Autism be damned my boy can murder

Network, he/it/they pronouns, 19

[hotnfreshtakes]

trans men and transmascs do need to hear they aren't hurting anyone for being masculine, but more than that they need to hear that they are loved for being masculine. your masculinity is wonderful and magical and you pull it off incredibly well. your masculinity is cool, it's desirable, it's attractive. there are people out there who will be drawn to you because of your masculinity, not just in spite of it. you deserve more than just to be tolerated in queer spaces. your masculinity deserves to be celebrated

[reasonsforhope]

You don't have ever to choose between being a boy or a girl

You don't ever have to use a specific label or term

You don't need anyone's permission to call yourself queer or nonbinary or trans or enby

In fact, you don't need anyone's permission to call yourself any of those words almost by the definitions of the words themselves

There's no judge. There's no tryouts, there's no membership card, there's no applications or fees (and thank goodness for that!!!)

In fact, because gender and queerness are both, at their core, about the ways people feel inside and want to interact (with each other, with society, with their own concept of self, etc.), there are very few hard boundaries at all

And you certainly don't have to figure out a specific label or a specific gender identity in order to figure out want you want - in life, in queerness, in gender, in general - and start to move toward it

[verygoodcomments]

[rainbow-flavoured-skittles]

oh yeah here’s this stupid thing I made. this post just made me think of them

[bluerose5]

Thank you, Black people in fandom spaces. Thank you, Black creators and Black lurkers. Thank you Black artists, Black writers. Thank you, Black bloggers, Black influencers. Shoutout to those Black characters, both canon and original. Thank you, Black people, both queer and cishet.

Your perspectives matter. Your representation matters. You are not bothersome for demanding equal treatment in fandom. It is not your responsibility to make fandom more welcoming and inclusive to you. It is not your sole responsibility to create all of the Black-centered content. You are not "ruining" anyone's fun for demanding better for yourself, and anyone who says otherwise can go fuck themselves. Any fandom worth being a part of should have no room for racism in it.

Black people in fandom, you are wanted. You are needed. You are loved and appreciated. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

And since they don't get told it near enough, thank you, Black women especially!!!

[murfpersonalblog]

You are not "ruining" anyone's fun for demanding better for yourself, and anyone who says otherwise can go fuck themselves. Any fandom worth being a part of should have no room for racism in it.

[vryfmi]

post so bad tumblr offers 5 delete buttons and no post button

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[hopelesslydimwitted]

i see a lot of takes where Adrian has mixed feelings / is avoidant of Grace to begin with, but have seen comparatively few takes of GRACE being avoidant. Grace, infamous coward. Grace, explicitly afraid of failure. Grace, who ran from saving the Earth because of said fear. Grace, who (if not aroace) avoided relationships with other humans to avoid getting hurt

i want a Grace who withdraws almost immediately when Adrian doesn’t react the same way Rocky said they would in best-case-scenario (because Adrian is a complex person who’s world has upended when their mate brought home a sick alien). he becomes distant and relies on old habits to be friendly, but not open.

through gritted teeth, he shoos Rocky away so he can go visit or spend time with Adrian. and it hurts every time Rocky takes up his offer, exactly 50% of the time (because Rocky so very carefully wants to give his most special people his attention, equally). Grace doesn’t want it to hurt when Rocky inevitably chooses Adrian over him. when Rocky chooses to go back to a normal life.

when Rocky visits alone, Grace is the same as he’s always been. when Rocky visits with Adrian, he’s the same as he’s always been. he jokes too much, is self-deprecating in ways that Rocky doesn’t recognize, is quick to brush off things that Rocky knows would bother him if it was just the two of them.

he’s got an invisible xenonite wall between him and Adrian, and Rocky can see it. but he can’t do anything about it, because Grace won’t admit that’s what’s happening. Rocky calls him out, asks why he doesn’t like Adrian, asks why Grace won’t come with him on visits. Why is Grace pushing Rocky away, question?

it’s not until Adrian asks that Grace sees how stupid he’s being. Adrian doesn’t ask outright, but they’d noticed that Grace acts differently around them and gets advice from Rocky. Adrian is bigger than Rocky, could Grace be afraid of Adrian, question? is Grace overwhelmed by how alien everything is? so the next time they visit, they’re dressed in soft clothes like what Grace wears and almost crawling across the floor, as small as they can make themselves. Grace thinks it’s a little odd and funny, and asks what they’re doing. Adrian says plainly, Do not want Grace to be afraid of Adrian, statement.

it’s an eye opener for Grace. he’s been so focused on avoiding the upcoming heartbreak that he didn’t see how much he was worrying and hurting Rocky and Adrian. it takes seeing Adrian, a proud and large Eridian, make themselves as small as possible at the chance to connect to him.

finally Grace, who is able to overcome his fear of failure/rejection with how strong his love for Rocky is, opens up. it comes out in choruses and sonatas, how worried he is about disappointing Rocky or keeping Rocky chained to him now that they’re home. Rocky reassured him that Grace is here to stay, so Rocky is here to stay with Grace. (Adrian reassures him that, yes, they have mixed feelings about him, but they are willing to learn who he is. that makes Grace feel so much better than he expected.)

[bowshaowow]

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[bowshaowow]

drew the other pov too bc how could i ever separate them

[whatthehellisthis-world]

"theyfab" "theymab" how about I theystab you in theychest

[jazzyloveswomen]

There's this common conception of gender I see: man and woman are often positioned as 'opposites' on a sliding scale and gender as a gradient, and any kind of transition as transitioning 'away' from one end of the scale and 'toward' the other, with 'transfeminine' people being anybody transitioning 'away' from masculinity (which is inherently toward femininity), and 'transmasculine' people being anybody transitioning 'away' from femininity (which is inherently toward masculinity).

This is an inherently exorsexist and intersexist worldview, in my opinion.

Bigender people are almost always forced to 'pick' which gender they are 'more', or have it automatically assigned for them. Their pronouns may be conditionally respected, but people get very uncomfortable, when a bigender person challenges the concept of man and woman as opposite. Constantly, you see "male spaces" and "female spaces", discourse about which labels are for men (and therefore not for women) or vice versa, and other similar conversations, inherently leave out men who are women, and women who are men. Bigender people are ignored, or spoken over, or pushed to 'pick' a gender so they can be neatly categorized, because man and woman are conceived as two opposite mutually exclusive ends of a spectrum that cannot intersect.

Agender/genderless/transneutral people are similarly erased or forced to pick sides, often sorted into a box either based on what people assume they're 'closer' to based on their physical traits (and i hope i dont need to stress how dysphoria inducing that can be) or told they're transfem/transmasc regardless because, well, "You're still transitioning away/toward something", because people conceptualize agender/genderless individuals as being not truly genderless at all, but as being merely at the center of the man to woman spectrum.

Then there are perisex nonbinary people who identify closely with their agab, perisex nonbinary women/fems afab and perisex nonbinary men amab. Gender essentialists either try to cut these people out of trans identity entirely, fakeclaiming them, insisting they're basically cisgender, engaging in intense transmedicalist rhetoric dressed up in a slightly more 'acceptable' font now that transmedicalism is somewhat less accepted in the community..or they insist that, despite many not being at all masculine, perisex nonbinary people afab are all transmasc, and vice versa.

I consider all of these things to be misgendering! Forcing any nonbinary person toward any binary or gendered term they do not identify with is misgendering! And it's done constantly by other trans people who would rather be openly and violently exorsexist than rethink their gender essentialist simplistic reductive sliding scale framework for how extremely complex societal structures and personal identities work.

And, as with any genderessentialist/bioessentialist worldview, this type of rhetoric is also incredibly unsafe for intersex people, who, despite what perisex trans people (and the occasional intersexist intersex person they tokenize) like to insist when they scream over us in these discussions, have a much more complicated relationship with agab and sig than perisex people do, and therefore are also frequently hurt and erased by any model that tries to pose things like man/woman, masculine/feminine, androgenized/estrogenized, amab/afab, etc, as opposite and mutually exclusive. "Intersex people are still [insert agab] despite their 'disorders' and therefore fit into my model the same way any [agab] perisex person would!" is a worldview that will always always be intersexist and extremely harmful.

[startingatmidnight]

ryan gosling visibly chewing gum in a number of phm scenes where he's almost certainly not supposed to have gum is my favourite thing to try and catch

[startingatmidnight]

at some point i'll rewatch and note the other more notable and inappropriate-for-the-scene moments but this one's been giffed a bunch so here, example. ryan gosling stop chewing gum for five seconds challenge (impossible)

[startingatmidnight]

hey, are we maybe chewing gum at the never seeing your friend again party.

hey. hey. are we chewing gum at a funeral?

[startingatmidnight]

⚠️🫵gum🫵⚠️

[morallygrayautisticscientist]

Stratt, standing in front of a room of Important People TM: What we are about to watch for the first time is recordings from the Project Hail Mary. These videos may very well save humanity. Press play.

Grace, on recording: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO CLUE WHAT I’M DOING.

Voice from back of room: welp, we’re fucked, it was nice having life on Eath while it lasted.

Stratt: Please remain silent. I assure you he has this under control. He’s got this.

Grace, on recording: THE WAY IN WHICH I DON’T GOT THIS.

[cartoon-fanaticism]

GLaDOS voice: "Would you like to see some artwork I generated? I've heard from other test subjects that AI-generated artwork produces an uncanny valley response in human viewers because they can't perceive it as fully real. They've told me that it looks absolutely hideous to them, that they can't imagine anything more disgusting than AI art. But, well I've been practicing and wanted your honest opinion. Feel free to let me know how ugly you find this by ranking it on a scale from 'vomit-inducing' to 'eye-bleeding'." A robotic arm lowers from the ceiling holding a hand mirror up to Chell's face

[iikisa]

I really felt like drawing rin and kuro cus i havent draw aoex in a while!

[scooplery]

"it's just growing pains" -> "you're too young for that to hurt that bad" -> "you just need to get in better shape" -> "welcome to being old, everyone is in pain"

[kayla-denker]

Hey, you, cis girl that's very (correctly) vocal about women being allowed to talk about their periods, do you include trans women in that?

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

[kayla-denker]

I guess I'll take this opportunity to talk about trans women periods. The first thing any tme person thinks when they hear this is always "how can trans women have periods? They don't have uteruses!"

The answer is: the uterus isn't what causes your period, it is effected by your period. What causes your period and what causes trans women's periods is the same thing: the endocrine system.

HRT changes the sex of your endocrine system. Feminizing HRT makes it a female endocrine system, giving us a 28-day hormone cycle just like cis women. At the end of that cycle, the hypothalamus floods the body with prostaglandins. Those are what cause all but one of the period symptoms, because they make muscles inflame and contract. They are what make the uterus shed its lining, they are what cause intestinal cramps, they are what cause body aches, they are what cause headaches and migraines. The only period symptom not causes by the release of prostaglandins throughout the body is depression, and that is caused by your endocrine system simply not processing as much estrogen and from simply feeling like shit.

So, the only symptoms trans women don't get every 28 days is menstrual cramps, because yes we do not menstruate since we don't have uteruses. But migraines, depression, body aches, intestinal cramps, and the infamous "period shits" don't exactly add up to us having any better of a time. Except we have to pretend that we're fine and nothing is different because no one believes that we get periods, not even cis women.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

[kayla-denker]

Oh, another thing that I personally discovered after bottom surgery: vaginal odor changes for trans women during our periods too. I was not expecting that because I always thought it was just from menstruation. But nope, the ph levels of a trans woman's vagina are the same of as a cis woman's vagina, and it changes during our periods just the same.

[isabelopaque]

i dont headcanon anything i simply know the truth the characters told me

[luesmainblog]

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