StepParent Promises

Daily affirmations, promises, vows, jokes, trials and tribulations

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I am tired

I have the cutest most amazing baby girl who I want to smoosh and squeeze and love until the end of time.

My DH does almost nothing to help with her

My SKids are even more self centered

I’m so tired of being a step parent. When all you do is love and love and love and your SKids ignore you and disregard you and blow you off... I’m tired. I hate having them around because it means I’m going to have even more work to do now that there is the baby that DH does very little for. If you asked him he would say he does a lot. He feeds her and gives her meds at night, brushes her teeth at night, and does her dishes at night. That’s it. For real, THAT’S IT. And that only happens because I nag him.

Now add 2 self centered ungrateful teenagers to the mix and you get my life.

May least I have the most precious little person ever created. I’m still tired though. Mostly emotionally.

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Stepson. All day everyday.

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Happy Stepmothers Day. Or not.

Yesterday my stepson broke my laminator and didn't say sorry. This morning he was smiling and laughing that our dog, our very injured dog whom I have spent the past 2 weeks caring for, sleeping next to, hauling back and for from the vet, sedating, etc., didn't want to go to his mat like I commanded. Well guess what you annoying twerp? No shit. No shit does he want to run around when he is feeling a little better because he's hopped up on Tramadol and steroids. No shit does he want to stand by you while you make food for yourself and hope that you drop some. Guess what? I don't fucking care. I told stepson that if the dog starts screaming again (when he tweaks his injuries he will scream for 2-3 minutes straight, shivering and dragging himself around to get away from the pain) it's his fault. Harsh, yes, but also true. I have told them (SS and SD) repeatedly that the dog can't be running around on the kitchen floor and that if he's acting happier it's because of the medication. It isn't cute, it isn't funny. That this is a critical time in his healing because he is going to feel better but if he is active then he will actually make his injuries worse. Stepson doesn't fucking care about anything other than himself sometimes. I know that is the case with most kids his age, but his bullshit attitude makes me want to punch him in the face on a good day let alone when he is encouraging my dog to engage in behavior that will harm him. Oh, and the dog is hurt because stepson put him outside when the gate was open and didn't check on him so he ran off somewhere, got injured, and we don't actually even know what happened so we have spent about $650 on vet bills SO FAR trying to figure it out. No apology there either of course. Stepson was never taught that if you do something, even by accident, you should apologize. Therefore he never apologizes for anything. 🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼 Oh yeah, let's not forget I'm doing all this while 39 weeks pregnant, including cleaning up dog pee from the floor multiple times a day because the dog is too injured to get to the door.

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No news is good news right? Things have been miraculously smooth recently and with the baby coming in 2 weeks I'll take every win I can get.

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So goes it

Yesterday was pretty successful I think it was better because DH wasn't here for the kids to whine to and get out of their work SD got a big part of her room cleaned -- it's been a disaster for months and the last time she was supposed to clean it she just didn't because she knew DH wouldnt push. I wrote it in the chore board this time so it just started to happen. Both kids came to the city with me, one went off with my sister to a play, and SS got a pile of new clothes with me (that's right, BM gave him $260 and I stretched that to 2 pants, 4 shorts, 9 tshirts, and a sweatshirt) and we all just had a nice time. A nice time is all I want. And now SS can have something to wear at both houses.

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Inspired by my SS's lack of clothing

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I bet money

I would bet you money that because I suggested SS and I go clothes shopping for him over break next week (he has nearly nothing that fits him), BM takes him this weekend. She can't stand having me recognize a need or want for the kids that she hasn't taken care of first.

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I was telling DH today that if he feels I've said something wrong to let me know in the moment so I can restate it or apologize. His kids never see anyone say sorry and therefore they never do it themselves. But I certainly get ripped apart behind my back and at random moments when I had no idea anything was wrong in the first place.

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I need affirmation

I am good I want good I do good I am human I make mistakes I am not perfect I am good It's ok to err It's ok to be me It's ok to ignore the hate Because I want good I do good And I am good

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Terror on two legs

This statue of evil found a teen volunteer program at a local hospital for SD who wants to go pre-Med and doesn't have nearly enough extracurriculars in her applications to get into the private expensive schools she thinks she needs. I am such a snake in the grass.

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I am the root of all evil

I guess when I encourage SD to apply to state colleges for back up and as better financial options, because it's hard to get into Ivy League/small privates schools, I am a beast for suggesting that she can't get into those schools? I don't remember saying she couldn't... I guess suggesting that she get a consistent summer job to learn balance, work ethic, and responsibility the summer before her senior year is ignorant and I should sit quietly in a corner because a 1x/week internship in a minorly related field to her current interest is better for her. Oh, and there is no way she could find any job locally that would be related to her interests either apparently. What I really guess is that if I make public my count down to when SD is out of the house I would get some backlash. I'll just be over here seething.

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I feel this every time I hear my husband or his ex talk to my SD

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Apparently the example we are setting is that if SD is unhappy we should drop everything until we can convince her to let us spend money on her and buy happiness. 🙄🖕🏼