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Identity of the Day

Transgender

Type: Gender

Definition: Transgender is a label used by those who's gender doesn't match with the sex they were assigned when they were born. A transgender man, or trans man, is someone who is transitioning, plans to transition, or has transitioned in some way to a man, weather it be socially or medically. A transgender woman, or trans woman, is someone who is transitioning, plans to transition, or has transitioned in some way to a woman, weather it be socially or medically. Some who are nonbinary will consider themself to be transgender.

Flag(s):

This flag was made in 1999 by a trans man named Johnathan Andrew. It was the first ever trans flag. The reason for the color choice is very similar to the reason for the more common trans flag, seen below.

This is the Trans flag, also made in 1999, by a trans women named Monica Helms, after talking to Michael Page, who created the Bisexual flag. The blue and pink are used as the typical colors for boys and girls, while the white represents the process of transitioning as well as those who are intersex, nonbinary, and anyone else who doesn't fall into the typical gender binary.

This is a Trans flag made in 2002 by Jennifer Pellinen. The pink stripe at the top representing women, the the purple stripes representing the diversity of the trans community and genders outside of the binary, and the blue stripe at the bottom representing men.

This is the Trans Masculine (also known as Trans Masc) flag, made by an anonymous user. It represents femininity on the outside and in increase of masculinity with the middle blue stripes.

This is the Trans Feminine (also know as Trans Fem) flag, made by an anonymous user. It represents masculinity on the outside and in increase of femininity with the middle pink stripes.

[katieebradley]

[stephstransgendernotes]

I so get it.

[vivid-sector]

what nobody tells you about transition is the totality of it. once you dig into gender and start expressing the way you want, you'll start to find the marks of discomfort littered around the rest of your life. you'll notice how you were never living for yourself, just following the guidelines laid out for you.

as soon as you disengage that autopilot, you're on your own. you have to decide what is actually best for you. you have to question every decision you've ever made because they were all made by someone trying to play by the rules, rules whose application will kill you.

in the year-and-change since starting my transition, I have completely changed everything about my presentation, I changed how I talk, how I carry myself, how I interact with people. I changed the company I keep, I moved cities, I abandoned a career path I had been pursuing my entire life. I lost friends, made new ones, started engaging with types of media I had never been interested in before.

there's a life on the other side of transition, and you have to claw it back piece by piece. I will never stop transitioning into who I'm supposed to be because every time I get closer, I realize there's more I still need to change.

[komorebigold]

It's such a slow every day process too, because we're creatures of habit. If you don't try to actively make the changes, you fall back into the old way of living that doesn't really suit you.

[michelleduality]

I completely agree with this experience. I cannot believe that I was so blind. But I guess that happens when you are programmed to avoid questioning and play by the rules. Until you break free.

[alicesmithworld-blog]

HOW TO Walk Like a Woman - In Heels

After many years of struggle ( being a dude in a dress ) I finally cracked the code. I am sharing what I learned for those who DON’T walk very well now and those who do Here is the KEY for you to develop a believable female presentation: The following exercise will overcome some of the fundamental physical problems you’ll have in trying to stand and walk like a woman…mostly that you were born with male parts. ( No, seriously. lol Women walk in a certain way for a reason. We walk like guys for reasons too - and it became natural to us to “stand wide legged to stand our ground - and to not pinch a testicle when walking, etc ) You probably already “tuck” - either with tape, a gaff or tight women’s underwear, and if you do, you may be missing the most important opportunity for developing your feminine presentation because the method you use to keep your parts in place enables you to do one thing wrong. Simply, if you are securely tucked with a physical method, you are able to walk like a man.  That is, you don’t need to worry about the displacement of your p***s if you don’t walk or stand with your legs together.  I know you never really looked at it that way before, but that is likely your key issue. You’ve no doubt seen the famous “tuck scene” in Silence of The Lambs and the parody of that scene by “Jay” in the movie Clerks II Each male actor, because only the pressure of his thighs was keeping genitals in place, is forced to bring and keep his knees together. They also go the BONUS you get from using this method ( Curvature ) So your exercise is this: You can practice this every time you are doing your bathroom routine if you have others in your home from whom you need to guard your secret.   When you have a chance, even if you tuck securely, practice the same pressure fundamental and you will get INSTANT results for the better. 1.  Create a natural thigh-pressure tuck by pulling your p***s back between your legs as far as you can.  The more you can stretch it, the better, as this will clear the front of your pubic area of male tissue to allow the thighs to come as close together as possible. By not using anything but thigh pressure to keep the genitals in place, you will be forced into a more feminine body position in order to stand up straight. 2. Notice how your knees and feet are now closer together and you are forced to maintain this more feminine body position to maintain the tuck.You will also note that it may be painful for you to stand perfectly upright at the waist due to pressure on your testicles when you do so.  This results in the BONUS - you now have a more feminine arch in your back and your butt seems to stick out more. 3.  Then … walk.  Note how you MUST take short, narrow steps if you want to maintain the tuck. Notice also how your hips move in a feminine way. Even your feet behave more like a woman’s. You have NO CHOICE but to walk and stand more like a woman when you consciously must maintain this natural pressure tuck.  This is why it is the most fundamental exercise. Later, when you are securely tucked with physical means ( gaff, tape, or tight panties ) if you remember to maintain the pressure from your thighs to push your genitals more rearward, you will be able to refine a believable feminine ( lower body ) presentation. If you get into the habit of it now, and do it every time your are dressed, and for the entire duration of your dressing session, you will be able to remember it when you are out in public. The funny thing is, since you were born male, it will feel unnatural to you.   But trust that it will look very natural when attempting to pass as a female. Simply by always ensuring your knees and feet sweep across each other, almost touching each other as they pass, you will have a more feminine walk.  This will almost happen automatically when you are using the thigh-pressure tuck.  That takes care of your step WIDTH. The next thing to work on is your step LENGTH.  Naturally, a man takes a very long step ahead of him. When you don’t, you feel unnatural and your BALANCE is actually affected because your BRAIN is used to dealing with a LONG step. So you need to fight the urge to take those big steps. Walking in flats ( women’s flats or just men’s footwear like slippers, sandals, flip flops, sneakers, or “trend shoes” ) will actually tend to cause you to revert to natural masculine steps…because “you can”. So I recommend high heels. WALKING IN HEELS. Picture yourself as a tall 13 year old girl who was accepted by a modeling agency.  You’ve been in sneakers all your life - you’ve never even had a pair of low 2” heels on your feet and you'ill be in a fashion show next week!  ( Gosh, you’re gonna sprain an ankle! ) But there’s a secret to walking in heels. Men and unrefined women walk in such a way that their heel of their leading foot contacts the ground before the toe or ball of the foot.   The longer the step, the longer the wait between heel and toe contact.   In mens dress shoes ( or women walking incorrectly ) this results in a sound effect for 4 steps that sounds like: CLIP-CLOP , CLIP-CLOP, CLIP-CLOP, CLIP-CLOP … This is also what usually breaks high heels - too much leverage on them. Refined women in heels take SHORT STEPS to touch the heel and front of their shoe to the ground at about the same time, resulting in a 4 step sound effect like: CLIP, CLIP, CLIP, CLIP …. Step One: Practice walking in BARE FEET on your “tip-toes”. It takes a while for your brain to learn to balance like that and for your feet to become strong enough to keep you on tip toes for a few minutes at a time. But once you can balance there for several minutes, then you will be better able to balance in actual high-heel shoes.   By developing these muscles WITHOUT shoes, when you lose your balance, you can easily recover from a pending fall.  Trying to do this IN HEELS and THAT is how you sprain an ankle or worse!   Did you know that in the weeks before School PROM season in North America, there is an scaling increase in skull, jaw, tooth, neck, collar bone, arm, wrist, hip, lower-leg and ankle fractures in females aged 14 to 18 which stops abruptly at the start of summer, all related to “first time in high heels”?   Practice with BARE FEET first!!! Step Two: Once you can walk in bare feet on tip toes for several minutes at a time, now try it with your thigh-tension tuck.  This will ad a degree of difficulty because now you must learn to balance with a more narrow foot width - you can’t recover from loss of balance and prevent a fall by simply widening your stance.   ( Again, this is tricky and will cause loss of balance, so that’s why we do it in BARE FEET first until your brain gets used to it. ) Step Three: Get the right footwear.   Women’s flat shoes and shoes with a low high heel ( 2" -  3" ) will allow you to make the mistake of walking “heel first”, like a man - and it will look awkward.  Go for a “true” high heel. Ignore “heel height” in inches in general, because the design of a platform shoe has a longer heel than an non-platform shoe and depending on what size your feet are, a 4" heel for a size 5 is probably too high and a 4" heel for a size13 will likely be TOO LOW. Regardless of “heel height” - pick footwear that provides a 45 degree foot angle so that your foot is always at the “breakover point” - the point of each step where weight is transfered from the trailing foot to the leading foot, and which places your foot almost as upright as you being on “tip toes”.   This will deter you from walking heel first like a man or a teenage girl who has never worn heels.  It will force a shorter step and make it easier for you to remember to place the heel & toe (ball of foot) on the ground at the same time. Note that TALL BOOTS will provide more support & stability for your ankles than shoes and will go with far more outfits, too! Also they will conceal your manly calf muscle definition ( the reason “I” don’t wear “shoes” ) I suggest also a heel base of at least two square inches so that you have more support and it is easier to balance while you learn to adjust to the high heels.  Starting with thin “spike” heels is asking for disaster because you need to learn not to rely on the heel part for stability. Step Four: Practice beside a wall or near a railing for balance. Stand and walk USING ONLY THE TOES/BALL OF FOOT.  That is, go “tip toes” so that the heel is NOT TOUCHING THE GROUND.  This will help you get used to the idea that the HEEL is not really a “useable” part of the shoe by itself and that you don’t rely on it for balance. Gradually let your heel get lower and closer to the ground as you practice, so that once the heel does contact the ground, you know you must still keep most of your weight on the TOE/BALL OF FOOT so that you don’t fall.   FALLS ARE CAUSED WHEN YOU MISTAKENLY TREAT THE HEEL AS A “FUNCTIONAL” PART OF THE HIGH-HEEL SHOE.  IT’S NOT. High heels were NOT created to add height, but rather for MALE Kabuki performers playing female roles, to force their back to arch more and therefor their butt to “present” itself more and make him look more feminine.  That was adopted by old prostitutes to unconsciously seem more youthful and attractive to a male customer by tapping into the primal, instinctive presentation of an open      ( not pregnant )   ovulating female as indicated by “swollen buttocks” and cause the male to respond with “doggie style” mounting of the female. Evolution has caused many changes to humans over hundreds of thousands of years. Our ancestors at one point only procreated in this way ( you know most women still say “doggie style sex” feels best - because their vagina and brain were designed to do it this way )  and we still respond to the same things we did many, many years ago. Heels help this. USING STAIRS: Notice how women tend to actually use the railing when they use stairs.  They go UP using only their toes (heels never touch the steps ) and come down with their shoes hitting flat on each step (toe & heel at same time ) and at a slight angle, with toes pointing more toward the railing than forward ( so the whole shoe is on the step - if their feet were pointing straight forward, their front of their shoe might slip off the front of a step and cause them to fall down the stairs! ). Now that you have all that in your head. let’s take FEMININE STEPS. 1 - Take 100 steps which are only one half to one whole foot length in front of your other shoe.  Once you can do that with no problem … do it again while ensuring that your feet are as close together as possible. That is, a narrow step width. ( If you stop, your feet should be almost touching. ) 2 - Next, concentrate on the getting your butt to do the feminine “snap”.  Up to this point, unless you discovered it by accident, you will still be motivating your steps with your trailing foot and bobbing up and down.  You need to motivate your step by moving your hips forward instead, so that you are gliding across the floor, and with that comes the feminine “wiggle”. Stand with one foot in front of the other, with your feet at a comfortable distance apart for you.  ( That may only be one shoe-length or even less, and that’s ok. ) Start perfectly balanced in the middle. Pretend you’re in a super-slow-motion video. SLOWLY glide your hips forward until your weight is TOTALLY over your leading (front) foot, with your trailing (back) foot still on the ground.  It’s ok if you need to be only on the toes of your trailing foot since it is impossible to keep your heel on the ground as you move that far forward.   Keep moving your hips SLOWLY forward until you are almost going to FALL FORWARD.  This is the point at which a woman takes her trailing foot off the ground and quickly moves it forward to “catch the weight” moving forward as a result of her hips moving forward. ( Women motivate their steps by moving their hips forward … ) Take a few steps like that and you’ll feel your hips SWAY from side to side as your bring your body to THE LIMIT of falling forward before taking your trailing foot off the ground.  As a result, your butt will “snap” as you walk. Once it happens the first few times ( the “snap” ), you’ll understand how it “feels” to walk like a woman, so that you can do it over and over.

[lacesatinstilettos]

Excellent info… Try it!! It works!!!❤

[mytgirllifeinwriting-deactivate]

Good advice and a lot of work. But its a must.

[allyson-skye]

Nice post great info thanks

[capnsoapy]

🤭 I'm a girl but with a little 😏 extra something 😉

Can you guess what? 🤪

[dollhouseattic]

Made more socks!

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Grace in Conflict: Responding instead of Reacting

Conflict is an unavoidable part of life. Whether it's a disagreement with a loved one, tension in the workplace, or a heated conversation online, we all encounter moments where emotions rise and tempers flare. Our natural instinct is often to react—quickly, defensively, and emotionally. But as followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard: to respond with grace.

Grace doesn't mean being passive or avoiding hard conversations. Rather, it involves embodying the character of Jesus in our approach to a disagreement, characterized by wisdom, humility, patience, and love.

If you are currently dealing with a challenging relationship or finding it difficult to respond without escalating into a heated argument, then you have come to the right place. Let us explore the significance of responding rather than reacting, the importance of grace during conflicts, and how the Holy Spirit empowers us to maintain peace, even in the midst of heightened tensions.

Understanding the Difference: Reacting vs. Responding

We may think that reacting and responding are the same, as both involve addressing a situation. However, the difference lies in the heart behind them along with the outcomes they produce.

Reacting is often immediate, emotional, and driven by impulse. It occurs when we allow our feelings—such as anger, frustration, and fear—to take control. Reactions are typically defensive and can escalate conflict rather than resolve it. A harsh word, a sarcastic remark, or walking away in anger are all examples of reactions that may seem justified in the moment but rarely reflect Christ.

Responding, on the other hand, is a thoughtful and intentional act guided by wisdom. A response involves taking a moment to pause, seeking understanding before speaking. It requires careful word choice and actions rooted in love rather than pride. Responding allows the Holy Spirit to take the lead, rather than allowing our emotions to dictate our actions.

The Bible commands us to respond, not to react; this distinction emphasizes the importance of thoughtfulness and patience in our actions. When we respond, we take the time to reflect on our values and beliefs, allowing us to choose actions that align with our faith and principles.

"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God" - James 1:19-20 (KJV)

Why Grace Matters In Conflict

Grace is more than a kind gesture—it's the posture of a heart transformed by the love of Christ. In the midst of conflict, grace is what sets believers apart. Grace is really important to consider when you are involved in an argument, disagreement, or a conflict with another person.

1.Grace Reflects God's Character

Grace reflects the character of Jesus, who was filled with grace and truth. When faced with betrayal, insults, and injustice, He responded with compassion and mercy, embodying the essence of divine love that surpasses human understanding. His demeanor was not one of anger or retribution, but rather one of understanding and forgiveness, encouraging us to look beyond the surface of offenses and recognize the deeper need for love and acceptance.

When we extend grace to others, we mirror His heart and open the door for healing, rather than merely seeking resolution. This act of grace allows relationships to mend and grow stronger. It generates a ripple effect, inspiring others to respond in kind and fostering a community rooted in kindness and mutual respect, ultimately reflecting the kingdom of God on earth.

"And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we behold his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth" - John 1:14 (KJV)

2. It Disarms Hostility And Creates Space For Reconciliation

Grace possesses a remarkable ability to shift the tone of a conflict. When someone expects anger, accusations, or retaliation but is instead met with kindness and patience, it can stop hostility in its tracks. This is because grace does not fuel the fire of conflict; rather, it calms it. It breaks the cycle of defensiveness and invites a more peaceful and honest exchange.

"A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger" - Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)

Grace also creates space for reconciliation by removing the need to prove ourselves right and replacing it with restored relationships. It offers forgiveness even when it is not asked for. It leaves room for others to have the opportunity to change, apologize, or explain without the fear of judgment.

Grace will always points us back to Jesus—the One who extended grace to us while we were still sinners.

"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" - Romans 5:8 (KJV)

3. Grace Allows Us To Speak Truth Without Sinning

One of the greatest challenges in conflict is speaking the truth without letting anger, pride, or harshness take over. It’s easy to justify cruel words by saying, “I’m just being honest.” But Scripture calls us to something higher: truth in love. That’s where grace comes in.

Grace allows us to speak truth without sinning because it filters our words through humility and compassion. Instead of using truth as a weapon to wound, grace helps us deliver it as a tool to build up.

But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ" - Ephesians 4:15 (KJV)

As you can see, Grace doesn’t dilute the truth—it dignifies it.

Grace reminds us that how we say something matters just as much as what we say. When our words are seasoned with grace, they reflect the character of Christ—who never avoided truth but always delivered it with gentleness, patience, and a heart for restoration.

"Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man" - Colossians 4:6 (KJV)

By walking in grace, we speak truth in a way that invites healing instead of hurt, correction instead of condemnation. Grace guards our tone, our timing, and our intentions, keeping us from sin even when we must address hard things.

The Role of the Holy Spirit in Helping Us Respond

Responding with grace in the heat of conflict is not something we can do in our own strength. Our natural tendency is to defend, retaliate, or shut down. But when we yield to the Holy Spirit, we are empowered to respond in a way that reflects the heart of Christ rather than the emotions of the moment.

God has given us the Holy Spirit to help us to walk in patience, kindness, and self-control. When conflict arises, the Holy Spirit can prompt us to pause, to listen first, and to speak with compassion instead of anger.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law" - Galatians 5:22-23 (KJV)

When we make space for the Holy Spirit—through prayer, stillness, and sensitivity to His leading—we respond from a place of spiritual strength rather than emotional impulse. He transforms our reactions into responses that heal, build up, and reflect the grace that God has shown us.

How to Respond with Grace

Responding with grace doesn’t come naturally—it’s a learned posture, shaped by time with God and the work of the Holy Spirit in our hearts. But the good news is that with intentional steps and spiritual maturity, we can grow in our ability to respond in a way that honors God and brings peace to tense situations.

Here are some practical steps to respond with grace:

1. Pause Before You Speak

Grace starts with self-control. When emotions rise, take a moment to breathe and pray, allowing yourself to reconnect with a sense of calm and purpose. Even a short pause, just a brief moment of stillness, allows space for the Holy Spirit to guide your words and calm your heart, reminding you of the importance of patience and understanding in your interactions.

"The heart of the righteous studieth to answer: but the mouth of the wicked poureth out evil things" - Proverbs 15:28 (KJV)

2. Listen to Understand, Not to Defend

Listening with a genuine desire to understand the other person disarms defensiveness and demonstrates humility. It fosters a safe space for open dialogue, allowing both parties to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.

Grace is not merely about responding to and defending ourselves. It involves genuinely listening to what the other person has to say. By doing so, we invite understanding and collaboration, rather than confrontation, paving the way for constructive conversations that can lead to mutual growth and resolution.

3. Choose Words Carefully

In case you didn't know, words CAN hurt people. Whether we speak carelessly or with intent, our words can affect others in ways we may not fully understand. The impact of our words can linger long after they are spoken, shaping feelings and perceptions that may lead to misunderstandings or deepen wounds. In contrast, grace-filled words are gentle, truthful, and respectful, fostering understanding and connection between individuals. They have the power to uplift, inspire, and heal, creating a safe space for dialogue and empathy.

Sometimes, it's not only what you say but also how and when you say it that truly matters in effective communication. Avoid sarcasm, accusations, and harsh tones, as these can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Instead, strive to communicate with empathy and kindness, recognizing the power of your words.

Ask yourself: “Will my words build up or tear down?” By taking a moment to reflect on this question, you can ensure that your conversations promote positivity, nurture relationships, and create an atmosphere of trust and support.

"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers" - Ephesians 4:29 (KJV)

4. Stay Rooted in Love

Grace doesn’t mean avoiding the truth; rather, it involves speaking the truth with love, even when it feels uncomfortable or challenging. It is about embracing honesty while being mindful of the feelings of others, thereby fostering an environment where healing can take place

Stay anchored in your identity in Christ, remembering that you are called to reflect His love and compassion in every interaction. As you navigate difficult conversations, keep in mind that the ultimate goal is restoration, not retaliation. Aim to mend relationships and bring about understanding rather than deepen divides. Let your words serve as a source of encouragement and hope, guiding others toward a path of reconciliation and grace.

5. Forgive Freely

Grace always makes room for forgiveness, even if the other person isn’t ready to apologize. This willingness to forgive is not only a gift to others but also a profound act of self-care that nurtures one’s inner peace. Extending forgiveness softens your heart and invites peace into the situation, creating a space where healing can begin.

Grace provides an opportunity for understanding, acknowledging the flaws in both ourselves and others, and recognizing that holding onto anger only poisons our own spirit. If you would like to learn more about cultivating a forgiving spirit, I recommend checking out my blog post on the importance of forgiving others over having a bitter heart.

"Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye" - Colossians 3:13 (KJV)

6. Set Healthy Boundaries

Grace doesn't automatically mean becoming a doormat. In fact, exercising grace often requires greater strength and self-awareness. You are going to establish boundaries when discussing sensitive topics with someone or when addressing how the other person is responding to you.

It is essential to establish clear boundaries that honor your feelings and protect your emotional well-being. By being upfront about which topics are sensitive for you and how certain responses affect your interactions, you can foster healthier conversations. This approach not only reflects your inner strength but also encourages mutual respect in your relationships, allowing for open dialogue without compromising your values or feelings.

Conclusion

Conflict is never easy, but it presents an opportunity—an opportunity for growth, to reflect Christ, and to respond in a way that brings peace rather than division. We’re not called to avoid conflict; instead, we are called to glorify God through our responses by choosing to engage thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. We respond with grace by speaking with wisdom, listening humbly, and forgiving courageously. The good news is that we do not have to do it alone. God has given us His Spirit to help us walk in love, patience, and self-control—even during the most difficult moments.

So, my friend, I encourage you to take a moment to reflect: How have you responded in your recent conflicts? Were your words shaped by grace, or by frustration and impulse? Don’t be discouraged—grace is a journey, and God is patient with us as we grow.

I challenge you to present those moments of tension before God. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where your heart needs to soften, where forgiveness is necessary, and how you can respond differently in the future. Pray for His strength to pause, listen, and speak with love—even when it’s hard.

Let your next conflict become an opportunity to glorify God—not by striving for perfection, but by embracing a willing heart. Grace isn’t just something we receive; it is also something we are called to extend to others. With the help of the Holy Spirit, you can become a vessel of peace in a world that desperately needs it.

Source: Grace in Conflict: Responding instead of Reacting

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How Martial Artists Can Make a Difference

Every corner of the world has felt the sting of street violence, abuse or bullying. But there’s a force strong enough to stand up to it—martial artists. With training rooted in discipline, integrity, and empathy, martial artists already embody the qualities needed to spark change. Their habits are shaped by respect, self-control and the deep responsibility to protect others. So let’s take a look how martial artists can make a difference.

When martial artists unite, they don’t just bring physical skill, they multiply their influence as role models and leaders. They can guide children to be confident yet kind, help survivors reclaim their strength, and break the silence around abuse. By sharing their knowledge and supporting their communities, martial artists become more than fighters—they become beacons of hope.

There’s real promise when these warriors step beyond the dojo. Together, their actions can create safer schools, homes and neighbourhoods, offering new ways forward for those who need it most.

Harnessing Martial Arts Values to Break the Cycle of Violence

Stepping onto the mat in a martial arts class, everyone learns much more than how to block, strike, or move. Deep respect, personal discipline and a strong code of ethics become part of every martial artist’s life. These values reach beyond the dojo to shape communities, change lives and in many cases, interrupt cycles of abuse and bullying before they begin. The lessons we teach and live, can help everyone feel safer and seen. Breaking patterns that often feel impossible to escape.

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Building Resilience and Confidence in Victims

One of the gifts of martial arts is the way it helps survivors and targets of abuse rebuild their self-worth. Many who endure bullying or domestic violence feel powerless or invisible. But when they train, each skill they master gives them back pieces of their confidence.

Instructors reinforce self-control, calm breathing, and awareness—tools victims can carry into every part of life. Through small victories, like breaking a board or mastering a form, they reclaim power over their bodies and choices.

Key benefits that martial arts bring to victims include:

Body awareness: Survivors learn to trust their instincts again, making it easier to set boundaries.

Problem-solving: Facing physical and mental challenges, students build the courage to speak up for themselves.

Community: Belonging to a class means feeling valued and supported, often for the first time in years.

Programs that focus on empowerment, especially for those healing from trauma, help students feel safer in their own skin. Even for those who never have to fight back physically, the mental armour they gain can be life-changing. For more about programs and immediate help for bullying, Get Help Now is a great resource for tools and guidance.

Promoting Empathy, Leadership, and Accountability

The rules of martial arts are simple: treat others with respect, take care of those in your group, and hold yourself to a higher standard. These aren’t just words repeated during class—they form the heart of every lesson.

Great martial artists don’t win by overpowering others, but by practicing empathy and acting as role models. They recognise the power their words and actions have on friends, classmates, and family. As leaders, they build bridges, listen well, and honour their word.

Some values that shape community-focused leadership include:

Empathy: By sparring and training together, practitioners learn to see the world through someone else’s perspective. They feel the difference between friendly competition and real harm.

Accountability: Students are taught to admit mistakes and make things right, both on and off the mat.

Active encouragement: Leaders in the dojo check in on those who are struggling or new. They foster kindness, knowing it creates a ripple effect throughout the community.

Building these skills creates more than just better martial artists, it grows better citizens. Those who model integrity naturally inspire others. Leadership in martial arts is explained in detail in this article on how martial arts builds leadership skills, which breaks down how focus, respect, and humility translate into daily life.

Changing Behaviour : From Bystanders to Upstanders

In schools, homes and neighbourhoods, the people who watch violence unfold matter as much as the ones who act. Martial arts programs teach that silence allows harm to continue. Instead, students are inspired to be upstanders—to step in, speak up, and support those at risk.

By learning to recognise harmful behaviour, martial artists are trained to:

Set the tone for respect: Even small acts e.g. like making eye contact and using calm voices, can stop an aggressive situation from escalating.

Intervene safely: Techniques for defusing tension are part of the curriculum, reminding students that protecting others often means using words, not fists.

Support the vulnerable: By standing with victims, martial artists show everyone that cruelty and bullying will be challenged.

Upstander training is now a foundation in many modern martial arts schools. Teaching everyone to take action while staying safe and responsible, helps break the cycle for good. The CDC’s guide to youth violence prevention highlights the value of these bystander intervention skills both inside and outside the dojo.

A supportive community, anchored by martial arts values, is a force that breaks silence and builds new habits. By working together, martial artists don’t just protect themselves, they reshape what’s possible for everyone.

Community Programs and Global Initiatives: Making an Impact Together

When martial artists come together from across the globe, real change happens. Their networks reach beyond local gyms to spark programs and partnerships that can touch every life touched by violence, abuse or bullying. Here’s how this worldwide community is making sure no one stands alone.

International Networks and Cross-Border Collaboration

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Martial artists aren't just scattered individuals—they’re part of international families. Many schools, from small-town dojos to large city academies, are members of global anti-bullying initiatives. For example, Martial Artists Against Bullying (MAAB) runs campaigns in dozens of countries, linking instructors who want to stop bullying through education and support.

The strength of these networks lies in their ability to:

Share resources and teaching materials that work in different cultures and languages.

Host synchronised awareness events like the “Done with Bullying” campaign, which invites schools everywhere to run parallel workshops.

Encourage participation in international challenges—programs like the MAAB 30-Day Challenge help martial artists from all walks of life gather stories and strategies.

Cross-border partnerships don’t just mean Zoom calls and emails. They create real friendships and coalitions, ensuring that those fighting against abuse never have to do it alone.

Trauma-Informed Self Defence and Empowerment Workshops

Expert self defence classes have evolved to meet the needs of people who have lived through trauma. Today, many instructors are certified in trauma-informed care, meaning they prioritise healing and safety alongside technique.

Workshops aren’t just about learning to defend against an attacker. They teach:

How to set boundaries and recognise unsafe situations

Practical safety planning for people living in or escaping abusive homes

Gentle, body-centred skills for those who may flinch from traditional martial arts contact

Programs like WAVE Self-Defence and trauma-informed branches at gyms such as 3 Rivers Defense focus on empowering survivors. These workshops may use role-playing scenarios, mindfulness, and group discussions to rebuild confidence.

Case studies from cities like Chicago and rural programs in the Midwest show the impact: Survivors report feeling stronger and more capable of making safe choices and they often return as mentors for others. For immediate help and additional trauma-informed resources, The National Domestic Violence Hotline can offer guidance and support.

Inclusive Outreach to At-Risk and Marginalised Groups

No community changes for the better if people are left behind. The most successful anti-violence programs work hard to connect with youth and adults who might otherwise slip through the cracks: LGBTQ+ youth, kids in foster care, recent immigrants, and low-income families.

Martial arts instructors often visit schools, community centres, or shelter programs in underserved areas. With free or low-cost classes, they meet young people where they already gather. Groups like Youth Outreach Services go a step further, partnering martial arts practitioners with social workers for wraparound support.

Here’s how inclusive outreach looks in practice:

Flexible class structures: Adapting lessons so everyone, regardless of body type or experience, can participate.

Role models who look like their students: Bringing in instructors from diverse backgrounds builds trust.

Open-door environments: Programs that welcome kids with limited English, disabilities, or other unique needs.

Success stories abound—like the Chicago-based club that paired martial arts with mentorship for at-risk boys, or the city program that helped immigrant girls find a safe place to gather after school. For more on programs making an impact with vulnerable youth, see this round-up of top at-risk youth organizations.

The united efforts of martial artists, reaching across continents and backgrounds, send a very clear message: you are not alone, and together, safety and respect are possible for everyone.

How Martial Artists Can Work with Schools, Shelters, and Communities

Martial artists are uniquely positioned to build safer communities. By stepping up and offering their skills outside the dojo, they can encourage respect, give hope, and spark real change. Where do you start if you want to make a difference? One of the strongest paths is teaming up with local schools, shelters, and organisations . It’s about more than teaching moves, it’s about empowering people, one connection at a time.

Partnering with Schools for Early Bullying Prevention

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Schools are on the front line of bullying prevention. The chance to reach children before patterns of aggression or silence form is crucial. When martial artists partner with schools, they bring in a whole toolkit for building respect and confidence in young people.

Ways martial artists can get involved in schools:

Lead anti-bullying seminars that teach self-control, assertive communication, and conflict resolution.

Run after-school programs that offer a safe zone for kids to learn and make friends.

Host role-playing workshops where students can practice bystander intervention.

Collaborate with teachers and counsellors to spot and support kids at risk.

Programs work best when they celebrate every child’s strengths, not just physical skills. Schools looking to expand their safety initiatives often turn to martial arts partnerships for fresh ideas and proven strategies.

Supporting Survivors: Outreach to Domestic Abuse Shelters

Shelters serve as a lifeline for those escaping domestic abuse, but the work doesn’t end with a roof and a meal. Martial artists and instructors can step up by providing practical tools for self-defence and confidence.

Key strategies for reaching out to shelters:

Offer trauma-informed self-defence classes that focus on boundary-setting and situational awareness, not just physical techniques.

Hold workshops tailored for women, children, or any survivor community—meet people where they are emotionally and physically.

Consult with shelter staff to design support programs that work inside their daily schedule and respect confidentiality.

This isn’t about turning survivors into fighters overnight. It’s about giving them back a sense of agency and community support. Many successful outreach efforts, like Spirit Forge Martial Arts’ community outreach program, highlight the importance of serving with empathy and sensitivity. If you want to offer classes or support, always connect with the shelter’s leadership first to understand their needs.

Leading Safe Spaces: Dojos Beyond Training Grounds

For many, the dojo (or training hall) becomes a refuge. But martial arts schools can expand their role and lead as community anchors. Safe havens where people gather for much more than training.

Community-focused dojos can:

Organise open house events that encourage newcomers, including families in crisis and at-risk youth, to experience martial arts in a welcoming setting.

Host talks, group circles, or Q&A sessions about bullying, healthy relationships, and personal safety.

Partner with local organisations to host charity drives, food collections, or community awareness days. These acts bring neighbours together and break down isolation.

Martial arts schools can model inclusivity by adjusting class fees, uniforms, or requirements to welcome everyone, regardless of background or income. Programs like Shinsei Martial Arts’ outreach initiatives regularly transform lives by combining instruction with community service and advocacy.

For those ready to lead, it helps to join regional or national coalitions that support broader outreach. The Power of Cooperation in Martial Arts Organizations details how joint service and shared purpose between schools break down barriers and spark real, lasting impact.

When martial artists open their doors and their hearts, they give their communities much more than skills—they offer hope, support, and a path toward a safer, more respectful world for everyone.

Conclusion

Martial artists hold a rare kind of power, the ability to bring people together for true change. Every workshop taught, every survivor supported and every effort to build empathy leaves a mark. Simple acts—like running a self-defence session, joining forces with a local shelter, or taking time to mentor a bullied child—echo out, creating safer spaces where everyone feels seen and respected.

When we stand side by side, we break the silence around violence, abuse and bullying. This movement grows with each person who chooses to act, whether through teaching, volunteering, or spreading awareness. I invite you to join in—your efforts matter, no matter how small they may seem.

A world where respect triumphs over fear is possible. Thank you for caring enough to read and for being part of this journey. If this message speaks to you, share it or start a conversation in your own community. Together, we build a future no one has to face alone.

 

Source: How Martial Artists Can Make a Difference

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Things my therapist used to have me do that just make sense

Stare right into my reflection in the mirror 30 minutes straight no make up no clothes just me. If I look away once I restart the timer. With the intention of seeing yourself, she said

Write a letter to one person every day. Letters I will never send. As in pen and paper and a letter, not less than 1000 words. In whatever language, but 1000 words. Not characters. Words.

"Explain to me how this is a problem? / Take me to the part where this is your problem"

Write 10 things I hated about myself that day and then explain what is so bad about them without making it about how others will perceive it like- how is this a problem for ME?

Talk to water. You know how water is life / water is healing? Pour water in a glass and the tell it whatever and drink. Like speaking life into yourself. So like- I am X I am Y and then drink it.

Ask me 'what's the weather in your head today' and now I describe my feelings to people in weather terms and they just -,-

5 things you can see four you can hear three you can touch two you can smell one you can taste every time i was getting too lost in my head for grounding. I still do it, 10/10 would recommend

'Outside your head is that an issue?'

Fire me even though I was the one paying because 'at this point it's just dependency'.

'I can't take you seriously if you don't take yourself seriously'

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Embracing your feminine energy involves connecting with qualities such as intuition, creativity, empathy, and receptivity.

Engage in Creative Activities: Paint, dance, write, or craft are creative endeavors that foster self-expression and connect you to your creative essence.

Practice Self-Reflection: Dedicate time to introspection through journaling or meditation. This helps you stay grounded and in tune with your inner self.

Connect with Nature: Spend time outdoors, appreciating the beauty of the natural world. Walking in the park or sitting by a body of water can enhance your sense of peace and receptivity. citeturn0search3

Embrace Stillness and Rest: Allow yourself periods of rest and relaxation. Embracing stillness enables you to receive insights and rejuvenate your mind and body.

Cultivate Receptivity: Practice being open to receiving—whether it's help, compliments, or opportunities. This openness nurtures your feminine energy by balancing the act of giving and receiving.

Nurture Relationships: Invest time in building and maintaining meaningful connections. Engaging in deep, empathetic conversations fosters emotional intimacy and aligns with feminine qualities.

Honor Your Emotions: Acknowledge and embrace your feelings without judgment. Allowing yourself to experience a full range of emotions enhances emotional intelligence and authenticity.

Let them treat you like the princess you are <3

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Incest Survivor Resource List

I created this list because I haven’t seen anything else like it. I didn’t want it to be a big dump of links so I added little descriptions to each one so you can better find what you’re looking. I don’t really know what to say other than “you’re not alone” and “it’s going to be okay” and also “hi you have a safe place on my blog if you want to follow it but it’s okay if you don’t.”

You don’t have to be an incest survivor to use these resources, also. Hopefully this list can be helpful to everyone. Please share and boost it if you can!

Websites to check out:

Note: All of these spaces are inclusive of LGBTQ+, POC, disabled, and other marginalized communities.

Survivors of Incest Anonymous: A self-help recovery group modeled after Alcoholics Anonymous. To become a member you must be a survivor who is 18 years or older.

Incest AWARE: Has a wealth of survivor-centered resources, especially focused on survivors from marginalized communities. I really appreciate their inclusivity.

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: The nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization. Operates the national sexual assault hotline. You will find LOTS of information and resources on this website.

What’s Okay: A website & helpline for teens and young adults. Have all of your questions about “what’s okay” when it comes to sex, healthy relationships, and sexual trauma answered with no judgement at all.

Stop It Now (UK version): A child protection charity that provides support, information, and resources on preventing child sexual abuse and keeping children safe. This is a great resource to learn about warning signs of abuse & other concerning behavior. This organization also provides support services to people who are concerned that they might harm a child.

For Ourselves: Reworking Gender Expression: Provides services and support for transgender/nonbinary people who have experienced any sort of violence or crime. Check out their resources for trans/nb survivors of sexual violence in particular. 🏳️‍⚧️

1 in 6: Resources, information, and support specifically for male-identifying survivors of sexual abuse. While the focus is on child sexual abuse, they also provide support to men who experienced SA in adulthood. They have a weekly support chat, facilitated by a counselor.

Sibling Sexual Trauma: This site provides resources for those affected by sibling sexual trauma. There’s a ton of information and recovery resources here for everyone.

Beauty After Bruises: Dedicated to helping survivors of childhood trauma receive funding and access to therapeutic support. You can apply for a grant if you are in need. They also have a blog that teaches self-help and coping techniques! It’s one of my favorites.

After Silence: Speak about your experiences anonymously and support others anonymously. 

Basic information:

What is incest?

Research & statistics on incest

What is COCSA?

What is sibling sexual trauma?

What is emotional incest?

What is secure & insecure attachment?

What is dissociation?

Warning signs of child grooming / adult grooming

Signs of childhood trauma

In recovery:

Recovering From Incest: If you don’t know what to check out first, I recommend starting here. 🖤

How to Heal From Covert Emotional Incest: (TW) The author shares her story of surviving emotional incest. At the end, you will find a list of books & videos that she found helpful for healing from this type of trauma.

Get Self Help: Probably the largest database of self-help resources I’ve ever found! There’s worksheets, pdfs, videos, audio, all kinds of tips and tricks. Go to this page and click on the subject that you need self-help advice for.

Transgender Sexual Violence Survivors: A Self-Help Guide to Healing and Understanding: SO GOOD. There’s TONS of information & resources here. It’s created by trans/nb people for trans/nb people, and it’s completely free. Please pick this one up! 🏳️‍⚧️

Advice Column: This column offers advice on multiple topics related to preventing and recovering from child sexual abuse. You can also submit your own questions, although I don’t know how quick they are to respond. EDIT: They usually respond in a few days!

Coping skills for complex trauma & dissociation: This link leads to a tag on Beauty After Bruises’ blog. Something I like about their blog is that it’s both informative and also casual. It’s written by someone with DID, and you can really feel that they understand what you’re going through. I found their post on nightmares especially useful!

Safety & Prevention: There are several articles here that give tips on how to stay safe as a survivor, such as what consent looks like and how to protect yourself on social media.

Consent: Even if you feel like you already know what healthy consent is, I recommend reading these pages. I love how they broaden the topic to be about more than just sex.

Sexual Safety At Home: Lots of good, important resources here about safe and healthy sex/sexual behaviors. Learn the GREEN FLAGS of sexual behavior!

What might be behind your physical pain: GREAT article from an incest survivor on chronic pain with “no known cause”.

Healing the inner child after incest abuse: Learn what an inner child is, how incest affects it, and how you can heal through reparenting. (TW) This one has some brief personal accounts of the author’s trauma.

Why survivors miss abuse: An article about why survivors might sometimes miss or crave being abused. I felt like it was a bit lacking but it’s still a good introduction to this topic.

Needing support right now:

National Sexual Assault Hotline: Call the number or online chat. There are also other hotlines & resources listed here.

What’s Okay Helpline: Call, online chat, and email counselors any questions you have about sex and relationships. There is also a large FAQ to check out!

Other Hotlines: This is just a big list of other hotlines that you can call, text, or chat in to receive support.

7cups: I love this website because you can talk to volunteers about basically any sort of non-crisis situation. Get advice or comforting words or just have someone to vent to. It’s free, but you can get access to mental health professionals if you pay.

Just for teens: Resources and support for teens who have or are currently experiencing incest or other sexual trauma.

How to get help & stay safe with an abusive family: These coping and safety tips are geared towards minors who are living with an abusive family. It can be useful for anyone, though!

Supporting a loved one:

TALK: A good starting place for supporters! 🖤

How to support a survivor: Very good advice and helpful links here. Pay attention to the points about marginalized survivors.

A guide for partners & friends of trans sexual violence survivors: MOST INFORMATIVE THING YOU WILL EVER READ! 🏳️‍⚧️

Helpful literature + more:

Books & films aimed at male survivors: These resources are aimed at men, but they can be useful for everyone. Content is divided into different columns so you can easily find what you’re looking for. They are upfront about how they select what they recommend. Each recommendation has a description about why they recommend it. GREAT RESOURCE.

Reading resources on childhood sexual trauma: These resources focus on preventing childhood sexual trauma & also healing from it. Literature is divided into different columns for professionals, supporters, adult survivors, and child survivors. There is also a section for research if you’re interested in that!

Books, children’s Books, & podcasts: These have all been recommended by survivors of incest & other sexual trauma. Only the children’s books & podcasts have descriptions.

SIA’s downloadable literature: These resources are aimed at adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse, especially incest. I haven’t read any of these yet but the prices are very cheap!

Recommended books on complex trauma: The books are divided into different columns, and all have short but good descriptions. Check out the column on books regarding trauma’s intersection with race, sexuality, and gender!

Carolyn Spring’s column on child sexual abuse: Carolyn Spring is an author, trainer, and trauma survivor who has DID. Anyone who experiences dissociation will probably find her articles very relatable but also highly informative!

Books about healing PTSD, Complex PTSD, and Dissociative Disorders: Everything is categorized so you can easily find what you’re looking for. They have short descriptions for each book. There is also a section for free resources!

RAINN Bookstore: These are books written by other survivors. This is a great place to go if you want to support fellow survivors or hear their stories.

Online Literary Magazine for survivors of sexual trauma: Read art, poetry, and stories from other survivors in this online magazine. It’s free!

Free trauma resources: These downloads were created by Carolyn Spring specifically for trauma survivors & professionals who work with them. I got the e-book and it’s been very helpful!

Free trauma & dissociation books: There’s some good ones here!

[theambitiouswoman]

Basic Financial Skills Everyone Should Learn

Budgeting: Creating a budget is a crucial skill for managing personal finances. A budget helps you keep track of your income and expenses and enables you to plan and prioritize your spending.

Saving: Saving is another important financial skill. It's essential to set aside a portion of your income for emergencies, retirement, or other long-term goals.

Investing: Understanding the basics of investing can help you grow your money over time. Learning about different investment options such as stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and ETFs can help you make informed investment decisions.

Debt Management: Understanding debt and how to manage it is essential for financial stability. This includes understanding interest rates, payment schedules, and strategies for paying off debt.

Credit Scores: Your credit score is a critical component of your financial health. Understanding how credit scores work, what factors affect them, and how to improve them is vital.

Taxes: Understanding the basics of taxes, such as tax deductions, credits, and filing requirements, is essential for managing your finances.

Financial Planning: Developing a financial plan helps you achieve your financial goals by identifying your priorities, creating a budget, and determining the best investment strategies for your needs.

Understanding Interest Rates: Interest rates are an important component of many financial products, such as loans, credit cards, and savings accounts. Understanding how interest rates work, how they are calculated, and how they can impact your finances is important.

Insurance: Understanding the different types of insurance, such as health, life, and property insurance, is crucial for protecting yourself and your assets. Knowing what types of coverage you need, how to choose a policy, and how to file a claim is important.

Retirement Planning: Planning for retirement is essential for everyone, regardless of age. Knowing how much you need to save, how to invest your money, and when to start taking Social Security benefits can help you achieve a comfortable retirement.

Estate Planning: Estate planning involves creating a plan for the distribution of your assets after you die. Understanding the basics of estate planning, such as creating a will and selecting beneficiaries, can help ensure that your assets are distributed according to your wishes.

Basic Math Skills: Having a basic understanding of math, such as calculating percentages, can help you make informed financial decisions. This includes understanding how interest rates are calculated, how much you can save by making extra payments on your loans, and how much you will earn from your investments.

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[auroraswillow]

soft princess tips

♡ carry yourself with grace

♡ be kind to all living creatures

♡ know your worth

♡ dress in clothes that make you feel beautiful

♡ use rose or honey lip balm

♡ find your signature perfume

♡ speak softly and eloquently

♡ use a face mask twice a week

♡ do things methodically

♡ always engage in your studies & learn more about the world

♡ have an open heart & an open hand

♡ keep your room neat & tidy

♡ always make time for self care

♡ drink honey, rose or vanilla tea

♡ rise early to enjoy the sunrise

♡ dress in flowy, lace night gowns

♡ dance in the moonlight in flowy, lace night gowns

♡ bake blueberry muffins & chocolate chip cookies to hand out to friends and family

♡ cherish every memory made

♡ cherish every friend and loved one

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Master The Written Word & Communicate Like A Queen (Tips For Aspiring Writers)

Communicating your ideas in a clear, comprehensive, and compelling fashion is an essential life skill. Verbal prowess is important. However, mastering the written word is equally (if not often more) powerful. Leveraging this skill is beneficial for everyone who wants to connect with others, cultivate influence, and leave an impact – not only authors, journalists, or copywriters, who require a deep knowledge of this craft by the nature of their work.

Advice like doing your research, editing for proper grammar, and utilizing your thesaurus is tried and true. However, training your brain and reframing how you make logical or textual connections is the ultimate game-changer if you want to leverage words in a way that captivates every audience – from strangers and potential business partners to clients, coworkers, or new friends.

Learning how to think is the first step to elevating your writing – whether it's writing an article, book chapter, essay, or crafting the perfect email, proposal, or message for someone you admire.

As a writer in some capacity – academically or professionally – for the past decade, here are some of the most useful tips I've learned for communicating your ideas and intentions in a clear, compelling way.

Practice your prose until they flow: Embrace wordplay. Explore different variations when editing for syntax.

Create phrases that have you feeling some type of way: Emotional connection to your words is essential to crafting beautiful prose. Place every word, sentence, or turn of a phrase carefully within your copy to arouse a specific emotion.

Seduce The Reader: You need to fall in love with language and the art of allure. Writing is like sex; it requires cultivating a skillset that, with regular practice, titillates the mind and makes the rest of the world stand still, enveloping you in a satisfying cadence.

Engage in Power Play: Write from the purview of the reader. Metatextualize your perspective - write as though you're observing the reader becoming acquainted with the viewpoint of the narrator. This point applies to both fiction and non-fiction writing. In the latter, the narrator acts as the mouthpiece authority.

Read, Study, Steal: The best way to learn how to improve your writing is to read. Study the prose, the syntax, and how the author conveys themes, articulates emotions, and bridges logic gaps. Apply similar frameworks to your prose. Adjust to suit your unique writing style and the subject matter at hand.

Line-Edit For Logic: Ensure that your sentences, scenes, and small takeaways connect and create a logical flow between paragraphs or general ideas.

Get To The Point: Brevity makes your writing more compelling. Cut any unnecessary words. Shorter phrases increase the impact of every word.

Consider your word choice with immense care. Match the intensity to its desired emotional impact or implication. Embrace metaphorical descriptions. Construct a picture of the scene with all the contorting sensations and emotions in the reader's mind. Flex your creative muscles. Remove yourself as the middleman. Encourage them to become the secondary voyeur.

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Homework: Work it gurls, work it real good…

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Start learning how to replace habits that do not add value to your lives. They will never make you happy. They will distract you. They will waste your time. Any time you are not doing something for the betterment of you, that you catch yourself wanting to do things that don’t make you better make a conscious effort to stop and ask yourself how this helps you or if you value your time so little as to waste it. You need to choose to remind yourself and call yourself out. You guys are so keen on personal development. It’s not easy. Replacing habits is probably the easiest because we are not emotionally tied to it like let’s say toxic partners or environments. It really need to sinks in for you that your mind creates certain thoughts and feels safe in your current rhythm. Your mind wants to protect you and keep you comfortable because you have created a habit out of certain patterns. It doesn’t know if they’re good or bad. It just knows it’s a habit. To reprogram your mind to get used to feeling comfortable in new behaviors it first needs to feel uncomfortable. This will reflect on how a change of action makes you feel. Everything from unmotivated to all of a sudden tired or sad. So if you’re feeling those things, you need to realize that it’s your mind trying to protect you. Even if protecting you means letting you watch tv for 8 hours instead of going for a run for 20 mins. How crazy is that? Any time I felt that way I would tell myself “I am in control of my body and my feelings- not the other way around” and I would say it over and over until I got used to those new habits. And by the time I got used to them I was already feeling the positive effects of them.