-minded kinky people, and am willing to put effort in that.’ same as before -> Optionally, enter your email address (will only be used to inform you about major new kink/BDSM projects related to this question): followed by white box for email. - ok could be completely innocent, but in context? Girls eager to please (’effort into it’) and actively looking for contact are singled out here.
‘I have a thing for large age differences in sexual encounters or relationships’ - woah woah woah, in real DD/lg that is NOT a thing. I should know, I identify as a Little. This can easily mask as an ageplay question, I don’t know enough about that but I’m pretty sure it’s age PLAY meaning the actual biological age difference is irrelevant. This is actively asking who’s up for large age difference relationships which the BDSM community at large continually warns against because it puts the younger party power-wise at a disadvantage (and not in the kinky consensual way).
‘I would be willing to leave everything I have behind, to live the BDSM-life of my dreams’ - What. The. Actual. Fuck? *alarm bells*
Other ways to try and get email addresses:
‘If I felt a project or website contributed significantly to the BDSM community as a whole, I would be willing to make significant financial donations to it.’ - ok .. so this makes me submissive or an easy target?
Unsurprisingly, if you click ‘absolutely agree’ (I’m ticking every damned box I see) the same box pops up under the question with the text ‘Completely optionally, enter your email address if we can sporadically email you about relevant projects that could use your contribution):’ followed by a white box to enter your e-mail address. - I mean, fair enough I guess, but why put it in the test.
‘If a new awesome kink or BDSM project was launched, I would like to be kept up to date.’ again Optionally, enter your email address (will only be used for emails related to this question). Followed by a white box. - on its own, not much suspicious, in conjunction with the other questions, seems like just another way to fish for contact details in case any questions of interest are answered in the affirmative.
‘I would like to work myself on a new BDSM-related project and I have ideas for such [sic] project (or already have it) or I would like to actively help out with an existing project. Again -> Optionally, enter your email address if you would like us to ask for your project interests and put you in contact with people with similar project interests to cooperate with (we will not give out your email address). followed by a white box.
Aside from an entertaining BDSM test, the test also figures out the following and continually prompts for an email address:
whether someone is female (at the beginning of the test),
whether they’re open to/attracted to/or specifically into older figures. This is worrying to me in conjunction with the following:
Open to and feels in need of guidance. This singles out those who are inexperienced in life and at BDSM, possibly insecure, too trusting and definitely impressionable.
Open to moving in with a polyamorous couple. I have no idea how this serves as anything other than a baiting question. This could’ve been phrased 5 different ways.
Willing to leave everything behind and move to ‘their perfect BDSM life’ -if you haven’t read the Segaloff stuff, this is to a T what Segaloff did to the underage girl-, this has nothing to do with what orientation you are and everything to do with whether you have: a strong social circle, are protected by friends and family, anyone would miss you if you were gone or it’s likely you’d be able and willing to find a plausible excuse to leave. I’m creeped out because this is exactly what Segaloff did last time.
There’s probably more but it’s almost bedtime and I’m gonna get in trouble if I don’t get ready. I know it’s a long post, and I probably rambled, I’m on a lot of painkillers so sorry about that and thank you for reading. If the test is yours and this is not your intention, I’m truly sorry for doing this, but in that case I’m sure you’ll understand with the recent MM stuff why I was worried, and I’ll happily publicly apologise as many times as needed.
I’m tagging some people who are vastly more knowledgeable than me. If I’ve tagged you and not spoken to you before, please pardon the intrusion but I very much respect your knowledge and experience and could use your input on this. If I haven’t tagged you and you think I should, I probably thought I may not have been welcome. I’m so sorry if this is a false alarm but I’d rather be wrong than have something go wrong. I’m gonna tag for possible triggers, just in case.
@ddy-dragon, @iamyourdom, @enslavedwhore, @subduedlioness, @icandolotsofthingsmaster, @lovemysub, @belovedsangi, @toodomforyou, @mistressmg, @diaryof-alittleswitch, @subgirlygirl, @zuzusumisita, @dwpreturns
@ddy-dragon checked and the domain is registered to a Dutch webhosting company, which means that I can’t get any information as to who owns it or who’s behind it. At least not right now, of course I can try tomorrow during business hours.
