Random musings of an aroace

Random thoughts at random times, some reblogs. Mainly joined due to finding out I'm aroace (actually alloace/still questioning). Merlin, HP, etc. She/her. Science supporter, lefty. Feel free to interact :)

[pangur-and-grim]

I feel so insane about ai. I've had face-to-face conversations with people who use it for therapy, who use it to calculate the safety of pill interactions, who use it for all their emails and grant applications and legal documents and academic papers and finance sheets and for every single question they have about the world, and if you tell them about the ecological costs they just laugh and say "I guess I've used a lot of water." and I've been in multiple gatherings of 10+ people where I'm THE ONLY PERSON who doesn't use chatgpt. it's turning me into a ranting raving pariah, because how don't you people see??? why don't you understand??????? this bullshit didn't exist five years ago, you absolutely do not need it, and it is destroying everything

[studiousquokka]

Trying to improve visibility for this page, I f-ing Love Australia, IFLOZ. Well written Aussie about politics and news

[studiousquokka]

Probably been done already but, Hogwarts houses as DISC personalities! Mine definitely agree. Reminds me as a kid putting everyone in houses (people I didn't like went in Slytherin!)

Slytherin - D Dominant

Gryffindor - I Influencer

Hufflepuff - S Steady

Ravenclaw - C Conscientious

[gaysie]

i love cheating if you don’t cheat what the hell is wrong with you

[fleurdelys-fletri]

have you ever been cheated on?

[gaysie]

i forgot some people are in relationships. to clarify i love to violate academic integrity on exams

[studiousquokka]

aspec vibes from OP - I don't encourage cheating (in any form)

[feralghouls-deactivated20240225]

[szeretemacheddart]

done

[crippled-peeper]

I’m so bad at sex I got an F in sex it’s even on my drivers license

[abby-wolf-reblogs]

@aspecmemesdaily

[studiousquokka]

Would you do that to people?

That tree that took you a few seconds to chop down, took a hundred years to grow - where’s the respect?

That forest that took you a few years to chop down, took a thousand years to establish - where’s the respect?

Would you do that to people?

[studiousquokka]

Yes apparently they would

[studiousquokka]

"being openly aro/ace is dangerous" wow water is wet

Sure, where I live that thought hadn't even come to mind until what's happening in America. Although some people will treat you different, fortunately it's not inherently dangerous. But in some places I expect they could physically force you to comply with traditional values, or target you for having "dangerous ideas".

[studiousquokka]

following on from my last post, I literally think there might be some danger in being openly aromantic or asexual in the wrong crowd, especially as women, if you are in America or in a conservative area in general. Given how obsessed they seem to be with making babies and traditional values, also incel culture. Also we just generally f*** the system

[studiousquokka]

maybe conspiracy, but seriously all this obsession in the world with romantic love (and sex) in society and in all our songs and media, it's distracting from the big social problems, because people are too focused on love.

It would blind women to notice what their lovers are doing is wrong or to let it slide, and this is how Handmaid's tale Gilead is allowed to happen by women too (love can be seriously crazy and brainwashing in my case anyway)

To be honest I don't think the obsession with love is designed for this purpose, but it would contribute. Also making a point that aromantics/asexuals actually know a lot about society that others may not see

[studiousquokka]

Why me?

Anyone ever think, why am I always that 1% of the population for everything? Why you out of all people. 

It may not be a big part of your life, but you can’t help think about it every now and then and it’s not great.

[studiousquokka]

And let's add chronic illness to that list....and that is an unavoidably big part of life

[studiousquokka]

Being asexual and/or aromantic/aspec is literally a superpower!

I'm sure this has been posted before, but really feeling it in my dating attempts

So many problems avoided, make friends and date without being blinded and getting hurt

(in my case, 99% of the time)

[studiousquokka]

update on my queerness: in case it interests or helps anyone

I was aroace for a long time, as you can see my old posts

I got my first proper/adult crush when I was 26, I thought I'd never feel that way again. But turns out it's not that infrequent, and have had grand total of 3 crushes now, and the trigger to it is physical touch (in specific ways only, hugging doesn't cut it, which is why it took so long to figure that out!)

[studiousquokka]

Dexter could be much prouder of his collection if he actually learnt how to do a proper blood smear, and got it perfect every time 😆

[studiousquokka]

Some of us sometimes feel like we are Straight "Lite"?

Not my meme

[st-ivangeline-deactivated202501]

aro vibes 😂

[tinstol-archive]

It’s time to stop treating first dates, first kisses, and losing virginity as milestones or rites of passage that must be completed. It’s time to stop expecting these things to happen in everyone’s teen years or even in their twenties. It’s time to stop letting people call themselves “late bloomers” for getting their first kiss at 16. It’s stupid. It’s unnecessary. It’s damaging to people who for whatever reason it may be don’t have romantic prospects or don’t even want to do those things.