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mirch-pakora-deactivated2018120

can you put ‘dont be mean to me’ in your nikkah contract

I recently read an article about how women use the word “just” in work life and personal life more than men do because we feel we need to apologize or make whatever we have to say quick. “I’m just writing to say…” “I just want to know…” “Just checking in…”. It seems to trivialize what we have to say.

Don’t apologize or feel you need to make little of what you are saying. Say it with intention. “I’m writing to tell you this…” “I want you to know…” “I’m checking in to make sure…"

Since reading the article I’ve become aware of how much I was adding “just” so soften what I had to say, whether it needed to be softened or not. Say what you have to say with confidence and intent. without apology. what you have to say, no matter what it is, is important.

vegas-sugar

I seriously say just WAY too much.

autoimmuneamy

“Do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it” is honestly the best thing you can say to me when I say im sad/in pain etc.

luckytwodollarbill-deactivated2

this is really good advice to say to anyone who is upset

chaiu

when will white vegans shut up

chaiu

like for real… there are so many cultures and faiths that consume animals ethically. we don’t source our meat from mass industries that abuse animals and we utilise the entire animal for food or clothing. there are rituals and prayers unique to different cultures that are done to thank animals for their sacrifice, or concepts similar. Those who follow Islam and Judaism (who eat Halal and Kosher Meat, respectively) are required to kill the animal in the most painless way possible. stop telling us that what we’re doing is wrong and immoral when your expensive vegan products are sourced from companies that destroy land belonging to Native Americans or exploit people of colour to do their underpaid labour. Be mindful of other cultures and stop grouping us in with the white meat-eaters.

mangopussy

how do i frame this and put it on my wall

onlyblackgirl

“Alexa, play Baby Shark”

onlinecounsellingcollege

How to Achieve Anything

1. Stop fantasising: Those with too rosy a picture of the future tend to put less effort into reaching their goals. Instead, it’s better to be open to some things going wrong. It will help you see the obstacles - and think through beating them.

2. Visualise process NOT outcome: If you can think through all the steps you will forge a better plan … and it will also help reduce anxiety.

3. Be committed: You won’t achieve anything without getting started; and you won’t ever finish if you give up easily.

4. Beware of the “what-the-hell effect”: Too many just give up when they stumble or fall down. For example, think of all the dieters who binge at the first hurdle. It’s better to get up – and see a trip as very normal. It’s happens to us all – so don’t abandon your plan.

5. Attack procrastination: It’s easy to procrastinate when getting going’s tough. Make a start, keep your head down, and set yourself some deadlines. Once you start you’ll feel much better and the road won’t seem so hard.

6. Switch out of robot mode: A lot of behaviour is robotic and habitual. We copy other people or we do “the same old, same old”. Take stock … and change those patterns … if they don’t lead to your goals.

7. Know when enough is enough: Sometimes we also need to know when there’s no point going on. We’re flogging a dead horse and thing are never going to change. It’s time to alter your direction or to work on something else.

proteinpills

If I ever end up moving in with someone I’m in a relationship with, I want us to have separate bedrooms. I need us to have our own rooms. This doesn’t mean we won’t sleep together, it means we will get to have our own space when we need/want it. Not just for if we’re fighting, but just because people need space sometimes.

t-hy-lla

i’m actually in this arrangement right now with my partner and i can confirm this is the best idea ever especially if you’re incredibly introverted like i am

i wish more people understood this mindset

milkykittentea-deactivated20181

this honestly sounds ideal and is what i want.

sunflwercurls

He needs a man cave and I need a She shed

modelsof-color

Aaliyah Hydes , Annibelis Baez , Janaye Furman , Licett Morillo , Alexis Sundman , Rachel Darby , Natalia Montero & Adesuwa Aighewi at Chloé SS 19

gentlyloved

fuck you to anyones who has ever emotionally fucked up a person to the point they no longer trust another human being, a big fuck you for emotionally damaging someone to the point where they are terrified of receiving and giving love. i hope you sleep really shit at night knowing what a terrible person you are for breaking someone’s softness for this world.

eauudenil

Normalize apologizing to children.

theandsymbol

THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

onlinecounsellingcollege

Things you needn’t apologize for …

1. Your feelings

2. Wanting something good for your life

3. Having your own point of view

4. Making your own choices and decisions

5. Walking away from distressing relationships

6. Protecting your heart

7. Setting and enforcing boundaries

8. Making mistakes

9. Taking time for yourself

10. Prioritizing taking care of yourself.

nevver

Camera obscura, KangHee Kim

wnq-writers

“You think of yourself as a citizen of the universe. You think you belong to this world of dust and matter. Out of this dust you have created a personal image, and have forgotten about the essence of your true origin.”

— Rumi (via themotivationjournals)

onlinecounsellingcollege

“You have to get to the point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.”

— Unknown

womaninpearls-deactivated201908

As I get older I’m finding that a lot of the “intellectuals” I used to admire are actually just condescending and pretentious. And also realizing how much more important it is to be present, considerate, and empathetic because nobody really knows what they’re talking about and anyone who claims to know everything about anything is feeding you bs.