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I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record. And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons.

kittydorkling

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

bogleech

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

sdrawberrii-mochii

PLEASE draw granddilf bakugo

for you nonny? Of course😌

kurapika-r

My Hero Academia Tobu Zoo collaboration

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Just thinking about Granddad Bakugou who cooks little bentos for his grandkids on their first day if school, whose brows have obviously relaxed and his smile lines have deepened over the years, even hidden behind his now ever-present glasses. Granddad Bakugou who yells 'thats my girl!' When his eldest grandaughter shows him her little sparks for the first time, and how the two of them parade around the house showing everyone how strong "Papa's little hero" is. Granddad Bakugou who tells the wildest stories with so animatedly and with so much enthusiasm he finds himself aching and sore the next day.

Granddad Bakugou who watches the smaller, younger versions of himself running around his backyard in the twilight to catch fireflies, and as he sits there, a soft, content smile creep across his face.

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